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how tf do I get a gf

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how tf do I get a gf
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>>17998897
You keep trying.
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beats me
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how tf do I get a wife
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You don't.
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Workout , get a tan . Pick up hobbies. Love yourself enough that you'd fuck yourself literally.
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>>17998902
I hate kids, but i aight ever seen a condom
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Do you assholes actually put any effort into anything in your lifes, or just expect people to hold your hands and throw the solutions on your laps?

For fucks sake just open this board, this shit is talked about daily in this board, if you are so retarded and unaware of things I really do hope that you never get the chance to procreate
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>>17998910
Fuck off CHAD
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>>17998910

women only date 40-50% of men at most
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What do you think is currently preventing you from finding someone and dating her, OP? We can go from there.
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>>17998910
then why tf are you here then, when i was working i was never on 4chan
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>>17998897

For someone to love you, you must first love yourself.

I know it sounds like imspirational bullshit but it really is the first step.
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>>17998951
Probably approach anxiety. I've talked to women before, but it seems during school I don't have much motivation to go and approach anyone. I'm 18 in high school btw. But in my head it doesn't seem reasonable to approach someone at school but this is the only place I can really. And it is true lots of women would rather not be approached and quite frankly it seems like they all have their little groups and friends settles, we live in a weird age where walking up and talking to a stranger feels taboo. But that is just an excuse too, your mind will try and rationalize why you shouldn't do something. But that is just anti productive to what I want. IT just seems like I am sleepy in school a lot so I don't attempt to approach, and I just don't feel like it is a good time, but there are women everywhere I could at least try to approach.
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>>17998964
I understand what you mean, if you don't love yourself/ have confidence in yourself, it is hard to fully love someone else, you'll feel like they deserve better. I have this problem that I compare myself to Chad's and wish I had perfect hollywood standard facial features, it is toxic but I cant get around it
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>>17998964
not really, there's heaps of people who hate themselves that get gfs.

also op said just get a gf, he probably didn't mean love
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>>17998979
Down the road I'll be looking for that, but right now yeah I just want a girlfriend, it doesn't really matter who. My standards won't be extreme, I'm not looking for a wife right now
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>>17998979
>>17998979

Yeah I know, the truth is there are a millions ways to get a girlfriend, life is strange and messy. The way it turns out is often nothing like anyone involved envisioned.

I really think a lot of people who worry so much about finding love should look for fulfillment in themselves, though.
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>>17998996
How do I find the fulfilment?
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>>17999005

It's always come pretty easily to me, what about yourself to you find to be unfulfilling?
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>>17998915
>>/r9k/
>>17998919
Because the other half are neet neckbeards that not even their moms would find attractive
>>17998959
Found the literal autist
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im currently single and hating it every day BUT based on past relationships, ive learned you honestly have to stop giving a fuck and stop looking. The sooner you do that the sooner you realize you want to fix yourself first and than some wonderful (whore who will you fuck you over a year later) will just "fall into your life" don't push shit just let life happen
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>>17999015
Don't have a Chad tier jawline, wish I didn't have a jewy looking nose. It isnt full on jew but when I smile it curves, feels like something a woman worries about but I just wish I had a better nose. I could get a nose job to solve that problem but I mean is it even worth it? I've told women about this before and some others and they said I looked fine, but it still bothers me. Other than that, I have an approach anxiety problem I need to solve, I just am not one to initiate conversation, not sure if I think I wont have much to say or just the idea of it gets in my head too much and hurts me before I even start.
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>>17998969
Approach anxiety is difficult but also common. Most decent girls know this and aren't expecting a chad to sweep them up. It's pretty common that the first few dates are going to be awkward. It helped me to know that girls can also be just as awkward and nervous about dating too. Most are also polite, even when they reject you. Nobody is trying to make you feel bad.
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>>17999029

Anon you're missing the point.

The point is to be happy WITHOUT a gf.
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>>17999035
It is true its a fact speaking to strangers is a top fear among everyone, yet many still cant defeat that fear

>>17999037
yeah I get that, problem is I cant solve that completely, its hard today not to compare yourself to people when there are certain standards of good looks
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>>17999037
best advice really
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>>17999037
not op but why get a gf if you're perfectly happy by yourself?
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>>17998897
Stop being a faggot.
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>>17999052
fuck I failed
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>>17999037

This.

The fact that you're coming to /adv/ asking how to get a gf means you're not ready for a gf.

Do pushups, read books, watch motivational videos, get a stable job, get a good haircut, smell nice, wear good clothes, and focus on becoming happy as a single man.

When you are happy as a single man, you have a mindset that you don't NEED a gf, it would just be nice. Girls sense this and it's super attractive.

With your current mindset, even if you did get a gf, you would probably get super clingy and scare her away.

Become a better man and a good girl will enter your life when you least expect it. Stop chasing women, just focus on being a guy worth dating.
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>>17999038
And yet despite that fear many people get gfs.

What you need to start doing to set up for the long con is meet as many new people as possible. Go to events, hangouts, cons, concerts and shit where it's socially acceptable and expected to meet people and get to know a bunch of men and women. Just meet people with the intention of getting to know them. Find people with similar interests. You're trying to set up a social circle for yourself. This is how some people are able to get gfs one after another. You meet people who can set you up with someone or you ask out someone you already have somewhat of a connection with. You're young enough to be able to build large connections easily.

As for getting gfs currently, you can still approach women. There's nothing wrong with it. Rejection sucks but you get used to it after a while.
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>>17999057
I've been reading books and working on improving skills and shit, but at the end of the day no amount of anything can change your face structure if you dont like how it works unless you get surgery. If that is your problem, you can only either get surgery or do something to remove that mental blockage.
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>>17999077
What kind of events do you suggest? In my area there aren't many concerts and shit, I'll probably have to travel to find anyplace good. Damn I should get my license, living in the middle of nowhere sucks
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>>17999082
Living in the middle of nowhere does suck, I was lucky to move to a large city when I went to college. There's a lot of niches here. I'm a big into electronic music so I've met some really cool people simply waiting in line for raves. There's also small anime conventions here with a lot of open people. I met a lot of people through clubs and organizations at my university. I don't know man. You're in high school though, is there shit going around at school? I don't know you're area. I can't really answer for you. Point is you're just trying to meet people and build connections.

Could always try online dating for now too.
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The first question is "what kind of man does a gf want"

The second question is "why is absolutely everyone telling me the opposite of the truth on this"

Answer to the second question: all of these people are your rivals - they are not your teammates.

Answer to the first question: lift fool.
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>>17999110
is tinder a good idea? thats the only major online app I heard of. I mean my school doesnt have much, I'd join a club but it doesnt seem like they are really a big thing, I dont see anything else to join really. when going to college I will definitely have more luck I think
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>>17999127
tfw fast metabolism.
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>>17999149
You're 18, which is the minimum age for it, and you don't have a car either. The odds are against you desu.
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>>17999154
yeah a license is kind of a requirement for girls, only way it would work is if it was a girl that loved driving herself.
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>>17999057
>in order for me to be attractive i have to not care about women
So basically, forget about women?

Normie logic is weird sometimes.
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>>17999077

>tfw no decent concerts nearby for months
>tfw all my friends are reaching the age where we don't party or get together as much (23)
>tfw it's cold as fuck in my state and girls barely leave the house
>tfw life consists of work, video games, and weed. Meet maybe 1-2 new people a month.
>Tfw never had a problem getting/keeping a gf until my 4 year relationship ended. It used to be so simple, now it's so fucking complicated and requires much more effort.


Fuck it, I'm just gonna be single until I meet a new girl without trying. I feel like going out and actively searching for a gf is a bad idea.
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>>17999170

Don't ignore women, just don't chase them. Prioritize.

Is getting a gf really going to benefit you more in the long run than focusing on your career and fitness? Is getting a netflix watching partner/fuckbuddy really more important than becoming at peace with yourself as a single man?

Think, bro. Also stop watching porn, it will make this much much more challenging.
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stop desiring a gf OP
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>>17999273
its not that easy ;-;
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>>17999047
Not him but I have trouble figuring this out too. I often get anxious about things and I always have this overwhelming feeling of loneliness. When I'm not thinking about it or if I'm just at work and have something I'm actively doing I'm fine, but all other times I long for a relationship and I'm not really sure why. I think the answer to your question is very subjective and unfortunately I can't answer it yet.
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>>17999079
Read Models by Mark Manson.
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If you want to get a girlfriend be a person that someone would like to date.
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>>17998897
It's hard as fuck! Mostly because you have to not be obsessed with women, because that drives them away, but also not be a pussy who never even attempts to connect/go out with women, because obviously that won't work either. Idk breh! Find an irl Dude that's good with women and have him teach you his ways, people on 4chan don't know shit about dick.
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>>17998897
Just stop trying and live your life instead.
If it happens it happens, if not, well, maybe you we'rent meant to meet anyone.

Is that really such a big deal? You have porn and hookers and everything else if you really want it.
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>>17998919
More like 20%. Pareto principle, dawg.
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>>17999150
Your cuts will be sick

I gain mass really easily and bulking up is easy, but getting the fat off fucking hard.

We're all blessed for either bulk or cut, just accept the other one will be the hard one
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>>17998919
>>18000195

Literally retarded, I know no one under 30 who doesn't date or at least hookup with girls in the real world.
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>>17998897
go out, socialize and work out.

If you do these 3 things, you'll get a gf
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Stop being a whiny bitch, practice normal hygiene, gain some confidence, talk to people to gain some social skills. There, it shouldn't be hard to gain a gf now.
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>>17999037
This.

No girl wants a mopey bastard that they have to coddle. They want someone they can have fun with. A man who is happy and confident will attract people far more than some whiny man child.
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>>17999302
Only because you're not DOING anything.

Fill your life up with hobbies and work you can get invested in, not just mere distractions like posting on a Mongolian stir fry forum. You'll be so involved in doing this you passively gain knowledge and expertise in whatever you do.


Consequently, this gives you confidence and experience that makes you more interesting as a person. This makes you more attractive to people. This increases your chance of getting a gf. You just gave to get out there senpai.
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>>18000234
>practice normal hygiene

Do people really not do that?
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>>18000269
Mate we're on 4chan there's bound to be at least a few people who haven't showered in the past week.
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>>17998915
Back to /r9k
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