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>>17997911
Ask her if she's currently dating someone and let's go from there.

>>17997911
Fuck her and forget her.... no one says you have to marry her

>>17997963
right. be a man and fuck her and leave and stop this shit about how she might feel about it

>>17997892
Just be yourself brah.

Take gorls out and never say the words "committed. Girlfriend. Boyfriend. Relationship" labels etc. no pressure.

1. Meet qt
2. Ask her out
3. Have fun, hook up.
4. Wait for her to text you
5. Arrange next date
6. Repeat process. Within 1-3 months she'll bring up relationship stuff.

>>17997908
>>17997918
Not looking for tips. I'm trying to find out what other people do. What their approach is, what they think about, how they've met people in the past, etc.

Describe it like you're talking to an autist.

Join the club. It only gets worse, trust me, I'm approaching my mid-30s and life is an endless hell

Might as well be dead tbph

>>17997933
I'm only 23.. there is still hope. Got any advice??

>>17997886

if ytou think jobs are boring in socal, you will find jobs to be boring every where.

i got a two bedroom apartment for 1500 in hollywood. granted prices have gone up, but even a studio in this building only costs 1300 as of november, so if you try NOT to live off of hollywood blvd there are plenty of low budget options.

my friend just started renting a very spacious 3 bedroom house in the gentrified mcarthur park for 3000 total, with 3 roommates its 1000 each. still nothing to scoff at, but considering thats just one of the nicer options, a legit fucking house, its not as bad as you're making it out to be.

Secondary ed here, in literally the exact same position. My placement will be starting in a couple weeks, and I'm scared too.

To be honest, what I've been told, everyone goes through this. Hell, I partially went through this already. When I started college, I was an elementary ed major. I went in for a "field", which wasn't really a field but whatever, I taught preschool.
That was my wake up call of "I like kids, but fuck I don't like kids 8 hours a day". I was exhausted and had that same panic you're having. What if I can't do this, what if I'm going to hate this? Then I switched into secondary and got a bit of my confidence back.
But yeah, I'm nervous about going into a high school classroom for the first time, and actually teaching.

Idk how your university does it, but mine gives us baby steps. I'm not teaching alone, I've got a cooperating teacher who I'm mostly observing and occasionally teaching a lesson under her guidance. I'm assuming your placement isn't completely throwing you to the wolves. Do you have a cooperating teacher?
USE THEM. If you have any questions at all, need any help at all, ask them anything. They were in your shoes once too. They won't let you fuck up their students after all lol.

Out of curiosity, what state are you in? (assuming you're even in the us at all?)
I ask because I'm in Missouri, and the state's education department has been an absolute clusterfuck of change in regulations and crap for the past 3 years lol. Idk what it's like in any other state, if perhaps things are a little less chaotic.

>>17997865
>does anyone have any fond memories of their childhood teachers, what made them inspire you to learn

I certainly do! how young are we talking?

>>17997729
Yous should stop posting bait threads on /adv/

>>17997729
i strongly advise that you kill yourself as soon as possible

>>17997729
>and I'm starting to develop feelings for him
well that was stupid cause the soccer player is in it for the pussy only.

>>17997721
You are doing fine. But please... Eat Q bagel.

Stop doing drugs.

>>17997721

>24

not a bad age if i do say so myself.

>3 semesters of colelge done wiht poor grades but apssable

at this level thats all that really matters. employers dont erally look at grades unless you're already coming from a top school in the nation for prestigious positions. for anything else all that matters is your degree.

>not job

thats fine most people in college dont have jobs.

>0 savings

thats okay, you're in college, why would you have any savings? you're not in a savings phase of life.

>no car

again, college. as long as you get to and from class not much else matters

>7k in loan debt
>after 3 semesters

thats pretty good. why are you acting like its a surprise to have debt man, everyone goes to college knowing they'll get debt.

>no major picked out

thats not bad either, most dont know until they enter junior year. and again it doesnt mean you're doing shitty it just means you should consider your options

>havent worked in 3 years

a year and a half of which you've been in college. it really doesnt matter.

>drug addiction

this is the only real problem you have the rest is just you trying to find reasons to think your life is shitty. you are trying to measure shittiness simply becuase you dont feel good about the day to day things you can't list here without seeming petty. ironically it seems just as petty.

get help with your drug addiction. if you cant quit on your own go to rehab for a little while.

as for everything else, you're in your college phase. you arent supposed to have thsose other things. at worse you need to sit down and work towards things but not having them atm doesn't make you shitty.

basically you have a choice. your life isn't remotely that bad outside of the drug addiction. you can choose to work towards the things you want.

or you can continue to just brag about how shitty your life is

Hit the books and get your GED obviously.

>>17997705
I already did. I'd like to go to college but there is nothing that really interests me and I don't think I would be able to afford it anyways. I looked into a nearby trade school but you need proof that you passed algebra in high school and I didn't.

>>17997709
in that case just take local city college/community college classes until you figure it out. You're still young and have many years ahead of you. I have lots of friends who are just taking their GE's right now and transferring to more established schools/trade schools so they don't have to dump as much cash. Baby steps yah know?

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>>17997643
Does she like games?

Because Settlers of Catan is a lot of fun.

>>17997674
Just karaoke/fitness games. Board games... no idea.
Not so much over here, though. Never played Catan and the only board games I have lying around are an old pack of cards and even older kid versions of 1 or 2 games

Giving this a bump

>>17997633
You can't change her, and you can make her choose something she doesn't want or isn't mentally prepared for.

My suggestion would be if you truly care for her and think it could work then go for it but keep expectations realistic or better yet have no expectations and let her figure it out.

At some point she will either come to terms with how things will always be and she will learn to deal/live with them or she won't be able to deal and you both will eventually move on to other things.

>>17997633
Just don't fulfill any negative stereotypes and it'll work out.

>>17997633

Ask /pol/

>bump

do you have low selfesteem?
what inperfections of her do you know and how good do you know her exactly?

>>17997695
Unfortunately yes. I don't really have a reason. Objectively, I know I'm a great guy, not bad looking, tall, fit... but I guess I was emotionally abused a lot in my life and most likely had a bad attachement to my mother. So yeah my self-esteem sucks even though I'm working hard on myself.

Flaws? Not that many unfortunately. She's a bit uptight, never really has time, works a lot... altough all of that is good in a way. Honestly I can't think of much except the mole under her chin, hah.

>>17997595
He wont change until his surroundings force him to. That might not be you, because pathological liars are afraid of speaking the truth in fear of persecution (from you, family & friends etc.)

If you already gave him a chance (or chances) and he still hasn't changed, either give him an ultimatum or break up; don't let him drag you down to a point where you cant help but feel shit about yourself.

>>17997595
are you that same French girl who posted a few threads here about falling head over heels for the guy with mythomania

>>17997612

My ultimatum is that I'll leave but he always sweet talks me into staying by saying he really is sorry and he will change...

I've yet to see him actually do either though

Don't do it. Treat your body like a temple.

Don't do it mate. Unless u like pain. That shit is only sexy to fucked up sluts, you should keep ur dick normal. Nothing u do is gonna make it look or feel better

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>>17997574
Why on this godforsaken earth would someone willingly get that. Mutilating your body isn't gonna do you any good mate, get some help

>>17997567
/a/ has a concept known as hiding ones powerlevel, stick to that.

>>17997567

your other choice is to not like those things, but being any sort of 'loser' is associated with fat so you should lose that anyways

>>17997567
>Stereotype
>Description of you
Pick one

Stereotypes are an average, if you meet certain requirements people got an easy way of describing you. You can either be content with it , or if it bothers you; change your act.

>200 pounds
No clue how tall you are, but if you're anywhere under 6ft you're chubby / overweight.
Getting in shape is a perfect way of feeling better about yourself and in my honest opinion something everyone should do. Nobody is happy with being fat, nobody is healthy when they're fat.

Get help if you cant bring yourself to go there.

>>17997543
Because you're egocentric.
Fix it by watching documentaries and reading articles from all perspectives instead of just the one you agree with

>>17997569
>Because you're egocentric.

Huh...That sounds about right..

However, is egocentrism really that negative? We got free will to accept or refuse other's views and I don't think I'm a bad person for sticking to mine's.

>>17997583
It doesn't have to be, but it can be a big hurdle in the future because you're not open to input from others.
Sticking to your own values isn't a bad thing at all, definitely if whoever is trying to convince you otherwise cant properly explain why your view is wrong.

Being open to different opinions and having your own values is two different things, if you don't agree with them all you have to remember is that they're not actually yours, and that whoever is trying to turn you has a different view on the world.

no, but I would stick to maximizing the "make yourself employable" aspect over the "learning" aspect, if that makes sense.

Go to a community college to save on loans - the internet makes me realize more and more that the quality of education and what is taught simply isn't that different: some of the clearest video explanation of CS and EE topics are from community colleges.

And work a lot on your resume, practice pitching yourself, etc.

Thank you for the phenomenal titties OP. best of luck.

>>17997503

Too late

What the fuck are you doing here grandpa

>>17997503
Hell no. I'm 22 and I'm in classes with guys in their 50s and kids fresh out of High School.