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>>17997146
Is this some bitter petty thing you're going to use to guilt her?

Why not just address it vaguely?

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Why do you want to mention about her readings? I reckon you still have some feelings for her to be writing this post.

>>17997384
No, not at all. I'll say what it is:
Years ago, when she came to my place to tell me the news, she noticed how upset I was (it was pretty obvious).
She, then, started to cry and said, in the most authentic way I ever saw she express any feeling she had, as if she was unburdening herself: "Why do I always hurt those who are closest to me? I always ruin everything".
Honestly, most of the memories of that day are kinda foggy but this phrase never really left my head due to how deep they came from. I can still listen it.

And her map says that her central aspect in life is to sustain deeply and caring bonds with few but special people. I want to use that small, authentic and truthful gesture that she showed me as the example for this characteristic.

When I saw her map, it came immediately into my mind.

I'm not sure I want to talk about it with her exactly because I don't want her to think I'm using the reading to bring the past back.

I feel like everyone is just a container filled with opinions and perspectives that just fumbles around and either instills some of its contents in the others or gets instilled first.

>>17997127
"We are all sentenced to solitary confinement within our own skins" - Tennessee Williams

>>17997162
>container

>haha look at me i switched out the work cranium and replaced it with container to make myself look like i can masterfully construct analogies

Yes, absolutely. You won't regret it, and it will give you confidence like you wouldn't believe.

>>17997110
You'll regret it.

>>17997110
Nah. You'll regret it
I'm 20 and i just lost my virginity two weeks ago, there's always hope for you anon

>>17997095
Bump

>>17997095
Yes, because only betas are "redpilled".
Well depends on what you mean by redpilled but if it's as in "all women are cheating sluts" etc, only betas think like that, and it won't get you anywhere. (just look at people on /r9k/)

I usually always stay the fuck away from anything labeled as "redpill", it's almost always trash

>>17997475
There's a simple way to not be beta and that's not giving a fuck. You take what you want. Make a shit ton of enemies and pave your own path. Don't take bull shit, stand up for yourself and your beliefs. Just never show signs of timidity. Be unmoving.

I walked forward down a hall way once and some six foot guy crossed my path. I didn't move out of the way. He stopped in front of me and I intentionally bumped into him and told him to move. He said sorry and we went our separate ways.

Be unmoving. That's all there is to it.

>>17997036
>vidya tester job
there is such job? kek

become a japanese teacher and suck others into the same trap that you fell into

>finish Japan Culture university
>speak Jap on N4 level so casual talk without anything special

I studied Japanese as a hobby and I got N1 after 2 years. What the hell were you doing?

>>17997035
>if anything he would say I interpreted it incorrectly and she wasn't mocking me.

gee that is of course completely ridiculous, good thing you dont buy into it. glad you see the world for what it is: a movie with you as the main character where nobody thinks about anything but you.

>>17997050
I mean why the fuck does she stare at me every time and says a fucking weird thing (she literally said "the best" and I don't live in an Anglophone country) to my face, if not to mock me? Maybe she really is that weird to talk to herself like that, she does look the sort.
It hope it's my paranoia, because if it's not it would mean that people see me as weird/there's something wrong with me.

>>17997035
"Gee, here's that really dedicated student who stays late to do extra work. He's bound to be a big success."

>>17997033
Do you have any friends or talk to your family

>>17997037
family doesn't give a shit.

lied to most of my friends because it's too embarassing

>>17997033
Consider coming to america. I see plenty of people make their way from your situation but it applies specifically to living in the u.s.

>>17997019
When you stop looking.

>>17997019

When you never have to explain anything, because they already know. At least that's how I knew.

>you accept them for their flaws
>they make you happy
>you're willing to sacrifice to make them happy

>>17996974
One of the many differences between men and women is that women honestly and innocently believe they can break with you and still remain friends, while men want to make the break complete.

Chances are that she's being innocently and sincerely friendly. It's up to you whether you can handle that, but don't be too suspicious or resentful of the overture.

Just act like nothing happened but if you can't just be friends with her then don't bother.

You did nothing wrong. Don't apologize. Ask her how she feels and tell her that you'd rather have a solid answer instead of being ignored. Her texting you could just be her trying to keep you on a string. If she ignores the question, block her. If she says she's not sure but doesn't want to date right now, block her. Above all, get a clear answer.

>>17996957
Envy is considered a sin for a reason.

Stop giving her attention, meet new girls and stop sitting in your room all day

>>17996962
That is exactly the point. I can't stop it. I keep checking because apart from my romantic feelings I genuinely want to know what she's up to and how well she fares in her daily struggle. I'm still curious whether or not she actually is happy with her guy. I want to be there and congratulate her when she succeeds.

Apart from that, I don't want to meet new girls. I just want this girl to not destroy me. As is the case here, I always obsess over women, they distract me from my own goals and the subsequent depression makes me virtually unfunctional and sucks the joy out of everything that I hold dear. I just don't work well with women, and women I fancy having relationships just make me excessively hostile at their partner.

Mindbleach, please.

>>17996957
This crush you had was just this built up fantasy in your mind. You probably thought about being with her and being married. You had it all in your mind. Just realize it was all in your head and forget about it. Focus on this project in the future. Focus on yourself.

>>17996953

Depends on what size you are. Regular stores don't stock up larger sizes which men might need, so you might need to check a specialist store. However, they're made of fairly flexible material, so I'd say buy something cheap that might be close to your size and try them on. Then get a better brand, based on how well they fit. If you mean how to handle the situation, just be cool about it and the cashiers will be chill. It's their job, they won't care.

>>17996953

online

>>17996968
I'm 5'10'' and I have 155 pounds, large should be good enough for me.
Yeah, I don't want anyone to find out and get weird looks after.

BPD is borderline personality disorder, not bipolar. Don't get them mixed up.

They're your friends. Probably for a reason. I'd tell a few, close friends. The ones you trust the most. They've probably noticed the easy you act. It might help them better understand you. Explain some things they've been worrying about. I'm not the most coherent right now, due to lack of sleep, but you get the idea.

>>17996984
Wondering*, not worrying. Or hell, maybe both

There are these places called brothels. Go to one.

>>17996956

This. Or if there's no brothels, then check online or look for street walkers, they just loiter around.

>>17996956
Not in america from what i know
>>17996961
Ive never seen any anywhere in eastern west virginia and i tried backpage but ill see the same picture with dofferent ages in different ads which makes me think the whole thing is a trap

Just don't use your fist

>>17996879
Approach girls that look at you and aren't busy with their friends and start talking

>>17996890
What if none look at you

>>17996858

All criminal offences are on some sort of record at least for a specific period of time, but usually those are country specific. Your offences will be on record in Ukraine, sure, but potential employers etc. are usually only interested in criminal records that concern your home country or any country where you've spend significant amounts of time. However, if something you do requires a check of criminal record and your Ukrainian record does come to light they could influnce employement, visa access and other official procedures. That's highly unlikely, though, because either you'd have to provide those documents or whoever is checking them should know what they are looking for. Criminal record, while accessible by almost anyone, are still somewhat hard to come by, as they need to be requested from the local authorities beforehand.

Kek. Fallout fantasies

>>17996865
I live in Hungary, where we need to submit what we call a "moral certificate", which is given by the government upon request, and it states whether you were involved in criminal activity, and if so, how severe it was. You're saying that in this case, my Ukrainian record wouldn't come to light unless I submit the equivalent certificate in Ukraine, or they specifically request my record from the Ukrainian government?