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>>18114959
You could have any number of things. Bipolar disorder, bpd, depression, a weird form of anxiety, even some type of adhd could make this kind of response happen. I'd suggest tracking your moods in a journal to try to find a common denominator - made some foods fuck with you, a lack of exercise or sleep, particularly stressful days, etc. If you can find a common issue, try adjusting it or taking the problem to a professional l. If there doesn't seem to be an underlying cause, still go see a professional and tell them upfront what you're dealing with. A good therapist won't write it off as depression because it's the simplest answer. Don't hesitate to change therapists if you don't feel like their help is adequate.

Source: struggled with what I thought was just depression until finally found a psychiatrist who started treating me for ptsd. World's a better place now.

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>>18114978
>>18114978
The thing is I do keep a journal. It seems as random as it gets because sometimes I feel content with being alone even though I have people around me, and other times Ill get pissed/sad over the smallest of things people to say to me, not to mention I will get really lonely during these times. I find that exercise does help improve my mood, which makes me believe I might have something since it might be some chemical/body imbalance. I just really don't want to feel so itchy for some retribution against myself.

>>18114987
See someone. Maybe look into various disorders beforehand to see if you identify with any particularly strongly do you can take that information to a doctor. Not in an "I think I have this" kind of way but a "this symptom is something I strongly feel I experience" way. Ive found thats been more helpful than anything, having a specific list of things I'd like to try to resolve when going into therapy. But yeah, go see someone about this. You can self-diagnose just about anything. Find a doctor who really listens to you and doesn't immediately jump to prescribbing you meds to make you happy. Good luck

Why do you think you're pretty smart

>>18114985
Because generally i can get good grades when i do the work.

I'm in the same boat. It's tough for sure. There are things you can do to make it a bit easier on you're self, though the want to procrastinate never really fully goes away. A good book you could try is "The Straight A Student". Helped me a bit.

>Is the relationship dead

No, the relationship has just matured. Congratulations, Anon, you two are no longer in the surface puppy love phase. This is a good thing.

>>18114951

No.

Relationships have a cycle.

There is lust and attraction, and there is comfort and connection.

The former stages are where the excitement and romance is, the latter stages are where a sense of bond and trust come from.

Some people stay in that first half for weeks, some for months even, but eventually it fades and people find themselves waking up and wondering, "What the heck? Who is this person across from me? What did I ever see in them that made me think this would work?"

The people who survive this though, they move on to the next stage and start to build bonds, attachments, trust and all the things that make things feel easy and comfortable. And this stage can last anywhere from a few weeks to a few years. Eventually though, if a couple stays in this stage for too long they end up feeling like all that comfort and ease ends up feeling stagnated and boring.

And now from that point on is what separates a truly successful relationship from the rest.

It's the ability to treat those stages not as a straight line of progression, but as a cycle.

The ability to go from being at the comfortable stage, the stage where things have settled in and normalized, back to the fresh and exciting stage to rekindle your passions and make new, that's the hardest part. That's the part where 50% of even married people falter and end up realizing years down the road that their relationship has peaked, that they want out, that they want a divorce.

Finding a relationship where you can repeatedly go through the cycle multiple times, over and over, from fresh and exciting back to comfortable and easy and back again, that's hard.

But It's almost never self-evident. It takes effort. It requires you to try and look for it, and to act on it.

If you don't, if you take it for granted, you'll probably let a potential success just slip by without you ever having been the wiser.

It depends on how many people you have to share the bathroom with, and it's more or less like you did when living with your family. The difference of price is quite relevant, I'd say to go for the room the cheaper room and you could always move out if your flatmates are dirty af.
On the other side, if you're going to a non-expensive city and you're sure to make it with the whole budget of 500e, don't hesitate to get the room with the bathroom. Especially if the idea of sharing the bathroom makes you feel uncomfartable.

>>18115272
I have to share it with 30 persons

>>18114945
Fra, dipende principalmente dai tuoi coinquilini.

>>18114900
No you human filth.

You should find him and suck his dick, to make it up to him.

>>18114910
this

>>18114910
>>18114915
Sometimes I type his username in to see what he's up to these days. But if I ever contacted him he would probably just lose his mind. I tried to contact him and apologize before, a few years ago...

move on

>>18114899

become the main character in your own story, instead of the satellite in some girls' story.

>Opinions?
It sucks that this happened, but it's good that it happened BEFORE you married him. Don't marry him, things like this will happen again.

>>18114870
How old are you and your fiance, 19? Why is his mother at his house? Why would you continue to be in a relationship where you know he will emotionally abuse you already, and are only concerned now that it's escalated to physical abuse?

>>18114878
I'm 26. He's 28.

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One of the older brothers would always tell me that what ever I did was wrong. When ever I would get sick he would tell me all the time that I was faking it. When ever I needed something he would tell me I was selfish. To my younger self and being stuck in a house all the time with that it fucked me up. When we got older he tried helping me but then he was murdered. It was very traumatic.
Now I'm having trouble building relationships with people. I just want to live my life under a rock and it hurts. But I'm going to be dambed if that's what I'm going to do with my life just living each day like a ghost ship.

I'm sorry if I'm cluttering this board. I have a lot to let out and the idea that someone some where is hearing this really does help. I don't want to dump this on what friends I have or my stupid but loving family.

>>18114848
lmao @ that pic

serious question though, you grew up on a farm right? Did you ever have a sexual encounter with an animal? I heard that its really common among men who grew up on farms, like a majority.

The most saddest thing of all in this is that my little sister has this all worst. Growing up and stuck on the farm I would look out at her as she was just stuck in that stupid fucking place just like me. I just remember a day were I saw her spirit break. she just wondered around the yerd by herself with the saddest look on her face. My parents were to busy working to home school us. My oldest brother was the one that taught me to read and to write. My sister dident have any of that but some how she has learned those skills. After our brother was murdered my sister literally thought her self into having a seizure. I shit you not.

>>18114842
It's supposed to stretch on, and unroll easily. Are you sure you're putting it on right?

>>18114842
Please tell me you figured this out without a woman present

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>>18114999
heh

>>18114800

its normal in the sense that a lot of people end up with fetishes and sexual tendencies based on what they go through as a kid, many with identical experiences to you.

talk to almost any other woman you know and they'll have a worse sexual abuse story than you

>>18114808
The problem is I don't remember. It was what I wanted to tell myself the whole time, that sniffed and kind of touching me was the only thing that he done.
I thought about hypnotic to find out what happened.

You could poke a hole with a needle, and squeeze out all the sleep juices. Its liquid so it would mix in really well.

>>18114803
how would it taste in something like strawberry milk? or would something juice based work better?

The over all taste is pretty bitter, but if you dilute it with those drinks you shouldn't be able to taste it. As long as you drink all of it should still work.

I think it's just something you have or you don't.

My ex literally had no sense of direction. Are you a female?

in your spare time look up a street map on google maps and study it, then drive around some

>>18114791

give up then. people survived for hundreds of years without GPS and you're admittedly too lazy. there's no magical option outside of GP fucking S and google maps

How old are you?
Don't ever put all your eggs in 1 basket

>>18114790

>have to pretend to be happy around friends
>not just venting to them

even if you're not close, its a great way to get closer to them.

Have you ever heard of a app called tinder or bumble theirs a bunch of chicks their
Ps don't go chasing after your ex it'll only make you seem weak and she'll use that against you

>>18114787

ask her to hangout instead.

It is perfectly acceptable to ask why. You're not acting "entitled", don't worry. If she says she wants to stay as friends, perhaps remind her that being a good friend requires communication of what's going on in their lives. If she can't be a love interest, it doesn't hurt to at least expect her to live up to what she says.

>>18114789
No the last message I sent was "hey, Im off for the next three days, let me know if you want to do something" incase she just isn't into texting or

Go to a gay bar.
Sit down, talk to people.
See where things go.

Not too hard bro

>>18114754
is it normal for a man to just go to a gay bar alone? I don't have any gay friends or anything like that. I thought most people go in groups of friends.

>>18114744

you sound pretty gay to me, but im biased because you just told us all the gay shit.

that being said, you can tell if you're gay by exploring your sexuality.

>i dont want others to know

others dont have to. i used to be out, then i moved and made friends through wokr. i didnt want to be that guy that just asserts that hes gay just so people know, so it never came up.


people dont really NEED to know unless they're going to be seeing you be too friendly with a boyfriend, and sincei m more a single type it doesn't come up much.

my best friend only knows im gay because we met via asking him out.

my other friends of three years didnt find out i was gay until after we stopped hanging out.

my other friend never found out, which was hilarious cuz anytime he'd meet one of my gay friends hed be all awkward.

my most recent friend found out only because we were on my computer and i was going to show him the largest body of water in space, and when i typed in 'largest' it auto completed to 'largest gay gangbang' and he said 'welp i just learend something new about you' then we never spoke of it again.

point im making here is if you dont make it the basis of who you are, people wont treat you like its the basis of who you are. its a misconception that everyone reduces gays to their gayness.

gays reduce themselves to their gayness, everyone else follows suit, and then gays act all offended.

TL;DR go experiment, and don tell anyone until you feel like it.


one last note, just because you proxy yourself into one type in porn doesn't mean you want to be that type. for instance you may love watching gay porn of dudes sucking other dudes, so you might think that you want to suck dick (thats what i did). then you try it, and you hate it (like i did).

but it doesn't mean you're not gay ( im definitely gay) it just means that you probably prefer getting sucked instead of sucking.