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So, I've just created an excel file with "stats" of myself like an RPG character, with categories for body, skills and knowledge.
Below the table of stats I laid down the criteria, containing marks I need to hit before I give myself one point up in any of those. So for example, for Strength I've included several press, squat and deadlift goals, and every time I hit one of them I'll increase it by one point. Another example, I have German in the Knowledges category, and I've separated it by different degrees of fluency going from 1 to 9. A few, like Math skills, are harder to quantify, so I just selected a number of increasingly more advanced books and textbooks to learn as the criterion.
The logic I followed is: because I consider RPGs like that to be so addictive, I thought I could turn my life into one and maybe I'll be just as driven to improve myself irl as I am to improve my characters when I play vidya.
Now, two questions:
1. Is this too autistic? Like, as soon as I made it I thought, for the first time, that I might be a bit autistic.
2. Am I going crazy? Should I just not follow through with this for my own good?
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Sounds fun, if a bit weird.
Seriously, you're worried about this being too autistic on 4chan of all places? Is /adv/ some sort or closed normalfag ecosystem where this is considered weird?
You're asking a website full of fetishists, sociopaths, edgy schoolchildren and all manner of assorted retards and pretend-retards for approval of your normality.
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>>18115200
It sounds fun and healthy.
My ex did something similar to this and he got in shape and graduated 6 months in advance from his masters.
Add a reward system - give yourself free time/money to buy yourself things you want but not need when you upgrade a level.
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It's pretty autistic, but that's not a bad thing. Self improvement is self improvement, keep with it.
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>25 female
I want to start dating, not sure how to though as no one taught me and Ive never been on a date
Advice?
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Where do you work? You could always date a work colleague
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Im a freelancer
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Do you want some casual fling or a long term relationship?
Either way meet some people and if you find someone you like ask them out.
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>go out with a qt friend I've fallen in love with some time ago
>think it's mutual
>it goes great, we have a lot of fun
>we both get drunk
>suddenly she's all sad and says she'd like to tell me something but can't
>try to get it out of her for like an hour
>think she might confess to me since we were always really close
>she tells me that some guy wants her and she doesn't want him, doesn't know how to handle it
>I laugh it off, but cry deep inside
>mfw it wasn't about me at all
>mfw she's probably been just pulling my nose for a long time
>mfw we will never be together and my perfect dream will never come true
I can't handle this, before we went out I had this idea of waking up happy after years of being single and miserable, and yet here I am, considering just necking myself.. Why the fuck would she do that to me? I'm pretty sure she knows I like her. It was like laughing straight into my face.
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I have the same situation, bumping for OP.
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I know your feels OP but you are assuming a lot. You assume she knows how you feel, you assume she feels the same, you assume she hurt you like that on purpose instead of just confiding in a friend.
Stop assuming and either talk to her about it or let it all go. Then if she doesn't feel the same way about you then you can try to be a big enough person to be happy for her despite your unhappiness.
I spent a while torturing myself by being in love with my friend. She already had a boyfriend for 4 years since before I met her. Took a while but I accepted it and am now happy for them and I still cherish any time I get to spend with her. Not gonna lie and say it doesn't still hurt that we will never be together but at least I can give her my friendship and support and know that he will the care of her.
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So basically you have been specially friendzoned... Fuck her once more and move away emotionally, don't treat her anymore like a princess.
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My partner and I have always had a wonderful relationship but just recently, things seem to be getting difficult.
I've turned into a bit of a nag. Namely about the state of the flat, our sex life and a lack of effort from his side. I seem to be focusing on the very, very few negatives in our life and just blowing them up. This is resulting in regular digs at him, which in turn is obviously effecting his mood and confidence.
I don't want him to resent me and I know that most of my feelings are actually linked to myself and my lack of confidence and self worth.
How can I get a hold for his and get things back to how they were before?
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You should apologize for the digs, explain yourself to him pretty much exactly as you've done here, and have a conversation where you say what you feel about the things that are actually bothering you, rather than lashing out over little things
If it goes well, just, y'know, do that regularly instead of bottling shit up until you're just mad at everything he does
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>>18115152
This. Get to it OP.
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He sounds lazy and boring in bed.
I'm double majoring in computer science and mathematics and am planning on pursuing a career in software engineering. Is the extra math superfluous?
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no dude the more maths the better
and stay in school, ya hear
proud of you xoxo
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As far as I know, programmers use a shitload of problem solving and algorithms for their projects, so it would seem that it would benefit you immensely to get that extra education. That being said, having a dual major is also something that will differentiate you from the competition and give you a leg up on any of the pajeets that are on work visas.
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Well it's not exactly going to hurt.
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>tfw gf goes clubbing
Should I be worried?
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Why don't you go with her.
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Only if you don't trust her
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If she told you then it's on you for not going if not then sorry to say but the pic will explain what she might do next
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So, I'm a straight male that recently viewed, masturbated and came to this shemale having sex with a woman with a vagina. I've never came or masturbated from viewing any kind of "weird" porn like that.
Should I tell my girlfriend or would that be a bad idea???
I tell her everything. I just dont want her to view me differently and also I know that was just a sporadic thing I did.
I don't like men. I couldnt watch a transexual having sex with a man. Or man on man. Im not attracted to that. Just the fact that a "girl" with a penis was fucking another girl really hard it made my dick hard and I couldnt help it getting hard.
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Stop being retarded. You know the answer to this question and you also know that shemales are disgusting. That being said, you'll probably keep being retarded because you have no selfcontrol or self awareness.
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>>18115086
Cunt u r a fckin queer
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Addictive personality? 2017-03-10 08:12:17 Post No.18115056
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Does one have an addictive personality if they consume addictive substances because it boosts their mood, but can stop if they want to, but occasionally choose not to because it beats having a low mood (I have depression). Whenever I realize a substance may be affecting me negatively I cut it out easily and have no desire to continue it. I just get sadder that I won't have a boosted mood. Is this addiction? Or is it just that I have a low mood and its 'nice'.
Maybe I should get on anti-depressants because of my naturally lower than normal mood.
If anyone who has an addiction has their experience to share that would be very helpful.
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>>18115056
Also, its not so much that I need these things to be normal, but without them I am definitely not normal. The feeling of normalcy I get when I have one of these 'addictive substances' makes me want to feel like that all the time, but thats not sustainable with these things (negative health consequences).
Oh yeah, internet porn is another one. And video games and internet. My life is pretty much just a nonstop bouncing between different things like this to keep my mood up while keeping the negative side affects down...
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It really depends on what you're addicted to. Try going a week without it if you can do that without going crazy then you're probably not addicted.
I've done this with both Weed and Alcohol and its worked for me. Cigarettes aren't the same case though went 3 days without one and i was extremely psychotic.
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I feel the same and I tried the thing that dude said "one week cut" I can but go nuts I finally found some trashy music (suicide boys) that I like because I can relate, have suicidal thoughts daily only attempted twice always fucked low unless I smoke then I start laughing like a horrific fucking clown. I'm liking it but would like to find a solution as well to why my mood is low 24/7 I felt down even before I tried drugs, well at least ur not alone as i internet stranger
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TL;DR sexually frustrated and gf doesn't care 2017-03-10 08:06:46 Post No.18115051
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TL;DR sexually frustrated and gf doesn't care
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>incredibly sexually frustrated
>also sworn off porn and fapping because I have a host of penile problems
>I have always been the hornier one in relationship
>gf would basically be asexual if I never initiated
>she's going through a lot of stressful personal stuff and I've been supportive
>but my sexual needs are not being fulfilled at all
>90% sure she'll get offended if I bring it up, because her grandfather has cancer, she's handling stuff in order to be able to graduate, so my problem seems very small in comparison
>but it's been months and I'm fucking dying
What do I do? If I go back to porn that just means I won't be able to perform in actual sex, I'm a former addict and I can never go back to moderation
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Forgot to add, I've brought it up here and there but she brushes it off pretty much instantly or changes subject
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>>18115051
bruh. I don't have a gf and I'm sexually frustrated. Your sexual needs are not correlated to survival. You need to wait it out. you're not entitled to sex because you have a gf. you need to give her space.
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>>18115058
How much longer? It's been months
Me dating with this girl since november. I think she's the one, except there's one thing. We fight very often, like in every 3 days now and I'm dealing a lot of stress now just because of this.
She said we think about fights differently. She think that fights are essential to get closer to each other but I think fight is a sign of a weak//destructive relationship. I don't want to be that couple who fight every time when go out with friends or raging to each other every second day on facebook. However, I know that she has a really temperament behaviour in general, but she at least trying not to be a bitch.
I'm really love this girl, don't wanna break up and I think I just can't handle it anymore. I don't want to ask my friends about this cause I want them to like each other. Any ideas about how you guys/girls deal with fights?
TL;DR : How to deal with regular fights in a relationship.
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Don't. Find someone who you don't have to fight with. If your relationship is made a chore by incessant fighting it isn't a relationship you want.
She's toying with you.
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>>18115023
OP here. Do you think there's a chance to change this? I mean we have to admit that there are periods in a relationship. Maybe this is just a bad period? Or am I just making excuses cause I'm in love?
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>>18115014
OP again. I know there are much bigger problems in this life than a ~nearly flawless relationship. But it just tear me apart from the inside and I can't face this alone.
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Hey /adv/ my family is going through some troubles right now my drug addled 'cousin' is terrorizing my house. The other day she came into my house drunk and high attacking my step-dad and annoying me going on about how someone is after her even though there is no immediate danger. I want to know how do I deal with this person is there any way to get rid of her? Althoguh murder is out of the question. Even though I wouldnt mind finding out she was dead. Before you get all 'edgy' on me I had known her all my life and now I am tired of the heartache and second chances.
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Plant her drug of choice in her stuff and call the cops.
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>mfw anon tries this, and the cops find his fingerprints on the bag and messages with the drug dealer on his phone
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>>18115019
>touching anything associated with her
Yeah no
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Do you think I can start befriending (or even try to hook up since we're talking about a girl) a quite long-known acquaintance? I mean we're talking about the classmate of a friend of mine, i "know" her since 3-4 years, but we only talked a few times. Or would that sound weird?
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Nothing's weird if you don't make it weird. Be confident about it and you could literally say "I find you attractive and I want to get to know you better" and it wouldn't be weird.
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>>18115046
What do you mean by "making it weird"? Any example?
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Is there different types of contraceptive sponges? 2017-03-10 07:34:43 Post No.18114997
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Is there different types of contraceptive sponges?
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And is there a type with no shit in it so I can put contragel in it?
And
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Whats contragel?
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>>18115038
Like spermicide but without any house cleaning chemicals in it
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I'm mentally ill as fuck and it's gotten to the point where I have to isolate myself in public because I can't hold back on having a suicidal breakdown. I have a therapist but she keeps cancelling on me. My first appointment is supposed to be today at 1pm (it's 2am now) but she'll probably cancel again.
I feel like I'm going out of my mind. All I can think about is quitting my drop, dropping out of school, never talking to anybody again, and just locking myself away because I feel bad that anybody has to deal with me and my breakdowns.
Is there any way to deal with this sort of feeling? I feel guilty talking to friends about this (and when I do, they ignore me lol), and my therapist is a bust. Or am I better off kay em essing
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Try to find another therapist? Why continue scheduling with someone who is un reliable when their job is literally to be there for you (in a sense)?
It's an old question, but do you exercise regularly? Do you eat well? Do you socialize or spend time learning or creating anything? If you answered no to any of those, fix that.
I hope you can find the help you need.
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Ask her to recommend someone who is more reliable. Explain that you're in a really bad place and really need someone who can stick to the appointments. That or just cancel and find someone else.
You need help friend.
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>>18114973
>I have a therapist but she keeps cancelling on me.
So fire her. Demand a new one who will show up. You are the buyer here (even if you're not paying) and you have a right to get what was promised you.
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I think my employee has a thing for me 2017-03-10 07:19:51 Post No.18114961
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I think my employee has a thing for me
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There is a girl at my work that is my subordinate. She obtained my phone number through a group text and has started texting me, somewhat constantly. We have been having long texting conversations, but nothing sexual, or inappropriate. She asks me for a lot of advice. She also knows I have a girlfriend. My question is does this seem like something innocent, or does she have a thing for me? It's just strange that she started texting me all throughout the day. When ever she comes into work she looks at me and smiles and looks away. She laughs at e
everything I say. However, we have never discussed anything romantic and/or sexual. I'm afraid if we did I would loose it because she is absolutely gorgeous. Any thoughts?
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>>18114961
You're probably right, but it'd be a bad idea to pursue it for many reasons you already know. Doesn't sound like it's crossed any kind of a line yet though, you're good.
The best way to handle it would be to just cool it down a bit with the non-work-related texting. There's no need to shoot her down or anything at this point, just taper it off a bit and limit to a few messages a day. I'm sure you can use your judgment and decide when she actually needs your advice on something, and when she's just texting because she likes talking to you
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Never fraternize with your subordinates. It will somehow, some way, come back to bite you in the ass. She could be doing anything from trying to be your friend, to trying to suck your dick, to trying to set you up.
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>>18114979
Everything you said makes perfect sense. I just find it weird though. I think it's odd that she hasn't said anything suggestive. But if she only wanted advice, why did she start randomly texting me? Its weird.