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>>18694746
As long as your drinking does not interfere with your love life, work life, family life or health, it's not a problem.

>>18694780
ehhh I've heard a lot of those yoga moms who painfully aren't Freud or Jung say this

basically it's not alcoholism if you're a real tank about it, and it's all up to perception what constitutes a "problem"?

I was advised by a doctor to take one shot or beer every 30 min, well no, more like, wait 30 minutes between shot and shot, you get me Right? So, I listened to him and years later I acquired a taste so I don't feel like drinking every time every day or every "other obliged span of time".

>>18694673
If he actually mocks people based on an ethnic group they are part of, you can just report his ass to the school.
If you don't want to go that way, you can always just ignore the guy, he clearly doesn't like so just don't bother being a good student.

i'm confused.
You say that he is treating you unfairly and saying nasty things about an ethnic group, I can pretty safely assume that since its an ethnic studies class he is talking about white people.
Ok, thats pretty bad, but then when you talk about how he treats other students you imply they answer the same way as you do.
Either you have the biggest douchebag of a professor in history, or you arent telling us something about how you and this professor got off on the wrong foot. If you are answering in a satisfactory manner that is consistent with how other students participate in the class there must have been something you said or did early on that set him off.
Not saying that he is right to do this by any means, he is still a huge douche, but you gotta give us more info.

Hello,
Well, I'm not sure what I did wrong, I do always try to be polite, I listen, do the assignments. I one time accidentally said good morning instead afternoon by mistake and apologized. I kind of am a goof with that, but I was a bit nervous that day and kind of said that as a greeting. Yeah, pretty stupid on my part. But I guess he may be passionate and probably didnt hear what I said maybe? He has an ear aid I think but I'm not sure. I hope I'm just being paranoid. But thank you both for replying.

>>18694640
you claim your friends are selfish (which they probably are) and then you proceed to be minorly outraged that society isn't giving you what you want. do you see the irony?

>>18694640

By living that way yourself. whats important to you doesn't have to be selfish,
but can come from selfishness. Just do you

>>18694640

I went through this since always, and still do to this day at age 30. Im different from my friends as well.

Its simple. They either dont invite you at all because they know you dont like what they like, or a hero friend decides for you youre just depressed and need friend time to feel better and they dont know how to reach out to you except through the shit they like.

So its the opposite. Theyre either being considerate to your wishes to be excluded, or theyre being empathetic and trying to pick you up out of a hole they think youre in.

Nothing selfish about it. Stop being an asshole.

Sounds like you need to put more effort into being interesting. I'm sure you are interesting but would you recognize the most interesting book in the world if the cover was completely unremarkable?

>>18694612
That's going to happen the rest of your life. Don't get married or she takes all your stuff when she is ready to move on.

Tinder/bumble are modtly hookup apps so if you aren't physically attractive you won't win there. Try OKC or. Coffee meets bagel

Also you may be going for girls who are out of your league or girls who aren't right for you.

For amazon?
Show up late 3 times, automatic termination.

Or just never hit your numbers, what was it, 100 per hour? Do like 30.

just turn in the 2 weeks

Steal information

>>18694570
What was your dream about?

It could have been influenced by books or movies. That's how I explain my weird dreams.

>>18694579


>>18694579

well, it's hard for me to remember the details clearly. The main thing I remember, is being tasked, by some sort of cult-ish leader type lady, to move a floating red orb outside. I thought it would be simple, but it ended up being quite heavy despite its small size. When I completed it, she touched me on my stomach and i became completely numb bellow my naval cavity and above my knees, but it felt kind of good in a way. There were other people in the room too, none of whom I recognized, and they were just like onlookers.


And no, it's not influenced by any book or movie that I saw

There are a variety of ways.

>>18695027

so are you going to tell us?

>>18694540
This is 4chan, not google

I've been this girl

Everything will break her heart

'Hey you're a cool girl and I'm really sorry but I just can't see anything happening between us, and I've gotta call off the date because I don't want to lead you on. '

Keep the date and give her a fair shot. You already agreed to it, no way out of it without coming across as a dick.

It's just a date, not a fuck fest.

Just start lifting weights now and go to jail.

>>18694514
>$550
>jailed

get it from someone, preferably legally

>>18694514
Whore yourself out

>>18694416
Fucking teenagers
You have everything in front of you.
Do you know how much I'd give to be in your shoes?

Whatever.
What's your major malfunction?
I can never fix my fucked up life, but maybe I can help yours

>>>18694424
I get it, you think that im too young to have real problems and everything is handed to me anyways so why should be wasting my time crying off that new mascara daddy bought. Well my "daddy" left when i was 7. He was an alcoholic and my parents had a very brutal divorce. He lives in a different state and im lucky if i get a Happy Birthday from him. That's part of my "malfunction". The other half is my mom. I don't know if this could ever be considered a bad thing but she cares "too much" teenagers are supposed to get to enjoy themselves and not worry about things until they get older. just like you said But no, im expected to have the capabilities of an adult with the restrictions of a toddler. Also its not like i wake up and decide oh its tuesday, ill be depressed. I dont cry or say things like "im ugly" for attention. When i say im ugly its because i genuinely hate myself. I am worthless and i just make everyone around me frustrated and complicate things that dont need to be further complicated. So thats my Malfunction. Assume as you wish about how im just a spoiled teen who just wants to fit in but i seriously want help.

>>18694530
I get it
You're a woman.
You've always been told "Women are princesses" or some bullshit like that
You look at yourself and feel that you're not anyone's fucking princess.

Yeah, you're fucked up. We all are. Welcome to 4chan, etc, etc, etc.
My parents got divorced too. I'm god damned fucked up too

Let's talk, or whatever. We aren't what we wanted to be.

>>18694385
need to be rude

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>>18694390
Rude to women? I don't think that'll help me somehow.

I discovered some time ago that a lot of women I know apparently think I "hate" them, because I come across as nonchalant and arrogant around them. I don't intend to do this.

>>18694390
Unironically this

Which is to say, do the things you think are rude.
Like touching them the first time.
Kissing them when they don't expect it.

Generally be touchy. You think that's rude as shit.
But women want it.
Women want to be touched too much rather than too little

You're not getting a relationship out of her, she's made that much clear, so I really hope you're not expecting to date her

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>>18694372

It's not that simple.

>>18694353

Wouldn't overthink it, it can mean a lot of things:

1) She's thinking things over and wants space
2) She's scared of how much she likes you after getting hurt big time after a long-term relationship break (this is a thing)
3) Worst case: She got drunk and made bad decisions and regrets them, things will be awkward but eventually it'll pass.

>>18694353
she asked you to be her bf and you declined, that probably hurts her ego and is now giving you the cold treatment since she is not happy with being friends only.
find a new friend op.

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>>18694349
I used to be much the same in my late teens and early 20's. Im 26 now and have changed completely. It was a process over 4 or 5 years of me just improving myself. I tried to find things I was passionate about (swimming, reading, learning an instrument) and forced myself to talk to people even if I felt like I was acting like a fool. I have a happier life with good friends now. I think I was kind of damaged by my parents growing up - not physically abused, but mentally and emotionally... it was a mess. It was hard for me to connect with people but I've worked through it and im on the other side now. I can see how some people can carry their childhood scars through their life and hurt their quality of life.

OP I hope I helped in some way. I'll keep this tab open for a while in case you have any questions. You can become a whole happy person, it takes work tho.

>>18694374
Not OP but your story gives me faith. At 21 I feel so fucking isolated and awkward. I really want to believe I can change and I know I have nothing to lose by trying but it still seems like a pointless endeavour.

>>18694407
I know the feeling. I guess it's kind of like a depression but I just felt hopeless. If that makes sense. I've done, conquered it. I know it's possible. I'm not gonna lie though it requires hard work on your end.

I had to drudge up a lot of my past which hurts, work through it in my head. Forgive people. After I got a handle on that I just felt a sense of relief and days seemed brighter and better. I started striking up conversations with people and it snowballed from their to having some great friends over the last few years now. This was my path, yours might be a little different.

Don't give up!

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>>18694343
Sex before marriage is degenerate OP.

How old are you?

When I was 27 I lived at home for about 1 year. It sucked.

Anyway I still got laid some. It's gonna be one extreme or the other, some women will be totally fine with it and some will drop you like a hot rock.

>>18694392
21
Its kind of a problem because about 2/3 of the girls I meet are living at home, in dorms, with roommates etc. Not quite the age of independence yet, at least in the region where I live

Anything self-development you do for the sole purpose of pleasing other people is bad. Change not for others but for yourself. You deserve better, not other people.

Bad reason, good action
You become less of a man child regardless ^^

No but it's not exactly good either. I'm sure women will respect you more if you do things for yourself and be your own man instead of doing things just to please them.