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What can working 7 days a week, 9 hours a day do to a person mentally?

>You can't work 63 hours per week??

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So, before I start, spare me your "you should hang out with them" stuff or "your dad is right".

Basically, I have one friend in particular who shows up unannounced to my house regularly. He went away to college for awhile, then it stopped, and whenever he's in town he'll pull in and knock and try and get me to hang out. Here's the thing; 90 percent of the time I DON'T WANT TO FUCKING HANG OUT. He's does it at least 20 times in the past year and it's nearly the same result every time, yet he persists. When he did it for the first few times, I was like "hey, if you could just give me a call or text or something before you come over, that'd be great." And he has completely ignored this. I told him to do this a few times and he hasn't done it since. He'll show up at like 10 in the morning, or basically any other time up until about 8 pm. It fucking pisses me off. And he can not. take. no. for. an. answer. I say, "Naw I don't feel like it." He'll go "Come onnnn." Or he'll give me the puppy dog eyes and try and make me feel bad about not wanting to.

This is compounded by my dad. Whenever he comes here and my dad is here, he'll encourage him to come in, chat, and then when he asks me to hang out, he basically makes me hang out with him, or will argue about it if I refuse. This has happened multiple times now.

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How to find a decent apartment when making $16/hr and no friends want to move out with you? I'm having trouble finding a place under $1500 a month.

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Can someone explain to me this whole DACA thing?

I have a few friends who are here from Vietnam. One who's been here since age nine, and going to dental school. Another who's been here longer and finally became a civil engineer. And a third who's only been here for a couple years, but is here for medical school. And I'm very much concerned for them.

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2 days ago i started to get aches in my ass,at first i thought it was hemorrhoids but i noticed no blood in cloths/paper/toilet or anywhere really,i havent bled any,thruout the day i dont get em now ,only after i poop.

today after standing up from a long sit i noticed a lot of fluids (and browny liquid) in my pants,pretty disgusting obviously but got me real worried,i thought it was getting better cause of less pain since i adjusted my diet/baths/icing ...does anyone know what it could be? ill be going to a doc as soon as i can but im kinda worried hell prescribe some painful examinations...

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I have absolutely no friends online or off and the people that try to get close to me I invariably push away. I work but try to have as little interaction as possible and I can tell people think I'm weird or think that I that just hate them. Suicidal thoughts are a daily occurrence and have been for years because of crushing loneliness. My life is a contradiction in that I desire to have friendships and to be close with people but my brain is simply hard wired in a way that makes those fantasies impossible.

How can I change this?

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Met a girl over the weekend, friend of an acquaintance. She was sick but still very attractive, so we chatted a bit and I got her IG. I checked on her yesterday to see how she was feeling and we had a bland conversation but it lasted all day. From her IG and conversation I really like this girl, but she lives 3 hours away. I want to find out more about her so I was planning on sending this text to the mutual aquaintance. Let me know your thoughts?

>Hey, random question, what do you know about Linda?

Anticipating something about her asking me why I want to know, what I know about her, etc

>Well, I know she is a spiritual girl who loves animals, cooking, and adventure, and even when she's sick her smile looks like warm sunshine.

Thoughts? I'm kind of hoping she will pass on my comments or otherwise help me meet up with her again.

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Got a chick's number today, but I'm not the best when it comes to girls. How do I not fuck this up?

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Bear with me, this is gonna be a long one...

So last January, I was told by a friend of mine that he was in an open relationship with his fiance. I didn't think much of it at the time. I did however notice that she had expressed some subtle cues to me when we do our tabletop game nights.

It wasn't until a couple weeks after that he messaged me out of the blue stating that she wanted me to be a part of the open relationship. I had gone a good few years without sex, and I figured, eh, sure, why not.

So I messaged her, telling her I'm perfectly cool with it, and am always an open book when it comes to sex. So fast forward to a week later, she and I start messaging each other while our game night is going on, and we make cute and lewd statements, and my friend wanted to invite me to his place.

Needless to say, we got there since another friend drove us there without knowing about it, and while he was going to get some sleep, we decided to play some Borderlands 2 for a bit. Then, we got right to it. The fiance woke up, and we ended up having a threesome, but it was fine.

So as the weeks go on well into April, we started fooling around even more. I went to their place, we hung out, we made love, and we got closer every day. I even bought her a stuffed Umbreon and tiny Kanna plushie because we loved Pokemon and Kobayashi so much.

I told her I would love to have her and my friend room in with me in the future, and when they were looking into a place, it fell apart, and she promised she would have me as a Plan B to get where they needed.

Here's where it starts to go downhill.

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HOW IN THE FUCK DO YOU CONTACT 4CHAN MODS WHO AREN'T ILLITERATE ASSHOLES?

I really have no idea where to post this, hopefully it won't get deleted and I won't get banned.

So my situation is that I have not posted on 4chan at all since Sunday. Yet this morning when I woke up and actually wanted to post a comment on /g/, it said I was banned for posting CP. That was strange to me, but I needed to go to university. So I did. Using their wifi I posted a thread about my mysterious ban on /g/ and asked how I could find out who was behind my ban. The thread was deleted in 30 minutes and my university's IP used by 7k people was permabanned. (Good job!)

So I went home and connected to the 4chan IRC channel and messaged a mod. He took 1 hour to answer me, and you know what he did? He said I tried to evade my ban and banned me from the IRC channel, even though I thoroughly explained to him that since my IP is dynamic, it was either some totally random other guy who happened to have the same IP as me, or it was one of my two roommates. One of them I know frequents 4chan.

I didn't want to request an unban or appeal my ban or anything, I just wanted to know whether or not my roommate is a pedo, because obviously I fucking know I didn't post CP. Since the Internet connection is under my name, if he fucks up the police will come for me.

The banned page didn't specify for what post I was banned, it only said CP and that it was filed this morning. What I really want to know is what that comment or post was in the first place. And what board it was. And when it was posted.

What are my options here?

PLEASE DON'T FUCKING BAN ME AGAIN, THAT'S NOT THE POINT, I CAN GET A NEW IP JUST BY RESTARTING THE ROUTER AND EVADE THE BAN ANY TIME. IT'S ABOUT CATCHING THE GUY WHO POSTED THAT SHIT.

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What's the best way to gain discipline and to build habits ?

Is it starting really small, trying to keep a slow but steady and regular pace ? Or do you have to try real hard and make radical changes ?

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so i am currently a pretty sad individual
im 18
i cant see a shrink for reasons i wont disclose.
i dont know what to do anymore.
please help.

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>Used to talk to this girl in the 11th grade whenever I could
>She was in 12th
>We got along reeeally well
>Teacher would get mad at us because we'd get into tickle fights and shit like that
>She was very funny and cute
>She enjoyed my hugs and would always hug me, even in front of her BF at the time
>She becomes single, and I probably could have dated her but I was a nervous pussy
>Still good friends and everything
>She graduates the next year
>We don't talk anymore
>We're friends on social media(s), she doesn't talk to me or like any my stuff
>Fast forward to today
>Haven't seen her in person or talked with her since
>We're both in college in different parts of the country
>She's not single anymore
>She posts her link to that honesty app "Sarahah" (you can send private and anonymous messages pretty much)
>I send her one, telling her how I feel
>I say that she always made my day better, she's cute, funny, I miss her but she probably doesn't remember me, had a crush on her, etc.
>She always screenshots them and posts them on social media with a comment
>Posts mine, saying that I need to message her, she'd love to talk to me again, she never knew she could make someone's day back then, etc.
>She still doesn't know it was me

Should I message her or is it even worth it? She has a boyfriend so I feel like I'd just embarrass myself if I messaged her.

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I just learned that my ex had been cheating on me for three months. I'm over him, but knowing that I'd been used for that long hurts. We lived an hour away from each other, so it was sort of a ldr, and we'd travel down to see each other every weekend. The last week of May 2016, for my birthday, he took me out to a nice restaurant, bought me a meaningful gift of things he knew I liked, had awesome sex that night, and the next day he said he had to leave for a business trip to Shanghai for a week (he was a TA at UCSD) ... After not hearing from him for the whole week and a couple days after he returned, he messaged me through Skype a breakup. Today I learned that he'd been with another girl since March 2016.
I'm tempted to message him how shitty of a person he is, then message his girlfriend to send him the message in case he doesn't receive it. I know its petty, but I have nothing to lose with this guy. Pic related, its him and his girl.

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For some reason, out of nowhere, I've been getting both extremely depressed at the fact that I don't have a girlfriend and, at the same time, I've been motivated to get out and talk to girls. My problem is, since I am so suddenly depressed at the absence of a girlfriend, I cannot gain the confidence and I am not in the right mood to talk to girls.

What can I possibly do to correct this? These emotions have literally sprung onto me for no reason at all and seemingly randomly, and before, I didn't really care about having a girlfriend, but now I can't get my mind off of it.

Has anyone ever experienced something like this before? What can I do to gain the courage to go up to girls despite this overwhelming depression? I'm afraid that if I get rejected or made fun of, it'll just make it even worse.