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Because 50 years of manual labor isn't appealing

>>18144745

because even if a trade can be stable and pays well enough it isn't considered to be 'successful' and its not nearly as easy to raise a family off of them as back in the day. they are GREAT for single men, but not so much for in general, especially with them being easy to get to.

college was a good idea until student loans made it hard to profit off of

because nowadays everybody wants to be a fucking doctor or lawyer, trade careers are fine if you're a hard worker, better than trying to get a good education and ending up with a women's studies degree

>>18144701
All happy pills kills libido with other various side effects. That is common knowledge. Read instructions on pills so you know.

Decide yourself what is better: horny crazy boy with broken life or sedated boy with good life (and maybe asexual gf) and broken dick.

>the best part on killed libido is that in time you wont even notice you dont have it

>>18144795
>horny crazy boy with broken life or sedated boy with good life (and maybe asexual gf) and broken dick.

That 2nd option is sounding kind of sweet.

It's such a curse having a need without similarly being granted the necessary qualities to meet said need.

>>18144701
I've been on SSRI for several years and eventually I kinda made peace with it through investing in edging and denial. It's a pretty niche thing I guess. Also my libido was downright miserable at first, but it improved afterwards.
There are lots of ways to make sex life work on SSRIs in my experience. And sex shouldn't be a valid reason to refuse SSRIs. Health > your dick.

It's not as bad you're thinking it is it's more of a weight on guys than girls

No, just say it and explain your reasons.

Really isn't a bad thing for women. For men it's a death knell, just think of yourself as someone with no baggage.

Do a dramatic reading of what you just wrote and play it back to yourself.

>>18144808

kek

>>18144808
Fucking this this this lol

>>18144657

if text is a 'game' then we'd need to see more than just the last few tets to see what you did wrong.

that being said, stop operating under the assumption that girls can be won. in most cases a woman already knows what she wants from you. she doesnt sit around thinking 'WOW ILL TOTALLY REWARD ANON WITH SEX SO LONG AS HIS TEXT GAME IS ON POINT.'

Okay so first, using "lit" is any sentence is fucking moronic.

Then it sounds like if you had a short hangout she was just getting rid of you, especially with the "aww you're pretty sweet [as a best friends]"

Every time one of you fags posts your texts with a girl I cringe. Why don't you just talk like a normal fucking person

>>18144654
just kill her

That's unfortunately just how relationships can be, man. Don't beat yourself up over it, a lot of women just can't settle with having only one guy. I bet that she will cheat on whatever poor sap she gets into a relationship with next.

If your image has really been ruined by this, tell a friend about what really happened. Make sure that it's someone who will believe you. If you can get someone else on your side, convincing the rest of your friends into believing the truth will be miles easier.

>>18144662
She asked me "Why don't you just beat me up so that we can move on and get over this"

I told her I wasn't going to hit her, and I broke up with her a week or so later.

>>18144599

find a new apartment if you cant afford this one

>>18144599
Holy shit why are so many girls turning lesbians in this time and age?
I mean, together with your story, that's like the 7th time in one year I hear of such a thing. WTF is going on?

>>18144777
Women are told from birth that men are terrible, their interactions confirm what they were told so they go for women.

Please respond.

She's pretty much still a kid with possessive issues. Just give it time. Yes, you is fuck up a little as she must have seen you as a "closer" friend. So to her, it might have felt like you betrayed her. Tbh, just give it time and keep saying sorry. If she still won't forgive you, she's a sorry bitch and you don't need to be friends with a tight ass like her.

>>18144535

Your friend obviously had issues with the fuck buddy. You knew this and still made your move. When you did that - you made your choice between your friend and the fuckbuddy.

Granted your friend just needs to lock the fuckbuddy down if she's that into him - but maybe she's tried.

So in my opinion - you both suck for different reasons and maybe you'll make good friends one day when you get past this.

>>18144510
You can do a benzo or barbiturate taper for the first 3 days for anxiety. You'll also want aspirin and an anti nausea med.

After that it's just one day at a time. Wake up and tell yourself you don't need to drink today and deserve has nothing to do with it. You won't drink today, not this second, not this hour.

>>18144525

Those aren't available to me, but I'll pick up some aspirin and whatever I can for anti-nausea.

I've never been the kind of person who thinks they "deserve" a drink. My biggest problem is my party lifestyle, so I've basically told all of my friends and coworkers I'm on a strict diet because of a stomach issue and that I won't be going out, just coming to work.

>>18144532
Librium is a super weak one, not sure if you can get it over the counter.

I work at a rehab.

How has alcohol affected your life in a negative way.

Take the Michigan Alcohol Screening test.
http://counsellingresource.com/quizzes/drug-testing/alcohol-mast/

Just fuckin tell him you like to ask him out on a date Jesus Christ stop being such a baby.

>>18144452
Context for people who weren't in my last thread and are willing to help me out:

>guy I used to hate and used to hate me
>sit across from him in Modern History class
>started catching him looking at me
>avoided eye contact when I looked
>talked to me more often
>instead of arguments it's just banter
>been messaging him a lot over messenger
>talked to him until midnight last week
>offers for me to hang out with him during break if I ever want to
>In person I'm awkward af and can't approach him w/o feeling like he'll ridicule me
>tell him I feel weird talking to a guy I used to hate and who used to hate me
>"People's feelings change."

After all these conversations with him online, we end up just totally ignoring each other in person. Is it just the awkwardness of our conversations coming face to face?
I'm hoping things will warm up if I just approach him and put my anxieties aside, and try to stay friendly and show him that I'm starting to like him more.

Honestly I just want to hang out with him. Even if he doesn't like me back in that way, if he's got a thing for some other girl or something, I'd still be down with getting to know him.

>>18144465
Easier said than done. I'd rather build up trust and friendship with him before going out with him with the expectation of us becoming an item. It just works better that way, especially if I'm overthinking his behaviour to be hints as to him liking me.

>>18144442
You can only wait to feel like human again.

Use this empty time to improve yourself.
Start eating healty, start some sport, read some book about broken love and you will feel better in no time.

Just do yourself a favor and dont try to fill up your hole in hearth by casual sex. It never works.

>>18144706
Thanks fort that, it's really appreciated

>>18144442
Sucks man, we all know what that feels like. The cures tend to be universal. You have to accept that time is what you need, time will allow your heart and soul to heal and become stronger. But while that is working...
Stick to a routine. Do your hobbies or interests. Eventually you think of them less, and the pain fades to nothing. Be careful you don't pick up a bad habit to fill the void.
Good luck.

>be me
> around 17 years old, kissless virgin, pretty beta
> attend new school to get the best possible degree in my country
>schoolyear starts all new peaple everybody gets known to each other
>pretty cool guys, most beta themself since its a school focusing on biology
> even got a own lab awesome.png
> Make new friends, everything cool
>there is one girl, looks quite nice, but annoying as fuck
>nobody can stand her
>little princess gets everything she wants from her daddy
> commments sometimes realy dumb stuff during the class
> not so much friends for her
>fast forward
> school trip
>evening about to get stoned with some friends in the woods behind our hostel
> three of us on the way out.
>will be my first time doing weed. kind of excited

get to the point you tremendously unloveable faggot

>on our way out, annoying girl comes along our way
>lets call her stacy
>"hey what are you up to?"
> ehm...eh... not much, cant say that we will gonne get fucking hammered, for obvious reasons
>try to get rid of her
>doesnt work.jpg
>decide to take one for the tea and misdirect her, while the others escape to smoke weed
>hang around with her the whole evening, cant get rid of her
>talk with her about god and the world
>actualy she's pretty cool and kind of cute
>feel sorry for her since nobody sees more in her than the annoying girl
>hang around with her for the rest of the trip
>become friends
>sit next to each other in class
> start getting feelings for her. there it goes.jpg
>know she would reject me since beta, got some skin problems and glasses. low self esteem for my looks
>but not total loser, liked by everyone in class, since iam smart and kind of destroy our teachers on their own subjects
>even get elected class spokesman after stacy says i would be a great one
>fast forward a few months
>madly in love
> im the personen closest to her in her whole life by now
> tells me she needs to tell me something
> its about her crush
>describes him tall, blone, cute, super nice
>heart skipes a few beats since i am all of that
>could that be real?
>of course not, wouldnt write a greentext if it would be or?
> its her fucking driving instructor about 10 years older than her
> heart kinda breaks
> listen to her stories about him for the next months
> she gets kind of sad because he got a girlfriend and wont notice her

>>18144372
In general, I don't date people I don't trust. If you cannot believe them, just dump them and move on.

I do believe that friendship between men and women is possible.
I think that it can be 100% platonic, but even if it isn't it isn't a huge deal - it is very possible to be friends with someone you think is cute.
You'll meet plenty of people who are sexually attractive, cheating or not cheating on your partner is mostly a choice. If you don't want to cheat, even laying in be naked next to a top model won't make you cheat.

On the other hand, if two people are truly friends and they've been friends for many years, they probably already had many chances to be together and choose not to be, so that's reassuring.

>>18144372
do the other person have a partner? That could actually simbol that they are just friends. Idk.

>>18144372
No, cut that "just friends" bs. Many women have guy friends, but not ones they hangout with like they are bff. I don't know if you can trust your woman, but you can trust biology. And biology tells the guy friend to fuck your girl's brains out. Unless he's provenly gay, then it's okay, and there's your loophole.

What a surprise, an 18yo stoner with delusions of grandeur.
Just let your brother make his own decisions and mistakes, with any luck he'll end up less of a failure than you.

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It's okay, 14 year olds do worse shit these days.
In your place I'd say you know where to get good weed for him, but dont tell him you grow it yourself.
It'd be pretty cool having a cool sister like you

Way too young to start. It'll fuck up his brain development

>>18144349
No don't do that.
Have him just mail you a check, Christ.

Why is it dangerous to give out a bank account number?

>>18144349
>My ex bf needs to pay me money monthly.
No, he doesn't.