What matters more?
A decent future through a good education, taking proper care of your body, or having good relationships with friends and romantic interests?
Is it possible to balance all of these perfectly?
>Is it possible to balance all of these perfectly?
You know the majority of the world does this, right? I mean, have you ever talked to someone who's not from 4chan before?
>>18146198
That's bullshit and you know it.
>>18146223
I'm surrounded by people like that, so it's hardly bullshit. Seriously, go outside. People like that are everywhere.
I'm obese, I haven't showered in a week, haven't changed my bedsheets in many months now, I haven't brushed my teeth regularly in years, I haven't cleaned my apartment in weeks, I didn't go to my classes for two weeks now, I just told the only few people I have contact with to fuck off essentially cutting off the only social contact I have and I didn't even leave my bed yesterday at all.
And I just don't care. Where the fuck do I even start fixing this mess and why shouldn't I just fucking kill myself?
>>18146099
bite it off in manageable chunks. shower, change your sheets, brush your teeth and clean your apartment for a day. figure out your classes and if you were close to the people you were in contact with consider seeking them to guide you for therapy or such to get you back on track. killing yourself solves nothing, its a mess you can fix
>>18146099
If you don't like your life, then change it; keep in mind good change requires work.Take it slow, change doesn't come fast.
>>18146116
>>18146127
I have tried all of these things a thousand times. It never works, it always fails, it always ends up getting worse.
Can low test during puberty cause your penis girth to not grow properly? I've got a really thin penis and I have low test it use to be 5 and it's at 9 I'm 19 years old and wondering is it too late if I took testosterone boosters or something could it get better looking for any advice if testosterone boosters are safe etc and what one to take thanks. My doctor said I can't take test cause it's low but not low enough even though I'm 19 and look fucking 12.
>>18146035
maybe youre just a late bloomer. it happens.
try eating more & working out
Some men are just superior to others. You are in the category of low hierarchy males, OP. Supplementing your natural (and very pathetic) testosterone levels might make you look and feel like a higher status male, but deep down inside your genetic information is always going to be that of a low hierarchy male.
Basically, you're a loser.
>>18146092
lol this is bullshit. phenotype over genotype. bio 201
Hey guys; I'm freaking out right now and need some advice.
Is college worth it?
I'm in my third semester for computer science and I haven't learned anything that I haven't already learned in high school. Not to mention most of my classes have nothing to do with my major.
All these stupid general education courses and the one class I'm in for programming is child's play, I actually feel like I'm losing more then gaining anything from college. My pockets are empty and I am getting nothing to show for it.
Is this your first year of college?
>>18146022
No third semester, I'm basically halfway through sophomore year
>>18146018
shouldn't you do some research if the university is a joke or not before you apply and pay for it ?
90% of the CS degrees in the USA are worthless
I just found out today that my company in my office will be moving to a new office separate from everyone else... So I'll be going from an office of about 30 people to an office of like 4 males. Starting tomorrow. I'm pretty bummed about it and not looking forward to work.
Do I have a right to be upset about this? I was already thinking of applying to new jobs, even if the office is fine, I don't like how they're just moving me around like this
>>18146000
My department in my company* will be moving, sorry about that
I HAVE TO WORK WITH 4 PEOPLE OF THE MALE GENDER?
REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
Nah seriously piss off you have no right to be upset. Why don't you bring this up to your immediate supervisor and see how they feel about you thinking your preferences are above the needs of the company?
Bumping because I want to hear pathetic OP's pathetic reasoning.
my girlfriend doesn't fuck me
my gf has a lot of issues and every few months she goes through a phase where we don't have sex at all. then everything is back to normal then we go back to not having sex for a month or two. she has trauma and goes to therapy. Last time we didn't have sex for 5 months. We've been together for 3 years. Also no she is not cheating.
but it's incredibly frustrating being in a monogamous relationship and I don't get laid for an entire month or two. I have a very high labido and it's very very frustrating
how do I get her to open the relationship or let me fuck other people?
Anyone?
>>18145996
>how do I get her to open the relationship or let me fuck other people?
there is no "let", son. you just tell her:
"i have needs, im going to fuck randos on tinder. pick me up some condoms on the way back from work"
and leave it at that.
>>18146031
Did that work for you?
I work in the same area as these other girls who hate me. 2 of them have gone up to me before and called me a bitch, shit talker, etc. We work in a high security place, and now I work for a different company - but still very close to them.
What do I do if they approach me? I always thought I'd have good comebacks and be all hardcore and shit but I always just stand there and take it.
The other day, one of the girls kept calling me, but I didn't answer after the first call (she said "why are you always talking shit" and then I hung up) so I'm sure if she sees me in person for the first time in like 2 months she's gonna have a lot to say.
All this is over a guy.
I don't think they're physical threats, but I'm just mentally not in a great place to be dealing with girl drama.
>>18145965
Do you not have an HR? You need to get a paper trail started immediately. File a complaint, and speak to supervision/whoever to have closed door discussions as often as it takes before they get the hint to stop wasting evertone's time. Enough complaints and leadership should move someone.
>>18145989
yeah I went to the police once about her calling me nonstop but they said they can't do anything until a crime is committed
>mfw
(I didn't want them arrested, just like a verbal warning)
I also went to HR, when we were working at the same company, but they didn't do shit. we all had to sit at a table and talk to each other but that didn't end up well. and I don't wanna contact my new job about this because I don't want to look like a problem employee.
this is all because they thought I was trying to steal their men lmao
>>18145965
You need to rage on these bitches. They think you're weak now and that's why they pick on you. It's a classic bully situation. You need to stand up for yourself. What's the worst that can happen? You get beat up and lose your job. Big deal. Bruises heal and there is plenty of work out there. And if not so what, you'll be so proud of yourself for standing up to them and will look back and smile. Get a backbone girl, don't let them push you around. Most the time bullies back right off when you rage or hit them.
Is it common to realize you're a different sexuality later in life?
So I'm a 23-year-old male. I grew up in a really accepting family, always open to different ideas about sexuality etc. so I've never had any reason to deny if I had any feelings towards the same sex. I've exclusively dated and slept with women, except for a single time I kissed a male friend playing spin-the-bottle (it was disgusting). I've been attracted to trans women so maybe that was a "first step" of sorts towards whatever I'm at now.
Anyway I've been convinced for years that I have almost no attraction towards males. I found recently however that I feel sexual attraction towards a very specific type of guy, and have even fantasized about dominating one. The idea of being dominated still repulses me, but for some reason I get turned on at the idea of fucking this certain kind of guy. What the fuck is going on?
tl;dr thought i was straight for 23 years, suddenly want to fuck a guy. wtf happened
>>18145922
not that abnormal desu
Also I thought about cross-posting to /b/ but those dudes are so sexually confused I'd be hard-pressed to get a real answer.
Or they'd just call me a faggot (which might not be wrong)
>>18145938
That's reassuring. Did you have a similar experience?
Have you ever pounded your gf while she was sleeping? How was your experience?
>>18145873
dont do it (without asking)
I did it once OP, it felt good for a while but i'm typing this from jail now.
>>18145916
Audible kek. But seriously, why not just ask her when she's awake? What's the appeal?
How do you achieve having willpower through ideals ?
If you are a person who is very active and never let something be undone, how would you describe your mindset / ideals ?
Can you go from being a giant anxiety machine to someone who confronts things and go out ?
I ended up fucking my life and I thing I'm at the end of my purge cycle, after being conviced that I wouldn't survive one more month and planning to kill myself I had some really bad family news and realised all this hate inside could shape my intentions and make me wanna fight. So I ended up slowly building the will to get out this fucking hole and fight instead of flight. I'm reprogramming myself.
I still have horrible feelings sometimes, and I can't get them out.
>>18145784
I suppose yeah, what do you want to do? be more specific.
>>18145793
>>18145793
To make it short I want to want to have the necessary mindset to stop being shut down by anxiety in my daily life.
I mean I stopped doing everything.
I had extroardinary opportunities for music, work, studies, and I could have been so fuckin great right now if that wasn't for these feelings in my head keeping me in bed.
Just writing that makes me feel extremely guilty as some opportunities were really big but I had not enought love for life to pursue them.
I might have had some traumatic events that got me into this mindset.
I wrote down some instructions to endlessly repeat:
Drive a hot barge.
If you feel bad, act, if you're afraid, act.
Confront your mediocrity, rejection can only push you higher.
Transform this self destruction into willpower.
Hey /adv/,
I'm trying to remove this tattoo through laser removal, things don't seem to be going good. I'm in the forth session and the tattoo doesn't seem to be going even a bit. I'm thinking in covering it up. Any advices of what should I do? Colors?
>>18145699
Leave it, and add to the bottom an actual professionally done tattoo that says "Make better decisions"
>>18145699
You should probably stop getting tattoos as you've already shown that you don't make wise life decisions. Stick with the laser treatments. It can take anywhere from up to 10 months to 18 months to remove. You can also use abrasives to speed the process along.
>>18145699
Add to list "Remove tattoo"
How do I create a not shit tinder profile?
Be tall, attractive, socially successful, have a lot of sex with many different women, and most importantly, BE RICH
>>18145697
Huh too late
>>18145691
>be a woman
>don't be fat
Hello /adv/,
Last year I broke up with an ex on semi bad terms (he was an alcoholic) and its been about five months since then. He's been emailing me once a month since then, however the emails are so badly written (or maybe he's trying to write poetry?) that I feel I have to wait a few days to try and understand what he's trying to say before I reply back. The trouble is, I think he's drinking again and somehow made it to my house two weeks ago and I think he attempted to enter my house via garage and may have been looking for a spare key to enter. I should also mention that when this happened, it was around his birthday.
Now the last time I saw him person, I threatened to put a restraining order on him however I never did. I just couldn't bring myself to do it. I know he was in a mentally bad place five months ago and maybe he's just having an episode again. He's never been violent except for that one night five months ago and even then it was all that violent... it was just me not wanting to get too aggressive in bed but you know.. alcohol changes the brain.
Anyways, /adv/ should I look more into what I think (and am pretty positive it was him) is going on? And what should I do about it?
>>18145669
Yes. Youtube is full of stories where a grill is killed by her stalker ex. If he is seeking ways to enter your house illegally its already too dangerous to not call the police.
You deserve someone who isn't an asshole.
> Now the last time I saw him person, I threatened to put a restraining order on him however I never did. I just couldn't bring myself to do it.
Why?
> I think he attempted to enter my house via garage and may have been looking for a spare key to enter.
Call the police.
>>18145669
Plus at least make a report so that if things escalate you will have a record of past incidents. You have to go no contact. There is no way to ease him away. Any response you give will be taken for interest.
How to be funny?
One thing I've noticed is that certain people in social environments are always the first to think of a witty response and get people laughing.
Sometimes I'll be able to do this, but I'd like to sharpen my humour and make it quicker.
Are there any ways to make yourself funnier and/or more quick-witted?
>>18145649
you could try watching stand up comedy, as well as thinking of jokes ahead of time for common situations.
Look for improv groups. People who literally get together and practice being spontaneously funny. It's a real thing.
>>18145649
Know things. Current events, historical figures, trivia. The more you know the more you can see comedy in and the larger your resource for witticism.
My bf gets upset when I don't want sex. Recently, my sex drive has fallen I used to want to have sex daily or more but now I'm fine if I go a few days without sex. Anyway, my bf now gets super upset when I reject sex he accuses me of not loving him, or cheating on him, or not finding him attractive, etc. The thing is, its not like he has never rejected sex before, he actually used to be the only one to ever reject it up until a month ago. There was actually a time frame of like 5 months when he would only have sex with me once a week or even go longer without it. His sex drive has kinda gone up recently but mine has gone down.
I told him that I've been very stressed/that sex has been painful for me lately due to an underlying health condition. He understands when hes not horny but the second he gets horny he gets really upset. What is his problem? How do I stop him from acting this way when I reject him sexually? Again, I don't reject him often or make him go an outrageous amount of time without sex...but he still seems so upset by it.
Surely you can try talking to him about your feelings instead of asking us.
Anyways, from what you say he sounds like an idiot and a hypocrit, and I would drop him if he continued to pull shit like this.
>>18145331
I have tried talking to him and his only response to me asking why he is upset is the list I have given, accusing me of things. Plus he's fine when he isn't horny and seems to understand....the second he is horny though he just seems to forget of any conversation I've had with him previously and is too anger to actually listen to anything I say at that moment.
>>18145341
I had a girlfriend who would accuse me of being unfaithful when I wasn't feeling it. Give you three guesses as to what I found out about her.
But you can't actually know that right now. Hope you haven't cosigned a lease with him because it sounds like you gotta get out.