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met a guy in first year of uni who was pretty chill so we hung out a lot. he had social anxiety but it didn't stop him from going out so we'd hang out a lot over the summer. the summer after he admits to me on ecstasy that hes gay and that hes attracted to a very specific type of guy ( a category which i fall into) but im straight and he knows it will never happen. its business as usual being friends until third year and we move into a house with a few other friends. since then hes become more and more withdrawed from social interation with everyone and all he does is sit in his room smoking weed and drinking. hes starting to get borderline violent towards me when drunk and when i try to talk to him he just deflects any conversation with one word answers and leaving the room as quickly as he can. he also avoids any room he knows I'm in unless its necessary to enter. hes sent me shit before on snapchat claiming that im the reason he cuts himself but its all chicken scratches for attention that he points out to my other roomates. hes also getting weirdly vindictive about things as well towards everyone in the house. i just want to get my friend back but i honestly don't know what to do at this point.
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>>18145955
Why not just have sex? Pretend he's a girl who only likes anal.
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>>18145955
Sit him down, tell him that you just don't see him that way. Tell him you miss the good times you had together. If he can't abide, gotta cut him out your life.
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>>18145955
I don't think being gay is the issue. The way he's acting, shutting people out, wallowing in self misery, it more sounds like he's undergoing a type of depression
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Do chicks really dig guys that play guitar?
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Nah dude, everyone plays the fuckin guitar. Pick up another instrument if your goal is to impress women.
Wind instruments especially
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>>18145927
yep
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>>18145933
wrong and dumb
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How does it feel to destroy someone elses life? 2017-03-21 03:27:38 Post No.18145913
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How does it feel to destroy someone elses life?
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Ive been wondering how do people feel after theyve destroyed someones life since i used to be a happy person until back in the last year of HS my best friend, went out with the girl i loved and i fell into depression and had no motivation to continue my studies and lost contact with all my other friends, eventually i did go into Uni but im still a sad sack of shit but the thing is even if he acted like he was sorry, he always looked so happy and carefree so have you ever destroyed or atleast deeply hurt someone else and if so how did it feel?
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This is literally the state of human existence for some people.
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>>18145913
I dunno man. Some people just don't care at all and are very selfish about the things that they do. You shouldn't even think about him as a "friend" who wronged you, just as some random person who didn't care to trample on someone he claimed to care about, to get what he wanted. Leave them to do what they want and don't become like them. Keep being loving, respectful and noble with your intentions. If you have peace with yourself, it'll be okay.
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>>18145913
>"Acted like he was sorry"
He is not sorry. Nor does he value your friendship.
I had a friend who did some jail time. I spent a lot of time at his girlfriends house because i was involved with a friend of his girlfriend. I never once even thought about making a move on HIS girl... because he was my boy, my homie, my friend. And i valued our friendship and my integrity.
For a while he thought i fucked his girl, But i had never even entertained the thought... Because i valued his friendship.
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Respecializing - Again 2017-03-21 02:47:27 Post No.18145849
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Heya
I am 27 and worried about needing to respecialize my profession/field for a second time.
I am working as an internal, hourly paid, HR Executive Assistant for our recruitment needs in a college. Mostly admin, I do filing and set up documentation for interviewers/lecturers for internal job roles. I like the people and the place but I don't like the work. Its become tedious and honestly the place doesn't have room to go further. Its dead end essentially besides becoming a senior HR EA.
I worked as a HR Assistant and didn't like it with contracts and documentation. I kept making small mistakes in documentation (not for any important client, just for my direct reporting manager). Was let go after 6 months. I found the work terribly boring and tedious as well.
I respecialized from Psychology (made it to Masters) and got a diploma in HR. I also have a CELTA qualification and Diploma in Marketing.
I'm not liking it. Also I am pretty poor with people. I hang out with another nerdy guy 99% of the time during lunch break, thankfully we enjoy each others company.
I recently got feedback for an internal position (go from hourly to contract) that "We think you'd be better off in a research position".
Not "It was good" or "it was shit", just that.
What should I do?
I don't want to do a PHD in Psychology as the route is too long of an investment of time. But I don't want to go into HR as of now.
I have no idea how to get into analytics.
Any advice /adv/?
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Anyone?
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>>18145945
>I'm not good with people
If you're not good with people why did you get into HR and psychology? A profession which requires you to be good with people. Maybe try working in a different organization or business, probe around on websites like indeed.com or just google "jobs requiring a <your specialty here>"
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I know your pain, OP. I'm interested in what advice people I have for you. I'm in a similar situation
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Anons of /adv/, how did your experiences with depression counseling help? I can't take it anymore and am desperate to try anything, but I'm still really afraid of completely opening up, even if it's to some doctor I'll realistically never see outside of sessions.
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>>18145827
not good. i disagreed with most everything the psychiatrist told me.
but i still recommend therapy to anyone who is depressed. can't make it worse.
in my case it helped in a round about way. it helped reaffirm my ideas and pushed me to prove their validity. now im the happiest person i know.
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What were your ideas?
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>>18145874
the most important for me was not letting people abuse you. my therapist basically told me id be happier if i just accepted the bad things happening to me and i wholeheartedly disagreed. It wasn't until I started pushing back against bullies that I realized my potential as a man.
its in my nature to be nice and accommodating, but beneath all that, in every person i think, there's the part that has taken too much shit and wants to get into a fight.
everything else was an extension to that. I do agree wtih her sentiments when it comes to things you legitimately can't change. The universe is indifferent and you can't just get whatever you want whenever you want. but people abusing you, physically or otherwise, is not one of those, and regardless of the situation you're able to stand your ground so long as you build up a solid base for yourself.
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What is the quickest way to learn how to touch type?
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I can type 120 wpm if i'm trying to type a few sentences really fast
If you want to do exactly what I did you'll have to go a little out of your way. The only thing I ever did was use this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gQ0HqvxpJ6g
Yeah i'm really old lol. Research the exercises they use in this game and see if any recent typing tutorial games out use the same things.
But who knows. Maybe this specific game for whatever special reason is the only reason I can type this fast. So I recommend getting this and getting a way on your computer to run this.
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desu mmos that you actually have to interact with people in
learned touch typing in give or take 1 week as a 12 year old
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>>18145807
But how do you fucking know where to position your hands and shit?
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Help - I just insulted 150 people 2017-03-21 02:03:45 Post No.18145765
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Help - I just insulted 150 people
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I am the tech at work and there was a presenter using an older computer.
So here I am fighting with this thing trying to get it to work with our firewall infront of all (150 people)
>"Entertained yet Anon?"
>"Hard not to be with all you clowns"
But instead of laughter I got the "oooooooh" effect and it was pretty obvious I had just pissed of the entire room. What the fuck do I do now?
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Suck it the fuck up OP. You stated your mind, like a fucking man. You don't like the people you work with, so fucking what.
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Apologize to the presenter?
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>>18145765
what is the ooooooh effect? professional people who are angry don't make noises to express it.
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My girlfriend dumped me cause I wasn't successful enough... now I'm burned 2017-03-21 02:03:41 Post No.18145764
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My girlfriend dumped me cause I wasn't successful enough... now I'm burned
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My girlfriend (22) dumped me (24) because I wasn't Perfect and successful enough.
Me: 56k a year, first real job, a small company but in a 'lucrative' field, went to a top 20 university
Her: went to a top 5 university, mega successful family, has a fucking boating license, fit and hot as fuck, just graduated and not employed yet but has an earning potential and career path that will blow my earnings out the fucking water-i'd be surprised if she doesn't have a job at the time of this post.
She dumped me because i wasn't 'elite' enough for her. my job was OK, my degree was OK, but she didn't want OK, she wanted the best. so she moved on.
Now I'm insecure as fuck, disenchanted with my job, and don't know what to do.
Now all I care about is the prestige of my job and I've become obsessed with going to a top grad school to rebrand myself professionally. I've doubled down on my fitness routine because I feel i have to achieve the '6 pack 6 figure ivy educated' chad thing going and I'm fucking exhausted. I don't get to wind down from work anymore. I don't get to just live in the moment and play video games or enjoy a beer- now i have to be improving all the fucking time so I can become 'elite' enough for an 'elite' girl from a swanky upper class background.
should i devote my life to becoming a rich upper class overlord so I don't feel that I just got fucking rekt and one-upped? It feels like high school popularity contest/who can get into the best college all over again.
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Why would you care about impressing someone so shallow?
if that is actually why she dumped you your reaction should be relief that you dodged a bullet and move on with your life.
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what's a boating license. you don't need one to drive a boat anyplace I've lived unless it was commercial.
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It's good she dumped you. Those are shitty shallow reasons. Do you really want to be with a person like that?
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Craigslist sex?
Ive never done it but whenever I'm horny I browse and email couples.
One of them replied and wants to blow me while the husband watches. I have her number and a few pics of them (no face pics though).
Anyone have experience with these things? I'm not really sexually experienced besides a few things here and there. Is it safe/worth it?
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arrange to meet them in a public place first to guage if they give you any creep vibes, if not then go ahead but make sure someone always knows where you are
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>>18145604
We already exchanged some pictures of our bodies, think it's ok to text them on my phone?
Thanks for the advice anon!
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They will sell your skin.
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I'm almost done with high school and I have no idea what career I want to go into. the only thing I generally want a well paying blue collar job, what should I do? Lately being a cop has seemed like a good option.
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>>18145578
Trade school or do what you suggested.
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>>18145578
>Lately being a cop has seemed like a good option.
Top fucking kek. Please. Explain to me how lately being a cop has even remotely resembled a good option.
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>>18145594
Respect, not a lot of prerequisites, I'm interested and crime, and it has an unbeatable pension after only 20 years.
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is it possible to forgive someone you dated for 1.5 years if she was naked on FaceTime, sent a couple naked pictures and sexted
I feel so heart and betrayed but I love her so fucking much that I don't want to get of her. I know they didn't have sex because I know of her whereabouts down to the minute. I found about this not from her but from text message dialogues online. She trickle truthed me about the guy before I found out.
I broke up with her and that same night she messaged another guy from her school and did that - even with me calling and texting her back asking to make things right between us. Her excuse is we were broken up if even we were talking. When we got back together, she never told me even when she promised me didn't do anything with anyone whatsoever. Then she broke up with me 4 days later emotionally and asked that guy if he wanted to go on a date that day. The guy blew her off because he didn't want to pay for her more than likely so she slowly started running back to me. This whole time I never knew about this and I was the one saying sorry for being a jerk and then I found out about this... She was crying all day yesterday and today in front of me begging for forgiveness telling me how sorry she is, how much of a mistake, how she wants to earn my trust back etc etc.
Have you any of you ever gone through something similar? Please, I need help. I need someone. I don't have anyone to talk to. All of my friends are morons who are terrible with advice. I love this girl so much but I feel so heartbroken.
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>>18145526
Cheating is a slow poison.
Spare yourself long term pain and cut all contact.
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>>18145533
She never screwed him, I verified everywhere she was. But I feel like she didn't screw him because she couldn't due to how busy she was with work and school.
She didn't physically cheat but I still feel cheated.
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Ofc it's possible, there's even a name for it:
Cuckoldry
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>started crushing on girl about a year ago
>she realized it
>fucks with me (not in the way I would like to)
>managed to keep myself in check for a few weeks and go back to a reasonable mindset
>started to distance myself from her
>we live far away from each other
>still need to keep contact for reasons
>talk about once a month
Out of all the people in our circle she seems to have grown the closest to me and she seems to either like me but "like a brother" or at least trying to play games to get attention from me.
How do I get this shit out of my life, considering I can't outright tell her to fuck off?
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Just forget about it?
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>>18145454
Oh well man jeez thanks a lot, jesus how did I not think about that.
Like get the fuck out.
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>>18145464
Outright tell her to fuck off.
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>physics assigment due in like 4 hours
>havent started
>windows on laptop needs to be reinstalled
>WHAT DO
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>>18145391
1. Use emergency money to buy a new laptop
2. Borrows friend's one
3. Get fuked for becoming a lazy cunt
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Keep fapping, no use now.
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>>18145391
Call in say you cant go cause ill.
Drop out of school or start doing things before deadline.
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i just lost 300$ while gambling. I was at a worse point a year ago, where i lost 2000 in 5 months, but after I realized that and had almost no money at all I felt disgusted about the thought of putting in any more.
As you can see i started again a month ago. I have the same feeling of being horrified about the speed in which i gamble away the money, but now i know that this feeling is gonna go away eventually like last time.
How do i keep myself from doing it again?
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Ask whatever establishment you gamble at to ban you from entering
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>>18145377
its online though. I think I would rather just not want it, thinks like this can be bypassed, I know myself that well
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someone else?
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how do i deal with a false rape claim if i never initiated anything? Shes telling everyone i raped here but i never touched her.
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Ignore it. If asked directly about it, tell the truth. Don't go around giving it more attention than it deserves.
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1. Kill her
2. Hide body
3. ???
4. Profit
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>>18145356
Pretty much this.