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>>18261655
Assume that I've done the best with my appearance.

>>18261649

Don't let anyone force you into getting a boyfriend and don't settle. Those are recipes for unhappiness.

Just be yourself and put yourself out there. Let it occur naturally and don't force it.

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>>18261606
>I don't wanted to get fucked over by some random bitch

too late

You could try sending a second text but if she doesn't respond or does so laconically, then you are now "that annoying guy who texts her"

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>>18261606

>>18261606
Start a new conversation awhile later, but dont let more than 3 messages go unresponded to. Then it's time to give up and move on forever.

>>18261516
Treat the anxiety and the symptoms should go away.

Focus on other things. The mind can't stress about peeing and pay attention to it's surroundings at the same time.

>>18261660
Yeah, but I try so hard not to think about it in those situations that it ends up being my main focus.

I first encountered this piss problem about 2 months ago in the last quarter of a math lecture. At the time I thought I just wanted to pee...went to the toilet..nothing, I didn't need to pee after all.

Now I always before I go to the store or lectures, 10 minutes later I have to pee big time.. It's really frustrating.

The feeling I get when it starts is a tingle in my scrotum, like the balls are retracting. Then I feel warm in the hamstring area of my right leg. It really feels like I have pissed myself sometimes..

>>18261748
Damn that's fucked up dude lol you need to take care of your anxiety before you piss yourself in public.

do you act like an autist irl? jw lol

I've done it at different intervals multiple times. It definitely does lower anxiety and gives you an added vitality that is absent when you rub one out. I would recommend everyone trying it. You do become hornier but that pushes to take chances and interact with women in ways you may have been to timid to in the past. You feel great too and after you break your streak you notice a downward shift in how you feel. You should notice effects after about 2 weeks of no fap.

>>18261435

It comes down to energy levels. Lay off fapping for a couple of weeks and they will shoot up noticeably. More energy means more desire to do things, to use it, to get out there. The problem is that then people start getting used to it and think there can't possibly be a change, and only after giving in, with their flaccid dock in their hands do they realize how drained they are now.

I've gone on and off for 4 years now. It works. It shows. The difference between abstaining and fapping daily are like day and night. People who say it doesn't work have no potential to rise above themselves in the first place.

>>18261435
I have done it. longest time was about 3 months. and it does change you.

In my case, it helped me feel a lot of new things because I was already in a masturbation addiction. So changing the pace really opened a lot of doors about daily feelings and overal mood.

Also, you get a lot more romantic and horny. Seriously, you feel like you fall in love again, or in my case, every second I was with my gf at that time, I felt I couldn't let her go.

Of course this is hormonal. The downside to it is that you are way more likely to cheat, if you have no self-control. Sorta like how you sometimes fap to very weird porn and only until you finish you realize what the hell you're doing.

I suggest you give it a try, and see how it feels arouns weeks 1 through 4.

It's from around the first complete month where it starts to get easy and realize how you actually care about doing other stuff.

you just have to start. start small. start brushing your teeth regularly.

you can do this

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>>18261429
>Does anyone here ever feel small in the grand scheme
I've always found the idea of meaningless of life calming.
I can fuck up as bad as I can and still it won't likely even be remembered in few hundred years.

>and Inferior in the shadow of who they would like to be?
Do you mean by "person I would like to be" like goal I dream to become one day in the far future or self I "could be" now?
There are some things I would like to improve in myself of course and I'm working towards them but at the same time I don't think you should punish yourself for not attaining things instantly. And making mistakes and not doing everything optimally all the time isn't a bad thing.

It's like how I have lost some weight this year. It would have been great if I had lost that weigth decade ago but that just isn't something that could have happened. Even if I somehow could talk to my past self what could I really say? It's not like I didn't know I should lose some weight.

I feel it goes like this with many things in our lives we feel went wrong. We might know the right solution in some level but we still have to go through with it to really let it sink in. So don't feel bad that you didn't realize the right way earlier but but be happy that you made that mistake and learned your lesson.

o page 6 wiseboys

wuddup

>>18261428
beat the shit out of him

Your friend should fuck him up next time he sees him.

>>18261428
Call the police and press charges. This is assault with a deadly weapon.

Key here is to think not just about your friend but everyone else. Who else will he do this to if he doesn't face real consequences?

Have same question...

They do lol

>>18261343
I know that feel, bro.

I've got a big ass, large thighs, large hips. I'm very pear-shaped. I hate my body. I'm shapes like an ancient effigy of some fertility goddess.

I don't particularly care if girls like large asses on dudes. I'm uncomfortable with my body regardless. It's gross. I just want a normal dude body. I'd prefer to be thinner, but I would definitely take being 10 pounds heavier if my weight were distributed in a more masculine way, even over being 10 pounds lighter and still having these curves.

And on top of that, I've got gyno.

I hate myself and want to die. I will never be comfortable enough with myself to be naked in front of anybody else, let alone have sex.

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>>18261341
Sounds like arrhythmia. I really think you should see a doctor.

>>18261406
I feel like my doctor won't believe me though, and I'm not sure if it's just a normal thing or me overreacting. I'm only 22. I'll go and it won't twitch for the 10 minutes he sees me probably.

Been there, got a prescription for beta blockers

>>18261272
Because "holding on good moments" is what you do to survive jail without fucking up your mind. If you need that to do in your relationshit, it's fucked beyond hope.

You will lose sight of the forest if you only look at one tree.

Now it is only fair to admit that there were positive aspects of your relationship but you also have to admit the negative as well.

It's just easier to reflect on the relationship and learn. Then hopefully not make the same mistakes.

>>18261272
lol, simply put its bad because it dismisses and draws attention away from legitimate grievances you have in favor for certain positive moments that were cherry picked from the relationship. It isn't an accurate representation of the relationship as a whole and therefore shouldn't be treated as thus.

Acknowledging the good isn't horrible but weight that against the wrongs as well. Looking at only one end of the spectrum warps the frame of the relationship. It is best to give an honest evaluation when discussing it and deciding whether to continue or not

>>18261238
Easy.

You have balls and break up. Or
You have brains and solve the problem. Or
You are little bitch scared to break up, so you just take a break.
>which is the same as actual break up, it just last longer and is confusing for both parties.

>>18261238
>take break
>someone always sleeps around
>always creates hate between the couple later

>>18261238
Depends on the couple
No definite answer can be given but I would say that it more often ends in tragedy. That doesn't mean you have to give up, but to keep your expectations realistic

>>18261198
>lonely
>all my friends are busy until monday
Gtfo, you dont know loneliness yet.

>>18261198
You acquire gf
>>18250471

>>18261220
I don't like girls and girls don't like me.

The best I could do for now are random hookups on grndr I guess, but I really don't like sex and random sex with strangers would feel worse than this.

I already hate you too

You could either kill yourself or kill him

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Awe man, it is easy to hate when you're living in your moms basement. You steal her SS checks too?

>>18261155
Generally speaking, when people go Vegetarian or Vegan they report feeling a lot better within the first few months, but I suspect that has more to do with the fact that they're just eating a much cleaner, better thought out diet than because they've just quit eating meat.

I got big into health as a teenager, went vegan for a bit, felt pretty great. Fell out over time, got back into health in the last couple months, but this time I didn't go vegan, I just started eating less carbs, eating higher quality meat and veggies, and I felt just as good with that as I did with going vegan previously. Ultimately I don't think avoiding meat is so much what benefits you as avoiding junk food and low quality meats (Spam, hotdogs, etc).

Meat and animal products are seriously disgusting, I dont know how people even eat it.
Alone the thought of how it is made...
And for what? For some seconds of taste pleasure, which is not even that enjoyable? Really makes one think.
Stupid hedonistic society, if you want to eat meat, go and hunt like a real predator.

>>18261210
>Alone the thought of how it is made...
Speaking as someone who's worked on multiple farms, I can tell you that a shitload of animals die harvesting plants. Every harvest you've got small mammals, deer fawns, cats, shit like that dying by the BILLIONS in industrial farming. Really the only place you don't see that is in small scale farming where everything is picked by hand. If you can eat that food, good for you man, you're lucky and I'm happy for you. Thing is, not everyone can do that. I don't mean won't, I don't mean chooses not to, I mean CAN NOT. As in society literally could not function the way it does if we knocked food production back down to such a poor level of efficiency. Society needs factory farming, and factory farming, even when just producing plants, kills billions of animals.

>>18261033
Well, are you?

You sound super boring to me op. You even posted boring pic. What do you do in your free time? Staring at blank wall?

>>18261033
Try talking to them.

>>18261033
>Go into work tomorrow wearing a Hawaiian shirt and some sweet shades
>make it a point to say BAZINGA and make guns with your fingers
>During lunch pull out some wacky meal, fries covered in icecream and garlic
>say BAZINGA

>>18261002
Start with small baby steps.

What is your most serious issue atm? And which problem is easiest to solve atm?

Solve the easiest one and make plans how to tackle the harder one.

>>18261021
Every problem I've got needs money to solve it. And I'm broke as fuck. I'm don't want to ask my parents for financial help because I owe them to much already. I have a choice to back to my hometown and start over again but I'm afraid I'll regret it since it was the reason why I left in the first place. I don't know what to do atm. I destroyed my relationship with friends and I even don't feel bad about it. I don't feel any things at all

>>18261002
Honestly, from reading your post I'm pretty sure you jack off too much. Go on nofap for a couple weeks see how you feel. Key to life is energy, stop watching tranny porn faggot