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Most of the time OP is looking for validation from others to tell them their excuse for breaking up or whatever is a good one and they have already made up their mind to do it before making the thread. People who respond to OPs like this are your typical denizen of /adv/ ; a roleplayer with no real life experiences pretending they know whats best for other people spewing idealistic and shallow responses based on unrealistic values theyve picked up from media.

>>18260736
If there's a thread about getting a girlfriend, people will encourage the poster to do stuff that might work in obtaining such a person, but mostly with terrible and/or fucking obvious advice.

If people have girlfriends, it's breakup time, since everything is a red flag with these people,

>>18260736
Often the so called minor issues aren't minor and only seem that way at start. Not wasting time, your most precious resource is only reasonable. Surely you could be less of a faggot and name couple clear examples for your bitching?

>>18260793
>or fucking obvious advice
Because advice about basic things can only go so far, especially if the other person is the biggest factor in the equation and one you can't fully influence. There isn't a magic ritual to summon a GF.

>>18260614
>>I am very good at cold approaches

then anywhere you see an attractive girl

>>18260618
I work 8-5 and part time student. The gym doesnt really work as the girls there just go to workout

>>18260622
You see pretty girls at supermarkets, at restaurants, at bars, on the street, walking around at school, at work. All these women may be approached if you just walk up to them.

>>18260600
Proportional part payment is what you're thinking of. Deferred payment is basically just intentionally paying late.

if your business doesnt have enough money to pay its workers the word for it is default.

Just pay them in donuts, donutman

>>18260592
It's not weird anon. The more sexual partners you have, the more you start to realise people like different things in sex. Some people just don't enjoy penetration.

Dude I only got to 69 with my ex once, it was amazing, I loved her pussy and she gave great head. She was insecure about me going down on her though:/ that's why only once, I ended up getting a magic wand and damn did that get her going, she'd be begging to get fucked after 2 minutes, and feeling her tighten up when she came was SO fucking hot.

Anyways, not weird at all man your GF should enjoy it, some guys think it's "gross" but hell that either means they're idiots or their girls cant into hygiene

I also prefer head over sex. The thought of having my pickle in a girls mouth is far more attractive than sex. I think its probably because most of the sex I have is devoid of any significance or meaning so I opt for the act that derives more pleasure and requires less work.

She's just being nice.
Don't let it go to your head.

Only one way to find out Boy-o. Make a move

>>18260586
I chose to hope you are wrong
>>18260587
how to make a move|? I have done it twice in the past and now I don't have good relationships with those grils

>>18260570

Union Electrician and Accounting are probably what you're looking for

Also look into social media marketing

>>18260570
Start by posting more pics of her

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>>18260556
Remind them that they're fucking tellers

>>18260556
just use an atm dude.

>>18260556

What are you talking about? What do they do/say?

>>18260531
You're still young, op. It's normal to have no idea what to do at that age. I'm in my 20s and have no idea.

>>18260531
You better find something fast. I was like you and I went to college hoping to figure it out but I just ended up miserable and depressed hating everything and dropped out and am now a suicidal NEET. I was a suicidal wage slave but it's hard to keep working when you think you're going to kill yourself at any time. You really do need to have interests to succeed in life or it's hell.

I don't want to kill myself.

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>>18260505
Damn, thats some premium cougar pussy that kid is probably getting. She will cheat on you, I think you know what you need to do.

I know. I went through this with my ex wife, with the whole changing the phone pw and texting and shit....like I haven't been through this before.

>>18260505
Change in sex drive and arousal are comparable to placebo in Cymbalta for women, just look at the ASEX scores.

She's probably texting that guy for reasons other than magical drugs making her cheat on you against her will.

its a woman being a woman
this happens in most relationships, get used to it son

>>18260490

>relationship starts to fall apart after the honeymoon phase ends
>"it's her, not me!"

Alrighty. It's clearly time to break up, if you've in this type of pile of shit after just six months. Your relationship has no future.

No, its not weird for women to start drama because they want attention. Although, if this begins to get out of hand then it is a problem. It is up to you to decide where to draw the line and how to deal with it.

Not to be a d-i-c-k but you don't know what a perfect girl is. Shes the first girl you've gotten sexual with and as a result your vision has been clouded by this. I would recommend getting out there and dating other girls. Experience other women and what they have to offer.

If you don't want to break up I recommend being grounded when she becomes emotional. You're the man so its your job to be the pillar of support. A lot of times girls will get crazy to see how you respond and rise up to the situation. Don't get emotional with her. Stay calm and change the way she FEELS.

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Check out the book The Highly Sensitive Person. Might fit you.

Looks pretty relevant, going by the description.

Thanks for the suggestion!

You're welcome. Good luck. :-)

>>18260473

Ever considered working online?

Check elance, upwork etc. Depending on your skills you might be able to make a few bucks per week, which is already better than nothing. You'll also get experience, portfolio material if you work with writing (which can help you irl later) and no-one will ever know about your issue.

Also, have you tried to seek medical help?

>>18260488
I just want to get out of the house , but will look into those options

Also medical help for what, there isn't a cure for being useless

>>18260494

For the stuttering, nigger.

There is a multitude of possible ways of solving stuttering. From exercises to surgery, there's a wide array of things that can be done about your condition. Don't be so hopeless about it.

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>>18260460
You shouldnt have gotten married

>>18260460

Ask your wife.

>>18260479
If I ask too many questions she gets mad at me

What do you say that annoys her? We need more context. Give an example of a conversation you carried with her in which she got annoyed or aggravated

>>18260429

she said she was mad over something so I assumed it was overwatch (since she was playing it) but that wasn't it and she was mad about something completely unrelated to internet and was hurt that I assumed she'd get mad over video games.

this probably not seems like much, but honestly i keep bothering her with one sided conversations and maybe i blew a fuse there. i should've known when she wasn't interested in talking to me and not said anything.

this also isn't the first time, it happened before but she forgave me and i decided to not bother her that much anymore but i still kept doing it like an obnoxious fucking retard

hell i think she's my friend but don't even know if she feels the same way. maybe im just a stranger bothering her.

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>>18260438
Lol she definitely overreacted. I know you have more context to the situation but her being mad because you didn't know what she was mad about is ridiculous on her part.

OP, I think a lot of this stems from you not having too many friends. You're coming from a place of scarcity so you have a limited amount of feedback when it comes to your behavior. As a result you adjust yourself more to those you have in your life because you don't want to lose them. Think about it like this, if you were popular and had tons of friends, would you still be her friend? Would you be friends with a girl who seemed entirely uninterested in talking with you at times and got mad b/c you assumed erroneously why she was mad? Chances are you would move on to people who value what you have to offer.

It could be you have horrible behaviors and this may be. Be sure to honest without being too harsh when you analyze your tendencies and behaviors.

Sidenote: I would urge you not to refer to yourself as a "fucking retard". I use to call myself retarded whenever I did something that appeared asinine or stupid. However, this definitely has an effect on how you view and hold yourself. I've noticed since I've stopped using that word to describe myself I feel a lot better about myself and am less negative. Substitute it with a less harsh word like "silly".

Bonus notes: I've taught at this board of education for 6 years. It's my first year attending this bad school. I don't want to lose my job all together, I guess.

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Growing up it was always nice when the teacher was enthusiastic and engaged in the material they were teaching. Students can tell when a teacher doesn't give a fuck and its rubs off on them. Must suck working with shitheads but your actions have the biggest impact on the students not on them. As a result I think you should see past the other workers and realize what you're there for.

>>18260327
Thanks for your input. I do understand the students have nothing to do with it, so it affects them negatively. I think I just need some way to see past the difficulties I face with the staff. For instance, I'll teach in a certain way and I'll get feedback saying to do it differently. I try to meet the expectations the school wants, then they tell me it's still not right.

In these six years, I've not had one complaint until today and I am a certified teacher who feels confident in the lessons I deliver.