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>>18494113
Have kids in college. It's not as impossible as you think, and most colleges very quietly offer services to help out, ranging from hidden breastfeeding rooms in various buildings to daycare. They don't advertise the services; you should ask at student health.
I've had friends go through undergrad and grad school raising two kids. They were very happy, and the kids were happy. Pregnancy starts getting rougher on the kid after 30.

>>18494120
Wouldn't it be difficult to do an intense program like engineering with kids though?

>>18494113
Past 30 your kids will have autism, your body wont recover so easily and generally much more things can go wrong.

Lets say you have to date at least two years before having kids with somebody so that leaves you with 3 boyfriend tries in 6 years left.

>pro tip
Go to free public (or at least cheap one) and look for bf in the mean time. If you find decent one or at least rich one, you can easily drop the uni and start doing babies.

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>Her body?
My body.

>>18493674
fpbp

>>18493669
Biting.
Probably unhealthy as fuck, but god damn, my dick starts twitching whenever someone bites into my skin.

>>18493572
Coward without an ounce of honour

You're a waste of oxygen and if you are remotely okay as a person, you will realize just how much of a narcissist douchebag you were when it's too late to mend anything.

Keep your pleas about not wanting to be judged for your actions on top of not wanting to take responsibility for your actions.

>>18493585
Sick dude

I didn't understand everything, since I never went to university. But I will say this.

Do what you WANT.
Do what you are most interested in. Do what you are more passionate about.

I'm 26 years old. I only just recently decided on what to do with my life. Currently, I have a job making $60,000/yr. I'm about to quit that job, to be unemployed for 6 months while I go through training for my desired career. Once I start that career, I'll be making half of my current salary. Only after 5 years or so will I finally be back at the same pay rate.

People look at me like I'm nuts. But, I want to be an airline pilot. So I'll go through the pain for it because it's something I want. I'd rather make less doing that, than make more doing a job I don't care for

>>18493561
At this point am I too old to be thinking about beginning a bachelors?

>>18493570
That's the thing...I imagine liking the actual career of compsci more then engineering because building software/websites sounds fun and I took some free courses about compsci and I thought it was amazing. At the same time I lmagine liking the schooling of engineering because I love my physics and I love doing huge math/physics problems because of that feeling after you accomplished it and it turns out you were right. I also love creativity and design which both would have I guess. The one thing I would dislike about engineering is the boring side like cost estimates, efficiency, etc. For my career I want to be able to create something challenging and complex and afterwards say to myself 'wow I made that?'.

>single moms
And you people wonder why.

>>18493416
Why would a good man want your mother?

>>18493429
i dont know.
by the way she actually is a guidence counseller, i just so happens that the pay is shit in ireland

>>18493217
Are you fucking 14?

>>18493238
There is no platonic cuddling between opposite sexes. Bitch was asking for it. Only thing you should feel guilty about is not going further than grabbing her boob.
You should talk to her. Tell her you like her boobs. It is what it is. You are a normal teenager and She shouldnt make you feel guilty for being yourself. Tell her that cuddling gives you non-platonic feelings so you two should not cuddle anymore...unless she is ok with you playing with her breasts. Don't apolloguze for what you like.

>>18493238
Dont worry, you will be fine.
If your "friends" trust some bitch and not you or see boobs touch as a rape, they werent your friends in the first place. She made you a favor.

Now go and play csgo and fap to some 2D girl. You will survive.

>ask her on date?

>>18493117
I don't understand, what is your complaint here? sounds like you are doing fine and the relationship is a-OK.

Cont.
Let's skip some time back again to October last year, I somehow got across her facebook profile and started talking to her. After a day or two I started feeling some things for her again, I talked to her about it and she felt the same, so we decided to go on a date.

Best
Day
Of
My
Life

We saw eachother after all these years and in a couple of hours we had connected again, all the magic and the love and the passion was still there, and the best part is that we are adults now! There's nothing to hold us back this time!

But... I have to confess that we made a really big mistake, something that if I would have known, it could have changed everything.

Remember when I told you that her previous relationships didn't really last that much? Well, that's kind of true...

... Except for one (Some of you might already know where this is going).

Let's call this guy "Dick", they were together for 4 years! and she confessed me in our date that she was actually cheating on him with me. I was in shock and I have never felt so wrong in my entire life, I didn't know how to react. She told me that they were having some problems lately and by the time she told me all of this I had already asked her to be with me again and she acceded and we had already done some "stuff". So I told her that if she didn't love him anymore and if she wanted to be with me, the decision was hers to make. She was not sure, but after a couple of minutes she decided to call him to break up with him. That day went from the happiest I've been in a very long time, to be one of the most disturbing of my life.

But it gets darker, trust me.

I don't really see where you want advice...

>>18493097
>this whole situation makes me feel like a fuckin 8th grader
and what are you now, 9th grader?

Also, why the fuck do you complain about being a manlet when you haven't even reached peak puberty yet?

Fucking hell, your entire post sounds like a bait.

>>18493102
Dude I probably should have said I was 20...so I'm pretty fucked

>>18493097
she could be toying you in that feline-feminine way that women do, like a cat with a mouse; but then again maybe you have a chance, so why not give it your best shot?

what's the worst that can happen? the shattering of your fragile sexual ego? - Fuck that. Learn the meaning of ZFG, and bear in mind the oh-so-sweet poon between those long legs.

Go get her.

>>18493069
I assume you are not trolling, and say that you should really dump her. She seems kinda fucked up if she is into kinky like that and doesn't even tell you up front.

>>18493069
Yeah, break up with her now man.

Also tell everyone you know.

>>18493081
I know its weird but does it even count as cheating? Do you think it might lead to more? I kinda feel like benefit of the doubt

By waiting a bit before having sex. Like maybe a month, just to see if would stay for your personalities sake.
Not sure what you expected. It's much more acceptable for girls to be virgins anyway.

>>18493015
Don't just put out too soon. If he gets agitated by that, lay him off.

>>18493015
If he pressures you to do shit you're not comfortable with or if hes moving too fast. gtfo.

On the other hand, if hes super patient. And doesn't really bring up kissing and sex talk. He might not be an asshole

>>18492984
Sober thoughts become drunk actions

>>18492984
Well, I usually always advise people to dump them in cases like these, but in this case I'm not so sure.

You see, the biggest problem with people cheating isn't the cheating itself, it's the trust issues afterwards that almost always ruin the relationship.

I can tell that you genuinely still trust her as a person, so in my opinion, you two do have a fighting chance. However, she will need to lay off the heavy drinking no matter what.

Also, if you are serious about forgiving her, then do so ENTIRELY. Don't ever hold it against her or pull the "Yeah but you cheated on me, remember?" in arguments, or it's over.

She could be withholding information
whore

>>18492931
Eastern european here,

Don't go for eastern european wives, or any mail order brides. They are all gold-diggers (those that explicitly wanna get with western men) and crave for your Big Green Card. Go for the american ones, I am sure there are decent american girls you can get with.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iNmXj6uzDRg

>>18492931
If you have the money, go yourself to Filipino islands and get a farmer girl, as>>18492945 said, most of them are for the green card and will divorce you as soon as they can without losing it.

Well that depends. It sounds like you two weren't very happy when you guys were together. Plus relationship should be 50% 50%, not 90% 10%.

First before you make the ultimate decision, jack off first (i'm not shitting you), and think back in the relationship. And really think if whether or not if there was more good times than bad. Remember, if you do get back together and things get fucked up. You're not only fucking yourself over, but the girl you care about also.

If anything, you guys can start out slow as friends first. You'd be surprised, maybe you changed or she changed in a way where you both can be happy. But realistically theres like 0% of that happening.

but then again, wtf do i know. i'm just a random dude on 4chan who dont know his grammar. GL anon

>>18492921
Yeah I only really addressed the bad stuff about the relationship.
She really did make me happy and if it was up to me we still would be together.
She's funny, smart and caring. We like all the same stuff and we think the same way too. It's just that it always took effort to get her to show that side of her. She never just wanted to do it herself.
Jesus I'm shit with words. Thanks for the reply though I appreciate other opinions

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>>18492909
Fucking hell, that picture in your OP looks almost like me, but a more babyfaced, female version of me. Literally have the same eye color, hair color and skin tone. Now I can die in peace that I know how the female me looks like.

About your question, it reminds me of a girl I found from a dating site and briefly met who had the same kind of introverted, friendly/moody personality. These things don't end well, because these kinds of girls are too afraid/shy to outright tell you they are not interested, but in reality, they think they can "do better". It hurts a lot to realize it, but that's how most of that stuff tends to turn out. Usually girls, even shy ones, tend to initiate conversations with you if they are really interested.

I think you should use your social energy on something better than her, a girl who actually could be into you, or at least outright tell you she's not gonna bother. This is for your own good, OP.

>>18492868
She just wants to fuck. Don't commit. She's also fucking other guys. You should do the same.

Ultimatums never work

>Gamer girl
First flag
>Breaks it off and wants to remain friends
Second flag and it means she thought maybe she could upgrade and wanted you in case it didn't pan out
Now you're just repeating history and making excuses for her
Stay away from women who have typical male interests like gamer girls and you're an idiot for even wanting her to commit, she's shown you what's in store for you several times and you keep going back

>>18492842

ask her why.

>>18492842

Take care of yourself and leave. Plenty of fish in the sea where you can have a fantastic time with.

1st lesson in life: it's all about you and your expectations.

Law of Attraction.
Good luck Mt friend

>>18492847
It does seem like the obvious answer but it leads to "Idk" and them getting upset. I guess I don't know if it's okay to be mad about that kind of thing