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In every group of friends that I've been with, I've always hit a dead end where I'm not able to advance up the social hierarchy beyond a trivial position. I see the more respected peers up at the top who are basically the leaders that everyone values and considers them essential to the group, while I get stuck at the bottom as a guy that nobody actually cares if I'm there or not either way. This makes me become super resentful and I end up cutting myself out completely, only to join some other group where the same thing happens again. Like fuck man I'm willing to improve myself and my social skills, but when I do, it only seems to make me more tolerable to be around while still being a nobody. I have autism so I'm a bit of a retard and a sperg, but excuses aside do I ever have a chance of moving higher?
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>>18513230
Friends aren't a job. Stop treating them as such. Maybe if you tried to connect with instead of use people, you would have a better time.
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>>18513249
When did I ever state that I use people? It's got nothing to do with that. It's about people not giving you the time of day no matter how many advances you give. It gets frustrating when no matter how much you admire someone and try to establish a mutual friendship and they just don't feel the same way. Some people just simply decide you're not worthy of your time, and refuse to give an inch. Fuck that shit, especially when it's on a repeated occasion.
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>>18513263
But people don't have to be your friends. They are not obligated to do anything back to you, even if you admire them.
I said "use" because you talk about positions in the social hierarchy. Tht's bollocks. If you are havong fun with your friends, it doesn't matter who the "leader" is.
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coffee: is it good for you? 2017-07-13 12:16:05 Post No.18513213
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coffee: is it good for you?
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2017-07-13 12:16:05
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I don't drink coffee much. maybe once every 2-3 months I'll have a long black if I'm feeling indulgent
today I had a cup of coffee on a whim (from one of those shitty capsule machines, they're free at work). man I felt like I was fucking invincible for the rest of my shift and at the gym
my girlfriend drinks at least 2 cups a day and she swears by it. says she can't get anything done without it
now it's got me wondering... should I start drinking coffee?
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no it is not
its a drug and youll want higher doses for same effect
dont start
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>>18513213
Your gf is addicted. Coffee is no good. If it was good, don't you think they'd want pregnant women to drink it instead of the opposite? A good rule of thumb, if it is bad for baby it is bad for you. You wouldn't give a baby low dose speed, would you? Get your gf off the caffeinated Jew.
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>>18513224
hmm I think she's a goner, it's too deeply ingrained by now. before the coffee habit it was red bull or diet coke
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A few years ago, I joined a social circle with a bunch of wealthy people. Always had fun together, so we started hanging out every month or two.
This weekend, they invited me over for a pool party - they wanna get hammered and skinny dip in the pool. Only problem is, I don't know how to swim. I grew up in a poor-ish family, so we never took vacations, and there was no pool nearby where I could learn how to swim, so I just never learned.
I'm 23, and it's my most well kept secret. Not even my best friend knows. I've never met anyone my age that doesn't know how to swim, so I feel it's really embarrasing. I want to cancel on the party, but is it really that embarrasing?
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>>18513210
People don't swim at pool parties; at most, they'll bob around in the water and maybe, MAYBE tread water for a few seconds.
Just go to a public pool and get in; start at the shallow end and walk towards the deep end. When you can't stand up, calmy move your arms and legs around a bit. You'll find that the simple motion of doing this will keep you afloat.
It's not that hard, OP. You can do eet.
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>>18513210
Swimming is easy, but more than likely you'll panic because you think you'll drown. Stay in the shallows and don't go deeper than chest height
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>>18513261
>more than likely you'll panic because you think you'll drown.
why do people that can't swim think this way?
honestly,
U won't even drown if you're not actively trying to drown yourself.
Just don't move and you will float up automatically
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In my freetime I always read and research about serial killers and school shootings and shit, almost nothing else interests me. Will I end up as a homicidal faggot too?
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>>18513200
yea
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What college took you without hs credentials?
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>>18513200
not particularly, maybe just try and invest your time in other more progressive things like a second job or new cash streams
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Cheated, Should I Tell? 2017-07-13 11:19:26 Post No.18513076
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Me and my gf have had issues. I was out, very drunk, brought another girl home. Feel guilty as fuck, deep depression over it. I've almost been suicidal at times.
I want to tell her, but I know if I do the relationship is over. If I don't tell her though it will eat me up inside. I'm already in therapy and my therapist advised me to tell her, that I won't cope well with the burden of guilt. I don't know though. Is there any other way to get over this?
Any advice would be much appreciated.
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so the only reason to come clean is to get rid of guilt?
ok
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Tell her
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>>18513084
Would just breaking up without telling her be as emotionally damaging for me?
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Getting over fear of surgery
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I have to have a major surgery soon and it will be done under general anesthetic meaning that I will not be knocked out during it.
My greatest fear growing up was being abducted by a serial killer and having him cut my abdomen open and take all my organs out while I'm awake. I have had reoccurring nightmares aboutt this.
This is essentially what they are going to do when I get cut open in a few weeks minus the abduction and intent to kill me.
How can i cope?
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Dont worry boogie.
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>>18513042
thats where i want to be but how do i get there?
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What kind of surgery?
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GF does not want to sleep with me anymore 2017-07-13 10:23:14 Post No.18512945
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GF does not want to sleep with me anymore
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Hey /adv/, my girlfriend of 2 years does not want to sleep with me anymore(last time half a year ago) It's weird because she is reading erotic fanfic and flirts with guys on the net. I confronted her yesterday with this and some other things because I was fed up that she had nothing for my birthday. I wouldn't have cared if she would have done something romantic or nice without spending money, atleast smth that would show me she cares but not getting/doing anything(she did not forget it btw) fucking hurts.
She told me she wants no sex because she is having a lot of stress at the moment due to her being fired,problems with her body and arguments between us about money and errands, on which she got fed up with by now. Also she told me that it is like that because her best friend was abused a month ago, but i don't know what to think, as this situation is stretching far beyond that.
She also told me that she wants me to be more dominant in bed but with her blocking all my moves it does not even come to that.
What do you guys think?
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>>18512945
buuhuu
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>>18512945
>She also told me that she wants me to be more dominant in bed but with her blocking all my moves it does not even come to that.
She also told me that she wants me to be more dominant in bed but with her blocking all my moves it does not even come to that.
spoken like a true beta.
>tries to be dominant
>girl resists
>gives up
lmfao fucking joke r u
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>>18512945
im in the same boat but with my boyfriend.
You really should express to her that not having sexual intimacy is a deal breaker for you. Tell her that you acknowledge that she is stressed but encourage her to manage her stress in a healthy way. It seems like she is not putting much effort into mending her personal problems and it is hurting your sex life because of it. You have needs too and I think you should express this to her in the kindest way possible.
also why are you OK with her flirting with other guys? This is the very weird part. I would never tolerate my boyfriend flirting with other women!
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My gf and I went outside with some of our friends about a week ago.
From what I remembed I did nothing wrong and made no mistakes then. But the next day, I messaged her "what's up?" and she ignored me untill later that day, when she said "Sorry, I'm a bit lost. I'm such an asshole". She didn't want to tell me what was the problem, but whatever.
The next day, I messaged her again and I thought she was ignoring me. I was pissed and said "Alright, just fucking tell me where I fucked up already" and turns out that this time she just didn't see it.
The day after that I asked her "Is everything alright? We don't talk that much anymore." And she said she has some personal problems and such.
I figured I might as well give her space and then for the next 4 days we didn't say a word to each other. I was pretty sure she would message me after a long time, but nope. Nothing.
So I went and said "Hey, how are you, anything new?" and we talked for a bit, nothing really important. Again, I said "I'm sorry for always repeating myself, but i have to ask again, is there something I did wrong?" And she said "no, I just kind of isolated myself these last few days" (she was still talking to some of her friends, but not with me.). Now we're talking again, but it's still less than before and now i'm starting the conversations pretty much 100% of the time, where as she would normaly start the conversations before this shit show. I'm thinking that she isn't that attracted to me anymore and that this might lead up to a break up.
Should I leave her more space or should I talk to her about this again? If I should talk to her, how should I go about doing that?
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Op hit me in the feels. I can relate to this from past relationship. I would suggest taking her out, and sitting down with her for some good one on one action. Asking her if the relationship is too stressful right now. If so it may be best to break it off there. Alternative is hoping for the best, and waiting it out. But I highly recommend first one as it will kinda force her to speak to you more on the topic problem or break up.
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>>18512872
What happened to you anon?
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She wants Chad's cock, for a lack of a better word.
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Years ago, a website published an article based on something I sent them and credited me for the tip under my real name. I was a stupid kid, so I commented on that article under my online pseudonym, saying how cool it was that my story got published.
Once I became dox-averse, I contacted the site's admin and asked him to remove my name from the article. He did so, but he refused to remove my comment. Elsewhere, a linkfarm that archives all news articles about a certain subject contains the version of the article with my real name. As long as both versions of the article are up, I am doxable.
Over the past year, I have attempted to contact the administrator of the link farm through both emails listed on her website, her personal Facebook, her campaign for city council, and the phone number listed on her WhoIs. I have never received a response. At this point, I'm willing to hire a private investigator to track down her current contact info so that I can contact her and either get the page taken down or get confirmation that she is intentionally ignoring me.
Everything I know about PIs comes from pop culture, though. Is tracking down someone's contact info within their wheelhouse?
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You have a mental condition.
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Sounds like a lot of effort for something literally no one but you cares about.
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>>18512849
You don't know the shit I've seen and the shit I've been through. I have every reason to take doxing this seriously.
Alright anons I have a problem, I'm gonna be a senior next year and with that comes prom. I'm kinda close with a grill that's a bit of an autismo like me. The thing is I hate normie events like prom and so does she, but her parents forced her to go to prom. So the decision is will I be a proud autismo and stubbornly refuse to go to prom or steep so low as to go to prom with a grill. What do?
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>>18512837
Elope with her and do some autismo shit instead.
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Isn't that like 10 months from now?
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Don't be a normie you autismo faggot
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Is it possible to fall in love with somebody you don't find physically attractive?
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>>18512826
Yes.
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>>18512859
How?
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>>18512885
Wait, this isnt bait thread?
Tell us more about your situation and maybe i will help. Dont forget to include genders, ages and how long who knows who.
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An advice for all depress dude 2017-07-13 09:21:05 Post No.18512804
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An advice for all depress dude
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I am the guy who post "Why do I feel more empty and depressed after masturbating" thread days ago and thank for help
now I think i understand it all at last and this will change my life . i swear to little foot that i will not Fap to Furry porn or any porn anymore (at least for years)I will start exercise and do the mediation more often
here is what i find it's explain it all
it's very useful article and hope it help you guys too
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Do you know that internet porn can lower your self confidence, suppress your happy feelings and make you depressed?
Because this sounds like a bold claim let me explain how internet porn affects your brain so that you get the whole idea.
Dopamine is a chemical responsible for evaluating the intensity of an experience. Your brain will get a dopamine rush if you went through an exciting experience.
Because your brain records the amount of dopamine released from each activity it gets motivated to pursue the ones that help it produce more of it.
So dopamine is the chemical that controls how the reward circuits work in your brain. Ever asked yourself why do people get bored when they keep doing the same exciting activity over and over?
Or in other words, why is the first experience always more exciting and emotionally intense?
Its because the more dopamine that gets released in your brain the more will be your resistance to the release of dopamine or in other words you will need a much more exciting event in order for your body to release the same amount of dopamine.
So what does this has to do with porn addiction or self confidence
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How porn addiction numbs your dopamine response? because internet porn can be very stimulating the amount of dopamine released in the brain is usually too high to be matched by any other experience. As a result your brain will become less sensitive to all other life pleasures because it got used to a certain amount of dopamine!
Because the brain gets stimulated by novelty internet porn helps people create very exciting experiences with few mouse clicks.
If watching a natural scene, playing an interesting game or watching a movie releases a less amount of dopamine than the porn you watch then you will find all of those activities much less exciting than they used to be! (see also boredom explained).
The brain of those who keep watching internet porn keeps changing its structure slowly until it becomes numb to most of the experiences that used to make them happy or excited.
That's why its too common for porn addicts to feel bored, unhappy and even depressed.
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The good news is that, just like any other kind of addiction, this dopamine resistance could be fixed. If you stopped watching internet porn then within sometime (weeks or months depending on your case) your brain will restore its normal dopamine response.
In other words, you will start to find life more exciting, your activities more interesting and you will become happier.
People who gave up on porn for few month reported an increased self confidence, a better social life and an improved over all mood.
Masturbation might seem like a harmless habit because no one has proven that it has bad physical effects on the body but when you get to know more about what happens inside your brain you will find that masturbation is a deadly habit.
Once again it seems that religious scriptures (of all kinds) were right when they asked people not to watch porn.
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girlfriend likes the ladies 2017-07-13 09:17:22 Post No.18512802
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Hey all, would like some advice here.
I've been with my girlfriend for seven years and lately she's been talking about being attracted to girls more and more.
It's been a thing since I know her but it was never something we had to do anything about, but lately it seems as though she'd like to act on it and I don't quite know what to do.
I love her very much and I don't want to hold her down in getting to know this side of herself. We've been together since high school (both 25 now) and she's never really had the chance to explore/experience much so I really do want to give her the opportunity to find out how she feels about all this and what it's like to be with a woman etc. On the other side I do get really jealous and I am shit scared of losing her if she finds out she actually likes girls more than guys, or even this one potential girl more than me.
She's going to this LGBTQ-pride thing in about a month and she's been hinting that this might be an opportunity for her to 'explore'.
What should I do?
Should I let her do her thing, and actively tell her to do so? Should I wait and see what she brings up but risk that she'll feel like she can't talk to me about it?
I don't question her loyalty at all, I'm just scared of the way she feels after. Also I don't think it's a weird way for her to tell me she wants to be with other people in general, we're really open and she really does seem to be confused with just the girl part.
We're talking about it quite a lot and I guess we could figure it out together, but I'm just wondering if anyone else has some experience with a similar situation or just some thoughts since it's not something I can talk to my friends/family about since they all know her and she's never 'come out' as bisexual and I don't want to out her or make things weird in any way...
Thanks in advance
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If you've been together that long and she wants to fuck some pussy get the fuck out m8 that ain't any marriage or stick with material
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>>18512802
You cannot stop this from happening OP. She's going to fuck other people (a woman in your case) and as a compromise to an abrupt end to the relationship wants you to be ok with it. If you don't give a thumbs up she'll do it behind your back (cheat). So, the relationship is over as you knew it already, let her end it, stop resisting and both of you go your separate ways.
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>>18512802
You have two choices:
Let her look around, and run the small risk of losing her
Forbid her, and run the very large risk of losing her
Me and my ex gf broke up in february 2015. We have no talked since then and now I have a new gf.
The thing is that today I was reading old conversations and dude, I was a fucking IDIOT to her. No wonder why she left me. I was a very disgusting guy. I need to say something to her because I feel like a shit right now.
Should I tell her "Hey girl, hope you doing all right. Sorry for being a fucking douchebag to you" or not?
What do I do guys, just thinking in send her a message make my heart go bananas. Maybe she does not want to be contacted and it would fuck her day up.
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Mail her a hand written letter.
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>>18512753
That would be too much. She dropped me out of her life, I can't (and don't want to) make a comenack. Just tell her I'm sorry and that's it.
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Okay, spill. What sorts of things did you say to her?
I'm not just being thirsty for gossip, it's relevant, dude. Hard to know what kind of an apology is appropriate (or isn't) unless we know what we're dealing with here.
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How do you seek help if you've got a vague feeling you might have some kind of a trauma but can't recall having ever been in a traumatic situation?
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Like, say, I've been reading about the possible effects of rape and everything sums up, but I've never been fucked without permission?
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Please?
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>>18512843
Psychiatrist. And nothing else.