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Get her to talk to her higher ups about changing to a project that does not require PhD level research.

>>18517646
There is big difference between
>do this for me
and
>can you point me in the right direction

Simply help her and teach her.
>unless you also dont know how

>>18517900

she doesn't wanna do that. why? idk.

>>18517958

I know. I tried. she get's the "I don't wanna talk about this" face whenever I give her a new way to approach it.

>>18517610
Plastique and hair dye .. but seriously are you me ? .. anyways I'm 50 and even though I looked older when younger, it's now the other way round. Ppl guesses 35/40 all the time

>>18517626
thats a good sign, hope same goes for me, it does help reel in older girls and going for drinks at 15 and being the only there they'd actually believe I was over 18 was nice, having a full beard at 16 was great too

You can dye it, no problem. But for what it's worth, one of the cutest guys I ever saw in the flesh was young and completely grey. He had a nice face but it was the combination of his youth and the obviously natural grey hair that was really striking and cool.

Also aging isn't really predictable or linear. Just because you don't look particularly young now doesn't mean anything about how youthful you will look in a few decades.

>>18517589
bump

>>18517589

First off, I would recommend learning breathing exercises on how to control your anxiety. Four seconds inhale, four seconds hold, four seconds exhale and repeat. Secondly, any job you'll get is working with the public, just realize most are good people who show empathy towards each other. It's only the small, vocal percent that make the world look awful.

>>18517621
Thanks, I'll try to do the breathing exercises. I feel I shouldve been more clearer though. I have no idea on what jobs to apply for if I have no experience at all, and the times I tried to apply for low level jobs, I still needed experience

What types of jobs should I apply for that doesnt require experience?

I'm starting to think it takes a really fucked up person to "make" it socially these days, but to think otherwise would be idealistic.

You don't like yourself so you rely on outside validation to confirm that you aren't completely shit. When people don't give you that, your self esteem crumbles. Gain self esteem and start loving yourself.

>>18517537
This is bullshit. I fucking hate myself and have managed to make lots of friends over the years.

*major sjw

do what is best for you, you don't owe her anything

>>18517565
I feel like I do. Low self esteem?

stop buying cigarettes

>>18517340
Here's the problem, everyone around me smokes. Both family and friends, so its hard to resist.

>>18517346
So just smoke and die early. Listen man, everyone has something thats killing them. As long as you can awknowledge that and then say "fuck it its worth dying earlier" then you can go back to enjoying it and stop thinking about stupid shit like this.

Either your will to quit will be more than your desire to smoke, or the other way around. If youre the type of person that needs a slap in the face as a wakeup call then so be it. But at least acknowledge it first.

>>18517262

Lose the label. If you put yourself down all the time, you'll only be more nervous.

Did you already get a date or do you want how to get one?

>>18517271
Date obtained, don't want to blow it

>>18517278

Well, if she already said "yes", then they at least like the way you introduced yourself. They are already into you.

I can't give you more advice until I know what you are like. I mean, maybe you are too passive and would need to maybe try harder to make a move. Or maybe you are too eager and actually need to slow down.

Basically, hard to give advice in a vaccumm that would actually be useful for you.

Unfortunately the UK has some of the worst child protective services in the first world.

Hell, CPS responded to a call and visited the home of a woman who was in the process of drowning her three young children and left because 'Oh, she was just a bit strange. We didn't bother looking.'

I'd keep spamming the shit out of the various authorities as much as possible. Try to cite public incidents of cases where they've fucked up, as a sort of reminder that they shouldn't do it again.

>>18517166
It takes the cops a while to build up a case. Phone the cop who took your first report and tell him/her about the return. That won't just light a fire under the cops but give them more evidence to work with.

My suggestion would be to start providing parents (and children) with in-depth tips on how to protect your loved ones. Lots of it is common knowledge, but you'd be surprised at what they might overlook. Not only is this responsible, but it makes your company look very good.

I don't know much about UK law, so this is the help I can give.

>>18517150
Ten to eleven months is not that long, sort of crazy that he wants to be with you forever but can't deal with a ten month separation. Plenty of people make it work. That said, you should have told hold you had intentions to live abroad. I think you have to decide what is most important to you. Could you get another job that you enjoyed just as much? Do you want children? How old are you? How old is he? Who is the bread winner and how long have you two been together?

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>We got engaged shortly after we met but neither of us planned for marriage.

This guy sounds like he blows. Any relationship that includes an ultimatum ("either the job goes or I go!") isn't healthy. Dump his bitch ass.

>>18517163
I'm in my mid 20s and he's 32 years old so there's a bit of an age gap between us.
Yes, I do want children. It looks like I will be the breadwinner as I'll have higher income due to degrees under my belt. This job is an opportunity for the field I want to be in, working with special clinical group.

I could try and get another job if I tried but they all require experience. I get more for personal expenses (after rent and bills).

How the fuck are you more focused on your fucking headphones than the fact that you caught your girlfriend masturbating to your pictures WHILE SHE WAS TAKING A SHIT?

>>18516923
Stories like yours make me come back to this board.

Anyway, this may have been disturbing, but in the end it was just her dumping your headphones, so of course she's supposed to replace them. Tell her. Cash is real, shame is imaginary.

>>18516928
These are 500 dollar headphones. I'm pissed.

>>18516934
Thanks for the advice. Should I leave her or should I stay?

I did. At first they use love-bombing to hook you in. But afterwards they don't give a shit and you're expected to pull other people in. You're never good enough once you join. They also may control where you work, where you live, who your non cult friends are. Who you're in a relationship. They might force you to cut all ties from a family and pay their cult tax too. They care about and love you, and push you to your breaking points but if you leave it magically all disappears and you realize nobody ever cared about you and it was all just a tool of mind control. It's kinda fun though at the start. I'd recommend being a tease, never go balls deep and join but just enough that they keep giving you free stuff, attention and trips.

However if you get sucked into a cult. These people bare the happiest people to ever exist. At least on the outside. They always seem perfect but if you're in the cult they trust you enough to share that they are miserable too.

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I'm sure this board isn't 100% atheist.

Here inb2x2

>>18516784
Welp, if it's your intention to be a do-nothing loser for the rest of your life, insisting that some stranger magic up a way to make you "happy" before you're willing to do anything else is a great strategy.

You apparently have money to burn for booze, and you have time to burn to drink it for "a few hours per night", why you'd want to save that money or spend that time doing something more productive is a gigantic mystery.

Boo hoo.

>>18516849
that's the only money I spend its the only thing in my life I enjoy...I figure its worth it

>>18516849
go somewhere else if you want to spread negativity, there is no need to reply in /adv/ if you don't actually plan on helping
relaisation is the first step, seeking help another one, it's not like he's doing nothing at all

as for you OP, I have never been in this situation but know someone who was
heavy drinker, generally depressed and seemed like nothing could help him
he went to seek help in religion and i dont know if he was actually saved or what happened, but he is much better now
that's not to say this will work for you or anything, but just know that it is possible to "treat", but I guess that you should get help from someone more qualified than some guy on Taiwanese noodle-knitting forum

>>18516744
I assume English is not your first language. Do you know the difference between "buy" and "rent"?

The general rule of thumb is that you don't spend more than a quarter to a third of your gross income on housing costs, but this really comes down to what your monthly budget for everything else comes down to.

A one bedroom that consumes half of your income is probably too much.

>>18516768
I do know the difference between buy and rent and that's what I said. I want to "rent" out a 1 bedroom property.

I don't mind spending half. Also, why is spending half bad? There are people I know whop spend over 2/3rds of their wages on rent.

>>18516744
unless it's in the centere of some bigger city, this does sound like a bit too much, would electricity, water and all of that already be covered, because if not, you will probably spend another 150-300 every month on that
I'm guessing your currency is either USD or Euro, because if not, 1800 might not be as much as it sounds
(in comparison, I have a 2-room flat and it costs about 450, including water, electricity and gas. I admit it is very cheap, but a 1-room flat should be double that price)

don't eat dummy

you know you can go for 30 days without eating right?
Well, you might die if you abstain that long, but still, did you know that fasting for some days is actually beneficial for you?

The reason I'm mostly worried is because I'm scared of fainting or brain damage going under anesthesia.

>>18516776
You seem like an idiot. But hey, it's your health and your life. Want to eat/drink so that you have material in your stomach before going under general anesthesia, then that's your decision to make. Don't forget to lie about it so that the anesthesiologist isn't liable for your death or oxygen deprivation related brain damage.

Forgive*

>>18516676
why would she get angry if she was just friends with you in her own eyes and doesn't have any romantic interest in you

>>18516680
I don't fucking know.Maybe she does like me?
If she did she would accept and I would have never said it was a joke.Since she said know I played it off as a joke and now she is mad.What the actual fuck.