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If a guy admits he had intimacy issues, would that make him appear less masculine?

I know I have issues with intimacy. I don't whine or cry about it. It's okay. But I'm just wondering, because sometimes friends (male and female) talk to me and ask why I don't date or have sex, so if I just told them that, I feel like it'd explain a lot. But I do care about my self image, so I don't want to be seen as less of a man because I can't explore bedsheets with QTs

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Do girls who are nervous act avoidant to you, like looking away from you suddenly or not approaching you to talk? Or am I just rationalizing being forever alone?

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Recently had my 21st birthday.

The only people that came (as planned) were people I've known for YEARS and think of them as brothers and sisters.

At one point, it got crazy and we started egging people on to dance on each other. For example one of our girl friends twerked on a guy while he was twerking on his sister.

Then the girl twerked on the girl.

There was nothing sexual about it and it was just a fun time.

I have other friends on snapchat who know these people so I posted it to my snapchat story.

I didn't participate in anything and the only thing I did was watch, laugh, and post on snapchat. Again. NONE of it was sexual anyways. It was all in good fun.

It was honestly the best birthday I've had as I never have crazy birthdays like this. My friends showed me an amazing time and I love them all.


My new girlfriend got upset at me and trusts me a lot less according to her.

I totally see why she would be upset though and I feel bad about it. I shouldn't have posted it on snapchat and now I feel bad about losing her trust.

She said that the reason she feels upset is because this is the only party I've been to while in a relationship with her and I acted sketchy so now she thinks I act sketchy or don't have any judgement at parties or when I'm drunk.

She feels insecure that I'm going to vegas for one of my really good friend's birthday party in a month.

The thing is, yeah that happened and I posted it on snapchat. But again I didn't participate in anything and I spent the whole night talking about how an amazing girl she was to my friends (including the girls) and they were all really happy for me. I legit did not stop talking about my gf whatsoever.

What do I do now /adv/? On one hand I feel like I didn't really do anything too bad, on the other hand I totally get why she would be upset. But now I'm just heartbroken that I "her wall went up"

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Can somebody explain to me whether or not men care about romance?

Women care about romantic things like getting a rose etc so why don't men? Are they socially programmed that way or is there something biological.

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Hey /adv/, my parents are forcing me to go to college. Thing is, I have no idea what to major in. They said that it's fine that I take two years off to study in a trade school, but after that, I have to get a degree. The only major that I'm interested in is going into computer graphics to work as a 3d modeler/learn some programming, but I heard that only stem fields and business majors are worth it.

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Hey guys, I need some help. I'm in love with this girl. She's my best mate and we are very very close, close to the point where I've had friends say "I'm in a relationship and I'm not that close". Literally the only thing separating us from being a couple is the lack of physical intimacy. But I really want to go out with her. She told me the only reason she doesn't is because she doesn't want what we have to end badly. She said that's quite frankly the only thing stopping us. We've kissed and done other shit like that before in heat of the moment situations. But I don't know what to do guys. I want to be with her. How do I get over someone who doesn't love me back or feels there's too much in the way ? Because I'm going insane trying to figure out what to do. I can't distance myself from her because it would hurt us both quite badly. Any help is appreciated...

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hey /adv/, i've been talking to this girl on snapchat for around half a year now, and even though i do have experience with girls already, she does something that is really puzzling

whenever we talk she really is engaged in conversation, it's not just 1 word replies such as
>haha
>oh wow
>damn
etc, I do feel I could tell when a girl is not interested and she really seems to enjoy talking to me, we talk about both deep life things and everyday things

anyways, sometimes she will randomly out of the blue open my snap and leave it on read, sometimes in the middle of conversations as well, and just leave it like that for a few hours, and afterwards would just send me an empty snap

now you might think she is just busy and i thought that as well, but she routinely posts stories during the time and I've even checked her score once and it kept going up, meaning she was talking to other people

so basically what gives? what could be the reason for such mixed signals? and should i call her out on it and ask what she's trying to do?

as i said it really would be obvious if she was just trying to let me know she's not interested, but when we do talk it's really good conversation from both of us

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im currently overweight and ive been looking to lose it, any advice /adv?

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Am I an asshole for refusing to give my roommate rides?

Long story short, my roommate found himself in financial trouble and decided it would be a good idea to sell his car...in Florida (public transport isn't a big thing here). He did this out of nowhere one day. Didn't tell me he was fixing on doing it, he just did it and told me. Not planning on getting another one any time soon.

He calls me today asking if I can pick him up from work tonight. I refused. I gave him a ride from some restaurant back home a couple of days ago and he's been getting rides from his coworker and Ubering. I just don't feel it's my responsibility or problem that he decided to sell his car based on his shitty financial decisions, especially when he always seems to be in financial trouble. Like, I get it, man, money problems are tough and all, but why are you always in them, especially when you earn more than me?

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People generally seem to like me, but I don't really have any outstanding or noticeable qualities I don't think. I tend to be reserved and quiet, and don't really have any notable talents or interests. I work in software so I have an above-average knowledge of Linux, and am a mediocre programmer. But outside work I just exercise occasionally, watch baseball, and read or sit in front of my computer. I feel like almost everyone else is better and more interesting than me, and I don't think I'll ever be successful with women because of this. I'm 25 btw.

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I recently released a track of mine that took 3 months to complete, and since having uploading it, everyone's telling me it's an incredible piece of music. My ego isn't flaring up or anything, I've been producing for 5 whole years and it took a long time to get to the level I'm at.

I send this promoter the track, he listens, and then tells me the "such and such" is "too quiet" even though it isn't. So, because of some small non existent flaw he barred me an upload. I then tell him that it's odd that other promoters have given me lists of reasons in the past for denying me and he only gave me one that didn't amount to shit because his channel has songs with blaring mixing issues, so he then just says he didn't like it and that someday "I'd make something."

I've submitted to other promoters since then, but it's pretty disheartening. What do

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Actually I'm torn between whether they're the toxic ones or I'm the entitled one. My parents are always downplaying my achievements, it started when I was very little, everytime I'd be excited about something, they would just say something to make me feel bad about having dreams or goals. As a result, I never share anything with them, we don't have a connection and we barely ever talk even though we live in the same house. I'm still studying, but I do feel like their indifference towards me as an individual has led to me developing issues with self esteem and self confidence. I can't go outside without feeling like everyone is judging me and as a result, I feel pretty miserable and useless all the time, even if realistically speaking I shouldn't - I'm smart, I'm attractive and I have goals. Other people see that in me but my own parents don't.
My father in particular is the condescending one. Every time I bring up something that I'm passionate about (he was talking about politics the other day and I jumped in and talked about my own ideas and everyone just went silent), nobody gives a fuck. I'm not the only one with those issues, sadly my siblings are also very shy, introverted and have a low self esteem, despite being academic achievers. I feel bad for them because my parents have never acted like they support them, and instead are always criticizing everyone and making everyone around them feel bad.
I'm afraid I might up on their habits because I'm already miserable. But am I overreacting or is their general attitude normal?

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How do I become manlier?

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Will a company drug test in a pre-employment physical without warning?

Ive already received my first paycheck if that helps.

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My work paid for a movie for all of my coworkers and I. They asked how many tickets I needed and I said two. Now everyone is under the impression that I have a significant other when that is not true. What do I do?