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>>18586124
by most people standards yes
more importantly:
do you care?
if you care, are you planning to do smth about it?

>>18586127
I care but i don't know what to do about it. I'm going to graduate in december and i'm hoping that getting a decent job will turn things around. is there anything else I can do?

>>18586124
You shouldn't put yourself up on standards. It's only gonna bring you down mate. I'm in the same boat, only that my gpa is 3.5. I think im doing okay as long as i'm working towards a goal. I quit drinking and i do help around the house with cleaning and find ways to improve my well being if im not employed.

It's not so bad. The figure its kind of cute.

Figure is very nice, but face is.. weird at best. Background is astonishing though, very detailed, you must have spent lots of time on it.

You have more style than technique, try to even your technique

>>18586032
Either try to fix things or get a divorce. Don't go looking for a solution outside of the relationship. You guys are married and that means something. It means doing everything you can to make your relationship as fulfilling as possible, staying faithful, and if you can't do those things then you should divorce.

>>18586032
>Either try to fix things
we talked about marriage counseling but she said she doesn't even know if she wants to stay together so there is no point going to therapy to fix things if she isn't sure she wants to fix things.

>staying faithful
I know its screwed up but I kind-of think that if I started seeing other people that might snap her out of her complacency. Or be the final nail in the coffin either way at least it would be better than this hellish nothing limbo. Tell me that's retarded thinking right?

>>18586063
I wouldn't recommend cheating on her to try and wake her up.

From my perspective, you wanting to cheat on her to snap her out of her complacency is really you protesting about the fact that she's detached, disconnected, and distant from you. You want to do something to cry out and call her back to you, but you don't know how because you've already tried and failed and this is the last thing you can think of

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If you just release it, it still controls you. You just change its target. You should try to remove it instead. If you think about it, most of the things that anger you probably don't matter at all.
And watch CGDCT, it works.

>>18586011
Take a martial arts class. Getting the fuck beaten out of you weekly helps release all that aggression.

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>>18586011
what I do sometimes, it sometimes helps but sometimes your too angry to even play, just play osu and see your concentration sky rocket, also going to the gym helps a lot, transform bad energy into productive energy. If that doesn't apply to you then I don't know.

So what happens if you lose? You're gonna spiral down into thinking you're even more beta than before.

In a sense you're right though, you need to fight. But instead of doing something completely meaningless, actually work on those things that trouble you. Whenever you feel you're being stepped on, answer back. Whenever you feel you're wimping out of something, do it anyways. Whenever you feel you're being too sensitive, bite the bullet and push through.
You're going to be bad and unsuccessful with it at first, but over time you'll definitely make it.

>>18586005
You know, the point is, i have difficulty in doing so because of the consequences. If i straight up face my fear of fighting, maybe i'll fix something, even if i lose, that's still an experience, innit?

>even if i lose, that's still an experience, innit?
In the same spirit you can also say that regarding your actual problems.
Seriously what the fuck, you talk about consequences, but aaaaah naaah never mind, fighting with somebody won't have any consequences at all.

No, suicide is for the weak

>>18585972
define "justice"

>>18585972
Is it justified?
Ask yourself that.
We've no say in what you do with your own life.
You're death is your's alone.
Now on the other hand if you wanna talk about
it. Let it fly and I'll try to give you some /adv/.

>>18585964
I could understand anal play while stimulating the dick, it feels pretty good, but anal play only is not arousing, you might be gay.

>>18585964
We like what we like. You like having your butt played with. That doesn't mean you want to fuck men. Even if you did, that wouldn't make you less of a man, you still have your penis and testicles don't you? All it is is that part of you feels good when it's touched. Why be ashamed of that?

>>18585967
Should've mentioned I guess. I don't enjoy it without jacking off or getting a handjob so...

>>18585971
>That doesn't mean you want to fuck men.
I know it doesn't make me gay guys... Objectively I know it doesn't even make me less of a man but I still feel ashamed.

>>18585950
If you are new and she has worked there for quite awhile and works in your section (dairy, produce,deli etc.) then things will be easy. All you have to do is ask her questions about work and slowly work up to her personal life ( why did you choose this job or why are you part time / full time) then ask if she would like to go out to eat then numbers should be exchanged.

>>18585970
We work in different departments, rarely around each other. Would have to make it a point to talk to her. Also I've worked there longer.

>>18585950

things will only be weird if you make them weird

have you talked to her before? does she know you exist?

find a new friend group

>>18585936
>he bought plat
fucking casual

>>18585936
Is your group so devoid of strong personalities that its durability depended on one chick?

Also, link to her porn?

>>18585932
depends
If you don't want to lose her, don't tell her
keep your cheating lowkey
If you don't care,just tell her and live your life

>>18585932
Tell her and leave. You've already fucked up, it's too late now.

you're a douche for cheating but you guys were clearly sexually incompatible

just tell her before she hears from other people and disappear from her life

>>18585929
Cut off your dick

>>18585929
keep a rubber band on your arm. Stretch it out and let go whenever you start looking at porn

>>18585929
Don't let yourself be alone in a room. Always have someone else with you.

>>18585910
Talk to your doctor about it. They'll most likely prescribe you pills which can be a 50/50 on making your depression better/worst. Most likely if you aren't getting better, the doctor will switch you off the medication. Either way you should just talk to your doctor about it.

>nothing that a little bottleing up of emotions can't fix
that's where you're wrong kiddo. At least for me. I went down that path, slowly losing more and more energy and enjoyment until one day my concentration and motivation were too shit to function regularly and everything that mattered went to hell. Don't let things get that bad, get help. Doctors these days are very used to dealing with depression. They'll probably ask you some questions, get you to fill out a few questionnaires, and then talk to you some more. They then might get you a prescription, or more likely recommend you to a psychiatrist and counselor.

>>18585921
But the part I'm afraid of is the question and the people. What if I answer them wrong? What if the counselors think I'm not when I am? What my family treats me differently? That's why I'm so afraid of going.

You can show that by not becoming too intimate. You have sex but don't talk about feelings, per say, you won't tell her stuff... That shows you aren't interested in more than pussy.

Also, you can always say the word if they ask for it. I would wait for her to start the "what are we?" talk and say "I really like spending time with you, you are amazing. Still, right now I'm not up for a relationship... I'd love to stick around with you and have fun, but if you are looking for a relationship, I might not be the one for you, and it's ok for you to quit" or something.

>>18585822

But intimacy is my favorite part. Should I just get a therapist?

>>18585825
Or a girlfriend. Or a prostitute/escort.

>>18585808
benzos will just make you go to sleep.

It actually takes quite a bit of abuse to get anything worthwhile out of benzos. Like, you have to build up a tolerance first or else you'll just fall asleep.

>>18585850

thanks anon, but I was wondering about the association of benzos with an opiate like codeine, I know it can leads to a respiratory depression but is it really that risky ?

I mean it's not like taking molly with codeine which is absolutely not safe

Sorry my english is bad btw

Just stop doing that shit. It ruins tons of people's lives, 8 people close to me have fucked up their lives and they all had college degrees and money. Addiction fucks over yourself, people around you, and destroys your brain chemicals. It's not worth it. If you do both of those you have a good chance of overdosing, and if you abuse one of them you WILL become addicted in due time. Nobody comes out of that without it being a huge pain in the ass.

Buy an fishing boat go out to sea and jump overboard

dont, its annoying, so much paperwork for family to clean up after you...
instead spill your problem here, might find another solution

>>18585809
don't give him good ideas
>>18585799
don't do it OP