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>>18587586
the only way to get good at something is to fail repeatedly until you know what mistakes to avoid. your problem is not that youre "useless," but that you lack the discipline to stick with something

Sounds like you don't put enough time into it.

Dedicate 5 years to something before quitting.

>>18587599
>>18587593
I just can't find anything to like even a little to dedicate myself to it

and obviously other anons can offer advice on how to get there

>>18587512
Ultimately in heaven.

I will get there by being decent.

Not shooting for the stars in 6 months I'd like to be:
>overseas working a DJ/barman in N's bar she recently opened
>complete control over the music during the day
>on monday I'd play 50s/60s music, tuesday jazz, wednesday brazillian music, thursday afrobeat, friday RnB, saturday funk/soul/disco, sunday ambient
>hardly anybody comes in during the day, just N and I enjoying music
>i spend a lot of time writing, either music or fiction
>N and I are "together", but in denial of it. sort of like an open relationship
This is actually quite achievable, although I'd have to reconcile with N after what happened previously. Also I would need some money.

In a few years I'd like to be
>moved away from my hometown
>working an interesting and well-paying job (rare I know)

>>18587511
I do med school. If you hate nursing because you lack the patience to deal with people's bullshit and complaints and uselessness, med school does not improve it. In fact now you are even more responsible for old people's pains and illnesses. If you hate theorical classes med school will double it. The only way i see iñmed school being more benefitial is if you have more ambitions academically and monetarilly speaking than nursing. Otherwise its not worth the jump. EMT might be fun tho.

That's the point. I only did nursing for the hopes of NP. But what gets me about nursing is not dealing with patients, but the lack of in-depth knowledge that doctors have and the mediocre pay. NP is quicker than med, but I heard that NP school is kinda lacking.

>>18587562
Duh. Not to be rude but of course. Doctors will be always your boss for a reason. My good man many nurses are people who wanted to be MDs but for one reason or other and had to settle with nursing to get in the workforce. If you have the brains for it and able to get into a college go for med school all the way.

>>18587509
Where do they flee to?

Diatomacious Earth!

>>18587514
They usually bite me and my cats and run away into the carpet

Did the ENT do anything?
I would suggest going to the ER if nothing your doctors are doing helps.

>>18587541
I haven't been able to get to the ENT yet because they scheduled the date ten days from now.

>>18587571
Try ginger tea, relieves pain, and reduces inflammation. Also salt water mouth wash helps too. Best of luck.

>>18587486
How would you talk to a guy?

Just add flirting.

>>18587487
Please elaborate if possible

>>18587491
Prolonged eye contact while talking, not creepy, just an extra second or two. Smile a bit while she's talking. A little playful teasing, not too much.

You'll feel the vibe with her if she's liking it.

You can then see what she's up to this weekend or whenever to see if she's interested in meeting up.

You're going to hurt them more in the long run.

At least I plan on waiting until I know I've given it my best shot. Even if I can't help someone be happier permanently, I'd hope that some temporary relief would be helpful.
>inb4 when you kill yourself they won't be happy
Either way, I'm going to do it, so I'd like to think I did something for someone else

>>18587421
I know, but I'd rather leave on more of a good mark. Wouldn't want to be remembered as some inconsiderat neet asshole

... Really just sounds like you have issues. If you can't see that clearly you may want to get help.

>>18587417
how does it sound like i have issues??

OH AND HE NEVER CALLED THE COPS.

PROVING HE DOES NOT GIVE A SHIT ABOUT ME.

I want everybody to read this comment cuz i left it out

>>18587426

... See this is what I mean. If you're not fucking around for kicks then re-read the post you just made. If you don't see what's wrong with it, get help. In fact, save this thread for your therapist to read so he can get an idea of what's wrong.

I think u dont see ur life in the right way cause personnally I would love to have a girlfriend and for that I envi u and u must have qualities that make people wanna be u so think to urself dont see other lifes better than your ur 19 dont be depressed right now its too soon make a change before things will arrive in time just be patient and always try to be positive

>>18587395
Just keep applying man. I worked retail for two years waiting for a real job. I have a college degree

>I suffer with a gf
Give me your gf NOW.

B
>4 miles from home, maybe a 10 min commute on a bad day
>15 days vacation, likely more strict about tracking it, too. After 5 years there, I'd FINALLY move to 20 days.
>no work from home (which I'm okay with honestly since it's so close)
>hours suck, they said 8am-5pm. I never take lunch, so that's 9 hours a day?? Not sure if they're flexible on this or not.
>pay will be around 120+K with bonus, but bonuses are quarterly and the company is doing REALLY well, so bonuses are good. and since bonuses are quarterly, I get the money a lot sooner than having to wait all year for it.
>no on call support
>would be brand new, no reputation, etc.
>would have more autonomy and authority in the role. I'd be working directly with customers to determine requirements and seeing them through from start to finish. Would look good if I wanted to go into management later.
>company is medium sized (I like that), and is ranked one of the best places to work, as well. has better glassdoor reviews than my current company even.
>industry is SUPER cool and I'm really interested in learning it because it's seriously an industry that's only going to grow, seriously one of the best to be in.
>tech stack is older, their practices are antiquated, though they claim to be open to change. my tech skills would dull by working here probably, unless I really worked hard to change the way they work, and I don't know how that will go.

So... B is in a better industry, pays more and is soo much closer, but the hours and vacation suck ass. B also seems generally more strict and conservative about working arrangements.

Both jobs are senior software developer roles, if that colors your response in some way.

Which job would you take?

Oh, I'd also have my own office at B.

Bump, any opinions are welcome... I'm lost.

>>18587310
Stick your dick in his mouth, that should shut him up.

>>18587310
find somewhere else to hang out. specifically somewhere he wouldn't want to go, and try to tailor a date/place that would only really be suitable for two people.

>>18587310
go out with your girl alone and don't include him?

Isn't divorce haram? I say go with your brother and keep calling CPS. You have to really push those fuckers do anything

So she does alot of these schemes to try and frame me and my brother like we are abusing her and being evil. While secretly she is the one abusing us physically and worse, emotionally every day.

We could not bear the pain anymore so we left everything behind to live in a home with Child services. The other kids were very bad and it was terrible but turning back to our mother was even worse.

Now years and years later my brother bacame a suicidal nolifer, but i struggled to keep my life together.

Besides everything i am fit, and attending university in a science field.
I forgave my mother and hoped to be able to build a bond again so i started contact like 5 years ago.

It was ok, by keeping the contact off, only once in a awhile things would not escalate and i could bear patience if she would rage again for no good reason.

But now I have found her to subtly portray me as a psychopath....
Whenever I get a little angry at other people, show frustration and then say something like: "man this guy?! I really wanna kill him" and then go on to cook some dinner for her.
She takes such a comment said not seriously at all and tell others that i am psychopathic and i consistently show aggressive behaviors

My ex wife and I broke up because she cheated on me. I sent her a txt that i would kill that guy in my anger. Just an hour ago my ex wife sends my mother a screenshot, like a crazy woman. We are adults and she involves my mom, only because she knows it will create drama.
So now my mother is continuing her absurd ideas that I am psychopathic with her newfound "evidence" and insist on me seeking professional help, etc.

How can someone's mother be so disgusting to create huge and absurd false lies about her son.
Any advice on how to deal with this please, I am feeling like just blocking her out of my life due to her always creating illusional bullshit

Fuck dude
I've got nothing

dont go to her. have u ever like kissed or fucked her?
just because you have crush on her... dont waste money

Both of those are reasons not to pursue her. She's in France, you'll forget about her in no time.

>>18587213
I almost always say yes to chasing a oneitis, because you have nothing to lose, but she is in another country with her boyfriend and you barely know her. Pull it together man

What about him commands any sort of respect?

Make excuses for him if you want, but it won't last at your age. Enjoy the experience for what it is regardless of what others say

>>18587206
>"shit" restaurant job
>only hobby is gaming
>stoner
>had a coke and weed problem
>dropped out of college a couple times

>VERY good guy

kek

>>18587245
yeah im basically like this and i know im a loser

>>18587196
Presidency not working out for you mr. President?

>>18587196
>my grandmother and grandfather were German immigrants to America. Am I eligible for German citizenship?

Nope.

Unless they were stripped of their citizenship during the NS-Era.

Other Euro countries are a lot more lenient on this matter, so go and check if you got any other shots.

>>18587209
I just want to go back