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I'm currently with a girl that I'm falling pretty fast for. she told me the other night that her ex used to force her to do things even when she was telling him to stop and say no. he used to hit her when she refused or tried not to let him. She wasted 3 years of her life with this fuck. what should I do? I know him very distantly.
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fuck her OP
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>>18586523
How long has it been since her relationship with him ended? Is she still in contact with him?
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>>18586556
maybe a year? that's why she can't really go to the law about it. she doesn't talk to him but I don't think they are completely blocked from each other.
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ok, so there's the chick I'm talking to and she's really weird with her texting.
she only responds to my texts whenever it's a question, otherwise it doesn't matter. I can say whatever, but she will only reply to questions or only the part of the text that's the question.
how the fuck do I deal with this, I want to move forward with her but it's weird as shit. although in person she's completely normal.
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put a ? at the end of everything you send to her. duh.
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>>18586493
are you sure she's into you??
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>>18586493
sounds like she only wants to talk about herself really
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So I'm at an impasse here. I hate school, but I like my degree and I like being able to study my passions freely (art & writing.) By big dream is to get masterful at both. I don't expect to ever make a fortune off my work though.
I don't need a job right now, but I feel like I'm cheating myself by living the way I do. I'm 22 and not even close to done with school due to starting late. I have the opportunity to go into a trade I really like, but I feel like if I commit myself to that trade full time, I'll be giving up on my dreams. I'd want to be very good at my trade, just like I'd want to be good at writing and drawing, but I don't feel like I can be very good at all three.
I feel like no matter what choice I make I'm fucking myself over. And I feel like I'll regret either choice no matter what. It's really tearing me apart inside.
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Why not both?
It's gonna be hard, but it's possible. You'll probably have to neglect art a little bit, but nothing to cry over.
And yeah. You will regret either choice.
The sooner you suck it up, the better.
Don't stress over it. You'll do fine either way.
Chin up.
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>>18586512
I'll have to do both in the end I think. I just hate going half way on things. I don't mind taking the trade, but I'd want to be either really good at the trade or really good at the arts I like, but I'm of the philosophy in order to be really good you have to devote your time completely to it.
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I disagree with this philosophy.
Take that for what it is.
Become good at both. Prove it to yourself.
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Can't tell if girlfriend is depressed or just being an asshole
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Lads,
I've been with this girl about a year. Shit's been great. She's been absolutely head over heels the entire time. She has some deep-rooted depression and anxiety, going back to when she was a child. Makes her paranoid about people and things about her. Always assumes horrible things, etc.
Last month, she pulled away from me. Hard to get in touch with at all. I'd send her texts telling her I'm here for you, I"m not mad, etc. She'd come around saying she's sorry for the way she's handling this, she knows it's not the right way, but she just needs a little more time to come to her senses.
Few days go by, she hits me up saying she's going back to her dorm and we can finally have a talk about this. We talked for a bit through text, but never ended up having a call. Few days after that, she goes on vacation, sends me a shit load of pictures while there, responds to the ones I send her, etc. She came back and I asked her is she ready to talk about this, she said yeah she is. We didn't. But she said she's sorry she's put me through all of this.
That was about 4 or 5 days ago. This is where I'm at now. I know anxiety and depression can make you pull away, get scared of talking to people, and all of that shit. I've dealt with it before.
My question is, should I just sit back and wait to see if she comes out, or press her more? She seems like she's aware the way she's coping is bad, but never tells me to actually leave. She's always been the type to say if she wanted to leave, she would leave. I've been reading a lot of anxiety/depression forums and subreddits and a lot of people seem to say they do the same thing, pulling away and ignoring for weeks at a time.
Personally, I'm fine with it. I've dealt with that shit before and I'm happy to be the rock that supports her. I just wanted to know what you guys think.
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I don't know. My boyfriend is depressed as well and is pulling away from me too.
I don't think pressing them is the answer.
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>>18586618
Shit sucks. It's like they lose all ability to communicate. I guess my only option is to leave her a nice message and tell her I'm here when she wants to open up about this.
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Its a hard balance, but the idea is to not push her into talking, but frequently letting her know that the option is always open.
Support her no matter what, thats the difference between friends and partners
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So my gf and I have finally gone public with our relationship after four months of just enjoying our own private bubble. Her work colleagues are weirdly really excited about it. She hasn't dated in the entirety of the four years she's been at the company and it's clearly a novel thrill for them.
She's come home with stories every day for the last week about some new way her colleagues made a jab about her having a boyfriend or whatever. Like yesterday she's on the phone before she hops on a flight, and her team is giving her shit about, "Checking in with your man??!!"
Generally, I'd say it's people poking innocuous fun, but it sorta concerns me in this case; not because I think they're harassing her or anything, but because I worry about this behavior being a slippery slope for people taking her less than seriously in the work place. She's very serious about her career and she's 27 on a team comprised mostly of married guys in their 40s. I worry that this becomes a way in which they treat her like a kid or something.
It reminds me of the way people's perception of my old boss (female) changed when they found out her new boyfriend after her divorce was considerably younger. All these little comments to her about it that were, frankly, people getting a bit too familiar with their boss when they'd never had that kind of rapport with her before.
Am I seeing things that aren't there? Is it worth talking with her and just letting her know that there is a line that shouldn't be crossed? She thinks it's totally innocent, and I'm not so sure.
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relax
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>>18586457
Ok.
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>>18586404
You're overthinking simple shit. Stop.
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Im at a Hotel and have ants in my room
So how do i get rid off them?
Pic related theyre muuuuuuch More oft them
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>>18586311
Sprinkle cloves around the room
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>>18586311
terro liquid ant killer. comes in a little bottle with card stock. that shit kills them better than anything else I've found. they eat it and carry it back to their nest in their stomach and feed it to the rest and the colony dies.
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>>18586311
http://www.raid.ca/en-ca/products/raid-outdoor-ant-nest-destroyer-2
If you can manage to get one of those in a grocery store, you'll just need to fit the tip of the spray inside the hole where they come from. Shoot it up until you see the foam coming out of the whole.
Guaranteed they won't come out to bother you again.
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It's been a couple of months now that I've been losing hair, I've been looking online into keratin pills and shampoo, does anyone know which is the best brand, or have any general advice? (I'm only 26 years old)
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Nigga I lost my hair at 19. Don't give me that "only 26" bullshit. Give it up. Those products don't work. The only thing that works is hair transplant surgery.
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>>18586314
goddamnit I'm not ready to become bald. What about rogain?
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>>18586324
It works for a minority of people. If it's happening in the middle of your scalp you may have a chance. If it's happening in the front you are SOL
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I just got a 10pm-6am job.
How do I keep my friends if I sleep all day? How do I avoid losing my mind on a night owl's schedule?
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>>18586292
You don't. It sucks. Life sucks. It all sucks.
You can't party late, you can't party early, you can't do much of anything, except hope you get Friday and Saturday nights off.
I'd always pop a nyquil right when I got off work, and hope to be in bed ASAP once I got home, and then try to be up around like noon-ish.
It was only like 5 hours of sleep, but I was only 20 so it didn't matter.
Also smoking weed helps, I pretty much had to stop drinking unless I was having beer in the mornings once I got off.
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>>18586292
I worked nights for almost a year. In the winter, you literally don't see the sun. You are on a different wave length than everyone because of your sleep schedule. I recommend looking for another job and putting in your two weeks after you line it up.
Night shift is for addicts and narcoleptics.
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>>18586292
Wake up at 1 or 2 pm and have a free 8 hours to do what you want. You can do stuff during the day mate. Join a gym. Find clubs.
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>20 y/o male from texas here y'all
So basically me being in college (technical school to be exact), i was forced to take a writing class and now i have to write a 7 page argumentative essay, the sad part is he gave us a list of things we CANNOT talk about which are: religion, the supernatural, politics, anything involving the legalization of something, immigration, the drinking age, gun control, animal cruelty, abortion, capital punishment, gay rights, conspiracy theories, and bullying, so pretty much anything good. So i basically say fuck it, and i wanna know is there any way or place i can go online where i can pay someone to write my essay? I tried looking for sites but im too paranoid in thinking maybe its a scam, i dont really have a money issue as long as its not an exaggerated amount, has anyone been in this situation? The paper is due next thursday so im pretty muched fucked, much appreciated.
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why don't you use that brain of yours? there are plenty of topics you can still choose and you have time. stop being lazy,
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>>18586280
fiverr when you write essay in the search of fiverr website
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>>18586280
Just write the essay faggot.
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What can I do to look better? I'm not one who knows a lot about fashion and such. I I have never really paid attention to the way I love use to where stripe shirts with plaid pants for example . What can I do to improve my looks.
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One more.
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>>18586247
tuxbell.com
>>>/fa/
The first thing to do is to start paying attention. Lurk /fa/ or other places on the internet and notice what kinds of looks you like. Imitate them or outright copy them at first.
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>>18586279
Also, criticize yourself. Start with those two outfits. What is wrong with them?
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I got a job through more or less nepotism and it sucks dick. Its a hot factory and im constantly getting shit for not being loud enough(the owners nearly deaf) and fast enough(drinking water because its hot as fug). It's only been 6 days and the job only pays $3 more than min wage. I'm probably too stupid/timid to ever get a better job and I think my parents will hate me for quitting. What should I do? I kind of just want to fuck off and starve somewhere.
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>>18586240
>hey moon
continue listening to john maus.
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>>18586256
That doesnt really help but I guess I will.
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>>18586240
>What should I do? I kind of just want to fuck off and starve somewhere.
do it for AT LEAST a whole month, better three. you will adapt to a degree and learn some skills.
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>Be me
>Be into girl
>99% chance she's into me
>She's a real party girl, goes out clubbing most weekends, goes to Ibiza every year, etc
>I only really drink beer and prefer quieter places when I go out
How could this work?
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>>18586210
Relationship or just fuckin?
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Fun, short-term casual dating.
I dunno. Try it and see, only way to find out.
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>>18586214
Don't go to club get her number.
Met her elsewhere once or twice a week.
She'll probably get her cooch pounded in the club.
But you'll be her steady psuedo boyfriend.
Till you find something better.
"real party girls"<<<< RED FLAG
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wtf do i do if my husband turned into an inmature drama queen right after we got married? i feel trapped... i looked up coupels therapy but there are none in our area that aren't shitty. i asked him to go to a psychiater (i already go), but he never actually does it despite agreeing that it would be a good idea.
we do talk stuff out, but i guess we would need a professional to help us sort things out.
i also looked to find couples counseling online/over phone, but they also all seem unprofessional.
what now? i donmt want to talk about this with friends and family because they are fucked up in their own ways and have no idea about how to solve relationship issues or how to have a sane and healthy marriage.
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oh and before you point it out, i am very well aware that i am deeply flawed too and need to work on a lot of stuff myself. i don't blame our issues on him alone, but atleast i go to therapy and try my best to find ways to work on myself. it just doesn't help very much if he doesn't do the same or we work on the relationship issues together, too.
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gib examples
be specific
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>>18586202
if i give examples, this thread will end in a shitstorm and nobody will stay on topic.
but you're right, it won't help to not be specific. but i don't have the nerves to discuss all the irrelevant stuff that will undoubtly arise.
the situation is as follows:
>i have a kid that's not his
>the kid's biological father lives on the other side of the world and has never met his kid, there's very little and distant contact
>two days ago i get a message from the father, saying that he's visiting our country and if he could possibly meet his son (which we agreed to before, and my husband was ok with it, then).
>since i told my husband, he went completely insane. he lost all appetite, he doesn't sleep, he stopped reciprocating if i tell him i love him, he doesn't reply to my texts, etc
>today was the meeting and he kept sending me nonsensical texts, demanding to know exactly who was with me and what we were doing (despite me having told him all the details over and over again)
>he then told me he can't deal with this and that he won't be home when we return
>i return and he's not home and has left his wedding ring on the table, still doesn't respond to my message
i understand that this is a shitty situation, but he act like i went to that meeting with the intention to cheat on him. i have zero such intentions, i only went because i feel it's fair to let my son meet his biological father. he acts like he can't trust me and that hurts. he act like this meeting is the end of the world, when it literally doesn't change a thing.
i get that it is distressing for him, but i can't help feeling like he is overreacting and trying to make me feel bad for something i don't think i should feel bad. yeah, sure, i get it, you'll tell me that i SHOULD feel bad for this situation, and i did exactly that for way too long. there's simply no use in feeling bad about it. it's what it is and we all have to deal with it and make the best of it. i can't change it anymore.
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I'm 19 and my parents are too conservative and won't let me have a boyfriend. I don't want to lose my family by leaving because that is what would happen but I don't want to stay alone either. They want to be the ones to find me a fiance and set me up but they keep saying I'm too young right now that I should be focused on school *sigh*
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Are they Muslim?
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Move out or quit complaing
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>>18586219
This. You can't live your own life living under someone else's roof and rules.
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>it's only 5 months until 2018
>still a virgin
>24yo
I'm not a social retard nor terribly bad looking. 6'4" and I work out regularly, I just have a hard time meeting women.
What's the no-nonsense guide to getting a gf quickly? Online dating is basically dead where I'm from so tinder's not really an option unless I want to bag a hamplanet feminist. Also I hear clubs are a shit place to find a gf which is aight since I don't enjoy clubs much anyway (what a surprise lel).
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>>18586184
Hookers and booze man. Cmon this is children play. Break the piggy bank and no pimp involved
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>>18586192
Yeah well I'd fuck a hooker if I just wanted to lose that v card but I care more about companionship and shit like a faggot
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i'm 25 and i just started dating my first gf last month. don't lose hope. sometimes things don't happen when we want them to but when they do, they happen in natural ways and you will feel everything's going fine.