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So here's my problem:
I really hate my current job, it's tiring af and I'm lacking sleep yet I just love my coworkers, damn, even boss drinks with us.
Two days ago we had meeting with boss to discuss some stuff and I wanted to openly tell everyone that I'm gonna quit BUT then boss asked me and two more guys to stand up and we got promoted.
I think you can guess the rest.
We're opening new local soon and need more people + this surprise promotion...
I just feel like a dick leaving them like that...
What do I do? Should I stay?
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First assess whether this is something want to do or need to do to survive. These are tough times after all. Check whether your work attitude is appropriate (ie that your not a lazy shit) or simply not suited for the job.
If you feel like you really need to quit then you need to let your boss know. Tell him your grievances and that you might not be the right person for the job. He'll either make a plan to accommodate you or ask for your resignation.
In 5 years time do you think your boss and co-workers will remember that you left? Sometimes you have to yank off the band-aid and get things over with.
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>>18634841
Why is your job tiring?
Why are you lacking sleep?
What do you do?
What will your new function be, now you got promoted?
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Hey /adv/ I think I may have a serious social problem, let me explain. I feel as if I am constantly alone even though I have a group of friends that I commonly talk to at school. I don't invite them because I am not sure how they would think of how I act socially in private, which mostly is comprised of self loathing and absolute hatred towards others. It's getting so bad that I want to kill myself but I don't want to sadden the people who I think are closest to me, plus I am not sure if there even is a god. Since I can't kill myself I feel like I am just taking up space on this Earth which makes me feel horrible inside. I have several more problems that I wish I could express but I don't want this thread to be tedious for a reader. Is there anything I can do to make this problem stop, or at least weaken? It would be greatly appreciated. (Pic is to get your attention and is not related)
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Do you identify as an introvert?
You dont necessarily have to invite somebody over to with in private. Invite somebody you like to a private space so that you cant act more appropriately. Try not to worry so much what others may think of you, but I would suggest not being a complete sad sack from the get-go.
The most important thing I would suggest to you is to seek self-improvement. You'll gain a better sense of yourself, learn skills and ideally make friends along the way.
Nobody is a waste of space and always has endless potential.
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I legitimately think I am ugly. I can't stand pictures of myself. It has been a very long time since I have gotten a compliment on anything other then my hair.
Please tell me the truth and be serious, am I ugly?
I will try to add more pics to give a better idea.
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>>18634825
You are obese
Face-wise you're average
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>>18634825
I think you should be more worried about your weight unless you're a fairly tall fellow
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amenorrhea-- IUD taken out -- then period? 2017-08-18 08:17:36 Post No.18634821
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amenorrhea-- IUD taken out -- then period?
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For many months I was on the depo birth control hormone shot. I didn't like the side effects so I switched to the mirena IUD without a period of "no birth control".
I just got my mirena taken out Monday of this week. At first I spotted lightly. The days that followed, it appeared I was having my first period in about year (or more! I really forget when I started depo). But I have been on mirena since April to August of this year.
Why is my body doing this? I am assuming it's my body returning to a state of normalcy after I fucked it up for a really long time.
Is there any cause for concern? I'm not in any pain. No cramps. I did experience some hot flashes and dizziness which is usual for my periods when I had them.
What should I look out for as my body returns to normal?
How long will it take?
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Bamp
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Did you ever take it as pills? If so, what were the effects?
I take Cipralex (anti depressants), and I was told I was fine taking both, so far I've been fine.
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>>18635751
Nope never been on any birth control pills. The depo was an injection right into my buttcheek every three months, and it alternated buttcheeks every other dose.
Thanks for the bump
Any other IUD anons or anyone else on any birth control here?
Who up
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I am in love with a girl for 5 years and I never told her. I feel like I am not able to hold my feelings inside my nead anymore. I need to tell her already, but she has got a boyfriend right now. Should I wait for the breakup or try luck? Wot do /adv/? Dont tell me to carry on
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>>18634777
Get her to cheat.
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well if you are a filthy animal make her cheat but if you are a human being and not just selfish wait
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>>18634797
Im not an evil cunt. I dont wish her anything bad, guess Ill just have to wait.
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I'm 18 years old, I'm a freshman at a university, and I have one question:
Do I need to have my textbooks with me on the first day of class?
Thanks /adv/.
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No, in fact it's recommended that you don't. Often times you'll find that they're not needed or use and you can get away with not getting them.
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>>18634763
Depends. But generally no. Just a notebook
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When you do buy the books get them used or rent them. It's truly disgraceful how expensive they are, but this will lower the price somewhat.
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Where can I find people to hang out around my age? (18-22) 2017-08-18 07:46:17 Post No.18634733
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I can't find anything to do. I've tried going to a few meetups on meetup.com, but they mainly attract the old, and those who are middle age and socially stunted. How am I supposed to meet people my age while I am not in school? There are almost no meetups for my age group, or any kind of group that I could go to that ISN'T a college thing. Shit is fucked up. I really close to NYC, but I still have yet to find anything at all. I'm not at drinking age (I'm 20), nor am I big on partying. I have been volunteering at a botanical garden for the past month, and it has been good; but we only meet once a week which leaves me bored the rest of the week. I just want to meet new people that are around my age, and it seems like there is just no fucking way to do so. This crap sucks man.
I really like how now that I'm out of college I'm craving meeting new people and trying to socialize; shit that I hated in college and high-school. I did improve myself, but fuck, I wish I would have done so earlier when there were ACTUAL PEOPLE around me. No fucking wonder everyone stays home and is depressed.
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>>18634733
Im in Philadelphia, lets chat on discord ill give you more details add me
zambot#0429
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>>18634733
Why are you so insistent about age? Of you go to sports clubs or anime/comic conventions you'll meet people your age and older who you'll click with.
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>>18634733
Best thing you can do is do more shit like volunteering at the botanical garden. Join another community project, join a gym, something archaic as a cooking class or whatever hobbies you might be into.
Stop worrying about the age thing; you meet people of all age ranges and find some better than others.
I will say that it gets harder to meet new people the older you get, because the opportunities become less.
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Starting new job on monday, just received another offer today 2017-08-18 07:40:14 Post No.18634718
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Starting new job on monday, just received another offer today
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Background, i was unemployed for months looking for job, applied to multiple places, sent like two dozen job applications and had some interview which they "we will contact you later"
Shortly i got a job offer to work at some food service company, i already did their in-site training and such and will start on monday, the pay is shit, like $9/hr, 9-5 sched
But then i got another job offer at an IT support company, starting at $12/hr and they're asking me if im still interested
The pay's a lot of different, what is the best way to proceed with this? should i just send email to the food service company saying that i wont be coming on first day or come in, put in 2 week notice and also informing the IT support in regards to my situation?
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You could tell both the situation.
If the IT support job is a guaranteed thing then I'd say go for that and just inform them. That is unless you haven't already signed a contract with the food service company. If you have them you will have to follow due process of quitting.
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Just tell them what's up. You got a better offer (in your field?) and you're sorry, but you are going to go with the other one.
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I'm 20 years old and it feels like my life is empty and meaningless. Before you all call me an edgy new fag, this is pretty new for me. I'm not suicidal by any means, I just suddenly feel like the motivation I've had in life is gone. I work a pretty decent job and don't have financial problems, I'm attending school for my dream job, and I have a good amount of friends and a supportive family. However, it feels as if I have nothing motivating me. I work and study simply because the alternative is giving up and I don't want to do that. My 'dream job' is really just something I'm kinda interested in, and I don't really have a passion for it that deeply drives me. Money is just kinda... a thing. I don't have some distant dream of grand wealth. I don't have dreams of anything. I can't place down a single thing that motivates me, not making my family proud, not bragging rights, not having a nice life. Nothing. I have been running like this for a while but only recently has it occurred to me that when people ask me why I do what I do all I can say is "Just cause".
Has anyone else felt this/ is feeling this? I feel like the only thing that gets me out of bed sometimes is the fact that the alternative is more boring. Apologies if this sounds weird. English is not my first language.
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>>18634705
There is no objective, external, natural, predefined answer to "Why even live/do something.".
You have to craft your own.
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>>18634705
get a girlfriend
or a hobby
or a dog
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Is there anyway to repair connections with someone that is under the impression you don't want to talk to them anymore and that you're moving two hours away?
That was the original plan but after sitting down with my housemate I decided to stay at the last moment. I just kinda felt shitty about a situation and the feeling was making me sick, just wanted to get away kinda.
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So essentially you wanted to bail from your housemate due to a "situation" and now that you haven't; you need to repair connections with him?
First thing is to try and let things go back to normal. He may be pissed as fuck or otherwise, but just put up with it for the time being. He'll either get over it or he wont.
If he doesnt and wants to address the elephant in the room then you two should have a go at resolving the issue at hand.
However - if the situation becomes worse and your housemate is going to be a dick about it endlessly; then move out. No point putting up with shit forever and you'll get over any guilty feelings eventually.
Also avoid any knee-jerk reactions (like moving out) without thinking things over.
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How can I stop procrastinating, /adv/?
Basically, I am a dishwasher, and I want to become a web designer, but every time I go to study I just freeze and end up browsing 4chan for awhile, because the few times I have not frozen the work was way too hard and I felt traumatized, and I don't want to repeat the negative experiences I had. How can I stop procrastinating, man up, and do mental labor without being such a pussy? I want to stop being a pussy but I seek comfort naturally. Am I just an inferior creature destined to live like this until I die? Please help me.
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Clean your room
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Breaking a cycle of habit is always hard. You have to keep trying in little ways every day until you succeed. You will fail several times, and you will have to get back up and try again. There's really nothing else to it. Don't try to change your life completely at once, because you will inevitably fail. Introduce small, positive changes gradually.
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web designing is hard and shitty
i'm a biochemist and i find the work intolerable.
i dont think you really want to be a web designer, as the work is incredibly hard and painstaking- it requires a rare kind of patience. i think you like the IDEA of being a web designer. try to find some other profession that youll actually enjoy- make it your mission to figure out what that is.
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I've recently taken up clubbing as one of my hobbies and want to learn how to dance with more grace. I don't want to be some crazy dance master, just want to learn the basics to have a good time and maybe impress the ladies. Any tips?
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>dancing gracefully
>clubbing
pick one
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Just take a short dance class. It worked wonders for a friend from school who started pulling girls left and right. It will be harder if you have no rhythm, as a person. Some people are naturally better at it.
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lol, said like a true bitter shut-in
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what are some good moves? I end up doing the fkn spinaroonie over and over
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Are there any "donate a musical instrument" charities that accept things like electric geetars? I've got one of those and a bass sitting around. I can't imagine they'd be worth much at a shop but they work well enough for student use.
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Can u send to Africa? would be very much appreciated.
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>>18634641
Would you Be willing to sent one of your electric guitars to Austria? I would even cover ur Post expenses :)
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>>18634753
I'm a studentfag and can't really afford to buy me a electric guitar because how expensive they are here, I'm already playing on my old acoustic tho which my mother gifted me
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I'm 23 and I want to leave my country to start fresh.
What can I do to start in France/Belgium/Russia ?
I'm still living with my parents and I have a well paying job in Romania.
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>>18634633
No one ever moved to another country ? Please help.
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>>18634689
This may be /adv/, but I think it'd help you a lot more if you took your question over to >>>/int/
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>>18634711
thanks
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I recently got out of a relationship and asked this girl who I've had a crush on for a while if she wants to grab some drinks. She said yes, and we went on a date and everything was fine. We had good convos and I made her laugh and stuff. At the end of the date she just hugged me and we parted ways. I thought she hated me, so I was like whatever I tried.
I talked it over with some people and they just said to ask her out again cause I got nothing to lose. So I did and she said yes, but asked if I was sure cause she thought I wasn't feeling her. And I was like oh I thought the same thing! So we made another date and we both said we were looking forward to it. Come the day of the date she cancels on me with no reason and i'm like whatever. Then I ask if she wants to reschedule and she says I can come to her birthday..
So,I'm pretty sure I 100% got friendzoned. But I don't get why. Every time we all hang out in groups she always goes out of her way to talk to me. So whats the deal?
>she's also religious
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>>18634629
>I'm pretty sure I 100% got friendzoned
WHat do you mean? That she wants to be friend and not date you? Then yeah, she doesn't seem to interested in dating you. Too bad.
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>>18634629
Is her birthday soon? Maybe was actually busy for the date, if she doesn't bring it up when you go see her again she probably doesn't like you
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>>18634629
so what??? stop trying to get with her and hang out with her and her friends, and be open to it going nowhere with her. most guys are so dumb with this shit. having lots of girls in your social circle is one of the easiest ways to be introduced to someone you're compatible with. have mental strength and stop letting yourself get obsessed over random girls, especially if you're not dating them.
in my opinion