So I'm fresh out of a 7 month relationship, she left me. She went to the guy I disliked about her problems and told me everything was fine. I've been really sad since then, and as a result lost all appetite. Hardly eaten but there is one thing I've wanted but still haven't been able to have. Chocolate covered almonds.
Besides chocolate covered almonds, any other suggestions for snacks? Nothing that needs to be cooked/microwaved (I know how to cook but the thought of eating a hot meal makes me feel sick) ((Already under weight so that should also maybe be fixed))
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>>18636236
She lost someone who cared very much
You lost someone who didn't care very much
Study that. Then, when you're ready, get something to eat.
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>>18636239
well fuck. That's wise as fuck. Good job. damn...
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>>18636239
But it's still not a snack suggestion
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21 year old female here. Been in a long term relationship with my partner for about 3 years now.
How do I increase my chances of getting pregnant? I'm trying to get impregnated by my boyfriend so we can finally get married.
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>>18636225
Ask him to marry you.
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>>18636225
I think you just need to have lots of sex. You should be pretty fertile at your age.
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>>18636225
This must be a troll post. You are a horrid cunt and I hope you get ovarian cancer and die pa
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I'm almost 20 and iv'e passed 1/4 of my GED tests, lost over 60 lb and I just passed my driving test today but I have mixed feelings about all this. When I was 10 I was diagnosed with Aspergers (high functioning Autism), Depression and a anxiety disorder. For most of my life I was told non directly and sometimes directly that I wouldn't amount to much in life. I can't write about everything that has happened to me but iv'e had a very hard childhood and teenhood because i was socially awkward and stressed out all the time, I was even bullied by my teachers and peers. During my senior year my school counselor and my parents made me drop out of school for my own sanity and because I was getting really bad grades because I couldn't focus. It was sort of expected that I would live at home forever and that maybe I would get a very easy job like working in a warehouse or something. But then at the beginning of this year I stopped feeling so anxious and depressed for whatever reason and I decided I would try to better myself. I started maturing a little bit after school but staring around February I really kicked into gear. I'm way more mature now and my parents have said that I don't seem like the same person I was a couple of years ago. So after months of practicing I finally passed my driving test today but I didn't feel happy I felt shocked and nervous. After thinking about it today I realized that I'm under prepared for success and for a "normal" life. I always thought that I would be a fat neckbeard loser forever and that I wouldn't accomplish much but this year and today has blown those thoughts and assumptions out of the water. I still have a ways to go but just thinking about what I have all ready accomplished scares me a bit. I'm just waiting for a brick wall to come to stop my success but I doesn't seem like its gonna come soon. In a weird way I want to hit a brick wall because being a loser is what i'm familiar and comfortable with.
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I guess I wrote this just to write my thoughts out but how should I cope with these feelings? Have any of you been in the same situation i'm in?
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>>18636210
tl;dr
From a quick scan it looks like you chose to better yourself and it worked.
Weird huh? Keep going, you will fuck up, that's part of being human. You can keep going after that though.
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>>18636210
Just wanted to say congratulations. Realizing and overcoming your past shit isn't something everyone has the willpower to do.
For me I think about how unhappy I was being fat. That's all I personally need to keep from faltering. I'm not perfect but I've kept 80lbs off for 5 years now.
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Completely forgettable 2017-08-19 04:00:04 Post No.18636191
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Just realized that I'm nothing but a tag along for friends when they need an extra guy. I'm quite when in a group I participate in discussions and start my own.
But I'm never called to just hang out, I often have to reach forward and force to include myself so that they can remember me. It seems they only call when they need one last guy.
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welcome to the 3rd Wheel club
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>>18636191
you have to do more reaching out yourself, other people will reciprocate. show a genuine interest
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My BF is extroverted, and I am introverted. He basically has the personality of a dog, and I have the personality of a cat. I can be very affectionate in small bursts, but I don't like to feel 'pressured' into showing affection which tends to happen if the other person is more into me than I am into them. I warm up slowly in a relationship but once I am genuinely attached to someone I'm loyal to a fault. I guess I put a lot of weight into the idea of love and loyalty so I don't give them away easily.
Everything is great otherwise but I feel like I need to find the best way to communicate to him when I need space or a break from affection or I'm feeling overwhelmed, without sounding like it's his fault. When I'm crowded I tend to just shut down and tend to do anything to placate my partner (but the fact I'm doing it just to try and sate them makes me dislike actions I would love if I was in the right headspace), where if I'm given room to yearn for my partner, I do. And I reach out and become romantic and affectionate.
Normally I'm pretty good with words but "I need some space to calm down a little" and "I'm feeling a bit anxious/overwhelmed always seem to come out wrong. Any introverts around that have advice on how to gently communicate a need for space to recharge?
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>>18636186
Tell him what you said in the second and third paragraphs.
You get energy by being alone - he gets energy by being with people.
If he isn't willing to talk about it, empathize, and work toward understanding, move on.
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>>18636186
You did an ok job of explaining how you feel here
Why not tell him exactly this?
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>>18636196
He needs to pick up on her mood and figure out what she said verbatim on his own or he's not intellectually worthy enough to keep her. She's going to continue playing games with him and leave him because he's the stupid bitch who's overwhelming her.
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Wrong to dump friend? 2017-08-19 03:48:48 Post No.18636172
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So we're both 27, I've working at a bank since I graduated college. I'm moving up in the company ladder and I'm happy with where my career is.
My friend is 27 and hasn't had a full time since graduating. He's working the same part time job he's done since high school and hasn't really made a step anywhere in life since he was 16.
I'm just frustrated by his lack of motivation to do anything. I come late a night from work and he has to hit me up about how he's played video games all day and smoked a ton of weed. It's just annoying. I want to end it with him but people said it's elitist and I'm snobby for thinking so.
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>>18636172
If you don't like him don't be his friend. It would be elitist if you cut contact only because you have a better job but from what I read that's not the case.
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>>18636172
It's entirely possible to enjoy a friend's company without considering what they are doing career wise. A good friend would might even help the guy out of a rut if he really cared. I've done it before and my friends have helped me.
That being said if you don't like the guy you don't like the guy.
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If he's happy where he's at and able to take care of himself I don't really see why you have a problem with it.
Maybe he really is the smartest dude in the room, and that's from someone with an engineering degree. I'm sure grass is always greener but I definitely have moments I wish I had just moved somewhere with a livable minimum wage, worked a simple job and lived a modest life.
But if you don't have enough in common to talk about when you're hanging out and it's frustrating you to that degree you might as well not be friends. Chances are you're being a dick to him too. Elitism has nothing to do with it. Time is short, hang with the people that make you happiest. Don't make it about where he's at in life- You just don't have anything in common any more. And its okay to go your separate ways, doesn't make either of you bad people.
Idk dude make sure you've made peace with yourself too, sounds like part of this might be (understandable) jealousy and unrest with your life. Of course we all wish we could sit around and play vidya all day. I don't mean that in a "YOURE JUS JEALOUS" way but as a high achiever make sure youre taking care of your own mental wellbeing my dude
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Should I leave college 2017-08-19 03:35:02 Post No.18636151
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>be me
>have a BA in languages (I'm fluent in different ones)
>can't find a job because reasons
>start second BA (tertiary) in Library and Information science because suposedly there's high demand in my third world shithole
>not my vocation, but an OK discipline I could work all my life in it
>still no jobs
>want to leave this shithole (have italian citizenship)
>realize that having more degrees will not help in anything
Well, that's it. My true vocation is arts. But due to reasons I didn't pursue that. I started to learn jewelry and metal work, as well as clock stuff and regularly draw for hobby.
I feek like I'm not achieving shit by studying things that are secondary to me (again, not my vocation) and won't help me to move abroad.
Should I focus more in my art, eveb if kinda late (in my late 20s) and developing a self mantained business that I can run and move with me anywhere?
This would be my last semester, or maybe have another one, but I feel like completing my second degree is of no use. I feel a bit mad about falling for le degree meme and kinda feel like I'm forcing it out of rage (like, I studied a lot, it MUST get me a job), so I feel like going full fuck it and abandoning it (currently missing 4 courses). University is free here, but lifetime seems more worth than money
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>>18636151
I feel that yea a second degree was probably a poor choice for you but I say if you are this close to finishing just do it.
Keep in mind that you don't have to end up working in your degrees scope. Yea it may suck but you know what sucks more than that? Being poor. Doll up your resume and find a job elsewhere. Two degrees will at the minimum show that you follow things to completion which is more than a lot of people can say.
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>>18636162
Also consider teaching English abroad. I have lots of friends who do it and while it isn't the best paying job in the world they make a comfortable living and basically have their travel subsidized.
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That's the problem, my country's job situation and economy is very fucked up atm. I've only worked as a personal language teacher and other stational stuff but nothing stable
English is not my main language though, but I'll check it if I can apply to it.
Thanks for replying
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forced to go on vacation 2017-08-19 03:32:53 Post No.18636145
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in conversation with the in-laws who like to travel a lot and my gf, the idea came about of taking a plane to go to Toronto for a weekend in a few months. I know they want to go see a play and walk around and eat in restaurants and all that.
We already have smaller but still great trips planned the month prior and after, both one weekend long with the hotel and all.
I said I was not interested in going on that Toronto trip because it's expensive and I already feel we're doing enough things, but I was met with very sadly surprised in-laws and a very mad girlfriend.
On one hand I now feel bad that I'm "ruining" the whole thing for not wanting to go with them, but I'm also angry that they're pushing a 300$+ expense on me with no regards to my desires and financial preferences. I can afford the trip no problem, but I don't want to spend that cash on yet another "omg we have to do this it would be great" trip.
Who's in the wrong here? Am I retarded for not allowing myself to be convinced into going or are they retarded for thinking I'm a boring asshole who doesn't understand what's good in life?
(pic is just some random google image result I know it's not Toronto)
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>I could afford a third vacation I just don't want to
Boo fucking hoo first world problems. How about do something nice for your girlfriend instead of being a tit about it because you don't feel like going to Toronto?
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>>18636145
Are you honestly sitting at your computer bitching because your loving family and girlfriend want to spend time with you on a vacation that you have more than enough disposable income to afford?
"Forced" to go on vacation? What is wrong with you?
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I'm very frugal at heart and don't spend much money. I plan trips carefully and try not to indulge in excess. Gf is the opposite, although somewhat reasonably so.
I'm honestly going to take that sort of criticism seriously because I feel I may be overdoing it. It's just that for example I don't enjoy plays except for a very select few. They're planning to go to some random one. I hate that they assume you'll pay even if you don't like it and it doesn't matter because "it's a good time". Repeat that over and over for lots and lots of details and you start feeling like you're not really "considered" in the whole picture. "Just follow along you dummy"
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Can someone give me some advice so I don't freak out? Me and some friends went through about a can of air duster each last night while we were really drunk. I've had a sore throat all day, and it's getting better but I still feel lightheaded sometimes when I stand up. I did some reading and apparently that shit contains neurodegenerates. I know I'm an idiot for trying it but damn I was wasted. I figured this place is as good as any to find someone experienced with drugs.
Will that one can have permanent effects on my brain? Or am I just freaking out over nothing? I've never done any sort of drugs before.
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>>18636129
It could have permanent effects on your brain if you keep doing it, yes. See:
http://americanaddictioncenters.org/inhalant-abuse/side-effects/
So STOP IT! Sort yourself out!
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>while we were really drunk.
>I've never done any sort of drugs before.
also try to sort out what you think are drugs.
hey /adv/
what's gonna be the winning numbers for the powerball tomorrow?
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>>18636102
roll
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>>18636102
Advice means guidance. You know like "what would you do in this situation". This isn't for fact checking.
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i'm an 18 year old grill in college and it seems as if i can't have fun/feel empty constantly
i've had depression since 14 but even then smoking weed/hanging with friends made me happy
right now i just feel like i'm a ghost at parties/social situations. i've had intense alcohol problems for a year now and i'm progressing into more weed/vicodin
i can only "enjoy" these substances alone. when kids my age talk about parties and alcohol and shit it's so boring to me. nothing interests me socially anymore. i have sex but don't enjoy it because i feel like i only can enjoy it if i love that person. food isn't that great either.
i have "hobbies" for example im an accomplished classical musician and i enjoy that but in terms of going out socially i feel dead
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>>18636099
50 yo man here. So I'll sound like your dad, likely.
You need to sort yourself out. Stop the casual use of alchol and drugs. I'm not against ANY use, but DON'T use them when you're alone to make you happy. That's a killer.
You have an excellent hobby in music. Use that to reach people. If you're accomplished, you must have those circles you hang out with. Start there. Make friends there. TONS of free events in the classical music world, whether on campus or in nearest large city at larger universities.
Weed will make your depression worse. So I'd cut that out.
Do some hard self-examing. You're only 18. Real young. Make smart decisions and choices now. Don't have sex just because you think you "should," either. That's a very dangerous place to be in.
Good luck!
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I'm woman and it looks like I'm giving up masturbation. Anyways I've been having slot of lower back pain and I've felt tummy cramps like if I've been on my period not not been on it for this whole month. I constantly think. About sex and fantasies but I am scared to do anything yet and it looks like I'll be going into my 2ND month in a few days. Any advice?
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>>18636094
Your problems sound less like your jerking off too much and more like you're not exercising enough.
Do some deadlifts and squats and you'll find your lower back to get stronger and stronger.
And it'll make your desire for bodily stimulation not as strong
I don't jerk off after work outs
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>>18636105
I'm not its already been a month but I feel like I'm going to get my period. Imagine that feeling for a whole month. And now I have to endure possibly another month possible half of the next too.
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>>18636112
Have you been to your doctors?
Cuz that's like a lot of shit feelings.
I doubt your masturbation habits are related though
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Hey adv how do i stop being so anxious in social situations where theres more than say 5 people. I know im not being noticed much, i know im not being judged under a microscope by everybody. I get that logically, however i try so hard to force myself in these situations and end up being nervous to the point my face sweats a lot and i get anxious about that and its downhill from there.
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>>18636084
Try this:
Everyone is just like you, to some extent. Everyone "gets nervous" so you're no different, more or less, usually, than anyone you're with. In other words: What you're experiencing is common. There are millions of "nervous people" out there. So what?
That's it. You're normal, more or less. Get on with it.
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>>18636084
Drink
That helps me in those scenarios
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>>18636100
Drinking helps me too, but i dont want to depend on a substance to do that. I want to be like that on my own.
>>18636095
I get it man, its just i see a lot of people in a carefree vibe and i wish i could. Just like that, give 0 fucks and enjoy my time
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Can anyone offer some roommate advice? I'm going to be moving out in the near future.
Things to look out for. Things to avoid. Past experiences you've had. Things you would've done different or changed.
General cohabitating advice/tips.
I'm 24 and will be moving in with a total stranger. I've never lived with anyone else besides my family before. I'm generally quiet, clean and keep to myself. Maybe artistically so, but I'm able to be sociable when need be. I'm not going to be doing any drugs, drinking or having any friends over and most of my time will be spent at work or at school. I expect to only be home for a little bit each night and only to sleep. I feel like I'm a desirable enough roommate for most, but some people seem to indicate in their room mating profiles that they're looking for a best friend to hang out with and I want no part of that.
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>>18636076
Be up front with your roomie on your needs for quiet time.
Lock your door, your valuables. Always.
Why would you move in with a total stranger, though? No friends of friends to hook up with?
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>>18636085
Nope. One friend lives a few states over. The other is a responsible adult with a home so I don't have many options.
I feel living with a stranger is probably more ideal though. People say not to roommate with your friends because you'll end up hating them which I can attest to. I've had extended living stays in the past and they've all ended poorly.
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>>18636170
Some of my best memories are living with by best friends, yea sometimes we had our issues but at the end of the day we were level-headed adults.
I don't think that I could comfortably live with a stranger. I'd rather rent a shoebox than that.
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does this seem like trauma or a toe infection? 2017-08-19 02:55:26 Post No.18636058
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does this seem like trauma or a toe infection?
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the side of my foot has also started to hurt :/
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>>18636058
That toe is fucked up.
Why is it so fat and short of nail?
Anyways, no it's not infected. You must have hit something bay accident, you cow.
That's just a bruise under the nail.
In a few weeks, it'll be pushed out and you'll see some flakey blood when you cut your toe nail (too short imo)
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i got paranoid about it the other day and cut it really short
pic of other pinky-toenail of what i hope is healthy looking.
also my middle ring and pinky fingernails on my hands have always been flat so i might just have an iron deficiency