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>>18675444
>random kid shows up years later demanding you're their daddy

Yeah no.

>>18675465
They cant do that, most they can force is an anon email.

>>18675444
a negative is that you have to actually have qualities they want, as in you can't have a family history of disease or mental illness. and in a lot of cases you also have to be physically fit and healthy so nothing like diabetes or obesity.

>>18675413
If you've lived with her by yourselves for at least a year you can make the call about marrying her otherwise dont.>>18675413

>>18675413
Recommend the story of Stephen Colbert meeting his wife.
Will give the tldr if I have to, but go watch it.
Don't just give up control of your life because it's easier.

To be honest OP marriage is a gamble. It might turn out fine or it might turn out awful. Some people marry really young and live their whole lives together. Some people marry after years of cohabitation and end up getting divorced.

I think it comes down to just how much bullshit you're willing to tolerate from your partner. You have to really love them and be comfortable with the idea of spending your life with them, even if they turn into a slob. Sometimes I feel like marriage is basically and endurance contest.

But you sound so un-excited by the entire prospect that, if I were you, I wouldn't do it. A lot of people get married because they think "well this is it, I'm not gonna find a better person and I'm not getting any younger", and that usually doesn't end well.

>>18675369
try talking to a therapist or psychologist.

>>18675369
Sounds like you're depressed. Try therapy, and try meditation/mindfulness through Headspace/general research.

Feel free to ask any questions I was in this exact position only a year ago.

>>18675369
>>18675775
Mindfulness worked for me. I learned it in a therapy and group therapy environment. Either way won't work unless you are actually willing to a) admit that you need help and b) cooperate with your therapist.

>>18675358

if there is no human condition explored in the story, then there is no connection with the reader unless you can just make a suspenseful story of circumstance.

but not only is that hard to do, its not engaging.

>>18675371
i guess you're right

Post example of animation

In the last paragraph: I COULD attend*

>>18675323
Oh boo hoo you're smart but you don't want to do shit. I wish I was smart, faggot.

>>18675323
Kinda recognize it. Went far into military application process in the netherlands jntil i decided that was not the route to fight lazyness in itself.

3 yeas later i am still lazy, still smoke weed. But now with a gf and a steady job i get some enjoyment and salary off.

Not to pick your choice, that time could be better invested with the military, but well. It comes at a cost aswell (culture, chamce of deployment and getting ptss)

Also the respect for just outbof school officiers wont be the highest i imagine. So you will add years to make your new dedicarion usefull. Losing the wonderful years between 20 and 30 were you can earn money and make an adult decision to get your shit together

>>18675312

first of all, you have too much on your plate. You sound like you're not lazy, but maybe too chaotic.

health comes first.

Do you have a formally diagnosed medical condition?

>>18675340
I was diagnosed with a bulged disc/herniated disc last year. I also have a rotational deformity of my legs, ADHD. I try not to think of my disabilities but lately, I wake up in extreme pain. I can not get any doctor to listen to me about my legs, I was told by a specialist that "it is the way it is, and you can't fix a deformity."
My mother also just lost her job after some office politics. Granted I only pay for my car insurance, phone, medical insurance. I only have 200 left every month. I knew it'd be difficult in life, but I am losing my mind. I do not want to try anymore, I wish I felt better.
The hardest part is people looking down on me when I do complain or stress, I am told that I am too young to complain about pain, and its a part of life. I have no self confidence anymore, I failed my ACT because my car was gone because it was taken.

>>18675352
>I was told by a specialist that "it is the way it is, and you can't fix a deformity."

there is a degree of truth to that, you may have to adjust your lifestyle in some way to compensate for certain kinds of deformaties.

but the point of my asking is if you have some kind of life interfering medical condition, it may be time to look at your country's social security system for the disabled. Have you done so?

stay focused on your health situation right now for discussion sake (because health care will be your largest expense in life right now)

>>18675308
>I am very very choosy with girls. This girl I met, ticks every single box. Problem is she's a few states over.

Then you don't know for sure if they tick every box then do you? Stop being a positive thinker in that regard.

Don't be a faggots. Find a girl in your city.

go to europe and find a wife, the US will cease to be a superpower by 2020, you need a way out of this

prepare for the future anon, EU citizenship, preferably Swiss, start learning French, German, and Italian.

I don't know where you're from but in the states, online job sites are posting triple figure salary jobs. You just have to have 50 years experience in the field for them to even take a glance at your application.

Sounds like your friends know people. Not sure why they omit you from knowing. Either they are jerks or you are.

>learn to do personal income taxes
>get certified
>get hired at corporate tax firm (h&r block)
>cheat poor people out of 100 dollars for a return that can be in in under 10 minutes for free
>profit

brag about something

>>18675249
How do I do this without coming off as a complete faggot?

>>18675238
It's hard to keep a girl engaged in a convo in tinder. It's a combo of luck and tact. You gotta appear very interesting

>>18675228
I don't really know, but a good posture with double chin is better than having a fucked up posture with a single chin

>>18675228

might need some side pics to give better advice. taken with the upper back in view so we can see alignment.

>>18675242
I'd prefer to have good posture with a single chin like "normal" people if at all possible

I have some breathing concerns too actually. Recently just realized there's a relation in short breaths and shitty jaw occlusion. Something about body buffer times, control pause or whatever?

>>18675251
Umm I don't have any pictures right now, can't take any atm but I can describe stuff. I have a slight overbite which I'm pretty sure means some jaw recession, but I've gotten into the habit of pressing my tongue against the roof of my mouth and pushing my bottom teeth in line with my top. When I do that I don't have a chinlet face anymore and the bottom of my chin is nice and 90~ degree angled, but if I make an attempt to put my body into a super correct, upright posture my lower jawline compresses into my neck and disappears partly. I've heard people say this is kinda normal and "most people" will have their jawline obscured but I see people who have super crisp jawlines despite all that, with varying jaws etc.

I'm not sure how I'd take the pics too. I try not to bite down if I can help it, as opposed to keeping my teeth in line and tongue flat because it gives me that chinlet appearance.

Oh, I don't think pics would be accurate right now at the moment anyways because my neck is enflamed for some reason, along with my submand lymph nodes. Unfortunately I don't think I have any old profile pics.
Think neck is swollen to allergies.

>>18675190

Your friends are assholes. Have you gone to the cops yet? Do whatever you can to help them find the son of a bitch.

That's fucked dude. So sorry you have to go through this. People don't really think that male rape happens, and since your story is pretty out there (not that I don't believe it but damn what a random thing) your friends just must not think it's possible. But that's fucked up of them.

Do you think you'd be able to see a therapist?

>>18675190
And you were meeting this guy in craiglist for?

>>>/r9k/ is that way.

I'd appreciate any advice before I start sperging and punching a femle in the face.

>>18675176

Want to be taken seriously? Don't use meme words like "Stacy".

A coworker was shitty to you, and sadly it seems like you can't turn the tide on this one. Sorry, that sucks. Now focus on getting a new charger.

>>18675142
You go to gym and look for them.

A guy like that probably jerks off while looking at himself naked in a mirror. If that's your thing you're gonna have to put the same effort into your body that he puts in to his.

Why do you spam this here again? Isn't it enough you create this shit thread every day in /r9k/?

yeah, stop masturbating for a while and only rely on sex, lol

>>18675135
Are you sure that's the only cause though? Because I've been described as just going through the motions and just bored

>>18675128
It happens to me too. I don't know about you, but to me fapping feels better because i do it super fast and sex and oral are usually MUCH slower, basically my dick is used to the fast tempo from my hand so sex doesn't make me feel much. You should try to tone down the masturbation and get more used to pussy i guess.

the brain does not have sensing nerves, so anything you felt was from the inner lining of your brain/head and not the brain it'self.

>>18675165
Really weird, what was this feeling then?

>>18675116
>brain had eaten mint

What the fuck does that even mean.