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>>18677217
We just did a rape scene....fucking kill me dude. If that doesn't get you going I don't know anymore

Ask her if that's actually true

if she says yes, break up with her (no need for unhappy relations)
if she says no then you'll have to trust her unless you have evidence proving otherwise

Why can't you contact her?

>>18677191

I am, or was, in a similar situation. I thought we hit it off well enough. I asked her out, got shot down.

She'll be leaving the state for a month only when she comes back she'll be living elsewhere.

In my case it's probably best if she's out of my life, much as I hate that thought. Maybe I'll be able to get her out of my mind.

If you have a way of getting in contact with her, social media, phone number, you should drop her a line.

>>18677195
I can message her but what the hell am I supposed to say? I'm scared of being rejected, I know she really likes spending time with me but not sure if she's interested at an intimate level.

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2 months have passed by, and I still 'miss' her. In the beginning, I did everything I can to move on and be a better me. I bought better clothes, such as polos, dress shirts, khakis, have been eating healthier, biked more often, ditched my shitty, fake, lowlife no ambition druggie friends and made stronger bonds with more mature, university oriented people. I've burned all of my physical pictures of her, deactivated my social medias, watched a dozen motivational youtube videos, read up on Zeno and his school of Stoicism, on Diogenes and his views of ancient Cynicism and have tried to implement those concepts in my life, and done everything I can physically do to move on. But I just can't.

Recently, I've slewed back into my old self destructive habits though.

She is on my mind 24/7. I find myself enjoying music that she enjoys, and 'nexting' songs that she disliked on my playlist. Whenever I go somewhere touristy (which is often, I live in a major tourist destination), I think, "Wow, she would have enjoyed this." This is gonna sound pretty fucking autistic too, but every time I jerk off my mind drifts to thinking of her. I've seen her in public once, but a few of my friends have seen her in public a lot and always text me telling me they've seen her and it ends up ruining my entire day. I get literally triggered. I see girls that look like her, or have a similar haircut in public and my heart just freezes. I've broken down in tears several times. I am a 6'4 man and this is not okay.

This isn't even my first relationship though. I mean, they've all been stupid highschool/middleschool ones, but even then as a stupid hormonal preteen, I took breakups pretty badly, so yeah, this is my first 'serious' relationship. She also did take my virginity, so maybe that has something to do with it.

I don't know what my objective is. I'll take advice, feedback, random facts, personal experiences, whatever.

Thank you for reading.

No
Just no, cuckboy

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>>18677145
Thank you for your input.

>>18677104
Job listings are wishlists, describing the ideal candidate. If that person walks in, the job is theirs. If that person doesn't show up, the employers will pick the best who does apply. If you can convince them you know enough excel to learn more, and that you're a fast learner, go for it.

And between now and then, teach yourself excel

Most likely they need you to be able to use it as a spreadsheet. Just basic functions like lookups and pivot tables. Learn just a bit of vba to make your knowledge sound more impressive than it actually is.

>>18678070
You're the third person to give me these exact recommendations now. Im going to spend the weekend getting comfortable with these things. Thanks a lot anon. I really appreciate it

Also sorry for the weird formatting. I'm a little drunk rn.

>>>/biz/
they'll know much better

Overthrowing your fucked government

Why didn't it work before?

I clicked with a girl today and we share three classes so if I fuck this up then I'm having an awkward semester

Become friends with them. Get to know them. If you like them gauge if it would be cool to take it to the next level, if their a air headed cunt stay friends. You just have to start talking to them. something that helped me out a lot was to stop viewing them as women. And as just another bro, if they don't like you fuck'em. There loss and they probably not worth your time if you have nothing in common. Don't waste your time with people you don't have anything in common with. Learn from my mistake.

>>18677017
Same, but guy.
I don't know. I've tried to initiate conversations with a lot of people, and have come across annoying every time.
I'm a senior in college, so time is running out, and that urgency is probably making everything worse.
Sorry, I don't have advice, but we're in the same boat, if that's comforting, friend.

>>18677072
I'm in my third year and it sucks that I haven't made any progress socially. It's unfortunate that you're experiencing this too

>>18677017

try a new style, always have a different style, experiment with new fashion.

You need to tune into those make up guru tutorials on youtube, which will help.

watch the weird shit.

Put things in your butt.

>>18677049
Traps are as far as I am willing to go

>>18677058
Been there, done that
Afraid my butthole will stretch and never close again so I don't like doing it

Don't know OP.

For reference, my SO and I still kiss/hug when the other gets home, get excited to be able to spend time alone together, and say I love you with every goodbye, and we've been together with two years.

Maybe we're still in honeymoon, who knows.

Sounds like a long honeymoon period ending. What you're describing happened to me with my first and only girlfriend although it took much, much longer. We broke up recently. Just do what you think is best. Talk it over with her if you feel that would have a positive outcome. Be aware that it may not work out. Have hope that it will work out. Be honest and you won't regret it later.

People are hard to get, hard to want to get, hard to be with and hard to leave. Women especially.

Hey bro some sincere advice from someone that HAS BEEN THERE: First of all, try talking to her about it, explain that lately she has been growing distant and this is making you feel worried that it might be something you're doing that is making her behave like that.

If she says you're being clingy and it's annoying her, just give her some space, i understand how you feel because i have loved too, i know how it is. You want to be with her all the time and let her know that you love her and yada yada, but you should NOT do this, have some self respect man, love yourself first, don't be that guy, don't make the same mistakes I did. Women grow bored of men like this because in their subconscious mind, as a man is less desirable to other women and less capable to pick up partners, he clinges to what he can get, thus making a second class male.

If she denies but keeps acting cold and distant, man, i'm gonna be honest with you, prepare yourself for the worst, because it's exactly what my EX said when confronted about the SAME SITUATION you described one and a half year into our relationship, not long after, i was left completely broken hearted.

LOVE YOURSELF FIRST, SO YOU DON'T END UP DEPRESSED AND SHATTERED LIKE I DID, HAVE PRIDE AND SELF-RESPECT, ALWAYS. And don't ever forget that, women are almost entirely emotional, sometimes they will simply do what they *feel* they should do, regardless of reason. Never take anyone for granted, specially women, be always prepared for an unexpected end to any relationship you ever have. This is LIFE advice. Good luck to you.

>>18676958
Dude just ask them for their numbers, arrange a nice date, and go from there. If they are relationship material you will know by the end of the date.

>>18676966
Do women just go on dates with guys they match with on Tinder like that, no questions asked? I doubt it.

You usually date someone after knowing the bare minimum about them, but no such thing exists in Tinder. I've already tried asking them about themselves, but after like two or three questions is starts feeling weird, as if I am interviewing them.

But if you think about it, that's exactly what Tinder is. An interview.

>>18676972
>hey bitch, do you like movies?
>cool, what the fuck are you doing tomorrow night?
>nothing? sweet lemee get your number to take you to see *movie title*

all that retarded interview shit should be done on the first date

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>>18676940
I know this is fucking bait man, but kill your wife, kill the niggers, and go out with a bang.

>>18676947
What has that monster done this time?

>>18676951
I don't know yet, but whatever it is, he can't keep getting away with it!

does this really deserve a thread? older people don't really understand social media. There you go. Explain that you are an attention whore trying to get the most likes and hardly follow/like people you actually know in real life, and that a lot of people are out there doing the same thing.

Serves you right for using Instagram you fucking weirdo

and?..
is this actually an issue that deserves a thread?

>>18676922
Kill a man and eat his heart to gain his courage. Alternatively read some stoic philosophy, take some vitamin D sups, and work out till you can do 100 push ups in a row.

>>18676938
I work out plenty, and it doesn't seem to help me.

Instead of speaking up for yourself just punch them in the face.

Nope, definitely not. If you can't be with that person in PERSON, then how do you expect to satisfy them? Escorts are fine, but fwb are cheaper.

Surely you're not looking to stay exclusive with them. How could you handle the strain? Just go with the flow and let what happens happen.

Whats okay and whats not okay in a relationship depends on you.

Are you okay with your gf sexting and dating escorts?
If yes. Than its okay
If no. Than its not okay.

Talk to them about it. See whats it about. Tell them it bothers you. And if possible ask them to stop. If they get aggressive or simply wont. Its time to move on.

>Also LDR for a few years.
>See each-other every 6 months.
>Moving in together.

Hate to be a doom sayer. But from my experience I can say that you two are going to hate each-other within 3 months of moving in.

>>18676908
>6908▶
>Nope, definitely not. If you can't be with tha
they were still looking at escorts and sexting while I was with them. it makes me feel like they're not interested in me. sexting/escorts still feels like cheating.

>>18676869
Search for exciting events in your town on facebook then wait till she's online then hit her up with some casual "hey what's up how was your day blah blah?" etc. Don't chat for too long, just tell her you've been planning to go on a "cool exhibition/concert/whatever you found/" and ask her to join you

Either be forward and ask her if she will go out with you or heavily imply that it is a date "would you like to get some coffee with me some time"

Keep your plans very open. Do something simple like meet at a cafe and have coffee and then go for a walk in a nearby park or check out some shops near the cafe or something. Don't decide what you are doing beforehand and don't leave the entire decision up to her.

>>18676905
I don't drink coffee. Would there be something presumptuous about asking her to go out for some drinks?