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>>18675982

so is rick and morty still funny

>>18675986
Please don't ignore my problem I need help

>>18675988

im not a doctor, go see one

unless you mean existentializm

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You don't and you'll never know unless you ask. Communication is key, I've been turned down plenty of times. Sure, it sucks but you get up and dust yourself off again and try again. Unless you intend on being a lonely faggot for the rest of your life.

You have to look for contextual clues. What situation are you in? What kind of girl is she? If you really don't know, you might as well try asking her out and see how she reacts. If she's not interested, you can stay friendly.

>>18675963
Sometimes this, but this anon forgets flirting exists, and the fact sometimes asking is a turn off. Sometimes theyre easier to read all depends on the woman.

If she texts you daily, initiates conversation, is always asking what your plans are leaving it open to invite her by saying "oh im.not doing anything" or "that sounds fun!", making a visual effort to be near you in group settings, touches you a lot, laughs at every dumb joke you make, compliments you a lot, especially your looks, and claims to like or at least be open to absolutely everything you say you like, its a pretty big fuckin hint.

But of course that also varies woman to woman. Ive found it consistently and generally true but youll find the odd girl whos just like that.

>>18675913
bump

If it's been like this a couple days, yes go to the doctor.
They can clean your ear for you.

In the future don't put shit in your ear, nothing belongs there.

>>18675997
i dident mabey got to much sun

If she gives one-word responses, takes really long to answer, and never initiates conversation, then it's safe to assume she's not into it. Think about how you would treat someone that constantly talks to you even though you're not interested. It's not so different.

>>18675860
You can see it in their face and eyes hear it in their tone and judge it from their conversation.

Is she engaging in conversation and using open ended phrases that require or allow for answers? No. You arent bothering her.

One word answers no eye contact and monotone voice? Shes being polite by not telling you to fuck off.

>>18675860

Does she ever initiate a conversation?

Hi, I'm Jake. Nice to meet you.

harem

>>18675829
Reverse gangbang

I've started conversations with people who I thought were pretty "normal" and ended up talking about very obscure subjects. Sometimes people have hidden depths. Sometimes they don't, but you'll never find out if you don't try.

In any case it's good to start with more general subjects and see where it goes. Your ability to talk exclusively about hyper-obscure topics doesn't make you special or better than others.

here are a list of things i know:
Its not what you say, its how you say it
male interactions are based upon talking down to each other in a playful way. Also, groups of males may pick on someone in particular as a joke.
get eye contact right
natural facial emotions are also important
laughter should be genuine

Not to hijack but I need help making new friends. I'm fine with holding conversations and such but I can't for the life of me make new friends.

Just started community college this week and haven't talked to anyone so far, can't think of anything to say to new people to be friends with them.

Profile pictures that aren't you is kinda cringey desu.
Don't be ashamed of who you are.

>Selfie
Not recommended unless you are objectively good-looking.

>Picture with a bunch of other people
If you have nothing else, it can work.

>Picture if you with a pet or animal
This will be seen as cute or lame depending on the kind of person you are.

>Picture of something that isn't you
This is seen as pathetic unless you are extremely attractive (in which case you will be perceived as humble).

>Picture taken of you by someone else where you are casually enjoying a social activity
This is ideal.

>Selfie taken in your room with poor lighting
This is pathetic no matter the circumstances.

>>18675773
I don't have friends to take pictures of me though lol

When you're capable of spending a Sunday alone without missing your ex.

>>18675579
I miss what I had with my ex years ago, not what she is now.

Does that count?

>>18675612

Ehh. Might as well put yourself out there and see how you feel. You'll have to move on someday.

this is honestly a good question because like all of my good friends i know i met in elementary/middleschool... wow

Don't put pressure on yourself.
I try to approach people with the attitude of "It doesn't matter what they think of me, but maybe I can say something to make their day a little better."
It's corny but it's helped me get over my social anxiety.

By their mid-20s, most people have an established circle of friends that they met in school/college/work/some kind of extracurricular, regular activity. This makes it hard to simply approach someone. If a total stranger showed up and asked you to be friends, how would you react?

Friendships don't fall out of the sky, they form over time and through shared experiences. This is why people make friends in places where they're forced to spend time with other people, such as school or work.

If you want to make new friends, the most surefire way to do it is by enrolling in some kind of class or regular activity that will put you in contact with other people. Eventually, if you're open to interacting with others, you will make friendly acquaintances. By asking to see them outside of the environment of the class/activity (such as by asking them out for coffee or inviting them over to your place), you can take that relationship to the next step and form an actual friendship.

Just like any other relationship, it takes time and effort, and it won't happen unless you put the work in.

One thing I can recommend is that you need to swallow your pride if you want to keep your friends. Let's say you have an old friend you haven't talked to in ages because he hasn't contacted you to do anything. You make the mistake of assuming that he doesn't want to hang out with you, so you don't contact him either. This is stupid. Sometimes people are busy, or they feel weird about restarting a conversation, but that's it. Go ahead and talk to them, ask them out. If they excuse themselves or ignore you, then there's your answer, but you'll never know unless you try.

>>18675538
>Is it normal for a straight guy to have an "experimental" phase?

not as normal as your probably hoping. you're right to be cautious.

it also matters, depending on the type of friends you have. Are you all dorks? dudebros?

if your friends were on 4chan, what boards would they likely haunt?

if your answer is /b/ or /pol/, theyre trolling you.

>>18675583
>if your answer is /b/
>trolling

Are you sure? That's probably like the 2nd gayest board on 4chan, after /gif/.

>>18675583

They are all fairly dorky and/or hipstery. None of them have extensive experience with women, but none are virgins, either. Some seem to be under the impression that having a gay experience makes you cool and "worldly".

Gotta prove you had diarrhea

>>18675530
None. If you've never gotten a ticket before, go to court, apologize, and the judge will most likely give you PBJ and you'll have to pay court costs. Unless the cop screwed something up, or doesn't bother showing up for the court date, outright dismissal isn't going to happen.

>>18675573
The cop told me I couldve pooped in a bush, isn't that indecent exposure? amd yes I'll try that. it's kind of embarrassing I almost shit myself in front of the guy.

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>>18675513
Hotline for suicide. Go to seek psycholog. Call your parents.

Whatever you do, dont be yourself and reach for help until it is too late.

>>18675534
none of the suicide lines are answering and the ones in croatia failed because it's too poor of a country. I literally have nobody and I already overdosed.

>>18675557
>overdosed
Ambulance it is then. They will pump you, give you somethibg to chill, talk with you and then send you to specialists.

CALL AMBULANCE!

>>18675498
>Is this bad? Am I gonna fired?

We are not your boss. Also, we weren't there, so we don't know what happened. Do you think they have a reason to fire you?

>>18675504
Not sure. I'm kinda slow with the register and taking peoples orders. Haven't familiarized myself with the interface.

I also do cleaning. But I have a lot of downtime where I'm not sure what to do so I start cleaning the windows and doors.

>>18675498
Why would they fire you?

>>18675490
Sounds like you are reading something you dont enjoy at all or you need to go see doctor.
>>>/lit/

If you are required to read it, try skimming. Instead of trying to remember everything, aim to read the first and last sentence of each paragraph, and sentences with key words in then. Then, when you reach the end of each chapter, write a summary. Five to ten bullet points of key info. Engaging with the text in this way helps with returned and focus.

Also, take a break every hour or so to walk around and think about something else for ten minutes.

>>18675605
I am reading some things I don't enjoy at all, but this still happens even when it's stuff I actually want to read.
Already medicated though.
>>>/lit/9962500/

>>18675622
I'll give that a shot. Already skimming accidentally, might as well use the extra time to write some stuff down.

Your entire generation consists of people who hate themselves but also think of themselves as superior to everyone else for no discernible reason.

at least you have a gf beside the joke( whih is ssad truth for me ) you just need to be more social with finding real friends.

>>18675448

Do things that make you feel good. Stop focusing so much on what makes you miserable. It's fine to feel bad every once in a while, but you should also feel good every once in a while.