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How do you stop being addicted to loneliness.

Some backstory, my family is quite well off, and while my sisters and parents have always got along, ever since I was a kid I never really enjoyed the same stuff they did. They still love me but there's an obvious divide, which is fine. We moved every 2-3 years when I was growing up, all around the world, and I got used to leaving behind everything and moving on with life really fast. After 5 or 6 times I stopped bothering to make new friends as much. This doesn't mean I became a friendless shut in, just never really got that close to anyone. Now I'm 20 and still struggle to get close to people, I keep going through this yearly circle of getting a new friend group, basically as a different person, and then isolating myself a short while later and not talking to them again. I don't know how to stop this but it means I spend a good 3-4 months of the depressed and lonely. Last year I started university, I'm doing really well, get along with everyone in my course, get good grades and get along well with my lecturers, but I'm afraid that I'll do something drastic to separate myself, which is worrying cause I have another 2 years, and I'm living with friends this year. Please help if you have any understanding of this situation, sorry if this post is a mess I'm writing this on mobile so expect formatting and proofreading to be garbage.
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Don't wanna bump but have to lol
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Now this is just ironic
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Fuck, please help me

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What is too much for a significant other? Is grabbing another persons arms or hands too far?

Am I overreacting for almost breaking up with a girl who was getting friendlier (touching arm/hand) than I liked with my friend?
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>>18680295
Everyone has different boundaries of what they are and aren't okay with. Relationships don't have a rulebook for acceptable and unacceptable interactions with other people. Talk to her! You can tell her it made you feel uncomfortable when she did that, without demanding her to stop the behavior. You can communicate and compromise instead of breaking up with her the second she does something you don't like
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>>18680295
1: it's a little flirty, but everyone has different levels of touchiness and for some people that's completely innocuous.
2: yes, you are over reacting if it's just that. Is she touchy with everyone, or is it just him. Is she also a close friend of this guy?
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>>18680303

1. She says she had no intention of flirting with him or anything but it made me and his GF uncomfortable even

2. First time they met, friend of mine, haven't really been around too many other guys together

She did try to make our relationship FB official without saying anything at all to me earlier in the day but I refused for my own reasons.

Is she just getting back at me? or laying groundwork because she doesnt believe in our relationship? I get alot of female attention in front of her but I always deny and try to make her feel secure..

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I am deeply in love with an aro/ace woman who happens to be one of my best friends. We hang out all the time and share so many interests and I can't help but be infatuated with her. I haven't been in a romantic or sexual relationship in years because I generally identify as aromantic as well, but this woman is driving me absolutely bonkers.

I can never be with her, or ever tell her how I feel because despite whatever nigh-impossible shot in the dark that she accepts me, it will fuck up our friendship forever.

I understand I will have to live with this forever holding these secret feelings for her, but I think I'll be fine, I just wanted to vent this anonymously without fear of a mutual friend being a dick and ruining everything by telling her.

Does anyone have any sort of advice for me to get over myself already.
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>>18680282
Either stop thinking about her romanticly and simply platonic. Or stop cowering from your wants and desires. Go after the things you want in life or die with regret.
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>>18680282
>aromantic
Sure way buddy. Ask her on date already dingus. Do handholding.
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>>18680282
>aro
>ace
>aromantic

What? Stop being a special snowflake and ask her out if you like her.

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>starting university in a few days
how do I meet people and be more social? I can't just insert myself into somebody elses social group.

tell me, how do people make friends at university?
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join a club or a sports team
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>>18680225
you don't

welcome to hell
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>>18680225
Present your self as social and open. Be happy, smile, and sacrifice a virgin to Satan. Then wish for friends.

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Alright, so HOW do i stop my dipshit friend from bringing his beverage over and fucking leave it on my table while it's still full EVERY FUCKING TIME.

Is there a method to teach him that he shouldn't use other peoples room as a general trash container and to at least drink it out if he wants to leave it with me?
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>>18680056
>hey fuck face stop leaving your drinks on my shit
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>>18680056
my friend use to leave his drink in my car EVERY time i would take him places so when he would get out of the car i would just throw his drink out the window right when he shut the door. we always end up laughing but it kinda worked
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>>18680056
"Hey friend, before you leave, don't forget to take your drink with you." He will probably appreciate your thoughtfulness, you spiteful hatehoarder.

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I'm pretty much just trying to get a girlfriend again. I had one in high school all of senior year until last November (2ish years). I took a break, and now I want to get back out there. I just started my second year of community college. I haven't had any chance to talk to people since class just started, but other than that what am I supposed to do? It's not as easy as high school, and it's not like I can just go to a bar. None of my friends go to parties, so I never get invited to any if there even are any. I don't even like to drink/smoke anyway. I've tried Tinder and MeetMe apps but I hardly get matches, and when I do the conversations end quick. I'm clean so I don't smell bad, zero facial hair, a clean hair cut, and I have pretty good social skills for a "nerd". I'm not beautiful but I know I'm not ugly.

In my free time I go to the Student Center with my friends and chill, but everyone is just in their groups or has their headphones on. I've found other things online about going to "Meet Ups" for various hobbies, but I know that if I go to one for my interests it's just going to be all dudes.

Advice?
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>>18679947
bump
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>>18679947
Make friends with the people at your college, join a club with woman or something. Develop a social circle and try to meet someone thru this circle. But please dont fall into the pit trap that is trying to be friends with someone and moving on from there, it usually ends badly.
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>>18679999
>the pit trap that is trying to be friends with someone and moving on from there
Not OP, but can you elaborate on what you should do instead? Only ask out strangers? Shouldn't you know the person at least somewhat before wanting to be in a relationship?

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>Hes such a loser, he doesn't even have a gf!

>be me, just got a new car that I busted my ass for. "Anon, have you even had a girl in the passenger seat yet? Why even buy a nice car if you can't even get chicks? You are such a loser."

God forbid I live my life for me at the ripe age of 21. I guess I'm just the biggest fucking loser in the world cuz I'm not smashing seven different cunts at once.. Why do people even give a fuck?!
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>Why do people even give a fuck?!
I dunno, you tell me.
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How about stop being an insecure shit and not give a fuck what other people think? People who think that way are dumb as fuck regardless. You don't need a girlfriend for anything. Thats for you to decide. Everyone else is either jealous or conceited. So like i said, you don't need a girlfriend to enjoy your life. That will come when you want. They don't understand. Have some confidence.
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>>18679927
I don't know. That's why I'm asking. Why shit on someone's new car for something as stupid as that, are people really that vain?

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Wasnt sure if this was the best board to post to, first time on this board, didnt see anything related in the catalog. Pic Unrelated.

I keep hearing people saying you dont need a degree to get a decent job anymore.Usually this is advice from people WITH degrees already and established somewhere, which makes me questions the validity of their advice.

Ive been working for a couple tech companies for about a year and half and was making decent money before being laid off due their financial issues. Ive been applying to help desk jobs and Jr. Systems admin positions and cant seem to get any bites..considering finishing my degree in information systems. should I or shouldnt I? FYI: I live in Los Angeles if that changes anything.

TLDR; Are B.S. still worth getting in 2017? Are they still needed? Are certain field easier to get into that others without degrees?
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>>18679915
If you're already in the shit and see the finish line you're pretty much already gonna complete it. Don't take up valuable front page space please.

sage btw
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>>18679921
lol
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>>18679915
Anyone else?. Preferably not someone with actual advice other than "get off the front page" ?

And to clarify, finishing my degree would mean me having to go back to schoool after a 5 year absence.

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>be me 6/10 male
>parents forced me to join choir in middle school
>go on a trip in 8th grade with choir
>after we sing, we go to a water park
>don't want to be there because I'm a skinnyfag
>hanging out with my friend Michael
>he is my only friend on the trip
>he has more friends and is hanging with them
>am uncomfortable in large groups, especially when I don't know most of them
>we spend the day going on rides
>one ride is a 2-person ride
>everyone starts pairing up
>Michael is already paired up with someone else
>soon enough it's just me and a girl
>her name is Pam 8/10
>she is quiet like me
>talked to her a few times, she seems alright
>go on the ride, it was fun
>trip ends, I go home
>Pam and I talk to each other occasionally but not a lot
>don't talk at all freshmen year
>be me sophomore in high school
>joined school robotics club freshmen year
>made some friends
>start to come out of my shell
>Pam joins robotics club
>start talking to Pam again
>start having feelings for her
>Team is split into smaller teams of 3-4 people
>Pam is on my friend, Kevin's team
>talk to Kevin as an excuse to talk to Pam
>am betafag so I don't ever express my feelings
>have another friend, Roy
>Roy asks Pam out and they start dating
>can't pursue Pam any longer because Roy is my bud
>feelsbadman
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>still talk to Pam a lot
>become good friends
>she's also in my chemistry class
>miss class for a few days because I was on a robotics trip
>Pam has things going on so she doesn't go
>need chemistry notes
>ask her for her number so she can send me the notes
>success
>have acquired girls phone number
>start texting each other
>usually conversations about nothing
>feeling good
>be the summer between sophomore and junior year
>be at a bonfire Kevin was having
>Pam was there
>talk to her most of the night
>find out she broke up with Roy
>now I can pursue her again
>but am betafag so I don't ever ask her out
>be a junior in high school
>robotics started up again
>Pam says she is very busy and doesn't know if she wants to do it again
>robotics is the only time I would be able to talk to her face to face
>convince her to keep doing it
>start texting every night until the early hours of the morning
>be at robotics
>nothing to do
>Pam asks me to help her study
>feelsgoodman
>making progress
>friends ask me if we're dating
>say no but am pleased that people are thinking that it's a thing
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>next day am texting Pam
>start talking about the upcoming homecoming dance
>she asks me if I'm going
>I say I don't know
>I ask her if she's going
>she's being forced to go by her friends
>says she's going to be really board and wants to find out who's going
>she says she doesn't have a date and it will be a miracle if she gets one
>tell her that miracles can occur
>she says it won't happen
>decide to finally become the alpha male I was always meant to be and prove her wrong
>ask her out to homecoming
>she takes forever to respond
>this is the scariest moment of my life
>she finally says that I don't have to ask her to homecoming just so I can win the argument
>tell her that I really like her
>she takes forever to respond again
>my heart is pumping
>she tells me that she is very surprised and this came out of the blue
>i thought it was super obvious
>that's woman for you I guess
>tells me she wants to say yes but she is very busy and needs to take time to think about it
>part of me dies inside
>feelsverybadman
>still have a bit of hope
That was this morning
Still waiting for her answer
Don't know what to do with myself so I write down my thoughts here
What do I do?
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>>18679936
tip act like u don't care, best answer for girls. this doesn't mean hur dur whatever lulz. u can still be sad about it but get over it as quick as possible and be 100% fine with her next time u see her. u did good not asking her out when u saw her, really beta doing that even if u think its alpha it lowers odds unless u have been flirting well

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I (27F) have been with my boyfriend (30) for 5 years. I love him and things are generally great except for one thing. A sexual fetish he has. He first told me about it last year and I was glad he trusted me enough to share it but as of late, (like the past 2 months) he talks about it frequently...nearly everyday, always brings it up during sex especially and keeps begging me to fulfill it to the point where I am really starting to get annoyed because it doesn't really excite me. How can I get him to just stop? I tried telling him to cool down because it makes me a little uncomfortable but he just keeps bringing it up. What should I do?
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What's the fetish?
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>>18679893
what's his fetish anon?

i'm a girl and embarrassingly enough have a crippling piss fetish.

i told my boyfriend of two years this when we were dating and he wasn't really into it, but would occasionally do it for me.

i think if you occasionally fulfill it he'll stop nagging and you won't have to do it constantly or have to hear him talk about it constantly
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>>18679901
>>18679894

My boss (who is 50 years old) sometimes flirts with me. I don't really reciprocate and I told my bf. He asked if I find my boss attractive and I was like "I dunno kinda?" because he really is cute but in an older "dad" kind of way and I always thought he was way too old for me even if I were single. So basically my bf wants me to go on a date with him, suck him off, film it on my phone and send it to him. He's told me more and he wants it to go further eventually but that's the main one he wants to start off with and he just WON'T stop talking about it.

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My girl has a flat ass...

Is she still a keeper?

I love girls with nice ass in terms of sexual attraction.
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Have a few bees sting her ass cheeks. It'll plump up that way Anon.
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>>18679855
>Is she still a keeper?
no
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>>18679861
Dude, bee stings might kill her.
All he gotta do is spank her until it's raw, red, and ready for pickin'.

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How to learn how to understand other people's complex emotions? In my early life I've been taught two things about feelings: that it's weakness and emasculation to show or even acknowledge them and that they should always remain hidden in order to not let anyone know what's going on at home. On the streets of my lumpenproletarian 'hood skills like fisticuffs and hustling were held in higher regard than say, being a good listener. As a result, I'm an emotionally stunted manchild whose feelings could fit in a teaspoon. It has never bothered me before: my friends were more or less the same, a little bit of watching and learning was all I needed to manage people and relationships. Till now.

Now I've got another friend who comes from a completely different background. She is very complex and sophisticated and has some psychological problems. Over the course of several last months we've grown somewhat close and I find myself more and more confused while trying to support, comfort and help her. A month ago I (obliviously and in good faith) said a horrible thing to her which caused her to cut contact (we live in different cities) for a long time, right now we talk again but I'm not sure if she's actually forgiven me and it definitely feels more cold and distant than before.

So here's my question: how do I learn how into emotions? How do I become a better, more considerate person? It's frustrating when I can set up a moonshine still or clock some cuck so fast they won't even know what hit them, but when someone I love confesses their troubles to me I can nod and say "How you suffer, my poor thing" at best and hurt them at worst. What do? Pic unrelated
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>>18679712
Send this same thing to her, so she can understand your situation.
Ask her to help you and explain you her emotions.
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>>18679719
I more or less did, not as a single message (I needed to compress several months' worth of communicating into a readable post), but she does understand. She seems frustrated with my helplessness when it comes to such matters, when we discussed it recently she expressed doubt it could be even learned or improved on in adulthood (I picked up the term "EQ" from her, I thought that's just some bullshit buzzword before). I'm not sure if I can expect her to keep around waiting for me to improve while getting burned by my every mistake. Right now she's in kind of a crisis and I only thing I can do is to say it's gonna eventually get better and it's not her fault; I basically advised her to talk to another, more mature friend of hers I know about, because actually helping her is as much in my reach as discovering Unified Field Theory. She probably keeps talking to me just because she trusts and feels somewhat comfortable with me and doesn't expect me to be useful anymore.
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words are meaningless, try changing emotional state instead

I start a new job in a few hours, and I'm very anxious about it. I don't want to show up a shaking mess, of course. So what are some good ways to reduce anxiety before I show up?
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I usually feel this way on the way there but once I am there I settle down

So be anxious! You'll settle down soon enough.
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>>18679672
I hope so anyway....
Even during the hiring process I was anxious as all hell.
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I still want a little more advice. Please?

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I was on a strict calorie diet where I couldnt go over 1500 calories for about 2 months. Before starting, I was 190 pounds. I lost ~10 pounds within the first 3 weeks, which brought me down to 180 pounds. After that, however, I didn't drop or gain a single pound. I kept track for the next month, but nothing changed. I even exercised every other day, but that made no difference. I'm really confused about weight loss at this point and really discouraged to continue trying to improve my body. Anyone know what may have happened?
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>>18679649
You have plateaued. Happens often enough.
From what I understand you need to change things up. Speak to a dietician or trainer for further advice.
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Yeah after the first month you'll lose at of weight then you'll hit a rock. It may take a few months to see results again, worst thing you can do is lower your calorie intake. Trust me you'll start losing weight again, slowly, but hey you may not be losing weight because your body is becoming more strong with muscle build up, that is a good sign keep it up friend
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Also 1500 is a little low for a man, your body may be in starvation mode which means you take more fat from foods. I suggest raising it to 1800-2000

>I'm interested in a girl
>She isn't
>Other girl is interested in me
>I'm not

Is anyone in similiar situation in life? Can I change it somehow?
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>>18679623
>give a chance to the other girl because you shouldn't waste your time with people who are not gonna give you what you want from them
>you win
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Fuck the girl that's interested
Disregard the one that isn't

>wash, rinse, and repeat

The one you want and that wants you too will come around anon, just have your shit together. it'll be better for the long run.
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>>18679628
>>18679634
>Hook up with other girl
>original girl get jealous and becomes interested
>you're still interested in original girl
>oops you got Other girl pregnant
>the end

I just know how this shit will turn out.

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