Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 263. page

>>18677881
>So how good an idea is it to confess your love for a friend that lives 1 000 km away?
Bad idea. Especially if you're not going to tell her in person.

If you really want to see or be with this girl then you need to take the risk of closing that 1000km gap.

However you may want to test the waters first by visitng her again. You need to ask yourself "Would I be okay living here? Is she really worth uprooting my life for?"
Dont assume she is going to uproot hers for you.

>>18677915
I guess I will visit her sometime since she still lives close to a lot of our friends. Going back to living there is not a possibility since I have ties here now, but we could always meet every couple of months or so.

>>18677933
>but we could always meet every couple of months or so.
You then have to acknowledge then that THAT is not an ideal relationship.
If anything you will just be friends with benefits.

>>18677862
It depends anon. The clear answer here would be a threesome, but that could be awkward as fuck.

But honestly, your relationship is already fucked if she "misses fucking other people".
Sorry op.

>>18677862
the moment you start fucking other people is it really a relationship? I don't understand how people think asking to do so would be a good idea, I'd definitely drop anyone who told me they wanted to

>>18677862
She'd be fine with you banging another chick too, right?

Bump because this concerns me as well

bee yourself xoxo
I needed this advice so hard when I went to uni it hurts

File: IMG_3032.jpg (860KB, 2091x2788px) Image search: [Google]

860KB, 2091x2788px

>>18677833
Literally, take care of your space. You are going to unit for yourself and you should behave that way. Too many people in freshman dorms trying way too hard when they should be building a foundation for a stable lifestyle. Figure out your sleep and wake cycles, talk to your roommate if you have one upon moving in about the level of cleanliness that is expected, and who is responsible for what, how often per week etc. I can't stress this enough: the more of a sanctuary, clean space and sleep chamber you keep your dorm room, the easier it will be for you to succeed. Keep your door open generally, and engage with your neighbors. Don't be afraid of what they think of you - most of them don't even know what they think of themselves. Be yourself! And be introspective. Learn what habits make you better and which ones make you worse. Try to go to bed at the same time most of the days so you can keep your class schedule appropriately. Focus on you first, then your space, then other people. It can be fun living in a dorm if you can keep your shit together and are not a pussy. Your roommate won't neccessarily be your best friend or your worst enemy. Just treat him like you would any other roommate in a bigger flat - hold him responsible for his things, his hours, and let him depend on you to take care of YOUR business. Don't be a pansy about talking about things that bother you or things you'd like to change once the living situation gets settled. This can be done with civility, try to be compassionate and act like an adult. Don't get caught with drugs or alcohol in your room - throw out empty bottles, keep your paraphernalia organized, clean and stored. Have fun!

Also, consider getting an aroma therapy machine and some essential oils to keep your place smelling fresh. Don't fill up your space with too many trinkets, and do your laundry. Laundry smells bad quickly in a small place.

>>18677752
It's human nature to attribute our flaws to other people.

File: aqNKQdY_700b.jpg (87KB, 592x774px) Image search: [Google]

87KB, 592x774px

>>18677752
Why do you care?

If they have their head in the sand others will notice. People who's opinion actually matters will see the true you

>>18677752

Its a silly thing to be refuse to rectify the way you view yourself with the way other people view you. Just because you don't interpret your actions a certain way does not mean other people don't interpret you differently.

Also, I'm immediately suspect of these kinds of stories because if this were really an isolated experience then people who refused to get to know you better wouldn't be an issue for you. If this is a problem you constantly run in to then logic would dictate that the common denominator is you.

If you're an ugly guy in poverty then sure :^)

>>18677706

only through castration can you become asexual through the very clinical definition, but even people with an inability to feel sexual arousal still chase after women like anyone else.

It's a choice. I got it as a part of my Schizoid personality disorder.

>>18677693

define 'start your life'.

otherwise, never, its never too late.

>At what point does someone with no social, romantic or work experiences whatsoever and minimum education has no hope anymore and is better off hanging himself or shooting up a school?

again, never. at any age you can get social, romantic and work experiences.

>>18677701
I don't know anon, I never heard about people making friends for the first time in their mid 20s.
And who's gonna hire a bum with no work experience?

>>18677713

>I never herad baout people making friends for the first time in their mid 20s

thats because you have no friends, and therefore no one to hear these stories from. trust me you are not somehow both a recluse and all knowing.

>and who's gonna hire a bum with no work experience


literal bum or just a guy who isn't working? cuz literal bums do get hired all the time. all you gotta do is apply for everything, fudge your resume a bit and lie about your inactivity.

You took a girl you've only known for a few weeks to Disneyland?

A few weeks? Doesn't sound like she has intention of being your gf. Stop taking her out and look for other girls. If she actually likes you, then she'll come back to you. You've done more than enough, now pasd the ball to her.

>>18677663
I'm a Los Angeles native it isn't that much of a big deal

Let her go.

>>18677589
I honestly don't know how I feel like I'm too attached

>>18677580
girls don't care about a guy "being good"

>>18677571
>10 days
Granted you weren't sick to the point of not being able to eat these 10 days there's no way you've lost anything

>>18677634
looking back during that time my upper body mass shrunk drastically because I wasn't working my muscles out as usual

https://youtu.be/V31OvTAFkVk

I know I'm not a pedophile, but if the whole world was calling me a pedophile it would still have serious consequences.

whatever they're saying about you is indicative of something else, even if its not true it at least paints a picture that you are lesser to other people. even if you believe its not true, if society sees it that way then yeah you kinda are.

>>18677568
Op here. This person just went on a ramble about how I'm the biggest loser on earth, this person doesn't know me. So all that they said was complete bullshit, and didn't even have any shred of truth at all. But why does it still bother me so much? I didn't let them know it bothered me, I fired back with what I could, but It didn't help my case

>>18677575
That makes sense.. Whatever though. He can think what he wants. And so can everyone else, who I am won't change.

>>18677567

you worry too much about trivial bullshit. no one sits around and says 'ew anon is an outsider, let us shun'

this is your social anxiety taking control of the ship. dont let it. acknowledge the truth: it literally doesn't matter if these people already know each other or not. even if no one lets you itno their little group, it legit does not matter.

>>18677567
Social anxiety is a joke

Jump in the deep end, faggot

When King Arthur's knights sought the holy grail each one entered the forest in the place that was darkest to him. All of us must enter the most frightening places and do what we dread most because that is what cause us to grow the most. Like my girl won't fucking confront her PTSD flashbacks and childhood rape. I keep telling her she needs to and she won't have flashbacks anymore.

Read Joseph Campbell and Carl Jung you fuck. Do some mushrooms.

File: d52.jpg (55KB, 600x600px) Image search: [Google]

55KB, 600x600px

>>18677599
You are the literal incarnation of Insane Wolf

File: encore-edit-10.jpg (609KB, 1008x1512px) Image search: [Google]

609KB, 1008x1512px

>>18677546
Oh, you can so talk to her briefly when she's sitting next to the old people.

>>18677552
yeah but I can't flirt with her without it being creepy, since I see the old folks every day.

by talking to her when you do wait on her. you wont get more than a few sentences in, but thats fine, it lets you lay down the ground work.

>>18677532
>history degree
https://www.mcdonalds.com/us/en-us/careers.html

File: 1406854338825.jpg (59KB, 500x375px) Image search: [Google]

59KB, 500x375px

>History degree
wew lad

>>18677532
volunteer work, just to get you out of the house and among people

please go away

File: loneliness.jpg (41KB, 825x619px) Image search: [Google]

41KB, 825x619px

>>18677601
Sorry man.

>>18677513
Why do you keep spamming this shit?

>>18677476
You made this thread yesterday.

File: genie madman.jpg (47KB, 487x432px) Image search: [Google]

47KB, 487x432px

>>18677516
heh

>>18677476
talk to me friend

ive been living the same day over and over for a few years now

except lately, since decemember actually
my days fade into each other
sleep doesnt feel like sleep, i dont drift away into unconsciousness, have a dream, then wke up unaware of where i am, fresh and reset with none of the previous days anxitites

instead, every fucking day i wake up it feels like I've been awake since it started in decemeber. lay in bed for hours, otssing, turning, physically exhausted but mind never sleep. what sleep i do get is interrupted by having to piss ever 5 hours. usually after i get up to piss oncei m still dead tired but my brain is so awake i have to get up.

so many of my days every day are merely lying in bed for an hour or two trying so hard to sleep but not being able to, having to accept this is normal because if i pause to grief over my loss of sleep itll destroy me.
can't acknowledge the loss anymore than these words or ill break

and yes, im definitely going crazy

im going to kill myself soon