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Threesome?

Decide whether this relationship with your boyfriend is important to you
Maintaining a long-term relationship takes work, and if you want to keep your relationship healthy part of that work will be cutting/reducing contact with this girl who you are tempted to cheat with.

If you're happy with your current relationship and want to stay in it you need to stop hanging out with the girl. If you want to be with the girl you need to break up.

>>18672478
>Should I bang a girl my age that I like for her personality and interests along with her physical appearance?
>Or should I keep taking my 52 year old Daddy's cock in my asshole while I dress up like a sailor moon girl and complain about gay sex.
Jesus, I thought I was fucked in the head.

>>18672446
>he'll end up hitting her and threatening to kill her again soon

is there any evidence of this beyond what she claims? Not saying she isn't being honest but it isn't uncommon for women to lie about that sort of thing.

>>18672450
I've seen bruises firsthand and regularly hold her when she cries after the threats. I don't believe she has any reason to lie about any of it, especially since I know she hasn't told anyone but me about most of it.

>inb4 I'm being the cucked nice guy friend
We're both straight women

>>18672465
does she have kids by him?
is she financially dependent on him?

>>18672416
The city is no different pal. Everybody is glued to their fucking cell phones all the time and nobody wants to socialize.
I live in a small town anyway and I love it but I'm settled down now it probably sucks for a youngster like you.

>>18672470
Yeah, I'm 26 and from age 16 when I moved here it's been escapism nonstop.

I could see retiring here as an option for anybody but it's just too quiet for anything else.

>>18672416
You're lucky man. I wasted all last year with a girl who broke up with me and then immediately got with "the guy I never had to worry about". I wish I was you OP. You're a stronger man than me for being able to break things off like that.

Might be best to drop it entirely. You're obviously pressing in on a very sensitive issue.

>>18672354
He's an idiot.

Take me for example, I'm a NEET and I too don't know shit (although I'm only 19 living with my parents so it's not really that needed), however if somebody asked me why then I would be honest : because I'm a lazy cunt but I'll be glad to learn if it was necessary.

One just can't avoid or get angry at flaws that are not supposed to happen and if they do then it's mandatory to fix them.

sounds like he lives in an abusive household. i wouldn't bring it up if he's not going to give you any answers.

>>18672334
You don't.

After giving it a lot of thought, your situation is pathetic.
You are considering religions a serious problem, possibly a future cause of a breakup

Dude. I ask you : why ? Just fuck it and become a reasonable atheist. What the fuck is the point in following any religion if it literally breaks relationships ? Is this what jesus wanted to happen ?

Some ideas:
>Talk to her very carefully about the danger of circumcision.
>Maybe you could try to get in contact with an more modern jewish commuity (Some don´t circumcise] Or just an openminded jew.
>Get an bit educated on the subject

>>18672334
You are religious and you never talked with her about religion? you fucked up.
And tell her that you dont want your son circumcised as she never told you about being jewish.

ask your parents/friends...? gofundme and post your mouth online? Join the military and get free dental.

Tfw you have to join the service for the dental plan

>>18672322
I will tell you that having severely fucked up teeth can disqualify you for service until it's corrected. So that point is probably out of the question.

You can be nice so many other ways beside complimenting... If they choose to compliment, there is something real about it.

Another thing to do is ask yourself "what if she really means it?" and feel the emotional response on your body when you believe the compliment.

try saying thanks and smiling

>>18672291
Literally what does this add? Did you not read the OP?

No.
You can make Amazon funbucks doing literal Indian tier work for them.
Don't expect to make more than $25 a month even working really hard at it.

it's called Amazon mturk

>>18672254
Just took a look. I appreciate the reply, but hell no lol. That isn't worth anybody time at all

Start an online business?

>>18672226
Advertise yourself but not by saying "muh depression".

>>18672238
Yeah I dont whine about anything on the channel I'm actually way more charismatic and positive minded now and my friends and family have noticed. But I don't really want to tell my friends about the channel or post it on social media until I have at least over 100 subscribers or I'll look like a loser. How should I advertise? I've been posting comments and chatting in live streams of other youtubers with similar channels and that's where I scored most of the ones I already have but it seems like its going slower than with all of them. Maybe I'm just being impatient but like I said I want to keep being motivated and only getting like 1 new subscriber each day isn't going to be enough to keep me motivated. I've considered doing filler vids like everyone else but I also want the quality of my content to remain solid. In the travel community it seems like if you don't at least do half your videos on urban exploration and abandoned places no one will give a shit about the rest of your stuff. But I'm not really into all that. And yeah I'd like to start getting monetized eventually but at the same time I want to enjoy what I'm doing

>>18672226
whats the channel

>>18672186
Use your fingers / hand to stimulate your penis. I know it probably sounds outlandish to you but give it a try, it's surprisingly good.

>>18672228
i detect sarcasm, but what do you mean? rubbing the foreskin?

>>18672186
Bro if you post-pubescent and don't know how to jack it, I'm sorry you ain't going to figure it out.

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Look up plastic surgery botch jobs?

thats the problem though, this shit has ruined my life and i want nothing to do with plastic surgery or people with it.

>>18672202
Suggested it because that crap grosses me out.

But for real, maybe you should share how you got hooked on it? Maybe there's a key there.

Guy here.
Girl I am not in a relationship with but have cared for deeply for ages and basically love recently confided her recent "sexual adventures" in me.
I sat there nodding like an idiot not knowing what to do or say to make it stop while internally screaming.

I am generally thick skinned, but I open up a dangerous amount and make myself stupidly vulnerable around the people I care. As in, things said by people I care naught for have no impact on me, but things said by people I care deeply for cut to the core of my being.

Knowing this, your girl likely feels a thousand times worse than I did.

I'll tell you what hurt me most (and probably your girl). It was the feeling that she didn't seem to care. No worse still, it wasn't even that she didn't care about the impact her words were having on me, it was that she just assumed her words weren't having an impact to start with. I felt like she was completely and utterly oblivious of how I felt about her. If I thought she was doing it to spite me, I could find solace in the fact that she at the very least was aware of my feelings, but not even that much was true.

Your girl likely feels the same way, that you didn't do it out of spite or to make her feel jealous, but simply because you don't think it is a big deal.

The only way to fix is to take 100% initiative and tell her all of this. That you do care, that you do know how much your acts hurt her, that you were basically self destructing over the idea of losing her etc.

As for your friend, I have no idea what it is you said exactly, but bros will be bros usually (especially over drunk arguments), unless you completely fucked him over with some trust breaking shit.

>What should I do?
Fucking apologize like a man.

Call your bestie, explain that you were an ass and were emotionally fucked up from your relationship ending and took it out on him.

>I want a long distance relationship when my relationship didn't start that way.
But fucking why?

Sounds like you made a big decision to move to another country without making this decision WITH your ex while you were still together. Bad move.

>What do?
Apologize to your ex. Explain why moving overseas was so important and how it never occurred to you that moving would come between you and your hunny because you were more focused on the experience.

If you want both people in your life, you need to be the one to take a hit and make the next move.

>>18672178
>I'll tell you what hurt me most (and probably your girl). It was the feeling that she didn't seem to care.

This guy gets it, unfortunately.
Your actions show that you didn't care about your girl, when you obviously fucking do.

So what exactly do you need ? How to convince your boyfriend ?

A lot of friends our age have been moving in together with their SO's that they've been dating for two or three years; I'm not sure if it's right to compare but it's hard not to feel the "they love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together/are willing to take the big step, why doesn't he?" He and I have been together for a long time and even so communication sometimes feels like its pulling teeth since he's very stoic and it's a cultural thing to not talk about your emotions for him. His reasons for wanting to stay is: His father is very sick (cancer w/ metz to other systems,) and he's a first generation citizen, so his parents (as sweet and as accommodating as they are) would have a hard time living without his financial contribution and there's no denying the outright dependence on him. However, his brother, I believe, is capable of paying the rent without my boyfriend's help -- and my boyfriend can't even communicate to his parents in their own native language properly. My boyfriend tells me it's more than just this and that there's an emotional aspect and security that his parents get from having him around, even if they don't speak. Furthermore, he tells me the commute would be longer since my new place will be farther (but in fact, it's only by a couple of minutes if he takes the more expensive train, but he grimaced at my suggestion so I don't really have anything to say there...)

(Cont. wow I didn't realize I typed so much will probably get 0 replies page 10 - probably gonna be like 4 or 5 more posts.)

>>18672091
Oh uh, I'll finish getting my questions out there, kept getting Connection error when posting. I mean, to be honest if we put it like that I feel like a dickweed just saying that. I don't even know if it's alright to be selfish about something like this.

He's told me that he cannot live with me because he feels tied down by his familial obligation and I completely understand where he's coming from. Even if he said "no" simply, I don't have the right to compromise on what makes him happy. After much reflection, it's clear our values don't line up right now. (Side note: I've always wanted to get married because I felt like it was how people end up living together and mutually spoiling each other with love and affection, but he has convinced me that marriage is just some big ceremony and that people don't need to get married to live together. I genuinely don't know if this is good or bad, since it could be just arguing semantics? I'd appreciate some insight into that too I guess I'm fucking retardy.)

I call bullshit on her not having at least some sort of fantasy. I think the problem may be less about what you are doing and more of whether or not she wants to be sexual with you.

How long have you two been together?

>>18672076
Every girl wants a MMF threesome. Suggest it.

does she have a history of abuse?

>>18672070
That's correct. Girls have friends too.

>>18672072
Virgin spotted.

There's no way to know for sure unless you just straight up ask her. She obviously likes you and wants to keep talking to you so just see where it goes. Try flirting with her a little bit and see how she responds.

>>18672070
that will depend on your genetics