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How do I ask for a raise? Just found out I'm being fucked in the ass by earning less than half the average salary of my position at $350 weekly. That's so far left on this chart's curve it's not even visible.
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What are your hours and how did you arrive to that rate?
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>>18085594
37 hours. I'm there as long as the doors are open and am the sole technician.
$350 was my starting pay and I'm working on year three at this place.
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>>18085607
Well, you've got your argument right here. Eat your resentment over a rotten, but mutually agreed upon contract, and find a more agreeable sum. Learn as much as you can about your business and your alternatives.
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How to deal with someone with BPD 2017-02-27 06:31:15 Post No.18085575
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How to deal with someone with BPD
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My roommate/friend has BPD, and I'm worried it's going to ruin our relationship.
The main problem is that in addition to having BPD, he's terrified of any kind of confrontation and hides his emotions all the time. If someone upsets him, he'll usually just say nothing and stew in the negative feelings.
I know that the disorder is affecting our friendship because we'll go through periods where we're really close and hanging out all the time, and then suddenly I'll barely see him for days or weeks on end - all of which is in line with the unstable relationships people with BPD tend to maintain. But it can be hard to figure out why things changed because he won't tell me if something I did upset him (whether his feelings were rational or not).
He wants to get better and is trying really hard, but in the mean time, how do we keep our friendship and living situation healthy?
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BPD here,
we suck.
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>>18085579
Well I still need to make this work for another year since I already renewed my lease, so...
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>>18085586
You're dumb as fuck. People with BPD are barely even human. They will do anything, blame their awful behavior on someone else, and play the victim every single time. There is no way to fix them.
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Another major thread
Trying to figure out what I want to major in. Currently in computer science however the program here is very dull, dry, and outdated. Plus, I'm accepting I'm no good at math. Everything outside of tests I can do because it's on my own time and resources and etc. but tests are a no.
Anyway I want to change majors but am not sure what to. I never was pushed into anything specific as a kid and never had the foresight to develop any talents. My interests are pretty vague so i'm just kind of feeling my way through this. What I'd like are some resources in terms of which college major to go into. I don't even want to get into "what do you want to do for the rest of your life" because I doubt I'll be in one specific field for the rest of my life, and that existential shit drives me insane.
Could you recommend some things to do to help me get a grasp on the major I want?
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>>18085410
college is for transgenders and commies, be a real man and drop out.
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are you a high school senior about to enter college?
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No, I tried that, it didn't go very well. I would if I had some well-defined talent that would give me a 99% chance of making money/being successful. Plus a strong support group. I have neither of those which is why I'm going to college.
also communists are alright as long as they aren't incredibly retarded intersectional lunatics.
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I need some major advice bad.
I'm writing an essay on the short story Sealed Off by Zhang Ailing, no problem writing my thesis or the paper as a whole, but i require 2 outside source journal citations which in a way support my viewpoint.
Problem is that after going through every single research database my school has I have come to the conclusion that absolutely no one in the academic field has written anything over this specific short story, ever.
TDLR, I need 2 outside source citations that don't come from the book itself when writing my paper, problem is that no one in academics has ever published anything about this short story, am I fucked for not providing 2 outside sources and only provididng in book sources? How do I circumvent this?
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>>18085404
it's called wikipedia you dumb faggot. Go to the wiki page and then just cite their sources.
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>>18085404
and why ffs do you think that to support your views the papers need to be about that story?
Also, ffs, databases of scientific articles are pretty vast. Don't say shit like "noone in academic field did that", for that just sounds stupid. Use google scholar
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>>18085404
You need two outside citations. Do they actually have to be supportive? You can't say "here's an alternative viewpoint, but I disagree because X"?
You also can't find something that parallels the idea you're trying to get across from another work?
You could also just anonymously post something on a discussion forum somewhere and reference that. Does the citation have to be from an academic source? I know people who teach at universities like to think that no one else ever has ideas (or wastes time wanking each other over literature) but isn't the exercise to find citations to include?
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How to stop overthinking/being paranoid 2017-02-27 05:02:33 Post No.18085370
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How to stop overthinking/being paranoid
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So, I have this crippling habit of overthinking about the smallest shit, which usually ends up in misunderstandings with me and my gf, leading to fights. I always jump to some sort of conclusion I made up in my head and not think about the facts.
ex.
>be me
>look on Snapchat stories
>see gf having fun with her friends
>immediately thinking she's hooking up with another guy
>get paranoid, start pacing around the house
>accuse her of cheating on me
>get into fight
inb4 she's a sloot;
she's focused more into getting into med school, nerdy, in school clubs, and came from a semi-conservative, Filipino household. Also, she only has had (and currently) 1 bf: ME
I just want to stop this erratic overthinking cause I'm tired of getting into senseless fights over misunderstandings.
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I'd say accusing her of cheating on you with no evidence is where the real fuck-up is at.
also paranoia about cheating can do all sorts of things to your perceptions of reality. it can make men she's talking to seem more attractive than they actually are. it can make you imagine that every gathering she goes to is loaded with tons of potential mates. it's paranoia, and you need to deal with it yourself, instead of unleashing it on her.
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>>18085382
this of course has to be balanced with the fact that she *can* cheat, and that she even *might* cheat, but that is no excuse for going completely paranoid
just want things to be alright for you, anon
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>>18085370
I suffer to something similar. I've learned to accept that I can't trust my own thoughts and reach out to friends/loved ones to talk to when I think I'm over thinking. I know it's really hard, but you have to learn to cope by destracting yourself and adressing your thoughts calmly. For example, if I where you I would tell my gf about my paranoia issues and alert her gently whenever I got these fealings. Follow these simple steps and don't sperg out, and you'll be alright anon.
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>20 years old
>Want to be an animator
>Worked in construction
>Intense dis-satisfaction with simply working a job
>Only saw every house and car as garbage and thought about killing myself every day
A lot of people say it's not stable, but I feel that a lot of people are completely ignorant to the skill of animation. They partially believe it can't be taught.
I've no desire to bring life into the industrial world, so I don't need to support a family. Even if I one day change my mind, I'll probably be making a decent amount of money by then.
I believe it's really the only way for a person like me to go. I don't see worth in material goods. Every dollar I've ever earned has either gone to art supplies or it has stayed in my bank account. I'll never be able to live with myself if I'm just living to make money, and I'll likely kill myself if my life ever boils down to that.
Is it a bad idea to follow my dream? I've noticed that I've got the mental capacity to succeed in animation, and animators have got to come from somewhere. I've had a good taste of what it entails, and I have the mental fortitude to sit in front of a computer doing terribly boring shit for hours if there's a good objective in my mind.
People say my desires will change, but I doubt it. I already desire children at my current age, but I feel that it's wrong to bring more people into this world.
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My sister told me that I'm very young, and that I should take advantage of my youth for the chance to fuck-up and fail.
I believe her.
Tomorrow, I intend to tell my father what I want to do with my life. He showed me so much of the world via laboring with him. I now know there's no other way for me to roll.
I keep getting told to go to computer science/business administration, but I know these fields are just as devoid of meaning as construction.
I believe, to an extent, that no one knows better than myself. People can't feel what I feel, so their words are partially superficial.
Is there anyone here that can think of a good reason to dissuade me from following through?
I've come to realize it's all just a skill. I'll be happy animating commercials as long as I'm animating.
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>>18085299
animation jobs do not exist in the USA anymore, assuming you mean traditional 2D.
2D pre production is done here so at best you can get a job as a storyboard artist.
here's what you do, make a list of currently on air animated shows, and multiply that by ten.
THAT is the number of animation jobs that exist in america today. so your friends are right, it is not stable, hell its hardly sustainable, you are actually more likely to get drafted in the NFL, statistically.
i love animation, its beautiful and fun. but its not something thats really done by americans anymore, and the reason its not done by americans is because its way cheaper to do it overseas so even if you go live overseas you'd be over worked and underpaid.
>all my money goes to art supplies or my bank
the problem here isn't that its an argument of more money vs less money. its an argument of money vs no money.
they arent saying 'oh you'll never afford a nice car, or a big house'. they are saying oyu will literally become homeless because unless you're legit lucky there is no job for you.
you're competing for whats gotta be less than 30 jobs.
my advice? animate some shorts. go for it. if you can do that on your own then you'll know whether or not its worth doing as a career.
spoiler alert: if you can't finish animated shorts on your own than you are not going to have the willpower for a career in animation.
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>>18085318
If you don't get into CalArts you're fucked. It's essentially the only college that companies hire from. Hope you have a good portfolio
PS you can do a regular job and pursue animation on the side
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During the summer, do I take a class that I want to take because it's fun, or a class that I need to take for my degree?
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depends on what your schedule is looking like
if you have a FT summer job I'd take the easier class
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>>18085187
Why not do both?
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>>18085221
Schedule conflicts. They're at different campuses and the times overlap.
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Lack of Arguing problem 2017-02-27 03:29:36 Post No.18085116
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It seems like the older I get (currently 22 atm) I don't have the energy to argue anymore, even when I am in the right.
Idk if it's the current schedule I have or if I just don't care anymore. I work weekends (9 - 5 Thurs through Sunday) at this pizza joint and I have night college classes during the week day (9 hours atm since I'm almost done).
For example, the other day my family was arguing over the fact I don't go out and socialize much and play fighting games too much. I then proceeded to tell them I was playing them to get ready for a small weekly at this bar where I could a little bit of cash and hang out with people who have the same interested later in the month. After a awkward silence, they then use another reason. This reason was because I didn't have a girlfriend that was keeping me from going out. Instead of arguing with them, I just nodded my head and said "Yeah that's probably a factor too." (Even though is really not) and changed the subject and talked about some other stuff.
Idk why but for some reason when people start to argue I just say in my head, "Who cares?" Is this normal or am I just a fucking goober?
>tl;dr At age 22 I don't have the energy to have arguments anymore. Is this normal?
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That's gay shit your family argues. My family debates on how our country will fall into a state of civil war. We argue on how we should best prepare ourselves.
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The older you get, the fewer fucks you have available to give about stupid shit.
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>>18085116
I feel the same, brah. I'm 22 too and I've noted that I also avoid discussions about most topics that, when I was younger, I used to be a hardcore defender or something like that.
I think it has something to do with our new perspectives of life. For me, arguing about, let's say, weed, religion, society, etc. is quite stupid now, since there'll always people in favor or not. I won't change the world, and I don't plan to.
I think is that we are settled with who and what we are. We know what suits us best, so there's no point on arguing, and just try to derail the conversation into something else.
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Best Engineering school in China, or a mediocre one in my home country? 2017-02-27 02:59:20 Post No.18085028
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Best Engineering school in China, or a mediocre one in my home country?
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My home country is America. Basically, long story short, I've gotten acceptance to what seems to be by all counts the best engineering school in China, one of the few on the mainland that's actually reputable and has been for several decades. I, if I went to school in America would be going to a mediocre, no-name no-rep school. The Chinese school is also far cheaper, even accounting for financial aid I'd be able to get in the U.S. I don't speak Chinese, however, the school is aware of that and is willing to give me a year of Chinese lessons first, which I've included in the costs. It is in a major city, so I should be able to manage for the first year. The major downside to the Chinese school however is that it isn't accredited in the U.S. In my home state (and several others), I would still be eligible to take the exam certifying me to be a licensed engineer despite that, but I would imagine this would cause some issues.
tl;dr
Pros:
>far better than any school I'd be able to get into here
>substantially cheaper
>will be able to speak Chinese fluently
>will be far away from home
Cons:
>not certified in my home country
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>Chinese engineering school
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Why would you go to school in a country where the field is even more saturated than it is in the US?
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>>18085028
The Chinese option seems nonviable from my perspective. One year of study is just not enough time for a beginner to obtain the level of fluency needed to study a technical subject at university level. Even if you went full immersion and have a great degree of natural ability there's no getting around the fact there is a fuckload of characters and vocabulary to learn.
If you are interested in working with China then perhaps do your degree in the US and combine it with Chinese language classes and some sort of exchange/internship in China.
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All my life I had principles : don't cheat because don't, that's bad, can hurt, etc, and I've lived by that, rejecting the temptations and hurting myself in the process.
And now that I found the woman of my life and that I am so happy with her, I still have that attraction to many other women ! I'm growing desperate like I would have to shred a whole part of me if I renounced to it. I can't.
If you cheat but are never discovered, it won't hurt anybody... Do you think it's possible or will have side effects? What do you think?
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>>18085011
its a bad mindset to get into, that its okay to do something that both you and she consider 'wrong' simply because you wont get caught.
by that logic it is okay to kill you, as long as she doesn't get caught doing it.
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>>18085011
Just have an open relationship and you don't have to worry about it.
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>>18085011
>I deserve the Christmas presents I want because I deserve to be on Santa's "nice" list
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So I (18m) have this friend. She's Student of the Year at our school and an 11/10, kind of short, thick build, blonde hair, blue eyes, the works. We've been friends for a while and I had a crush on her for like a week way back in the day, but it's subsided. Recently, about 2 months ago, she broke up with her bf, who is another one of my best friends, and she's been acting out. She's been drinking and smoking like never before, and she usually does it with me and my other friend. She's also hinted to us while high, about some sexual encounters she may or may not have had.
Anyway, about a week ago, we decided to hang out on a friday night and do some acid and ride around New Orleans (where we live) in her car. We were peaking and all of a sudden she starts talking about her wanting to fuck something. Not anyone in particular, just something. She says she wants it bad, and I start to freak out because I've never been in that situation. I didn't know if it was just the acid, but everytime I looked at her, she looked at me with the biggest eyes ever. Then she said she wanted to fuck me. I told her to be quiet and let the trip take it's course and she started crying and trying to kiss me, and I told her to take me home.
First off, I don't want to fuck her, I just want to help her.
How do I tell her she needs to slow down before her habits destroy her?
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>>18084990
Fix her with your dick
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>>18084990
You probably did the right thing saying no in all honesty. Unfortunately there's not much I can tell you here. I've been in similar situations before where friends have burnt themselves out, and there's not always much you can do. If you think you can convince her to slow down, go for it. If not though I wouldn't go beating yourself up over it. I know that's probably not what you wanted to hear though.
I had a close friend of mine who got pretty bad after highschool, and these days she's a completely different person. Way out of it. She would always convince you that she knew what she was doing and if you tried to insist she didn't, she would push you away. I ended up distancing myself in the end after almost getting into trouble with the law because of her. She's been detained a few times since that, so it was probably for the best. As much as I hate to admit it, she really couldn't care less that me and her old friends aren't around anymore.
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Pleeeeeeeeeeeease help me.
>new fifty shades movie came out
>make a deal to watch it with my friend in theater
>but first we agree to get together and see the first one at her place
>it's an overnight stay thing
>we are both on the couch, watching the movie
>it starts to get heated
>we try and make jokes to lighten the mood
>eventually both go silent, focused on the movie
>it's really bad but I find it really exciting
>she slowly starts rubbing the back of my hand in the dark
>I don't stop her, we aren't saying anything
>I start rubbing her hand back
>get up and say I forgot I had to sleep at my boyfriend
>I promise to finish the movie at home and then we'll go to teather
>we're supposed to go this week
So I can't explain this and I don't know how it happened but it felt weird and surreal as fuck. Is it absolutely HORRIBLE if I go to the theater now since the second movie is supposed to be worse or do I dismiss this on both of us being a bit drunk? Does it even mean anything? I'm totally mindfucked right now
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>>18084903
slag
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>>18084903
Are you 15? Fuck off this is a board for people with actual problems and you need to be 18+ to post here.
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>>18084914
I'm 19 dude.
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Any tips on staying motivated on a difficult long-term goal?
Came back from a term abroad in China and decided to finally buckle down and learn the language due to my love for the culture & future business prospects.
I'm currently doing 2 hours a day. It's a big time commitment, and the language itself is extremely difficult and sometimes I lose the motivation to keep going, even though I *know* this is a skill I want to have for my life.
Has anyone ever undertaken a large solo project like this before? How did you stay motivated so you could see it to the end?
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I'm curious myself, I have dozens of projects and little dreams I'd like to fulfill but I have no discipline and give up too easily. I think the best thing you can do is make it a habit, if you incoporate something into your daily routine you kind of stop questioning why you do it. That's how it works for me at least.
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>>18084930
I find this easy to do for things that are kind of mindless, but for something as active as learning a language it can be really difficult
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>>18084898
It sounds like you're still a student. If you're in a state like California, then your university probably has a mandarin club. It helps to be around people who knows the language, and everyone loves people who are making an effort to learn their language.
After you graduate, you could become an English teacher in China. That would definitely accelerate your learning if you aren't fluent by then. I have a cousin who is doing something similar, but in S. Korea. Pay sucks, but the experience is invaluable.
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How can the common man become part of the 'elite'? 2017-02-27 02:09:20 Post No.18084878
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How can the common man become part of the 'elite'?
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By elite I mean the likes of presidents and billionaires.
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You don't
Social mobility is a myth
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>>18084878
You can't
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you become a billionaire by inheriting millions and then buying rental property or putting it into an index fund
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I'm struggling really hard keeping an erection when I make love with my gf (or handjobs, blowjobs, etc.)
We talked about it. My guess is maybe I watch too much porn/masturbate too much (once a day or once every two days). So I'm trying to limit my visits on porn sites to maybe once a week or even none at all if I can do it.
Should I stop masturbating all together?
Also worth mentioning:
-I do feel excited when we make love and my gf has the most gorgeous body I've ever seen.
-Never happened to me before with another woman except once with a one night stand few months ago, right before we started dating me and my current gf.
-We did fuck this morning and I was diamond when I was on top and controlling, we switched roles and I went soft few minutes in. I don't know yet if there's a correlation, but we usually go this way (her on top) which might explain it.
Any advices/experiences welcomed. Stay safe anons
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bump that shit
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>>18084871
Time to start poppin pills, nigga.
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>>18084871
Stop watching porn (including seeing sexy pics).
Fapping some times per week is good.
See if it isn't related to anxiety or low blood pressure.