Would it be worthwhile to write a letter of reconciliation to my ex? We had the worst breakup of all time and I said pretty bad stuff during it. This was 2 months ago and I went NC immediately afterwards, never apologizing. While I accept it's over I'm still perturbed that that was my last impression on her after a relationship that was 95%+ wonderful. I'm not even trying to get her back, I just hate that I left things on such a sour note.
Would it be a mistake to do this?
>>18079953
If you think this would be helpful for her, you should do it.
If this is just about trying to make yourself feel better, and you don't think it's going to matter to her, or that it's going to just stir up emotional turmoil for her, it'd be better to suck it up and try to remember to be a better person in the future.
This would be a great idea. Closure is so important, though it can be painful. While apologizing, make sure your stance is clear by literally saying that while the relationship is over and will never be again, you are sorry for..whatever.
No, don't be a pussy, she'll think less of you
So my little brother has a prescription for adderall and sometimes he sells them to me for money so he can go out with his friends on the weekend.Well he isn't home, its 4am, and I wanna get high so I took three 10mg pills from his bottle. Should I feel bad?
Yea you should feel bad that you are a worthless druggie who resorts to stealing prescription drugs.
You can just tell him you took 3 pills and give him the money for it but you should still feel bad and try to fix your life.
>>18079919
Yea I'm not going to pay him back
>>18079917
It is illegal, but whatever turns your boat I suppose.People do much worse.
I can't decide whether or not to press charges.
I'm 18, I was punched twice in the face by a 17 year old kid in my high school. I was talking to his girlfriend, but I wasn't flirting with her. He came up acting insecure and jealous, trying to egg me on to fight. I told him he was being insecure and he needed to calm down. He loses it after that and starts punching. I didn't fight back or say anything expletive, just took the hits. All I got was a small bruise.
Anyways, after the principal and the police handled the situation, I couldn't decide whether or not to press charges.
On one hand, it was just a two punches and the kid was some drugged-up ghetto white kid who probably wasn't thinking about the consequences. I also would like to get this whole thing over with as well.
On the other hand, everybody I talk to about it wants me to press charges. I personally want to as well, but I'm afraid he's going to retaliate because where he comes from, they probably believe in "snitches get stitches". I also believe that if he doesn't get punished now, he might do it again and hurt someone else.
I'm probably being paranoid because all he's going to get is a small punishment from juvenile court, but I just can't decide. Currently, he is in a rehab-type class he takes for anger management.
What do you guys think?
do it. these kids never learn
>>18078878
get over it.
take his wannabe ass to court he definitely won't learn any other way because he prolly has shitty parens who don't give two shits what he does
Guys how do I get better with girls?
Last night I got my hearth broken so fucking hard, I feel like absolute shit atm and don't know what to do.
Should I start cold approaching girls and practice that way or is there any other way? I'm fucking tired of being lonely and toyed with.
Jesus won't break up with you OP
>>18083271
You will get toyed, you will get your heart broken again and again.
But it's up to you to mend it yourself and even knowing there will be pain, it should pass and advance you to your desired goals.
No pain no gain.
>>18083271
You mean you got rejected last night? Listen OP, you will get rejected. Everyone gets rejected. Sometimes it's because you did something wrong, sometimes it's because she wasn't looking for anything right now, or because she is kinda seeing someone, or because her dog died and she is sad, etc. It's niot always your fault.
What happened last night?
I'm a guy who earns 6 figures and am attractive but I can't find a girl who is both cute and has a serious career who will pull the weight in the household
Is it weird I'm hung up about this? I don't see why I should have to statistically-speaking settle for someone who put less effort into life than me just because they have a vagina. I don't understand this men work women look pretty meme. I put just as much work in to looking good.
>>18082771
I can tell enough about you just by your picture OP
Nobody successful wants to date a guy who saves pictures of robots in maid costumes on their pc
Also, literally *everyone* that makes this thread says that they're attractive, gotta wonder which ones are lying
>>18082771
Your standards are way, way too high and unrealistic.
Around 3.25% of women earn 6 figures (compared to almost 10% of men) This is a very small sample to pick from already.
Add that you want someone single, around your age, cute, with a decent personality.
How many people fit all your requirements? Why would they choose YOU?
>>18082784
The question isn't really about me it's just the fact that it's a statistical impossibility for every guy to find someone with the same level of career
I find it depressing
Is it morally wrong to kill a small, scurrying insect just because it crossed your line of sight?
Does this living creature deserve death just for being in your house?
I always feel at least some regret whenever I kill a non-threatening insect (except for the scary ones)
>>18082512
>some regret
In the context of evolution, why should this exist? We care about animals like dogs and cows because they are essential to our survival. Do we care about all species because our desire to protect our cattle for our own fitness is overactive e.g. in times of near starvation we fed our herd because their survival was supplemental to ours? Those who ate their herds in times of drought didn't survive beyond the drought?
If true, would our regret in killing animals not necessary for our survival be useful? Would it be misappropriated?
Ok, so now, can the same be said of people with handicaps? No, because people with handicaps can still be reproductively successful and also contribute to the success of the species. For instance, someone with downs syndrome can still have a genome with very fit genes. I'm not saying fucking downies because the species...srsly, i'm not...I promise.
i'm no moral authority, but it does strike me as weird to go after any insect thats not a swarmer or an indicative on uncleanliness. like ants and roaches.
i dont like insects, but the rest i tend to evict in a red solo cup. except spiders, they clean up after themselves.
>>18082512
The scales of karma are real. Your deeds are weights in either good or bad. Just put the bugs outside. I save flies, moths, ants, and whatever else I can from starving to death inside my house.
>I used to literally smash, crush, burn, dissect, torture, and even eat bugs as a child. I still feel bad about it.
Anyone want to read a few months worth of my facebook convos with my autistic oneitis? I'm not pursuing anything at the moment since I've already asked her out twice and she's blown me off each time, but I just want your guys opinions as to whether or not this is salvageable. Do keep in mind that she's a huge aspie, and so I'm not talking to her as if she was a normie chick.
>>18082327
no.
there is no such thing as 'salvageable' with girls. they're either into you or they're not.
why the fuck can't I link a text file here, fuggggg
>>18082336
but I don't think aspies are into anyone right away though? don't they usually need time to get to know someone?
GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, that guy who says monogamy is dead and fart guy
Fuck off
So I have a comically small dick (3.5 inches hard)
This makes it pretty difficult for me to have very much self confidence when it comes to hooking up with someone I don't have a strong relationship with for fear of judgement. So I'm not really sure how to approach things, I have a tinder prospect that wants me to come over tonight but I really don't know if I want to because of this.
Can I get some outside perspectives on this?
>>18080830
Need to know too, mine's also that size and I'm deeply saddened the entire world has bigger dicks than mine.
What do ladies think when they see a 10/10 man in a relationship an average-looking woman?
I recently finished school and am going through the hell of applying for jobs. But I haven't gotten any responses, and I don't really know what the fuck I'm doing wrong.
I'm a physics major with math and economics minors, so I've been applying to technical positions. And I've been thinking to myself "These are technical people who aren't going to be impressed by bullshit," so I've kept my resume very short and sweet. My degree, my minors, other subjects that I have experience with and the corresponding credit hours (chemistry and computer science), and one sentence saying I can learn independently, work by myself or with groups, communicate clearly and comfortable, and have a strong analytical mind. It's a short resume, but I think that's really all that's relevant to the work I'd be doing.
Was I wrong? Should I be piling on the bullshit after all, writing a couple of paragraphs about what a smart, amazing, hard-working person I am, even though literally any idiot can write all of that and nobody can prove otherwise? Should I be listing all the activities I've done that have nothing to do with the jobs I'm applying to?
If I was looking for people to hire, I would just be annoyed at all of that and see it as wasting my time. But is this the kind of bullshit that employers want to see?
I'm gonna give you a protip without the life story of experience: Get the fuck out of the chemistry major if you're not a woman or a minority.
Bump...
my sister applied to 700 jobs and now makes 80k a year, the application process is indeed hell, and it took her two years to find a job.
just don't give up
>24
>want to either go to college or be a music producer
>not doing part time of both type shit
>wanted to run away to city for music
>too afraid to go into debt for school
>my mom works for a college connected with universities all over the country
>if I actually did leave I could go to college tuition free or focus on my career
How do I leave this shit town
>no jobs
>no people
>no money
>no car
>no bus here
>nothing in walking stance
>>18082827
Break it down like this
>Do I have enough money to go to college
If yes, then going to college is an option
If no, then college is not an option
>Do I have enough money to move to a city, pay rent and find a job afterwards
If yes, then you can run away to "the city" to do music
If no, then you cannot
As for leaving your town, do one of the above
>>18082859
We'll college would be free it's literally just paying for books and getting there there's about 2-4 unis per state but I care more about my music career
>>18082827
You don't just walk into being a music producer. Most have spent years either as musicians or engineers.
Go to college major in business with as many music and sound-engineering classes as you can fit in. Present yourself to the recording world as another wanabe, but one with a business background that others won't have.
For the past few months, my gay friend has been hitting on me very frequently. Every time I see him at school he instantly walks up to me and starts talking. I don't want to be rude, but I personally find him extremely unattractive and fat, and the fact that he keeps talking to me is infuriating. I tried to get someone else to go out with him, but everyone I talk to agrees with me that he is a disgusting fat bastard. Please help!
Your screwed, if this picture is him then really just tell him to screw off and tell him how atrocious he looks. If you can't do it light, do it blunt
I'm fucking tired of this asv. No one ever asks me what I am doing, no one ever invites me out, no one ever even includes me in the conversation when I sit down at the group caf table. Yet, they still fucking act friendly towards me, ask a bland question or smile and wave at me and get on with their day. They used to be friends the first semester but then they all decided they were better friends with eachother and now they all party and study together and I get to sit in my dorm alone miserable. What am I doing wrong. It's like prying teeth asking them what's going on the night of and most of the time I never get a straight answer. I don't act bitter around them so it's not that. Did I do something wrong or what? I fucking hate it here now and want to tramsfer unis, what do?
stop basing your happiness on the attention you receive from others
>>18082501
Then how can I be happy when my attempts to be friends fails and I end up alon every single night, despite my best efforts. Easier said than done friend
>>18082507
honestly, sounds like you just want to have something to complain about;
>Then how can I be happy when my attempts to be friends fails and I end up alon every single night, despite my best efforts
This is just a life lesson m8, try all you want but that doesn't mean it's going to fucking happen. You're probably trying too hard anyway.
>Easier said than done friend
Well tough shit, force yourself to get over it. Keep fucking busy rather than sitting around moaning about how your friends don't conform to whatever imagined ideas you have about them.
Can developing a fetish make you bald? I got a new fetish and it's the only thing that gets me off good and I have to compusilvy masturbate to it. Ever since that happened I lost my hair and I'm bald now. What do?
>>18082433
Masturbating won't make you lose your hair, my dude. Chill. It's a coincidence
>>18082443
A coincidence. Sure.
Guy who is using Finast and Ketoconazole shampoo here for Norwood 2.
There's still no studies for masturbation that really correlates to hair loss. Don't trust every asshole saying "It does cause hair loss", because there's no proof or studies yet (Unlike the studies for Drugs).
Masturbation in excess though is bad for a lot of shit since it can cause depression, anxiety, muscular pain, make you lose nutrients and shit, so try to avoid it.
Keep it to 2 or 3 times a week if possible; if not, talk to a professional.
I need help making a cute name for my girlfriend, I use to call her " The Dino" before we were together, any cute.dino names?
>>18082387
Archeaopteryx
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irritator
>>18082387
Bitchtits
I just turned 21. What should my first legal drink be, /adv/? And yes, I'm a man.
whatever fucking drink you like best man.
>>18082308
pretty much this. im a beer man mostly, though whiskey has grown on me
A whiskey straight. No chaser