I had a completly fucked up childhood, and the only way i can deal with any of my problems is by getting sauced and self harming. I was sent to the ER a few day's ago When i downed a bunch of guiness and grabbed my gasmask by the headstaps and beat myself bloody.
>>18090172
nobody gives a shit, myself included
>>18090176
Yeah, i have a hard time caring aswell
>>18090178
if you didn't care, you wouldnt be such an edgelord faggot
Five days ago my dad found two newborn puppies in a dump left to their luck. He brought them home so to give them a chance to live. The thing is that he disappeared and now I'm the only one taking care of them. I try my best to feed and clean them. But it's too much and I fear that they will not gonna make it. One of them is really bad...I take him to the vet and he gave me some medicine and told me what to do. But I don't think he'll survive another day. The thing is that I feel this guilt inside me...I mean...technically it's me who killed him, right? How do I cope with this kind of feeling? What do I do from now on? I'm sure everyone is gonna blame me somehow...
um, how did you fuck up feeding a dog so bad it died?
>>18090112
I wish I knew...
I can see why he disappeared...
May be a teen dad.
Why shouldn't I kill my self if so? I'm shaking every day in anxiety
relax, man. I'm 30 with no kids wishing I just knocked up my highschool gf back in the day.
you'll be good to go but you gota put in the work to support that senpai
>>18090057
>Why shouldn't I kill my self if so?
Because you have fucking responsibilities to deal with now. Time to grow up. It might happen sooner than you planned, but you've gotta do it anyway.
Off to a great start. Your kid would be fatherless.Try reading a parenting book or two. Be the best dad you can, or that she will let you. kek.
I just got a job where I'll have to stand and walk around for 12 hours at a time. I have to wear black boots while working, and my current ones are uncomfortable as fuck. Does anybody know some good, comfortable boots for standing in that won't break the bank?
>>18090056
Can't recommed anything concerning the shoes, but consider investing in good insoles. Especially the gel ones tend to be a blessing on feet when you have to stand for long times.
Just buy a good pair. Some kind of military boot or police boot
>>18090074
That's a good thought, do you use Dr Scholls or something else? I might be able to take the pads out of my old boots and fit some new ones in.
Seriously. I swear, my sex drive ruins all my relationships.
I'm in a good relationship now but I end up wanting it too much and it's starting to break down the relationship.
Masturbation doesn't work for me. I don't get into porn. Being sexy doesn't come naturally to me and slips my mind.
I need to just stop wanting it.
>>18089943
How often do you want to have sex?
>>18089943
why dont you find someone whose sex drive is compatible with yours?
I'm same as OP. If I could I would have sex 6 times a day but my gf rarely wants sex, not even once every 6 weeks. The advice I've been given is to get it "out of my system". Not an easy feat when you're a short skinny neet though. My gf of 4 years ended our relationship a few days ago so we'll see what'll happen. Maybe do the same OP? She won't change.
I have a friend who has a gf that wants sex all the time, 4 to up to 8 times a day isn't unusual. Jelly as fuck. But they have other problems (I guess you need to find someone who's mental to achieve this kind of sexdrive).
If you want to stop or tone down your drive I would try self-help videos about self control. Actualized.org on YT is damn good.
A drunk girl made out with me while we were out. She was shitfaced and I was tipsy. She asked me the next day if anything happened.
I told her what occured and she said that it was a mistake and that she never liked me.
Why would she say this? She was the one to invitr me out? I have bruises from her. Is she trying to save face and make it seem like shes rejecting me? Because I dont care either way, it was just a drunk makeout session.
>>18089774
many women invite men out without wanting to have sex with them or make out with them or having any romantic / sexual interest in them. girls will often invite a guy, regardless of their feelings of him, becuase they know its easier to navigate around with a guy there to ward off other guys and make sure they dont get date raped or anything like that.
so then you guys made out and she regretted it and she told you so you dont think she wnats to date.
>>18089774
>She was shitfaced and I was tipsy.
dirtbag alert. I wouldnt want to hangout with didnt respect my ability to consent either..
>>18089784
she was touching me all night and left me hickeys and i tried stopping her because i knew she was too drunk.
>>18089788
>dirtbag alert
nah senpai, we had the same amount of beers, i just kept my cool because she got way too drunk and i was worried.
>didnt respect my ability to consent
Dont drink if you dont have control over yourself? I dont take advantage of drunk people. She came onto me and i tried to get her to stop.
Got like 5 bruises from her because she kept on hitting me for not kissing her.
Hello, /adv/. Recently I've been getting this urge to have sex with my manager at my part-time job.
She's a plump, short woman who is about 10 years older than I am (not past 40). Her breasts are big but her butt could use some work. She's not in a relationship (mentioned several times before) and I'm not looking for a relationship, but I have this desire to just fuck her and I can't shake it. She can be really bossy and teasing, sometimes really glad to see me and brightens up when I greet her.
She's offered to take me home a few times and is really glad when I accept her offer. I can feel a bit of sexual tension in the car at times. Maybe it's just me, but I think she wants the dick.
Should I go for it?
Absolutely not.
I once found out that my boss wanted the d after I fucked another girl at the store. She wouldn't get with me after that cuz I would have beat that shit up
>>18089739
invite her to come up for coffee next time she gives you a ride and see where it goes. just don't let feelings get involved.
Drinking coffee makes me nauseous. But I need it to get shit done. What do?
Simple answer: don't drink coffee and do what you have to do.
Anything else?
tea? put a little milk/cream in there, eat some grains beforehand, take an antacid, get more sleep, etc
>>18089724
>Shit tier advice
>>18089720
Drink cold or iced water for a quick zap of energy.
Just realised that I hate my mother and now I'm repressing my negative feelings about her
There aren't any jobs in my area and there's no way I can see myself getting one
I have been eating very little and it's starting to affect my health
I have selective mutism and severe anxiety
And can't talk to most people and even when I do I can't trust that'll end well since my trust issues extend to every living thing including myself
>>18089700
>There aren't any jobs in my area
there's shitty jobs everywhere
and shitty jobs are better than no job
plus you can underperform hard and get by so there's no need to worry if you're "up to the task" or not
>>18089703
There aren't many in Canada
>>18089705
absolutely. seems like there arent a lot of expectations/responsibilities laid on you yet, so you have nowhere to go but up.
where in canada do you live?
matched her on tinder, told me she wants me to sleep over and how she's going to show herself naked to me then 2 days later this happened. Did I ruin everything? Can I comeback from this?
>>18089679
she thought it was funny calm down
>>18089683
This was yesterday and she hasn't responded
>>18089684
Good point, spam her inbox like a needy faggot.
I've wound up in a scenario where I'm out of work and paying 70% of the rent for 3 people, one of which is my best friend. How do I fix this and retain my friendship?
>Oldest friend and I decide to move in together.
>We agree to split the rent and utilities 60/40 since I was making more than him.
>2 months in he loses his job, "don't worry I got you bud!" more like 90/10 for a while.
>He says, my gf can move in to even things out, help with the expenses
>We agree to all pay 33%, she moves in, and he gets another job soon after.
>End of the month rolls around and they both can't make their 33%
>We agree to go back to 60/40, but they're splitting the 40%, until they're on they're feet.
>They run short on their collective 40% for months, despite both working.
>The company I worked for goes under, now I'm out of a job.
>Fast forward a few months and I'm still struggling to find work, and they STILL can't hit 40%
>I liquidated my 401k to keep the 3 of us afloat.
>His gf is now complaining to him about how I'm a lazy NEET and it's unfair I have money
>I'm not getting any NEETBUX and I'm literally using my life savings to support her.
>The break up for the last 3 months has been 70% me, 20% friend, 10% his gf.
>His gf makes double what he does and doesn't have any student debt (he has a depressing amount).
>She's holding out hard.
How would you handle this situation?
What's it say on the lease?
>>18089617
It has me and my friend as co-leasers, but no payment break up. The landlord only cares that he gets the full amount and I send it to him every month. They reimburse me throughout the month. She's not on the lease.
>>18089608
Is your name on the rent?
I need help. I'm addicted to the internet and it's starting to seriously interfere with my university career.
I haven't been to any of my classes in several weeks, I have several major assignments overdue that I havent even started, midterms that I havent even browsed the course material for, etc etc.
Its to the point where I'm htinking of just driving into the wilderness a la Christopher Mccandless and dieing out there because i cant take the anxiety of being so, so far behind but unable to focus on anything except the internet for more than 5 minutes.
I was a marijuana and alcohol addict before and was sober for 3 years until last week when I broke down figuring I was going to kill myself anyway so i might as well spend the rest of my money getting drunk/high before i finally kick the bucket. Obviously I pussied out/couldnt get the logistics sorted out and im still here.
Anyway, I know it sounds really gay and just 'get over it lmao' but its really bad, i get chest pains and short of breath if im not laying in bed browsing or driving in the car (literally the only other thing that can take my mind off of the hell that is this existence). i've probably spent over $400 on gas in the past month just because I want to get out of bed but cant do anything else except drive around for hours and hours and hours. Sometimes i try to summon the courage to run into a telephone pole but i can never go thru with it. i dont have any friends and am just completely isolated, my parents are 2000 miles away and i already flunked out of university once so this is really my last chance at life and im so behind im just freaking out.
sorry for the wall of text but im having a bit of a hard time here.
I have the same problem wit the internet, it's ruining my life
Bumping for interest.
commit to waking up early and driving straight to school
if you haven't been there for weeks you have plenty of studying to do. be in the school and get to work
it's way too easy to get comfy in your house and not give a shit about your responsibilities, so remove yourself from that environment. most universities open early and have study rooms open past midnight. that's where you should be
If your problem really is that severe, it's time to drop out of college and check into the hospital.
I see this "BPD" label thrown everywhere.
Articles talking about how you need to be careful with people who have Borderline and treat them better.
What is this bullshit? How exactly is this not an excuse for being a cunt? Cheating, blackmail, etc. because of a disease? Come on. We have people who are suicidal, depressed and bipolar and most do not do any of this shit.
Some woman cut her husband's dick off because she was scared he would abandon her? Some woman felt invalidated so she called rape?
How exactly is this not about loose morals and a shitty personality, but more about a "disease"? I don't understand it. Does someone care to explain? Should we make any excuses for such people? Is harmful behavior okay because it is a "disease"? Just looking to expand my knowledge on this scary, awful phenomena.
All of us feel abandoned, depressed and suicidal, but we don't actively find people to "troll" and make more misearable and break their hearts for no reason?
>>18089565
I don't think you understand BPD
>>18089573
I would not be here if I did understand it. It's very blurry and obscured online. I do not understand mainly where shitty behavior starts and BPD ends? I am not calling anyone a cunt here, maybe someone with BPD was misdiagnosed and was actually bipolar. I just do not understand the lines between "sick", "with loose morals" and healthy in this diagnosis?
Say I go out and find a girl and absolutely break her emotionally by previously making her trust me. Do I have BPD? Or am I just a healthy dirtbag? What if I self harm and hurt people because it's fun? Is that BPD?
I just really want to understand.
>>18089582
It just depends on the motives behind the actions. If they are due to severe mental trauma from childhood (abuse, abandonment etc) then it's BPD, if it's just for fun then the person may be psychopathic.
My gf is on the pill. Can I cum in her pussy or is there a chance I will get her pregnant?
Just wear a condom, you'll be saved the trouble of baby/aids. I don't mean this as a disrespect but it's better to be safe then living with long term life troubles. Double protection never hurts.
>>18089513
if she takes it every day consistently then it's 99% effective against pregnancy. just make sure she doesn't skip a day or forget to take it.
>>18089517
>condom sex
I want to study literature because I want to be a writer and study literature.
Having said that, I've noticed that literature is 70% female.
How easy are literature girls and how easy is to be the alpha male in your class?
Assuming I'm a fake alpha.
First of all, this is a pretty retarded plan as you no doubt know. Especially the combination of wanting to be a professional writer and wanting to study literature. Studying literature absolutely does not make you a better writer. You can get inspired from the work of other authors perfectly fine by reading them, and analyzing everything technically is actually more likely to make your prose formulaic and trite, if it has any effect on your skills to begin with. The only real upside is that you'll be around other people invested in literature and it will be on your mind a lot, and you can accomplish that in other ways. In turn you have little back up plan in case you decide you want to do something else anyway.
Getting published isn't the hard part, getting noticed and having a reliable audience is.
Anyway, if you're talented they will obviously like you, and even if you aren't particularly talented it never hurts to be among a minority of men, gives you an edge that you usually don't. The downside is that people talk and especially if there's not that many students and everyone knows each other, once you have a bad reputation it'll be hard to get with any of your classmates.
>>18089476
I didn't ask about that part, silly one.
>>18089477
Consider it free bonus advice. From an author no less. But good luck.