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Stop freaking out and making mental scenarios, or you're just going to make a bad situation. It could be anything as simple as the social media provider fucking up, her changing things on her profile and accidentally changing something, or, as you said, an attention grab.

If you talk to her about it, DON'T sound like you're accusing her of anything. That's a one-way ticket to an argument. Be calm, be cool, be collected.

Also, on the side, about your friends. I have the same situation where I have a lot of female friends and my girlfriend doesn't like it. You're going to be in for a really rough time with it, so you have two options: Be patient and understand that it's going to be a problem for a while, or bail out now. The longer you wait, the harder it will be.

>>18082770
Are you 110% sure it said taken before you went out?

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>>18082787
i did not check immediately before i went out, but i visit it multiple times a day and the first things i look for are her bio and the pics, and it was fine throughout the day.
>>18082786
it isn't the social media provider i'm afraid. she manually types it into her bio.

i'm not going to accuse her directly of anything but it raises a lot of alarms. after we began dating, she made it a big thing that she would declare herself taken. this sudden removal is beyond concerning, but i appreciate the positive energy you're giving. her and i know that we'd never find someone as compatible as us ever again and it would just be terrible.

i sincerely appreciate you guys replying, from the bottom of my heart. all of my friends are in bed and i am in perpetual fear of randomly getting cut off of broken up with for an ulterior reason. i like to trust people and that how they feel for me is genuine and it really breaks my heart to see such a (potential) change of heart.

>>18082765
Correct

>>18082765
Not at all. But being confident can compensate that (and getting fit might make you more confident).
Having muscles and a shitty face won't get girls wet. It's personality and social status. Make friends, work on yourself and just have fun in life. Enjoy life, ugly anon

>>18082776
I didn't say ugly face, learn to read.

>>18082750
Looks like a m to f trans vagina desu. Everyone has different belly buttons because the doctors fucked up man, don't worry.

>>18082750
It was not like that some days ago

Fun fact: Your belly button is never fully closed, it's just wedged shut, so potentially stuff could crawl in there and cause infections.

See a doctor.

>>18082696
Ask your other friends if they know

facebook

or ask his/her/xie parents/friends/headmates

>>18082703
I don't have other friends.

>>18082704
>facebook
Never had one.
>or ask his/her/xie parents/friends/headmates
Don't feel like it.

Get a job and apply for community college. Grandpa is going to die any day now, so you don't have to stay home and watch him all the time.

>>18082640
Back to college
Stop being NEET

I took care of my grandmother for years. Worked at home. Your grumps will give you plenty of time to work, especially at night. Also, he probably naps. There are tons of opportunities out there. Look into affiliate marketing.

what are they like?

>>18082612
>without freaking them out too much?
Impossible, we are the mooninites.
>Is telling them even worth it?
Do you enjoy feeling shitty?

Then yes...yes it is.

Read this >>18081333 , I posted it earlier. You will die a painless death, and it's fairly quick. It's one of the best ways to suicide asides from overdosing on opiates.

does MC stand for Man Club

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>>18082594
TRUMP DOESN'T KID.

Find one.
Prospect
?????
Profit

>>18082566
i've met 3 girls from okc

100% fuck-to-date success ratio
66% relationship ratio
33% positive relationship ratio

therefore i would recommend if you're having trouble getting over an ex, sure go for it. you can get some pussy and snap out of a depression.

otherwise it's very risky. a lot of women who use okc are damaged. significantly. (like you)

>>18082566

yeah, they work alright, but you need to pretend you don't suck as bad as you do for a while

>>18082566

Currently in a 2 year relationship, met her on okc, have had dozens of dates through other online dating sites, most of my friends have tried online and met people through it, have even been to a wedding for a couple that met online.

It can work.

However the catch 22 is, this is dating like anything else. If anything, it's more extreme.

If you're shit at trying to date and meet people in real life, same shits going to happen online.

Online dating is not easy mode, if anything it's medium/hard mode.

>>18082543
>it's a fucking terrible idea.

Agree. Make sure he discloses to HR or else the shit storm shall abrew.

It's fine as long as they're in different departments

>>18082554
And as long nothing dramatic happens.

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>>18082492
The banner on this page...

Did you talk to anyone?

You'd think you'd have learned how to accept it by now

>>18082506
Don't be hateful; he doesn't get it.

OP, your appearance is only the price of admission. You've gotta actually interact to make an impact on people...Do more coke.

>>18082489

Cont.

>get texts all morning
>tells me she's in a great mood, she just updated her blog, asks me to
read it and what I think
[two things 1)*douche shiver* she's an adult keeping a blog, but I can
look past that for friends with benefits I suppose. Who am I to talk,
I'm here looking for /adv/ice. 2)clearly you aren't wicked busy...
unless she thought it was really important to get all what was on her
blog in writing and make sure I read it]
>it is a giant dissertation about the "rules of dating" (painful to
read, cringe inducing) and how a guy should initiate the intimacy, go in
for a kiss, no sex on the first date, wear a condom, blah blah blah
I've seen this girl a few times a week for the past year, I was "dating"
her as much as my actual girlfriend minus the sex. I feel like we
probably could have started having recreational sex at any point since
this mutual singleness started and it really wouldn't change a whole
lot, but I am also wrong all the time.

Anyway. I'm thinking of going for it. She is cute. I don't think the
friend of mine she dated will mind, it was over 10 years ago, he left
her, he's married with a family now.
I'm more apprehensive about losing her as a friend (I see her more than
anybody that isn't a coworker), and as much as I like her as a friend,
and would like to have sex with her, I don't think I want to start a
full time relationship with her or give her that impression if that is
her endgame.

Advice to keep this from turning into a shitshow? Just not do it? Is
there a chance I'm just completely reading into things she's saying and
I'm in some "friendzone" so deep where she wouldn't think anything of
repeatedly saying "let's screw" without thinking I might take it her up
on it.

>over 9000 hours in MS Paint

do it?

I think if your primary goal is to not make this messy, you should not have sex with her.

If the friendship were important to me, the only way I would be willing to have sex with her is if I wanted a relationship with her and thought there was a good chance that she wanted that too.

That you want to fuck and NOT have a relationship, that has way too much of a chance to blow up on you.

teach yourself how to do something
get gud at it

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>>18082470

I find that when I'm neet and nocturnal; staying in my room for weeks; my sense of time gets subverted and time goes by super fast.

For productivity's sake you should learn a thing or skill.

For ease, you can just get into an mmo. Those things are engineered to be massive time-sinks (which is why i stay the fuck away from them lol)

>I already gave up
>how do I forget her

Just off yourself if you're not going to fight for anything in your life

>>18082338
Okay, so tell me how the fuck I try.

As you can see I have 0 experience, which wouldn't be bad... if we were 10 y/o. I'm very sure that when she starts to notice that I'm a virgin my chances with her will disappear completely.

She already likes you apparently, at the very least as a friend. Just reverse engineer everything you said in your first post

>I-I never keep in touch
So do

And so on

It happens much more naturally than you think. Just ask her out for a snack or movie. It's waving your "!!!INTERESTED!!!" flag enough and totally normal to functional human beings.

Basically, don't overthing

Meditation is one of the best natural combatants to adhd out there. Start researching and try to do it every day. As you gain mindfullness you will be able to control your thoughts better, rather than just being tugged around by whatever new thing has claimed your attention.

>I want to fix a medical problem without the use of doctors or medicine
ok.

Do the bullshit pseudo science meditation and yoga then, when that fails, get a better paying job so you can afford the real help.

>>18082241
I'm not sure we can offer advice to overcome sociopathy. The best way to be retrained in how to be social is through consistent interaction with a trained professional. You're not alone but tried and true is all society can offer you atm. Best of luck underage b&.

>>18082191
Cause of insomnia? Are you just stressed because of school or are you being raped by a giant tentacruel at night? Maybe find that out?

No stress in school, but it does feel like I'm being raped by gyarados

See a therapist.