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How long do you expect to keep this up? If you do, either you continue to pretend to be poor, in which case she'll probably dump you because you'll have to rely on her, or you'll have to tell her suddenly, in which case she'll dump you because this isn't something you hide from a long term partner.

>girl uses him
Lmao dude just dump her if she starts using her u curd

>>18088235
>I've seen it happen before.

When besides movies

She's going to be gone for 2-3 years ... living an hr and a half away from me

Best case scenario, you will travel and see her often. At the very least on the weekends. College is a pretty huge destabilizer for a lot of people, especially at such an impressionable age. However, if she really means what she says, you have nothing to worry about.

She's 18, and going to college. GG.

Also when 18 year old girls say that they want to marry you don't take it literally, that's just 18 year old hormones and lack of perspective. And she's about to get a whole new perspective 6-7 inches of it.

If she's not a mom yet then she's just a NEET you've bankrolled. Either knock her up or tell her to get a damn job.

what the fuck does she do all day

Are you military? She sounds like a dependa

just go talk to her on your own

if you try and make her like your friend less by doing crap like telling her stories of dumb shit your friend has done, you will lost a friend and she will rightly see that you're trying to sabotage your friend. Girls don't like guys who sabotage their friends.

Also this board is over 18 only

Share a common interest, maybe read the Harry Potter books so you have a mutual ground, consider telling her you're interested in getting to know her favorite parts and tell her you're beginning to explore her little world.

>>18087956
Yeah, but I don't want to make it seem that I like her. How do I avoid that?

>>18087834

No, it's because it was your first time feeling something like that, so it will be incredibly intense and uncontrolled.

This is (at least) the second time you've felt a strong love for someone, and so it won't be as strong in intensity. Love isn't about constantly feeling the butterflies in your stomach and the wild ride of teenage love - it's about the calm warmth of someone whom you are safe and secure with, someone whom you can place your hopes, dreams, and heart into their hands for safekeeping.

Stop comparing, it's only going to make you both miserable. Is he kind? Does he watch out for you? Does he try to make your day a little brighter? If you answered yes to most of these, then stop second guessing everything with some guy in your past who didn't even like you.

>>18087856
>This is (at least) the second time you've felt a strong love for someone

I don't think it's strong at all, in fact I don't think I love him at all really, I just like him and care about him

>>18087856
This basically.

>>18087501
Hobbies, eating, drinking, lifting, working.

An idle mind is a sad mind.

>>18087514
I work and drink and do my hobbies drunk. Drinking killed my father.

Meditate.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLjelIPg3ys

>>18087436
Relationships are good. I am not gonna sit here and list off the pros and cons. But i will say you live longer and happier than if you are alone statistically.

30 is a good age. Younger women are blown away by your ability to do normal adult shit like pay a bill. And women your age are freaking out about only having 10 years left to breed. So the field is at its ripest right now.

All that said. just be smart and use your friends as examples of exactly what to dodge in a relationship.

>>18087436
You do hate women.
creep
>>/r9k/

>>18087445

Interesting. Where do I go out and demonstrate my value on this kind of shit, and get someone attractive and interesting? I work from home, so work is out, but I'm also pretty picky. I have 236 likes on OkCupid, but I don't know if I should just be out on a bunch of dates or trying to do something meaningful.

Seems like a struggle, but it could just be my city.

>>18087210
take some intro philosophy classes and see if you enjoy it. I minored in philosophy to help me write better papers and take tests. It helps me with my current work as well since it is highly analytical..

>>18087210
Philosophy is garbage. Yes its interesting, but its worthless. My brother majored in it and now him and half his class flip burgers.

Stick to STEM building blocks.

>>18087210
I've attended lectures in most STEM fields and a fair few humanities (protip: you can literally just walk in and usually ppl don't give a shit) Philosophy isn't something you can't just read on in your own time, and the one on one sessions are apparently not much better than drunken DMC.

>>18087076
Sometimes you just have to bury things deep, or accept logic. Unfortunately, that's life. Can you possibly be satisfied with another pet? With another dog that doesn't shed?

It sounds like you want a pomeranian or something, which in no way is a "guard dog."

Dealing with fur all over the place is awful. You always look and feel dirty unless you're constantly grooming the pet, your clothes are covered in weird looking fur and dog scent, and... ugh.

Maybe just think of all the negatives a dog would bring. Like having to crate them, take them out, clean up poop and pee, board them for vacations, etc.

>>18087094
>giant, fluffy mess
>Pomeranian
checks out.

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>>18087076
>>18087094

One other thing - maybe look into dogs that are similar but different to your ideal breed?

My good friend has a labradoodle - thing is big, and floppy, and pleasant, with a bunch of bushy hair, but it doesn't shed at all. High tier doggo.

its not good for your skin desu

>>18087031
In what way? If it's temporary i'll totally deal with it.

>>18087044
it's bleach, everyone says bleaching your skin causes cancer

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>>18086807
As an adult male living at the house I was also brought in for questioning, but it was obvious that I wasn't really the suspect. I kept quiet during the interview and only answered the bare essentials, and when I returned home I learned that my dad had denied any knowledge of the images, and was released on bail.

I got the impression that the police and the social workers were trying to apply pressure on all of us so that he would confess. After a talk with a social worker who had insinuated that he was almost definitely guilty, my mum (who is not really computer literate, and was struggling to understand the finer details of the case) told him not to come back to the house. This drove him into a deep depression, and on one awful morning I woke up to a text from him, saying a final goodbye. My siblings had received similar mesages. None of us could contact him, and he wasn't at the house where he had been sleeping (under the terms of his bail, he wasn't allowed to live at the family house due to my two younger sisters, who are children). Desperately we kept calling him and calling him, and finally my brother managed to get through to him and convince him not to go through with it. He returned home emotionally shattered, but we gave him our support while he apologised again and again for what he'd put us through, and together we started to get back to 'normal'. At this point he was resolute that he knew nothing about the images, and we hopefully half-believed him. Maybe he was telling the truth, maybe the police had misidentified the IP address, or maybe the image had ended up on the computer by accident.

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>>18086809
We wouldn't find out anything else until the police had investigated what they had confiscated, and with their resources being stretched, the date for this kept being pushed back and back. My family returned to an uneasy sort of happiness. My dad would be there for most of the day, we'd all have a family meal together, and then he'd leave in the evening. We didn't really talk about the case, and most days we could just forget about it. I think we all got lulled into this false sense of happiness, which is why it was that much more of a blow when the police finally got back to say that they had gone through the confiscated equipment, and evidence of hundreds more images had been found.

My dad broke down in tears, and finally admitted his guilt. For years he'd been viewing cp at night, when the rest of us were asleep. He was brought back in for further questioning, where he entered a guilty plea to most of the charges they brought before him. The local papers picked up on the story and, given his reputation in the community, made it front-page news. The comments on social media were what you'd expect - "Kill the bastard!" "Disgusting pedo scum, should be hung!". A rival right-wing politician shared the story, and joked that he'd deservedly get raped in prison. Family members on my mom's side have said, in some form of support for her, they'd "rip his fucking head off" if they saw him again. Needless to say, my dad has resigned from all the boards/councils he was on, and now lives alone and completely ashamed. He's not had his trial yet, but it's likely that he'll be sent to prison.

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>>18086815
My mom has (understandably) asked him to stay away from our house, so he's had no contact at all with my younger sisters. As you might have guessed, we've all taken it pretty roughly. One sister returned to her antidepressants. Another says she's ok, but we can hear her crying at night. My third sister has developed pretty serious anorexia since this happened (I guess it must be related), and is very close to needing to be hospitalised. I don't know if they're getting bullied at school, but it wouldn't be surprising. My mom is trying to stay strong for our sakes, but it's obvious she's in bits too. She's filed for divorce, and wil be returning to her maiden name. As part of the divorce, my childhood home is being sold. I don't understand why that has to be the case and I don't want it to happen, but far be it for me to tell my mom what she should be doing in this situation, none of us really know what is right.

None of us have seen him face-to-face since he admitted he was guilty, but me and my adult siblings have been in contact with him by email. He sent us a long message, apologising again and again for what he was putting the family through. He offered no excuse for what he'd done, as he didn't think there could be any excuse, but tried to explain it to us. I'll share some of those explanations now, so that you can maybe understand the mind of someone who watches cp.

razors are like a dollar. what's the problem?

>>18086787

You might have a hormonal disorder, talk to a dr.

>>18086791
But then the hair grows extremely fast and thick. Plus some areas I can't reach with a razor.

>>18086738
crushing death and grief
soaked with the red life blood of
the trespassing thief

>>18086738

Stop saying you love her. You have a crush, that's all. Start hanging out with people, meet more girls, and learn how nice it is to be liked back. After you get a taste of that, you'll know how pointless it is to pin after someone that made it clear she is not into you.

>I think this won't go anywhere until we meet irl
>I deeply love her

people are VERY different irl, keep that in mind before you convince yourself that you "love" her. until you spend a lot of time around her irl, you don't know her very well as a person. people have a lot of personality quirks and behaviors that are more clearly shown irl than they are online. you might end up disliking these qualities once you're around her enough.

>>18086695
if you know how to make friends, just apply those same skills towards a relationship. talk to them about stuff you like, hang out a bunch, and establish trust and support

then combine that stuff with sex and that's basically a relationship

same way guys find girls, essentially.

get fit, financially successful, look good/stylish. the difference is that girls have to be alluring as opposed to guys learning how to man up and approach girls. and with the idea of feminism you should be more encouraged to do the approaching. try out guys you think you might like/might like you. then you're looking at what kinds of guys show up in certain locations. for example if you want a guy who drinks alcohol, go to the bar. if you want a handyman, go to a Nascar show.

>>18086702
Guys I make friends with dont want sex, they date other people

>>18086588
Sorry to hear that, shouldn't be more than a few more months until you're clean though.

>>18086629
Thanks, its just shitty all my other friends were clean by now.

Do you think I should continue to work out or do you think that'll make my situation worse?

>>18086588
Lose more weight, dilute your urine, or just buy fake piss.