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>>16931897
I'm in the same boat. I have fears of being rejected, so I reject everyone before they reject me.

>>16931897
I always ask random people what classes they are taking at my school to start up a conversation.

>>16931897
http://www.meetup.com/
Gotta start somewhere

>>16931869
why would your parents disapprove?

does she want to cuddle you too senpai?

>>16931873
parents are very conservative
Yea probably but I don't know how to slip into that question.

>>16931878
go over her place for some netflix&chill then.

>>16931868

that sucks. i found sleeping with my dog helps. whenever i feel creeped i just say 'if anything is remotely wrong then my dog would bark and id know'.

didnt help that right after saying that last night she barked, so i had to get up and search the apartment and balcony to make sure we werent being invaded. but generally its a good plan.

im not sure what to say about falling asleep? maybe you can have a 'guided sleep hypnosis' saved to your phone, ipod, or what have you so you can just click a button, get back in bed, and zone out listening to that/

>>16931893
The problem is that i cant zone out when i turn off the lights.

>>16931937

right, so maybe try getting a guided hypnosis file to help you zone out.

Pull a Shaggy

>>16931864
What's that

>>16931861
>How do I not get in trouble

ahahahahaha
dude you stop getting in trouble when you move out and own your own shit like an adult. Until then, you get in trouble.

Well, start with taking everything extremely personal. Today i blushed HARD because a teacher told one of the guys in the class i work with that some of the little girls a few classes below are crushing on him. In front of everybody... I was so embarassed for the teacher and the guy that i went red like a tomato. And then i was so embarassed that i was embarassed by this that i couldn't stop blushin. Fml

>>16931851
I blush non stop literally my face is red and hot the second I have any type of interaction so no I can't justify this thread fuck you

;)

>>16931727

You dont need books to kill yourself.

Just Bing it.

http://letmebingthatforyou.com/?q=How%20to%20kill%20myself

>>16931729
just don't
>>16931733
srsly? who uses bing? plus i'm too much of a pussy to actually do it

>>16931727

books wont do you much good, the fact that you insist on short ones shows you dont take any of it seriously enough.

the biggest and greatest tip you will get is to go outside and talk to people

>BUT ANON YOU CANT JUST WALK UP TO PEOPLE AND TALK TO THEM

you can, its totally legal. i do this every day somewhere or another.

go to a bookstore and wait in your favorite aisle. wait til someone (Anyone, not just a pretty girl) comes up to look for a book. ask her what shes looking for. if you have read that book, comment, if not, ask about it. say you are really into this genre but arent sure what to read next. shenanigans ensue. she might just be like 'oh here it is' and run off. let her. this isnt about getting everything to work. a lot of people are in their own world. keep trying til you find one who isnt.

can also do this at a movie store, at the theater, at a bar, at any place really. just wait around something you know a bit about, then talk t osomeone who comes up to that area. but you actually gotta talk. not 'wait for a nice opportunity'. act like its normal and it will be.

fuck even on the bus i just sit down and say 'hey hows it going? where you headed? oh thats cool whats that like? oh im just headed to work. yeah i work down the street, i manage an office for a psychic'

thats how i met my friend mate. we go hiking. anywho, do this, to anyone, anywhere, and you will get confidence to talk to girls you might actually be interested in.

and when you find one, talk to them the same way. casually. if something strikes up hand them your card (Get cards made) and say
>hey i gotta go, but we should keep this going, call me sometime, we'll get coffee'

99% of girls wont call you. 1% will, and thats always awesome

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>>16931709

if you arent doing guided meditation, you probably arent meditating very well at all, so much as sitting there and thinking about what you are stressing about.

each person is different so try different things. take a yoga class if you arent. im not gonna recommend pillates or a harder workout cuz tbqh they ultimately add more stress to my life whereas yoga was soft and just kind of relaxing.

as for acne, stressing about it will make it worse. try accutane. pic related is me. yeh? taking the pill will make you think less about acne cuz it will cure itself after a month or two, and then you are no longer stressing about your face for half the day.

combat other stresses by making lists. whens something gotta be done? make a list of all the steps, what day to do em, cross em off as you go. making a list of what to do tomorrow helps right before bed, as it confirms to your brain that you know what to do and can relax.

a beer in the shower is the best way to relax imhotbqhfampai.

psychologist and psychiatrist if a therapist recommends them, but you need someone to vent to and get advice from, not over analyzations about your mental helath

>>16931740
>psychologist and psychiatrist if a therapist recommends them
what kind of therapist? I'm not sure exactly which profession is the first port of call

>try accutane
I have, 3 times! - 6 months at age 17, 6 months at 22, and 4 months at 25. Each time it worked for 1-2 years but it keeps coming back. I'm 30 now and my acne is only mild, but it's cystic and painful. On the third course I had a bad reaction so had to stop early. I'm open to possibly trying the lower dosage version of the drug, but am also worried about whether a fourth course would do long term damage, since I'm not aware of anyone ever needing a fourth course

>>16931832

idk mate, im not a puss. just go to google and type in 'therapists in XX' wherein XX is your general location. read what you find and book an appointment.a 'genera' therapist should be fine, just someone who listens to peoples problems and helps them.

yeah 4th course sounds pretty intense. the best i can recommend (and sorry if you heard this before) is retin-A in the morning applied to the face. its literally just accutane applied to the face so it doesnt effect your liver (but it also doesnt have long term results). it sucks but you might have to apply it for the rest of your life.

after that, erythromicin gel. antibiotic, apply to face at night.

it kept my face pretty clear, one pimple here or there.

She's the cashier? Then do it.

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>>16931668

>im thinking of awkwardly just passing my number to her and expecting her to understand the context.

why tho? who cares if her family is there, if they are close enough to work together they are close enough to watch a charming young lad ask her on a date.

>>16931685
Yeah it also makes you seem sleazy and belittles her

>>16931638

>depression

if real, seek therapy. if you're just sad and calling it depression, its important to develop your own comforts. the biggest comfort is knowing the endgame.

imagine if they never told you when graduation was. imagine if you just went to school and you never knew when it was going to end or when you were going to change grades, and it was all random. that sucks right?

the best way is to know what the endgame is, waht you got left to do, and then taking pride when you finish the little steps that get you closer.

It's hard, but simple, cliché things like "thinking about what matters to you" do help. I stay away from trying to think "positive" because that is just the child's escape from sadness.

As hippy as it sounds, from another who endures waves of depression, things related to zen, ying-yang, duality, etc tend to make the depression much more manageable. Understanding that good and bad are necessary, one cannot exist without the other, and that sad times just make you appreciate the good times even more.

When you're in the darkness, all you can do is wait until the world turns you back around. And remember, its only a matter of time before the light turns back to darkness.

>>16931654
Nah, i'm legitly endangered. Therapy since one year and recently off of ssri's. Now i feel like i have no security net when demanding times hit me.
I thinn your advice is great anon. Problem is that i don't even know what my endgame is, or how to find out

If you study 24/7 and get no where what are you actually doing? I mean are you comprehending anything you're reading, and how are you writing down explanations for things in your notebook if you don't understand them.

Maybe you've missed some fundamentals and instead of going back to it you're just staring at the new stuff trying to make sense of it?

Do simple things like take a break and go for a walk to start freeing your mind and improving your mental health, it'll improve your intelligence too (if that isn't obvious).

>>16931631

>i study 24/7
>have a gf

pick one.

>how likely are retail jobs not dead-end

retail jobs may promote you to a store manager. which is slightly better but not by much. if being smart isnt in the stars, then pick a less intense but still useful degree.

becoming an accountant isnt abstract or hard. i do all the accounting for my office and i suck at math. sure being a REAL Accountant is more than just budgeting and whatnot, but if you go to school to become an accountant its way easier than this abstract math shit you are studying.

find a job that wont kill and work towards that. it doesnt have to be 'enginneer or philosophy major at mc donalds'

the worlds not that strictly divided.

You sound a lot like me OP, doing math/econ and having a bit of trouble but liking philosophy and knowing there's no real usefulness in that degree. What exactly would you planning to do with your math/econ degree anyway?

>>16931624
Following up, my elder sister asked if I was going to beat my wife and kids like that when I was older. She sarcastically that I was going to make a great news for the police. Saying that she felt bad for my future wife and kids.

I punched a fridge like a fucking idiot and now I hurt myself.

I need to know what to do in this kind of situation. Please help you guys.

Get away from them.

>>16931640
We all live together in one cramped house.

So anyway, I work for this consulting firm and have begun chatting with this really cute girl who just got hired on as an admin assistant. For the first few weeks she was somewhat stuck up and would always talk about her "fiancé" and how she was in love with him and the whole nine. Starting this last Monday she finally began really indulging me with how she does not know if she wants to go along with this whole marriage thing (they've only dated for a year and she just turned 22 on Saturday). She told me how her and this fiancé got in a huge fight and that she told him the only way she would stick around was if they could have an open relationship.

The way this open relationship works is, if she wants to fuck someone she just has to tell him. And this whole casual fucking can't get to the point where she catches feelings. From the sounds of it her fiancé was really crushed by this but is willing to stick it out because he is 100% madly in love with her. They don't live together so he never has to see the guy(s).

So anyway this last week she's been IM-ing me on business Skype and sending me emails with either really serious discussions or asking me to go and grab a drink with her and her friends. She then asked me a bunch of times when we should hang out. She is well aware that I have a girlfriend as well and we talk about how my girlfriend would rip me to pieces and can be very controlling and not open minded like her fiancé.

We have an extremely flirtatious relationship and are always complimenting each other and looking at each other and will talk all day and night if we are both in the office. She will wait for me to finish sending an email or whatever and then we will both walk out at the same time. But then she also told me she is terrible at reading signals, and I sadly am the same way. I've always dated 8+ types of girls but I was always so bad at pulling the trigger. Practically would have to have them tell me "hey wtf lets do this." Before I would even make a move. Girls always think I have the most confidence in the room due to the way I present myself but really I have very little.

So my question is do I try and set something up with this girl? And if so how do I go about doing it? What if she really just wants to be friends and has no desire to fuck? How do I tell?

BTW I really like the new captcha system. Like I said been several years since I've been on this site. Thanks for anyone who can help.

bamp

>>16931568
ahhahahah

>>16931568
Does pic related apply to when you are soft or hard? I get that when I'm soft but not hard. I still have to manually roll the skin back though when hard and it stays right behind the head like touching the bacK of it, if I pull it back all the way and let go it goes back to the same position. Do I have phimosis?

>>16931507

Because your router isn't allowing it to connect to the DHCP server on the router (due to the MAC address filter) it doesn't have an IP address.

Honestly your router is doing the right thing. More importantly, I would make sure the admin account to the router isn't the default manufacturer password and the Wi-Fi password is very, very strong - possibly changed weekly since you're getting bruteforced.

Look into DHCP, the OSI Model, etc. It'll help explain in more detail what I'm saying.

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>>16931538

it was already connected to it days before when i noticed and enabled mac adress filter

ok ill change the password now

anything else? cant i do something with its mac adress?

>>16931581

you've filtered out the MAC address which is the best thing you can do atm. Do you know who/what is trying to connect?

>>16931490
it will slow you down but doesnt have to stop you. so stop asking

>>16931639
nice

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