I developed a fear of choking on food. Eating anything that's not pudding is stressful to me and takes way too long because I'm scared that I'll choke if I swallow. Sometimes I just spit out what's in my mouth into the toilet and continue trying. Yesterday, it took me two full hours to eat four slices of pizza.
I'll try seeking a therapist, have an appointment for next week, but I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for until then. I don't want to survive on yogurt for a week and I also have a social dinner planned before the appointment.
I developed the same problem as a kid, and it stayed with me into adulthood. I really feel bad for you OP because I know 1st hand how horrible it is.
Do seek help and stick it out. Meanwhile all I can say is don't be too hard on yourself - you're not the only one with this problem. Keep eating your pudding (maybe try porridge to get some fiber etc..)
>>16936137
Also I just want to add - if you can, skip the social dinner. The truth is you have an illness, and you can tell them you're unwell without explaining it. While it's bad advice to avoid things, I think you should make it easy on yourself until you're getting help.
>>16935632
Have you tried chewing more?
I've been playing piano for probably 12 years. Without classical training, I've been super insecure about my ability to play--I usually improvise, and it's usually kind of "meh".
But when I'm high, all that goes down the drain. I am fucking unstoppable. Every idea I have shoots itself out of my brain and onto the keys without me even thinking about it. My inhibitions go way down and I don't care enough about playing "wrong" notes--and as a result, I play nothing but right notes. My nerves completely fucking disappear--I even hopped into an dope impromptu scatting session (I can't scat. Not sober, at least).
My question is this: there's got to be a way to break down those barriers of sobriety without actually being intoxicated, right? I'm horribly afraid that I'll only ever be a good musician when I'm high. How can I take steps toward reaching that state of don't-give-a-fuck without drugs (if at all possible)?
couple of comments:
do you ACTUALLY sound better while high? As opposed to just thinking you do? Try and record yourself playing to make sure.
As to how to get rid of inhibitions, there's only one way: just man the fuck up and do it. Pretend you're confident, if you need to
What drugs are you doing btw
>>16935625
Nothing heavy at all, just weed. Usually smoked, sometimes I fuck with edibles.
I've recorded myself twice now, both times I'm doing exactly as well in the recording as I thought I was in the moment. People also seem more eager to come up and praise my playing when I'm high.
>>16935603
This is honestly a hard fix. Suppressing your inhibition is a skill in and of itself that you have to practice.
My honest recommendation is to sit down at the piano sober, and just play. Don't think. Don't judge. Just play and listen. It's not going to change over night. Hell, it might even take a couple months to hear a difference. Think of young kids when they're learning language. They'll use improper grammar, screw up tenses, and whatnot, but eventually, those things get corrected passively as time goes on. Same thing here. Just play sober, and practice not thinking. Eventually, your hands will do all the thinking on their own
How can I get over being sexually assaulted a year ago?
>>16935575
What about it is still bothering you? Have you been to therapy yet?
See a therapist.
Do you know who did it?
Is it possible to discover his identity or find where he lives?
If so, murder him, if that is out of question seek a therapist
Why is it that I can't work out hard for more than about 20 minutes without needing to puke? Will it go away or do I have some sort of condition?
>>16935551
Do you work out after having a large meal?
>>16935588
seconding that question
>>16935588
Usually either on an empty stomach or something like oatmeal or an apple.
I would like /adv/ on how to buy good candles without spending Yankee candle prices.
Tired of this unscented core shit.
>>16935537
Higher quality candles are going to cost more, but you might have some success looking online. What kind of candles are you looking for, and where have you looked so far?
>not burning incense instead
>>16935537
Make your own. If you buy wax and oils in bulk it's substantially cheaper per unit.
>finally got associate's degree and my foot in the door in a well-acclaimed university
>still not 100% sure on major
>university is also 2 hours from home, don't know anybody up there, and have no idea what the area is like (besides that it's a big college-city)
>family is utterly broke, 0 family support and I just don't have enough to support myself at all ($3.5k in the bank)
>relying completely on loans ($24k/yr, like need 4 years but at least 2)
Needless to say, I'm pretty scared to commit to university. Academically I'm confident, but there's so much money riding on the line if I decide to change my major again, that I'm lost.
Any advice on finding a major worth following-through with? That, and any advice for getting the most of campus life? I think I'll be staying off-campus alone.
Any general university advice/tips would be welcomed. Particularly in-terms of making money and being frugal, what should I look for for income (besides jobs, I mean what kind)?
Bump
tl;dr how to survive at college, living-wise and socially
Don't be a faggot and git gud at a marketable trade.
Work the other way. Instead of choosing a major then trying to figure out what type of job you can get with it, look at the jobs you'd want to do then see what major/degree it requires.
Pic is from the Bureau of Labor Statistics for most new projected jobs.
http://www.bls.gov/ooh/most-new-jobs.htm
Also browse around this site and get a feel for what jobs/fields will be demand and which ones you have interest in.
http://www.bls.gov/bls/occupation.htm
I met her on backpage and she wants a $450 up front "security fee" is this a fair deal?
>>16935524
Ok here is an additional pic of her and I forgot to mention she is asian
>>16935524
Scam find another one. There are way better girls on bp for even half what she is asking.
>>16935538
1. fake money
2. ???
3. do the sex. make big cums
4. ???
5. profit
My girlfriend won't accept my cuckold fetish, I've always had a dark fantasy of my partner getting blacked with me watching. But she's so attached and dedicated to me and refuses to let that happen and she gets angry whenever I mention it during sex. She doesn't know I only dated her cos I could let her get cucked but since she's good in bed I decided to stick around a bit longer and since she's of use and hopefully bring her round. However it seems like a dead end.
I recently contacted this black guy on craigslist and offered him to cuck me without her consent. If I drugged her and let it happen and also faked being beat up/robbed, do you think she'd believe it? Or does anyone have any tips on how to bringing her round to wanting to get fucked by a black guy?
Thanks
How about no
>>16935511
>My girlfriend won't accept my cuckold fetish
Well then she can't really be your girlfriend then can she.
>Honey I want a ring
>And babies
>And a house!
>And a husband!
Ok baby, I want you to get fucked by other men!
>UGH WTF IS WRONG WITH U U FUCKING PERV EEEWWWWW
^^ I hope you see the hypocrisy.
>If I drugged her and let it happen and also faked being beat up/robbed, do you think she'd believe it?
What is this dumb shit? I was with you until you started talking about drugging and raping women. Get your cosby ass the fuck outta her.
>>16935513
But Im entitled to my happiness too.
>>16935523
>Well then she can't really be your girlfriend then can she.
As I said she's attached and dedicated to me besides that.
Besides being a tool for sex, she should also respect my sexual fetishes too as I do all I can to satsify her in bed.
It's not rape, I consented to it.
So this girl I’ve been dating for a few weeks plans on coming over tonight and hinted at having sex. I really enjoy her company and I am very attracted to her. Today, as soon as I got home, her ex-boyfriend rolled up in his car and confronted me. He claimed that she gave him herpes. He apparently knew where I lived because he has seen her car outside my house before, so he probably has been following her around which is kind of creepy. He even knew my name and that I was seeing her. He started off by asking me if I was having sex with her and how I met her. I did not disclose this information to him. He then tried to say that she gave him herpes and flashed a "test result" of his at me for like 5 seconds. He was actively waiting outside my house for me to return to tell me this. He then asked for me to not tell her he was over and left. I called her and she said she was tested last week and was not positive for anything at all. I would like to ask her for proof (which she said she had) but she said she just wanted me to trust her. I do trust her but I feel like asking for proof would be the most logical decision, whether it upsets her or not. What do??
Dude, the risk of an awkward moment it's better than herpes for life, trust me, and by any means USE A CONDOM
You should give her ex-boyfriend herpes
>>16935507
you should invest in a weapon of some sort. pepper spray is effective if you prefer not to use a firearm. i would reconsider associating with this girl. condoms are not 100% effective at herpes prevention. her ex is obviously mentally unstable. she throws out the "dont you trust me?" thing as opposed to showing you test results. these are all glaring red flags to me.
My girlfriend can't get over my ex and it's driving me fucking insane. Every time someone's brings my ex up she gets mad at me, or even if she herself brings my ex up she gets mad at me based on my reaction. If I go out of my way to avoid talking about my ex she gets mad, if I talk about my ex nonchalantly she gets mad. If someone brings up my ex's new boyfriend, she gets mad at me. If I refer to my ex's new boyfriend as anything besides ____'s boyfriend she gets mad at me. I don't know how much longer I can put up with this without putting a bullet in my brain... any advice?
pic related: it's how i feel every time I have to deal with this
End it all senpai
Bitch is crazy, and you don't have to put up with it. Dump her.
>>16935499
Well when you sit down to talk with her about it, what does she say her problem is?
My middle and pinky toenails on my left foot are an opaque yellow and much thicker than my other toenails like in pic related. My left foot also has white stuff on the bottom on that thick area near the toes and the beginning of the toes that is almost like peeling skin. What non prescription medicine do you recommend I use?
"The symptoms of more severe infections include thickened, discolored toenails that may eventually become painful. In these situations, you should see a podiatrist who can devise a treatment plan."
Go see a doctor
>>16935470
The yellow stuff is probably fungus, but the white stuff could just be calloused skin, I get that often when I run a lot.
>>16935497
But it's only on my left foot. If it was calloused skin, wouldn't it be on both?
How do I deal with the fact that I will never be a world class vocal singer? I got inspired by a band and their songs and I have no musical knowledge and I understand that I will never be famous but I kind of want that. What do I do?
>>16935448
>I have no musical knowledge
Gee it's too bad there's no place you can go to get musical knowledge.
Seriously though, pursue music if it interests you. You might end up famous, although idk why you'd want to because it just seems like a gigantic pain in the ass. And who knows, you may end up becoming one of those people who's only famous regionally. Then you get the pleasure of being recognised by people, but with fewer crazy stalkers and paparazzi.
Even if you don't become famous at all, you'll still be doing something you like, right? Sometimes that's all you can hope for in this life, man.
>>16935448
>/m/ (never been idk, I just figure though
>reddit.com/r/piano (sidebar to get started)
>reddit.com/r/guitar (sidebar to get started)
>reddit.com/r/singing (sidebar to get started)
>>16935535
>reddit.com
GET
THE
FUCK
OUT
REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
Only being able to get a date online is affecting my self esteem. I really want someone in real life to want to go on a date with me.
How do I stop feeling so depressed?
>>16935445
>depressed
can we stop using this word for 'oh i feel sad once in awhile?'
please? its fucking retarded.
>I really want someone in real life to want to go on a date with me
its pretty shitty htinking, but at the very least, cut out the online dating. if you dont have apps or online sites, then you will be forced to seek people out in real lief. i recently cut out the apps and a week later met someone awesome. taking them on a date to the beach today, dinner over looking hte ocean at sunset, then a ride on the ferris wheel. gonna ask to go steady today.
>>16935452
I've only started online dating very recently, before that I went years being dateless and boyfriendless.
I think crying and feeling sad every day and not being able to get out of bed counts as being depressed.
How did you meet this person and how did you ask them out?
>>16935454
>went to the no pants train ride (where people ride the metro in their underwear
>see an adorkable brown dude wearing a button up shirt, glasses, tie, and a backpack that buckles in the front
>shirt tucked into underwear
>we keep checking each other out
>end up at the same bar after
>comes right up to me and introduces himself
>asks me to dance
>30 seconds later were making out
>been hanging out ever since
>i think crying and feeling sad every day and not being able to get out of bed counts as being depressed
if you are depressed, then why throw that at the END of this post? true depression isnt caused by 'LOL I CAN ONLY GET A DATE ONLINE'. if you are truly depressed, go see a psychiatrist and stop worrying about dating.
I dislike relationships, for a lot of reasons, but every time I have a fwb or regular casual hookup they develop feelings for me sooner or later. The average lifespan of these things is usually only 3-4 months, which sucks. If I have to hunt for new people all the time I might as well just start one night stands again, but I prefer the comfort of actually ~knowing the person and being able to chill afterwards and such.
How do you extend an fwb relationship beyond that 3 month feelings tipping point?
Fuck men instead.
>>16935439
thats not a thing, im having to deal with fallout from another dude, same shit. though its WAY easy to find a new fuck bud so there is that
>>16935423
pick the lesser of two evils. life isnt made to be easy. pick what oyu hate the least, finding a new fuck bud every 3 months, or start dating
You don't. If you have sex with someone enough, someone is going to develop feelings. It's just a matter of when. This is why prostitution needs to be legalized.
23 years-old virgin and have no friends.
I am a super normal guy. not ugly or not handsome. aaand i have beards.
Living with religious people but i'm an atheist.
my sociality extremely bad. can't stand people.
İ just want to hear "this is normal dude." things.
so ? is this normal ?
unless a hot chick decides to kick in my door and let me fuck her I'll be a 23yo virgin in 2 hours, too
I'm with you, OP
>>16935409
guess the statement that you have no friends is more of concern than that other Detail!
23 kv here
it's whatever I guess