If i go full time wageslave for a year or two, will i be able to study after that?
I can't do it now because i'll just do nothing and then fail all the exams.
>>16930715
I have two jobs and go to school
man the fuck up
>>16930715
What makes you think you'll be any different in a year or two?
>>16930715
every year you spend away from school makes it harder to go back, eventually you'll just give up on it entirely
So my dumb ass of a brother keeps saying that there is no such thing as free will. He says living things are just fucking biological computers, like fuck off. How do I convince him how stupid he sounds?
>>16930666
Start jabbing your knuckles into his ribcage. When he tells you to stop remind him that you're a biological computer and appealing to your free will is pointless.
>>16930666
Why bother? Let him say what he wants and ignore it.
You know that this is actually something people argue in philosophy, right? There's even some neurology studies that seem to imply that we don't make any of our own decisions on a conscious level anyway. (I'm on my phone but you can feel free to google it.).
Your brother is expressing a valid -- and fairly common -- philosophical viewpoint.
I would like to know the answer to this simple question.
Who am I? Who am I inside? What does my inner me want from life? What purpose is there for my life? By what morals, rules and standards should I abide to? What is good and bad, what do I want, what makes sense, what doesn't?
Recently I have been thinking about life and to this moment I believe I have been doing nothing but what others expect from me, or at the very least, projecting in myself something I see off cool in a propaganda, game, movie, something a family member expects from me, or whatever. "Be successful!"; "You should study engineering!" "Having this attitude is cool!". I've lived good part of my life chasing these ideals, being a copycat, and actually believing all of this bullshit.
It feels a bit like I'm a blank cavas who has been painted on by many different factors, and I'm not really myself.
I've been thinking about this a lot and I can't help but suppose that there's nothing as being yourself, people just are the result of the immediate envorinment, combined with their "original, primal self", as I'd like to put it. The result being what you see in the world, a lot of different people.
If anything, if one cannot find the answer to the question I ask here, I understand that he should pursue a hedonistic lifestyle, without any greater goals other than the immediate comfort and pleasure. After all, if you can't figure out the right thing to do with your life, then just try and take everything out of the material world, this is what I've been doing for some months now, but I can't get this thought - who am I? - out of my head.
So I need to ask if anyone can relate to this feeling that I have, if anyone has ever felt like it, and what did you do, I think I need help figuring out what to do with my life.
Even if I find out, how can I be sure I'm right? That this is it, this is the person I'm meant to be?
Picture very much related.
>>16930646
tl;dr I couldn't suffer through all this bullshit so here's a picture of a koala.
>>16930646
Read the Existentialists.
To grossly oversimplify, they say that there aren't any definitions you're born with, but that you are free to invent yourself.
If you decide you - not God or the church or anyone else, but you - want to be a moral person, you decide to be a moral person, and conduct your life morally because you have decided to. If you decide you want to be an engineer, you do what is necessary to become one. If you decide to be an off-grid spoon whittler, you act on your decision.
It is more complex than that, and more sophisticated and intellectually worked out. But essentially it is a philosophical basis for having the confidence to trust your own felings and ambitions.
>>16930667
But my point exactly is how can I know these ambitions and feelings are really mine.
In an interview, if the interviewer refers to something you have said and your name in a follow-up question, is this a good sign that you will be selected?
(sorry for bad English)
>>16930629
Pretty standard stuff, there's no way of knowing. Hope you get the job tho
>>16930629
It shows that he's listening, which is a good sing, but not proof of anything.
>>16930681
>>16930686
So any signs to know you did well in a group interview?
Couriers still haven't delivered my fucking package.
>tried 2 weeks ago at home address, but dumbass driver leaves no card
>seller gave me the wrong tracking number so I have no idea until next thursday
>talk with seller, they apologise and make arrangements for monday
>courier calls in the afternoon telling me the post office to collect from
>I ALREADY KNEW, I WANTED DELIVERY
>ask them to deliver to work address instead, they say wednesday
>call wednesday evening, say they'll call back
>called back in morning, they say Friday (today)
>STILL. NOT. HERE.
This whole situation could have been avoided 2 fucking weeks ago if the driver left a card.
I'm going to complain anyway, but is there anything else I can do in the meantime apart from wait?
first world problems
they cause frustration
forget starvation
in nations abroad
>>16930626
The situation would've been avoided if you were at home dumbass.
>>16930837
I was, according to the tracking number it was attempted at 6 in the evening, and now support is telling me they never even tried.
Please help guys,,, if I sleep alone I get nasty nightmares.
The same nightmare everytime
really fucked up stuff, 'flashbacks'
Been happening for a month now, also been feeling sick and throwing up all the time.
I lost so much weight my wedding ring and clothes don't fit. All of it is muscle.
In a month I went from being in great shape and looking amazing to looking like I just got out of a concentration camp
I can't keep food down. I always feel tired. I've stopped sleeping because of the nightmare.
This is too much for this site. If it's really affecting your life this badly, talk to a counceler/therapist. If i may ask, what goes on in this dream? It may be something you need to confront. You mentioned your weding ring, have you told your SO?
>>16930633
>. If i may ask, what goes on in this dream? It may be something you need to confront.
I know I made a thread and all but I don't really like talking about it... I'm awake now, dream time is over, don't want to dwell
> You mentioned your weding ring, have you told your SO?
No, divorced
>>16930625
bump
Anyone here know about cocks? Due to my foreskin being robbed from me, I stretched my dickhole a few weeks ago and it won't heal.
Please help. Going to a doctor in real life would require walking around with pants on, which would probably make my condition even worse.
I assume the solution will probably end up being a drug that can prevent erections during sleep, since I think this is the main thing preventing my dick from healing. Anyone know the best thing to take to do this?
There's also the possibility of a product that could moisturize my urethra, like chapstick for my dick, which could help. Does anything like this exist?
Fucking legal genital mutilation.
>>16930606
Why are anime posters who come to /adv/ the worst?
dude idk but You really should call a doctor or an ambulance at least.
Wrap your dong in something comfortable enough so you wont get friction and fucking go to the ER. If you let it be you will get an infection in there and things will get worse.
Also sauce on image plox.
>>16931620
Yeah, I think I gotta see a doctor. I've seen some other people say that erection-preventing drugs require prescriptions. And the urethra is self-lubricating, so it's probably self-moisturizing as well.
Got any ideas of what I should wrap it in? I ordered some 100% silk boxers but that probably isn't enough to guarantee protection. I guess I'll buy a condom and use that.
Pic is Elen from the Futabu anime. Shoulda read the filename!
There is a cute girl at school at school and she happens to be the best student in our grade and i'm talking like all A+'s she her tits are kind of mid sized which look really good tighter shirts which she does not wear often how do I get her to like me?
>>16930602
>in our grade
Kill yourself.
>>16930602
Stop staring at her chest and talk to her.
I have taken into account that multiple individuals have stated that I take offense too easily. Obviously, if more than one person has said this to me it is true. One of my problems is realizing that I do this, and coming up with a way to catch myself. I think I know why I do this, but that doesn't matter. What would you say that I do to catch myself? Usually, I notice what I did was a mistake and need to catch myself faster.
Just stop being such an easily mad jew faggot
>>16930591
How do I stop being mad, a jew, and a faggot?
>>16930587
encourage your friends to insult your sissy sensitive ass more often.
My girlfriend self harms.
I thought she was past it already but she's done it again and I just don't know what to do. There are cuts on both her arms and legs.
Advice, please? She suffers from (diagnosed) depression and anxiety. She's not on medication currently but has been in the past.
I've never dealt with this before and frankly I just don't know what to do. I love her very much and day to day struggles I can deal with but this is beyond me.
>>16930586
Criticize something she is good at. Let her prove that she is good at said thing. Keep giving encouragement on that thing. Let her show her "worth"
>>16930589
She doesn't have any hobbies etc aside from reading. I don't know what I could criticise that she could prove in that manner.
I do my best to encourage her and make her aware of her qualities, to give her self worth, but from personal experience I know its something only she can fix. Still, I want nothing more than to help.
>>16930598
What does she read? Oh, you can help. The problem is that you have to make it seem like she is helping herself.
Do you tell your parents that you love them and things like that? As a guy, 24 years old I'm still kind of embarrassed to say it. Is that normal? I mean I'm sure they know I love them as I often visit and make gifts.
Never be embarrassed to say I love you to your family, especially your parents. 24 year old male here as well, I tell my parents that after every phone conversation and whenever appropriate. You never know when it's gonna be the last time.
To my mother very rarely, even less often to my father. But they are both old so I tell them to take care because they gotta see me do X.
>>16930580
I tell my parents after every phone call and whenever I am leaving.
Dad had cancer 3 years ago, and I guess that I started thinking that, if something happened to them, I wanted "Love you" to be the last thing we said to each other.
I’ve been seeing a girl for a few months after me and a friend moved to a different state for work. We spend most weekends together alternating between her place a few hours away and my flat.
My problem is she seems really obsessed with a ‘celebrity’, an old sports star guy. She has a big poster of him in her bedroom and little toy figurines of him and others, and when I first saw the poster I laughed and said he looked like me (beard, clothes etc) and she said he didn’t.
A few days ago we talked about sexual fantasys and she kept giggling and not answering. So she wouldn’t tell me, but after I kept going on she went out of the room and came back with this fake leather mask thing and said she wanted to fuck me while I wore it. So I tesed her for a bit about it and the next night I did it and she loved it.
On the way home the morning after I started to feel sick about it. Is it a normal thing for girls to want?
Bump?
Lmao your girl wants you to dress up as some iteration of Mick Foley and fuck her? That's not normal. I'd leave her before you catch feelings, and then you'll be in way over your head. Girls have these strange and powerful methods to keep guys around, but they only work if you care for them.
>>16930985
I really don't want to break up with her. I mean I don't think she's doing this Mankind thing to 'keep me around' either. I think it's her fetish
I might have to pull out of college, or at least one class.
I'm not going to say what class (It's 4 units), but let's say it's killing me because I don't understand it at all (Ironically, it was my major because I thought it was easier than expected, seeing as I use technology everyday).
I'm afraid if I do, then I have to pay back my tuition for that class (I'm a BOG/FinAid student, but I barely know the system other than hooray, free class unless idiotic).
On the other hand, my GPA is shit at this moment, so I need to win as greatly as possible. I'm 12 units in the hole, which will only be 8 units if I drop (Which is the better looking choice), but I'll get a 'W' grade (Withdrawal).
On that same hand, if I drop out altogether and get a job, apparently that's the better branch to go to. I kinda thought to get a job, you have to go to college BECAUSE the market is so competitive. Someone (Let's say much older, isolated sister) kept saying drop out and get a job already, which I could, but I'm afraid if I get back in college, I have to pay a boatload more. Or hell, a fast food vendor might not take me because I'm not in school.
So, I need some help. Should I drop from that one class with a W, stay in all classes, or drop them all?
Drop that one class, see how you go for the rest of the semester, and then decide if you want to keep going or drop out then.
>>16930528
Alright, I will. I hope, though, I don't have to spend any more money of just dropping it. This is apparently the last day to qualify for fee refunds and drop without notation.
I don't know if that helps.
>>16930536
Go for it then. Don't drop out on a whim though
If I told a girl I like, to listen to this song? I get a feeling she might get the idea that I like her through this approach. What do you guys/girls think? Yay or nay?
Dreaming by Mac Demarco
>>16930445
Good song. I sent it to one I like didn't have bad effects desu but that's because we send each other music.
It depends on her personality. If you feel she'll like it and take the message positively then go ahead. Not the best of advice but that's all I havem
>>16930445
Why are you sending messages in code? Why not just talk to the girl?
>>16930721
Maybe because he doesn't live in america and exposing his feelings out of the blue is considered extremely creepy where he lives
Is it worth to save the money you have for the future e.g. buying a house, quicker to get richer since you have the foundation.
Or should I use the money to have travel experience around the world? Then after that save money?
I am always in a low mood. Sometimes a good mood but majority its low. At 20 years of age, I feel that sometimes its just over (been feeling like that for 5 years now). Its difficult to find good, close friends. I have a job but its a dead end retail. Its very difficult to meet new people after university, as I am in my 2nd year approaching the final year of university.
Pardon the question. Its all over the place.
if you mean US dollars, saving is a bad idea right now. the dollar is expanding again soon, meaning a dollar will soon be worth 50 cents. or in other words practically everything will cost twice as much. other currencies are tied to the dollar, so that's not a stable investment either.
>>16930514
>own town
When you're surrounded by many other people in a legitimately different culture and not a nigger clusterfuck it's different