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I feel for you. When they came back from the hospital I had no doubt whatever that the bavby was mine. But I can't help feeling they gave me back the wrong wife.
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>>16933226
It is entirely possible that someone switched your kid, after giving birth you probably lost your consciousness for awhile.
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>>16933226
dna and blood test
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Am I damaged for life? Or am I fixable? Be honest. 2016-03-19 04:57:26 Post No.16933225
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Am I damaged for life? Or am I fixable? Be honest.
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I'm a 20 year old male. I grew up hating life because of overbearing strict Indian parents. We moved around A LOT, and it fucked up my social skills because I didn't have close friends as a child/teen. I couldn't date properly because of my fucking draconian parents. They didn't feed me enough protein because desis tend to overfeed their kids rice and underfeed meat because desis are cheap fucking assholes, and as a result I'm short compared to my peers. They beat me, I'm not talking light spank, I'm talking long-drawn out coat hanger/belt beatings. We grew up poor in Canada when I could've grown up rich in India.I fucking hate them, they ruined my childhood and I don't know how to get over it.
I'm in college now. I have no friends. I don't party at all. I just work out and eat and study. I literally can't get past small talk. I try to be nice, but I'm awkward as fuck. I somehow had 2 white girlfriends before, one was smoking hot but I was a rebound beta for her, the other was anorexic and a bitch and I don't know why I dated her. Perhaps out of sheer loneliness. I lost my virginity at late 18, almost 19, to a black woman I wasn't even into. It was just to lose my v-card, which I could've lost at 14 with the hot white gf I had back then if it wasn't for my fucking parents who confiscated my condoms! That one time was the only time I had sex, but at 14 with the hot gf I was making out and dry humping and motorboating, but she didn't want me to fuck her without a condom.
I also had 3 separate extended stays at psych wards for depression and bipolar disorder. All in grade 12. I missed my prom.
When I was a kid, I thought being the weird kid was a temporary phase. In elementary, I thought that in high school I'd be normal and party and stuff and be cool. When in high school, I thought college would be my big break. Now I realize that I'm not social enough to be in my major, I'm switching to engineering which I hate doing but I'm capable of doing.
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That sucks man. Dont be the failurDelet failure be tha failure
My childhood was full of snitches about me growin up.
When i realized i was being watched. I
Was growin up. Then i becane a drspressed loser,poor,ugly and smelly. Fuck!
4 years after high school. I felt better. I became kinda social. Im still aovially awkward, i dont stay quiet and i dont care. :) it annoying to be a quiet person.
im in my 20.
I dont act but i be real.
The past is the past. Deal with it first, cause the past comrealirst than whats ahead.
Im dealing withbny past right now. And its going ok :)
Dont think. But do. With yourself. The dirt may be dried but your tears will make em grow...
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L........... In my perspective, be aware of snitches. TAKE ACTION!!!!!!!!!!
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>>16933225
Everyone lives with their past, Anon. The way I see it, the only thing that's holding you back is the fact that you're over-stressing about yours, thereby letting it dictate the way you live your life now through insecurities and doubt.
>I thought that in high school I'd be normal
>When in high school, I thought college would be my big break
I am fairly sure that you're intelligent enough to understand why that's untrue, and I am also certain that if you can comprehend why change won't come by itself, you also know what you need to do in order to forcefully bring it.
None of us can tell you exactly what to do in order to make your life better/the way you want it to be. That's entirely up to you. But, here's an indisputable truth that we may or may not put as clearly as we should: you are not "damaged for life", you are not "beyond repair", you can get better, you will get better if you make the right steps towards it.
Stop being miserable. Make a tangible plan of how to shape your life according to your understanding of a good one, and start making daily steps towards achieving it. Either that, or keep whining on the Internet to some assholes who do not give a singular fuck about you.
The choice is yours.
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THIS SUCKS. Choosing between two women, and I honestly don't know what to do. Input? For reference I'm 25.
>A
Pluses:
>Incredibly kind and forgiving
>Very mature in pretty much every situation
>Beautiful
>Great fashion sense
>She thinks I'm almost perfect, would date in a second
Negatives:
>I don't like super mature women
>She's a few months older than me
>She's from Central Asia so cultural touchstones are wildly different
>English is her FOURTH language, I don't speak her first language so there'd always be that barrier
>Not a body type I'm overly attracted to
>B
Pluses:
>Super domestic, her biggest priorities are caring for her man (as she put it) and keeping the house (I love that stuff)
>Very caring
>Gorgeous (most beautiful woman I know, B is #3)
>Great body
>19
Cons:
>When I met her her fiance had dumped her 2 weeks before
>she was super fragile
>I only knew/talked to her for 1 month and that was 8 months ago
>have not spoken to her since
>won't be able to speak to her for another 4 months
>can tell from stalking her social media that she is not over her ex (but is also not dating anyone)
>not certain she is interested or if I was just a bounce back
I just don't know!
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Let me narrow that down to shit that matters in the long run:
A
>Incredibly kind and forgiving
>Very mature in pretty much every situation
>She's from Central Asia so cultural touchstones are wildly different
B
>Very caring
>Super domestic, her biggest priorities are caring for her man (as she put it) and keeping the house (I love that stuff)
>she was super fragile, not certain she is interested or if I was just a bounce back
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>>16933384
Well, that helps. But the short term is part of the equation for sure, yes?
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>>16933220
I'd go with A. Sounds like she is already actually into you, and all of the cons for her seem kind of trivial.
B. Seems more like a fling that you just want to dick because she's hot and it'd be different. She sounds like a mess and there is probably a good reason her fiance dumped her. Don't be so quick to believe whatever biased story she gave you. She might be more aesthetically pleasing but you should value personality traits over that. Also if she's the one that said her biggest priority is caring for her man than she's probably just trying to make herself look good.
The fact that you listed A first and the way you talk about her makes me inclined to believe you actually like her more and are just seeking validation. Go with A.
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I am tired of feeling so small in life, I am tired of losing all these girls that I like because I feel horrible about myself, I want to be independent and move on in life but money is an issue with me right now. I am 21 have a part time job paying out like 130 a week and I go to school but am slowly going nowhere there. I really want to move out on my own and grow up in the world but I know I am far away from that dream. My question today is what are some qualities that I have to have to be independent (other than a high paying job) like what should I have skill wise going out on my own into the world.
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Responsibility
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>>16933124
Okay good one, now is there anyway I can train that? Or is it just gonna be experience wise
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You are right you need a higher paying job. There will be chores you'll need to do. General cleaning, laundry, dishes, etc. You'll need to buy household items before you move. And probably after because I can guarantee there's some things you'll forget. Budgeting is a very useful skill. Make sure you have money saved up for emergencies. Decent cooking skills are pretty necessary unless you want to waste money eating out every night.
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My boyfriend has been cheating on me since we got together 6 years ago. He claims he hasn't thought about another woman since his last slip up 6 months ago. Once a cheater always a cheater? Anyone been through this have any advice?
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>Since his last slip up
>More than one slip up
>Cheating on you for the past 6 years
Has it honestly not crossed your mind to break up? Save yourself the misery and leave him. What a shitty boyfriend.
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>>16933118
Should have split the first time you found out. Yes, people can change, but if they have the maturity to understand what they did was wrong, and make the change needed, they should also have the maturity to understand why you would want to leave.
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I have tried to end it. But he turns it around to make me the bad guy.
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Need help with a resume. I'm 18 and in my last year of high school. What sort of things should I be looking at putting? And do I need a photo of myself or is that weird? I'm just looking for a part-time job, pretty much anywhere.
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>do I need a photo
No
Just put down extra-curriculars and any forms of leadership positions you had in them or in any clubs outside school. Only put a GPA if it's really worth noting (like 3.3 or above).
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>>16933106
>And do I need a photo of myself
Don't do that.
Don't overthink it. Literally answer the questions. Name, age, work history, references. It's not hard. The hardest part is finding non-family references at your age. It's okay that you don't have a work history yet, most employers won't care since you're 18. If you have questions, ask your parents to help you.
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>>16933117
Also, if you weren't into clubs at school, try to get some volunteer opportunities before a part-time job. They'll accept anyone and will give you good experience.
So I've been speaking to this girl for a good five months, she wanted to get together but I didn't at the time so I delayed it but we kept talking intimately, then she became more and more upset all the time and says that it's only her that can help herself, she still wants to keep talking and that she loves me but in conversation she's blunt. Also she doesn't wanna meet me yet because she's not 'ready'
What do?
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I need more info OP
>Do you want to meet her?
>Does her liking you make you not want to be friends with her?
>Does she make you fee uncomfortable now?
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I want to meet her desperately!
I want to be her 'lover' not friend.
And yes I feel ill about it.
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>>16933075
I want to meet her desperately!
I want to be her 'lover' not friend.
And yes I feel ill about it
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In the past year or so, Ive been getting a huge amount of anxiety and get panic attacks nearly every time i go outside. I try to live my life, work and socialize but this is really fucking me up and making me not want to leave the house as i'll randomly get panic attacks in the middle of work or when i occasionally go out with friends. Wtf do i do about this??
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>>16933053
Maybe see a doctor?? Is there any reason you can't do this?
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>>16933061
I went to a doctor earlier for depression and anxiety, but none of the pills i got ended up working so i kind of stopped going, not sure if its the same for anxiety. Ive been planning on going to a therapist nearby but its like 90$ per visit
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How to find a mental health provider: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/in-depth/mental-health-providers/art-20045530
How to find a therapist: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
See a psychiatrist. See a therapist. Get your mental health issues addressed.
I hope it goes well for you, OP!
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How bad did i mess up my cold sore? 2016-03-19 03:56:17 Post No.16933051
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How bad did i mess up my cold sore?
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I got a cold sore for the first time ever at 28 years old a week and a half ago, I did the whole abreva thing and would pick at the scabs.... I read it was best to pop the ulcers to get the virus out and sterilize it. I did not have a needle so I popped a few sores like a pimple and washed it with hand sanitizer. I also had some odd ingrown hairs there and could not shave so I took a tweezer and pulled out about 10 of them in the area.
I woke the next day with a very swollen lip as can be seen in the following photo below.
The area where the cold sore was after tweezing the hairs out was fully numb for 30 hours like it has had a novocaine shot feeling to it all day long. A small squishy like cyst would also appear behind the aggrevated cold sore but it has pretty much gone away.
I also would later on take a needle and pop the little white ulcers to drain it so it would dry out but it would only spread with new smaller sores so I stopped messing with it all together.
If so do i Need to go get meds?
I am 5 years celibate including no kissing so I am guessing I got this touching my face after shaking hands since I work as a journalist. It was very cold the day before this popped up and my lips typically chap in cold weather, the next morning I had that tingling feeling where the sore would appear and my lips were dry.
I also take 40mg ritalin and 20mg Lexapro daily which may have been a factor here.
I am going on nearly 25 days with this now.
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Busted top lip after pulling out mustache hairs with tweezers which also spread the sore and gave my a little cyst under the sore, The cyst like ball under sore has now mostly gone away
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This was the cold sore after about a week and a half after not really taking care of it and constantly picking scabs
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I remember your other thread. It's almost gone. Just keep leaving it alone. You picking at it probably have the area a bacterial infection so that's why it's taking so long.
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My friends have been giving me shit lately
I'm really lonely I have nobody to hang out with
It's either join ts and get berated or sit in silence
I have nobody to actually talk to
I used to have someone to talk to every day but she's gone and i'm so lonely ever since
My advice question is, can I make friends online that aren't weird as fuck or something? I want another friend I can talk to every day, who talks to me, like an actual friend
I want someone I can play music for, and talk to, and just.. I don't know help
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I'll be your friend
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>>16933036
will you?
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this is me, it's nuvole bianche
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Is it harder to find a girlfriend online or offline? I've been doing online exclusively for about 3 years. I've had a bunch of dates and only 2 fairly short relationships.
I'm a little frustrated because I feel like I'm putting in way too much energy into finding a girl and I feel like it shouldn't take this much work (maybe I'm wrong).
I'm not in school right now. I'm planning to go to college in September. Is that the best way to meet girls?
It wouldn't bother me that much if I wasn't a virgin at almost 23- I'm pretty sexually frustrated. I posted my pic here before and nobody said I was ugly or anything.
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It depends on your situation OP. College is very easy place to meet girls. I had 2 girlfriends and slept with a few women during my time at college and I'm a fucking socially retarded loser. I've barely interacted with a woman since I graduated, got a job and moved back home.
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Both places have their struggles. In person, there are far fewer clues about what you're getting into. Joy (or terror) is in the discovery. Got a better sense of what they look like though, unless you meet them somewhere dark
Online SEEMS easier but you are essentially at the mercy of other people's efforts to market themselves. A lot of people lie or exaggerate, but most people are just not very good at advertising themselves. Online dating requires a little more work honestly, trying to figure out the true person behind the profile.
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You should spend your energy on the relationship, not on finding it. It´s the person you will be with you want to focus on, because once you have the relationship, that´s where you need to focus.
It´s hard online and offline, but offline you get a better chance of something real.
In general learn to talk to people, laugh with them, don´t be a jerk, don´t be egotistic or a downer or a killjoy have your own interests and be able to talk about them.
Don´t come onto girls with something only guys find funny or something they may find vulgar or off-putting, don´t push too hard, but don´t ignore them just to spark their interest.
And don´t be nervous, good relationships are hard to find.
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How do I ask out my friend who told me they loved me on February. We haven't talked about the February event in person but in text he can be a smooth fuck. In person were good friends . How can I ask him out? Stories and tips are welcome!!
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>>16932946
write him a note, ask your bestest friend to pass it on to him.
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I dont
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>>16932946
Just ask him out!
It's not hard: "hey anon, you know what you told me in February? Yeah, i like you too. Let's go out!"
I mean the hard part of knowing if he likes you is over. He already told you. You just need to give him an answer.
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GREENTEXT OPTIONAL: 25F and a 19M? 2016-03-19 03:12:07 Post No.16932938
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GREENTEXT OPTIONAL: 25F and a 19M?
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The greentext is optional as I've posted it before with another question.
>Be me, 19
>At concert alone
>Show up like 15 minutes late to show
>Go to merch stand and grab shirt while opening act plays before they run out
>Standing in back next to merch stand because I'm tall and kinda like my personal space at concerts
>7/10 redhead comes up to me
>"Hey, I know this is weird, but if you were a girl, what shirt would you buy?"
>Odd way to start conversation, but k
>Keep chatting throughout opening act
>I'm not shy, just quiet. Not a fan of small talk but I'm trying because damn she's cute. She's pretty eager to keep the conversation going
>Conversation picks up, going really well. Mainly talking about her but whatever works
>She asks how old I am. I tell her, find out she's 25
>"Hey, I know you're 19, but can I buy you a beer?
>Decline with bullshit reason, but really there's staff walking around and I have giant X's on my hands. Didn't wanna get kicked out
>Brushing her arm against mine when talking, and our spot isn't crowded enough to pass it off as accidental
>Chatting for next 15 minutes
>She's gorgeous and a total sweetheart
>She checks her phone and says "So I guess my friends showed up, I'll see you later, alright?"
>She comes back in another 15 "I did come here by myself, so I figured I'd be by myself with you."
>I'm an oblivious fuck but come on I'd have to be fucking Steevo Wunder to not see this
>We're having a blast at concert, but I didn't see her wander off again, because oblivious as shit
>Kept an eye out for her, but couldn't find her after the show
>Bugged me the whole drive home, "How would that night have played out?" thoughts
>Found her in like two seconds on FB and decided I've got nothing to lose
pic related
Normally I'd assume a girl like this is interested, but the thing that's making me skeptical is the age difference. Is it common for a 25 year old to be into someone 6 years younger than them?
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She looks interested but I will warn you. I had a massive crush on a 25 y/o female at the time (I was 20) and I never stood a chance. Women like these are usually looking for long term relationship and you gotta have your shit together like live in your own, have a great job $$$, know how to cook, pay bills, managing money... keep in mind tou are competing against older men that have way more experience than you and yes for a lot of women, being older than you is a major turn off and no matter what you do (unless you are a 10/10 chad into modelling or millionaire), she will always see you as inferior.
Unless you have all of those qualities I mentionned beforehand, forget about relationship but try to get that pussy if you can.
Best of luck
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>>16932972
This is true in the general sense. I do know of one instance where a girl married a guy with no job while she paid all the bills for their apartment, though he probably has an actual job at this point.
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>>16932972
Oh and by the way, if she is still single at this age, it is a red flag. Call me paranoid but there's a reason why she is single. In my case, she had anxiety issues and is alpha widowed of her ex. They all have issue the older they get
I think a good friend of mine has finally just snapped. Me, his other friends and his girlfriend don't know what to do about him now. How do you convince someone to get help when all they seem to want to do is destroy themselves.
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>caring for anyone but blood family
you don't. let him do what he wants.
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>>16932920
I would rather not see another friend of mine self destruct.
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Specifically what are they doing? Drug abuse? Suicidal?
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I'm freaking out
>be me 18
>first job only been working there a month
>not sure if a lot of people like me there because I fucked up a lot one night. I've Been getting better
>New kid starts working
>Get off work early 8:45 pm
>Dark in the parking lot
>back into a black car
>oh shit, it's new kid's car
>Never been in an accident before, I have no idea what to do
>Get the hell out of there
>Stop at gas station and fill up
>Inspect damage, it doesn't look like there's anything
>(roughly 5-10 minutes later) As I'm paying for my shit co-worker comes in
>She doesn't always drive herself. Sometimes she's dropped off. There was a car parked next to the one I bumped into. Could someone have saw?
>Get home, tell parents what happened and they call work
How fucked am I? I feel like a complete asshole if I did damage to new kid's car. Talk about first impressions. Also if people at work don't already hate me, they'll hate me now for bumping into new kid's car.
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It's not a big deal, shit happens.
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>>16932926
Do you think if I making a cake with "Sorry I bumped into your car" on it better?
>Also my car has black paint on it. I didn't see if there was any dents afterwords. Is it possible I just scraped the paint?
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>>16932913
Shameless bump. Has this happened to anyone else?