I have been working in a Family Dollar store for a year and a half, I knowledge that im not the best worker but at least I try. The thing is that some people told me that I could promote myself to Assistant Manager. The problem is that I feel I couldn't keep with the work and then I would be fired. Also the pay difference is not too big and is too much responsibility for that low payment. Also It doesn't help that the store is placed on the worst area of my city, If I could move to another store I might consider being an Assistant Manager.
The other thing is that I need to start to make more money, so I can live by myself but I don't know what to do, I don't know if I should look for another job with better pay, have two part-time jobs or be an A.Manager. I know that being an A.Manager could help me in the future when im looking for other jobs in the future. At the same time Im in College and I will have a lot of years being there (im taking one class by semester) and im still on E.S.L classes.
What I can do? I tried to explain as much as I can but if you need more background information just ask.
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Go for the assistant manager. managerial experience is fantastic and really pads your resume whenever you graduate college. Just do it until you graduate or for 3 years, whichever is longer, at least.
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>>16934705
manager experience at fast food and stores like a dollar tree are essentially useless. at best they can help you get 'shift manager' position at another fast food or shitty store.
start applying for jobs in your spare time. apply for anything that can interest you, but imo you should aim for a full time office receptionist gig. you wont get one asap, but hold out and keep looking and you'll get picked up at some point.
i lied on my resume to get a receptionist gig, now i manage the entire (Small) business.
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learn stock market on free time
My life is pretty much going down the drain.
My grades are slipping, my attendence have gone down, my coworkers dislike me. Last night I back into a car and now I missed a day of work. Also family life isn't great either. My parents and I argue constantly.
>basically all aspects of my life are shit. Low key considering ending it because I don't want to deal with the consequences and I don't want it to get worse.
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The only thing I can tell you is to find a hobby, which is totally different (and possibly elsewhere) from everything else.
Or to blow up and make everyone behave.
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So are you just gonna whine about it, or are you gonna do something about these problems? Don't sit around and expect everything to just fall into place. Fucking do something about it
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>My grades are slipping
Do better.
>my attendence have gone down
Stop cutting class.
>my coworkers dislike me
Stop being a douche and/or find a new job
>Last night I back into a car and now I missed a day of work
Both your own fault.
Literally every problem in your life can be solved by you taking responsibility for your own shit.
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I have had really bad body acne since I was 12. I'm 19 now, and it hasn't gotten much better. It's really taking a toll on my confidence because I hate taking shirt off (at the beach, in the sack).
I've tried every bodywash imaginable, I'm very clean, I exfoliate, all that shit, but nothing has worked. Any ideas to help my backne/chest acne would be greatly appreciated.
(pic not me, but I'm close to that)
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OP here, I also have tried removing all unhealthy shit from my diet. I'm still doing that, but it's been 3 months with no success.
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Benzoyl peroxide works the best for me. You can get a scrub to use in the shower every day. It's not a 100% cure or anything, but I get far, far fewer pimples, and when they happen, they come and go in like 1-2 days instead of sticking around for a week.
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Thank you. I'll check that out, I can deal with a few zits here and there but right now it's just bad.
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sup /adv/
I've been gambling too much lately. It was fun at start but now I've been gambling over an hour a day. Point is, I've actually won money lately. Got a 1000$ jackpot and won 300$ more today. With all losses included I definately won a few hundered dollars.
Anyway, I got the feeling I'm getting addicted. I don't even like gambling anymore, I just do it because it keeps my mind off things. I want to stop it before I develop more of an addiction.
First things first, since I gamble almost exclusively at one website, I downloaded this addon for chrome that can 'nuke' complete domains called 'stayfocusd'. I also blocked the use of internet explorer and all domains that let's me download different web browsers.
Now since I've done that, I just changed devices. The website is also accessable through my smartphone. And I haven't found any app/program that let's me block domains on chrome and the standard web browser that I cannot delete. Got android btw.
Pls help me find a way to block all my acces to this online gambling.
Also gambling addiction general. Any of you suffer from it? Any of you got rid of your addiction and how?
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A family friend had it, made big trouble for his whole family. Not sure how to kick the habit, but there are different ways to gamble (you can do it in some games like GW2 or play online poker or whatever)... Or just play poker with cents with friends or over who gets the trophy next (weekly)...
Best thing would probably be to kick the habit asap totally and avoid any stimulants, but if you can´t, consider the possibilities not involving any actual cash/property ;)
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>I definately won a few hundered dollars.
Precise math truly is the enemy of any wannabe pro gambler. Guesstimation is key to maintaining a happy ignorance of the true state of your gambling finances.
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Could be. I tend to forget about the losses and remember the big catches. Either way I'm not yet in a situation where I'm financially instable, but that also has to do with some savings I have no purpose for.
Also: I don't spend much money on other stuff. Just makes me think I could've spend it on gambling.
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I only like girls who like me.
I feel like, what's the point of pursuing someone to try and convince them to like you, and if you fuck up then all that work is gone. Having said that, only one girl I've ever had a crush on has liked me back naturally, which was just pure coincidence. Statistically, it's dumb to just wait until I come across someone who just happens to like me back, but what else am I supposed to do? everthing else feels so forced and fake
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>naturally
Do you mean "immediately"?
What feels forced and fake? Feelings change as you get to know someone more. Sometimes you like them more, sometimes less.
Instant romantic sparks aren't as common as fiction suggests. As long as you are sincere, why would you feel fake?
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>>16934619
Yeah i mean immediately.
I don;t know what it is, but I find the most attractive thing a girl can do is be attracted to me.
And it's not me that feels fake, its them. It feels like unless they have feelings for me on their own, I'm just tricking them into liking me.
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>>16934611
You have a system you follow that isn't giving you the results you like. What thefuck do you think is the solution?
Or to put it another way, I only work for people that seek me out to hire me. But I don't like not having money. What should I do?
How much more pussy will I get if I change my name to Slash? I'm currently a Peter.
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You can realistically slash that number in half
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I started calling my self Wordz (short for Edwards) and chicks b digging my dick now
Hey /adv/ so I told my friend a while back how I felt about her and she said she only saw me as a friend, but 2 days later she decided she wanted to give it a shot. It's been 3 weeks now and she says she still sees me as a friend, while I'm over here basically falling in love. We've been talking A LOT every day, I've learned that in all her past relationships every guy has basically fucked her over for another girl. I also learned that she doesn't like yelling, and this is because of her parents, when they went through their divorce she saw them yelling at each other a lot so I think it scared her. She says she WANTS to be in a relationship with me but for some reason she can't see herself in one. could her past experiences With relationships have configured her mind into thinking all relationships are full of negativity? Or is just not meant to be?
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Also another important part, she told me that since every other guy has fucked up and started talking to other girls, she is waiting for me to do the same.... How is she supposed to get feelings for me when just just waiting for me to fuck up?
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Also another important part, she told me that since every other guy has fucked up and started talking to other girls, she is waiting for me to do the same.... How is she supposed to get feelings for me when just just waiting for me to fuck up? I really like this girl, do you think it's worth the work/emotional stress?
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Didn't mean to post that twice, I thought the first one didn't go though
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what can I do to write better music? 2016-03-19 14:01:54 Post No.16934416
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hi /adv/,
I'm an amateur songwriter and I love music. I want to have more depth and intricacy in the songs I write (instead of verse-chorus-verse-chorus-bridge-verse-etc).
I listen to songs like this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fqOKYOhUYx0 and love how all the instruments are playing different counter-rhythms and melodies but they all fit. When I try to do imitate this I get a train-wreck of a song.
how can I improve on this? I listen to a lot of music like this, but I can't seem to ever write music like this. My "boring" (for lack of a better word) aren't terrible to listen too, but I want to write more interesting music. I realize this is kind of an open-ended question, but I would appreciate any advice at all.
cheers!
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by having talent ?
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An intimate knowledge on music theory helps. Just write some stuff and post on mu, see what they think. Granted most will be shit posts but any criticism should be helpful and most will tell you that practice makes perfect.
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Quick question: can you read music?
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Tell me if I should give up.
I met this chick on Tinder last october. She lives 30 minutes away. No big deal. We clicked pretty quickly once we figured out we both love pokemans and battled each other.
I was dating this chick. Things were going well, we'd see each other every week or more and constantly message each other throughout the day. She understood my morbid /b/ and street trash raised sense of humor, We would play online together. We were never "officially" together. Things were going great until she started getting distant out of nowhere in late january.
For a week she would barely message me, and when she did, she would leave me hanging. But she would also message me first on some of those days. (I'm not a "plz respond" kind of guy) So I finally called her out on it one day.
She basically said that someone she had reached out to before we started being a thing I guess finally messaged back (I don't know the details, I didn't want to at the time) she said it'd be unfair to me to continue this with her unsure like this and it ended. I don't really know how it ended up with the other guy.
Flash forward to the past 2 weeks. Before we would talk maybe once a week after the whole thing ended. Now she is constantly messaging me all day again. And it feels like she wants something. She tried to get me to go watch a movie we had talked about going to see together. I kind of get the feeling she wants me back.
Should I find out what happened and give it another try or should I just cut it off?
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just cut it off, unless you are comfortable always being her platonic friend to fall back on when her romantic relationships fail.
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Unless sex is platonic I don't think it was platonic
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>Should I find out what happened and give it another try
Any reason not to do this? You're already in communication. Just ask her about the other guy.
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How do I overcome an existential crisis?
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By telling us what your actual problem is instead of expecting anybody to read your fucking mind.
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God
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indifference
Got myself in a bit of a predicament, id appreciate any help
Basically a girl joined my college last week, she's in all my classes. She's kind of a loner, very shy, never speaking to anyone, I know how it feels to be shy and have everyone just ignore you, so after a week I grew the balls to sit with her and talk to her.
We instantly hit off, we both love anime and vidya and we talked for about 2 hours straight. I never really got a good look at her face because she's always looking down, but she looked up at me when we were talking and she's absolutely beautiful and she has the cutest smile/laugh I've ever seen. I think I fell in love with her right there and then.
Now here's the problem; she has a boyfriend. When I found out it totally destroyed me, I've never felt this way about a person before. I only found out about her boyfriend by stalking her Facebook friends, shes literally never mentioned him once.
What do I do?
Talking to her and knowing I'll never be with her because she has a boyfriend is extremely painful. But I can't just stop talking to her because I'm literally the only friend she has in college.
This is so fucked up.
I've flirted with the idea of trying to cuck her boyfriend, but I don't know if that's even possible or if it's the right thing to do
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Such is life. I'm in the exact same situation right now. I'm just gonna leave it on the back burner and hope for a rebound when/if she gets dumped.
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Yeah I wouldn't try and manipulate anything, it could blow up in your face.
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I've found out that friends overall hold more value then a relationship, sure you got burned but if you hit it off and connected build a friendship, and you might like her because you are socially starved and interpreted her social interaction as something more, though could be wrong about that last.
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Unsure where I want to go with my life 2016-03-19 12:59:53 Post No.16934299
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Unsure where I want to go with my life
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For a long time, I've wanted a simple IT job. Something where I can just sit in a school and keep the servers up and fuck around on the side but I'm starting to think that the chance of getting a job like that is low and I'd probably get bored as fuck. I'm pretty average at maths and programming so I couldn't get a software job and there aren't many programming jobs in Australia anyway.
However, I was thinking about trying out for the police. Careers counsellors suggested that I could study criminology in university, join the police force and become a detective eventually. I really don't know what the fuck I want to do anymore. I'm not in university currently and just have a part-time job at a supermarket.
I don't really have any passion to pursue any particular career and don't have many great skills apart from being kinda good with computers. I'm really starting to stress out over this.
Anyone else experiencing a job crisis?
Any ideas, /adv/?
>pic not related at all but it's feels
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>Careers counsellors suggested that
Career counsellors are fucking delusional. They know nothing about the job market.
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I've no idea what to suggest to you. As far as I can tell younger people are completely fucked, I'm partially fucked, people nearing retirement now are kind of fucked and those who pulled the ladder up on all of us are voting and acting out of complete self interest and just hoping to die before the world inevitably changes too much.
I went to university when it just started to cost money and left with significant debt, but like a third of what it cost my girlfriend a few years later. I've managed to purchase a modest house which I'll have paid off within the next 5 years and I own a car outright, but I'm fucking 33.
My parents had this shit done by ages 19-21 and were raising a family at the same time. I feel like I lost 10 years on them and I've been fairly lucky and committed to big goals like home ownership. Don't even want to speculate how fucked it is going to be for those behind me.
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Also here at least jobs seem completely fucked. All 'soft' office shit is basically being consolidated into low wage centralised outsourced businesses using high degrees of automation. Seems like the days of well paid or individual businesses having human resources, accountancy etc are long gone. Built on fucking sand.
Everything else is at threat of automation. Traditionally well paid skilled trades are being replaced by prefabrication and off-site manufacturing and now you just need a few installation technicians on site to do a very simple job. Most manufacturing and agriculture had gone.
Even the traditionally safe and conservative public sector jobs like teaching, health care and the police are being privatised and turned into insecure, performance managed 3rd party shit storms where vast sums of money previously spent on local services gets skimmed by outside investors and honorary board members.
Not been a job for life in a long time. Not been the culture of 'starting out' with a company for a long time. Kids are getting longer school hours, extra years of compulsory education and training and finally bullshit customer service apprenticeships or student debt out of the ass to basically keep them out of the work place for as long as possible.
I can't understand this commitment to 100% employment as well as a measure of economic success. For me, being wealthy enough to not have to work would be pretty sweet. I'd rather my society had like 60% employment and we still managed a reasonable standard of living for a majority. That would be a true indicator of wealth and prosperity. Could actually afford to let old people, children, pregnant women, the disabled, adults dedicated to family care or child rearing etc stay at home instead of banging them up in a work camp for increasingly lower wages and meaningless jobs at risk of automation.
My life is in a dump, I´ve been stressed, partially depressed, with horrible load of problems on my back.
My problem is I let too many people (through the time) know I have problems, but I REALLY don´t want them to see me that way at all. It makes me uncomfortable when they see me that way. I can somehow deal with my problems, they can´t help anyway (aside from listening to me ramble), and they have their own problems too.
So my question is: how do you handle/go about showing most of the world the OK/happy/fine side of you even though it´s too much often? (And I´m talking about all social interactions)
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Seriously, this is not about being secretly EMO, it´s about appearing to be okay so I would feel more okay myself..
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>implying
a good friend doesn't want to see you down, sorry you don't have any. but keeping busy is the best way to fake being ok. don't give yourself time to dwell. forget about the past and always be doing something.
but dealing with your problems will actually make them go away. you gotta put in work and address the issues with yourself breh
I'll go ahead and fall for the bait, what's the problem, anon?
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Complain on 4chan so I don't have to complain anywhere else.
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Can anyone give me tips on fixing my acne? I've been trying REALLY hard to fix it for a year now. I wash my face with antiseptic and pH neutral face lotion in the morning and before I go to sleep, I never touch my face and make sure to wash my hands at home when I was outside, I have a towel on my pillow I wash every week and I regularly take in magnesium and zinc. I avoid fast and junk food and also anything with lactose because that also gives me zits.
And you know what? My acne really improved. Like it really improved and I was happy at first, but getting used to this really lowkey acne I have now I just want to get rid of this issue completely.
I have no idea how I managed to live through the day in my late teens when my acne was actually bad (not that bad, I'm not one of "those" cases) but I can't accept this anymore. What else can I do now? What's the dropping atom bombs on WW2 Japan equivalent to finally get rid of my acne?
tl;dr: I need a final solution to completely get rid of my acne, since being disciplined with my diet and hygiene isn't enough.
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Try marijuana ointment (optimally homemade)
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Go to r/skincareaddiction. Yes it's plebbit but it's good advice. Better than anything you'd get here.
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Talk to a dermatologist
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Every time I see homeless people or beggers on the street I always feel sympathy towards them, like how either bad luck or poor choices lead them to where they are now, and I think that could be me someday if I ever fuck my life up, my question is how or should I help them, I am compelled to help people for the sake of them being as human as I am, i would want to be helped if i was in their situation, but I don't know when to draw the line, I was thinking of donating, but how can you know for sure that the money you give will help someone in need, once you hand your money over, it could be spent on drugs or alcohol (you can tell most of the time), I think I should volunteer and talk person to person or something substantial rather than give handouts, does anyone else feel the same way or do you turn a blind eye
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Homeless people are people who are homeless, not objects or animals you can decide for. You cannot blame anyone for buying drugs or alcohol if you decide to give them money, it's they choice to do whatever they want with it. That's always important to keep in mind, as some people feel entitled to I don't know what. Now if someone has a sign saying "I am hungry", you can always ask them if you can buy them something to eat or the like, in a friendly way on eye level.
If you want to really help the homeless, become active and/or volunteer, e.g. at a shelter, food bank, etc.
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It really depends on where you live, the sort of thing you'll need to do some real research on. Learn what the support system for homeless people is, learn the general reasons people become homeless etc.
Like in America, a lot of perfectly normal people are homeless right now because of financial issues and other bullshit and really need all the help they can get and it's probably fair enough to throw them a few bucks. In countries with thriving economies who take care of the homeless, most of the people who are in that position are pretty much out of your reach to help, giving them money is flushing it down the toilet and the best you could do is maybe look into whether you can support an organisation. In shit holes like India, people will cripple children and set them up as beggars to gain sympathy from tourists, so giving them cash is supporting a horrifying industry.
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best thing is usually to give to or work through an organization that really works with them to change their entire lives.
I give to a lot of charitable causes, but I won't hand a few dollars out the window to the guy that's standing by the stoplight with a sign. That's because I realized a long time ago that they are intentionally picking their location to minimize their interaction with you. I've given to people when I can have a conversation with them about what they need, what their plans are, where they are going, etc.
Streetside people don't want to have that conversation with you. That's why they are targeting people in cars that have to drive away as soon as the light turns green.