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>>16927924
Depends in what area you're in. Come up with your own sort of activities, you don't have to go anywhere with other people.

For one date, I took out this one girl into the desert around the time of halloween and we smashed pumpkins with an axe.

Go look at the stars if they are visible. For me, nighttime makes things a lot more sentimental and close, especially if you're with someone else.

Go have sex outside, if you're at the point of the relationship. Just do it where there isn't anyone around.

If you tell me what your area is like, I can thin k of better things to do. For example, if you live in a small town, if there is desert, if it's a forest area, etc.

>>16928460
I live in northeast Ohio, so, if it's not snowing, its rainy and way too cold out. I live in a ghetto, she lives in a plantation with fuck all around it save for woods and a drug store.

If he receives a refund, you should get the plane. If he wishes to keep the plane and apply money from the insurance to offset repairs, that's also a valid option.

>>16927868
>moral standpoint

yeah it's his you filthy jew

Under american law, title and risk of loss transfer to the buyer when the seller delivers it to a common carrier. So when he bought it and you shipped it, it was his. When it was damaged in transit, it was still his, and the insurance policy kicked in.

You're not refunding him the money he paid for it, are you? You shouldn't have to do that - damage was done in transit, the item was already paid for and his. Just pass along the insurance money and everything should be square.

You:
>price paid for item

Him:
>item
>insurance compensation for damage in transit

>>16927877
>>/pol/

>>16927804
Yes, now kiss.

>>16927804
maybe, lesbians normally like girls that look like guys. never understood lesbians. if they are attracted to masculine qualities then why dont they like guys?

Of course not, you're attracted to their male figure/side, not the female side.
Ya'll need to get your shit together regarding sexual orientation vs gender expression

Just gotta let time do its course. Have a huge emotional outlet, like burning all of her stuff for example, and don't bottle all in. I learned that from girls, becuz a good amount of them can get over their relationship after having a big shebang outlet, while their bf years later comes back begging for them.

I'm just saying from experiences

>>16927721
Anything that I can do while at work? Do you know any betters to keep one self distracted or to reduce the times unwanted thoughts creep in? I have a flexible schedule so I could even go home, but I can't find anything to keep me distracted there either.

Bumping for advice

>>16927637
in general most people know the slight hint, when you offer somebody a peppermint gum. you could try this a few times.

but the best solution is and will always be: the truth. it might hurt her a bit, but in the end she will be glad that a loving person sad her that and not her friends or the boss.

if your relationship is really that good as you said, then this little 'embarrassment' will make it even stronger.
if she is a slit and you a player, this will end how it have to end.

>>16927664
I don't know if offering her Orbit all the time will make any kind of significant improvement in the short term, but maybe she'll get the hint eventually and start brushing more. Thanks for the advice.

>>16927637
Kiss her, then use your tongue on her teeth and tell her in a funny way:"you didnt brush your teeth today haha".
Then it's safe to assume you'll never have to worry about this again.

>>16927458
It can be done for a while, if you live very frugally, but you may find the penny-pinching too soul-destroying to be worth it.

You'll have a better chance if you work like hell for about a year, save every penny, and build up a nest egg to draw on along with your PT earnings.

Totally wouldn't do it in the current climes, famdabbydozy. Far too many places pulling part-time work put you on a zero-hour contract these days, and if they can't do that they'd like as not peg you onto a part time slot with less hours than you want. Hold onto that fulltime if you've got it.

>>16927458

You'd really be living on tbe edge of sustainability. It's kind of a gamble. If anything goes wrong, any unforseen circumstances, you could really feel how bad it is to live right on the edge.

I've actually considered how viable it is to be homeless for a while while doing something part time, but with no intention of giving up my ability to shower or anything like that. I don't know how to parse that. Maybe just have a gym membership and live out of a car for a little while. But then how to eat anything but raw food? Personally, i don't know if I could stand just eating raw veggies, fruit and peanut butter all the time for survival's sake. Good thing though is that internet is easy. Just go to the library. The university library near me even has little one man office like spaces that you can sit in indefinitely.

Anyways, I'm rambling. Even in this case, imagine how shit it would be if something happened to your computer? Or your car? You'd be so fucked. I'd be inclined to drive my car rarely. I'd probably try to find a place to park it. Maybe even a garage, another monthly fee. Then i'd get a bike and just try to use public transport.

Anyways... Rambling. It's really a heavy thought because it sounds "freeing" for things like "chasing your dreams", but it's not acrually stress free. It's pretty scary and a risk.

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>>16927437
Anon, it is normal.
You cared about your ex, you felt strongly for her and you had a strong bond with her.
It is fine to still think of her.
I broke up with my ex boyfriend 2 years ago and I'm happy with my new relationship, but sometimes I still get the urge to ask him how he's doing, or talk to him about the new video of our favourite youtuber, or about some book I've read. It will never go away totally, at least to me. The bond we had was strong and I doubt that time can make me forget how I felt for him.
It got better with time and now I think of him rarely. Invest in your relationship, shake those thoughts off when they come to your mind and be there for your girlfriend. Give her all your energies and enjoy what you have.
Don't feel guilty for having memories, or for caring about someone who is not in your life anymore.

>>16928420
Pretty much this. When a bond is extremely strong like that, it leaves a scar. The scar can heal itself with time and will. Just let it happen.

I feel like shit for not talking to my ex. She has a boyfriend now but for some reason she wants to still talk to me. It's sad that I don't share the same feelings. I pretty much ignore her. But things happen.

>>16927330
Why cant you socialize ?
Whats making you anxious?

I'm afraid of people thinking I'm a complete weirdo. - ;3

Another fact is that some people say that I have a completely different sense of humor.. - ;3

>can't afford driving school
>expects to get a car when you get a license

see the disconnect?

>>16927290
Find a friend or neighbor who drives. Do a barter deal - you'll do X for him/her if they take you practice driving for an hour.

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>>16927290
How do you even fail a basic drivers test? Literally, stop here, turn there, parallel park and it's over. If you can't do this at 23, that's a really big problem

Friends?

Do you even know what autism actually is? Because i think, youre just a retard, thats all.

>>16927283
Any health assessment, mental or physical, has to be extensive and ongoing to be comprehensive. If you demand a one-shot cheap diagnosis, you're going to get what amounts to a rough guess. Either care enough to commit to a full series of tests, whatever the cost, or don't bother asking.

>>16927203

>put on acts
>people don't like it

Maybe your problem is that you're a fucking tryhard? I'm a dick to everyone I meet, and I've still cobbled together a group of 5-10 lifelong friends post-uni.

Being yourself only works as a long-term action. If you keep having new personas, no one is going to stick around to find out which one is real.

>>16927203
>I tend to be unpleasant to people.
>They tend to be unpleasant back.

Can YOU see a connection there?

>>16927203
Start by not being an idiot. Calm the fuck down and just chill out. Learn to relax and shut the fuck up from time to time. I know many people that just won't stop talking and say random shit to see if people like them. Improve your voice aswell. People with annoying voices tend to be unpopular.

>>16927200
Most of the time people talk about other people and things that are going on in their lives. If you don't spend a lot of time interacting with people who all know each other then you'll have little to say.

The best solution is to just try and spend as much time as possible with people and try not to worry about being boring. After time you'll be able to join in the conversations more easily.

Get podcasts and radio to listen to. No the ones with like, a "concept", but the ones who are pure conversational. Things like Opie & Anthony and WTF podcast.

Pay attention to how they change from one subject to another, how they keep the flow of the conversation alive, etc.

>How can I fix this? How can I become the guy that always have something to say?

Have a lot of different experiences, create some hobbies, stuff like that. That way you'll always have something to add.

And, in general, ask people a lot of questions.

>>16927200
/r/theredpill has a good guide on holding conversations in the sidebar. Once you get a feel for how to get people talking and branch discussions into different topics it just comes down to dealing with the anxiety and just talking to people without thinking about it too much

You're acting like a girl. It's always the girls who flake out and never talk to a guy again, even when they were interested.

>>16927131
You're horny and you did a stupid horny thing, so what.
What is she supposed to do with the dick pic, hunt you down?
Just relax, you got off and that's it. Chat with her sporadically for a few days and then forget about it, as she surely will.

>>16927134
But I don't know if I'm interested in anything to be honest. I'm not interested in a relationship. Then again she is a really cool chick that is nice to talk to and didn't find the thought of flirting and sexting with me completely disgusting.

>>16927128
Ignore the cunt. You don't need people like this in your life m8. Don't get physical unless he starts something.

>>16928203
Thanks for the reply.Appreciate it.
That's what Im planning to do.
Not even gonna bother with snitching on him bout drugs and shit. I just want to forget about this faggot and I hope he finds something else to do so he stops bothering me.

>drugs made a person a retard
Last name Shit Sherlock, first name No

>>16927099
Keep your options open. There needs to be a clear distinction between your life and hers, otherwise, she will end up defining you and vice versa. This is bad fucking news.

If the main problem is, is that you feel too attached to her, go out and start doing other things, try new hobbies, meet new people, develop personal skills. This way you're doing things for yourself and building on an already stable base. If you spend all the time worrying about these problems etc, it's going to collect into some massive storm-drain of shit.

If you feel like you want to see more of her, just say, but understand why you want to see her. Don't let anyone define you, ever. Don't get too attached to anyone, ever.

See her more, message her. Being attached is not bad unless it's controlling or you're unable to do anything as an individual too. I'm completely attached to my boyfriend he means the world to me, we fell in love hard and fast too, and I know I'm obsessed, though I think it's balanced when we see each other more, as it's comforting and reassuring to feel that loved

>>16927130
>keep your options open

I'm not trying to start a new relationship