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I crave a sense of community, /adv/, but I don't know where to find it.

I grew up in a closely-knit small town/suburb in the Midwest.
After High School, I commuted to college, and I had a circle of friends who stayed in the area. Unfortunately, they've slowly drifted away, and now in my mid-20s, I'm the last one left.

I know I need to move on, but I don't know where to go.

I feel very lonely, and I crave that small-town feeling of knowing everybody.

The city is kind of appealing, but I'm worried I'll move down there and simply be lonely in an even bigger, busier place.

Does anyone have any advice for me?

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I'm having a lot of trouble getting over the girl on the right.

Posted this thread before but this time I want to make clear I'm not pure robot, but probably more robot than most currently using this board.

I want to ask if anyone has been in love more than once and how did they compare?
She was my only girlfriend and we dared for 2 to 3 years. The last year was bad enough that she refuses to say we were still together. She slept with three guys that year and had camsex with a few ppl from soc.

So she called me drunk a few weeks ago and we had another long talk after that.

I find her really attractive now and I think I'm in love with her again.

The problem is I'm a neet drug addict who is just now getting his life back together. She's also been dating this guy 15 years older than her. She says she's happy but told me she saw him write to his ex that he missed her sex. That and reconnecting with me makes me think there is a chance.

I don't know how to handle this. Is this obsession or did I fuck up my chance with the one?

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20/m
I have nowhere else to turn to.
I'm going on a trip to another state in a couple days, but I may sacrifice someone else's happiness for my own.
Here's the story:
I've recently gotten out of a relationship with a girl who is very depressed, but who is an exceptional partner in a relationship setting.
She is very troubled, so her insecurities became my own insecurities. I became paranoid about every little thing she did, due to her depression making her act distant and shady.
Well, she ended up taking a trip with a group of friends up north to a snowy/wooded area so she could "find herself" and after weeks of emotional despair, falling in and out of each other's lives and arguing, she claimed that the only male in their group of four had had sex with her whilst she was drunk and asleep.
We started hooking up again, weeks later and for a few nights after we'd have really great sex, she would cry and say that she hates herself for what happened and swore up and down that it wasn't intentional. I don't believe her; we argued about it one day and she defended this guy's confidence and ability to get laid all the time, which made me question her "lack of consent". she always orgasms intensely upon our intimacy, and claims I am the best partner she has ever had, is she disarming me with that?
My paranoia with her and the guy was correct, so I believe my distrust is justified.
Well, we had a falling out again and I recently began talking to an old friend of mine who lives out of state; a girl, who invited me to visit her. i'll be gone for a week. That ex and I fell back together again after some time(without the title, but with the sex and affections. The title is out of the picture because my friends were the ones who warned me about the guy who fooled around with her.) and she will excommunicate me if I leave. I do love her, but I also wanna get out of my box and visit another state. I hate displeasing people. What should I do? Am I a bad person?

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Particularly smiling or not smiling?

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I'm 22 and 2 years ago I decided to completely change myself. I have a career, go to the gym every other day, eat clean, sleep well, new clothes, new car, new haircut, take care of my skin, new hobbies but I still feel so empty inside. I can't change myself, barely made any new friends, still no female interaction...what's the point? I feel like such a loser and can't into human interaction even though I tried so fucking hard. I still kinda have oneitis on a girl and she was the motivation of my radical change but I now know that I'll never have a chance with her

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Hey guys. I need some help here...
I graduated 3 years ago with my engineering degree and landed a job far from home shortly after. Moved to a place where I knew no one but with high hopes I would get a new pep in my step after the pain of college. Shortly after starting work, I found and started being included in a workgroup of other newly hired engineers and I became closer friends with 4-5 of them. One is this girl.
I knew I wanted to spend more time with her right away. We are very similar and I am never nervous around her. She is shy but outgoing. Great sense of humor. Patient. Smart. I then find out she began dating another guy within the 4-5 person group. Heart somewhat broken, but I honestly was okay just being around her, even in the group setting, as it was x100 better than sitting home alone. Over the years, I've been slowly breaking down though. I read to try to break away from the group to make things easier. Also read never to tell either him or her what I feel. We have spend solo time together many times and it is some of the best times I've had in a long time. I've sort of converted this frustration into a drive to workout and improve myself in many ways. I will eventually return home and fantasize about telling them both shortly before leaving, dreaming that she will tell me she felt the same. Sorry for the TLDR story. I could go for hours.
Any recommendations on what I should do? How would they react if they knew? Anyone else been in this situation? Thanks.

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I'm 20 and work a part time job at my college.

Today a coworker tells me "you cannot ignore a customer! I've heard complaints from 2 other staff members about you ignoring customers too and even spoken about it with the boss. You can NOT do that." I didn't mean to. My job is to sit behind a counter, and I sometimes study, so if I accidentally ignored someone, I didn't mean to.

I thought I was on good terms with the boss though and we chat sometimes.
The boss has not brought this up to me at all.

Am I likely to be fired all of a sudden?

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How do I avoid getting kidney stones? They're scary.

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Met her a week ago, talked to her on Facebook for three hours straight. Went with her for a coffee by coincidence, talked a bit more on Facebook. She first told me where she was born (Oman), how much drugs she does, music she listens to, situation at home and so on. Now we ignore the fuck out of eachother. What the hell am I supposed to do?

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Should I join the Royal Navy (as an officer)?

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Look I know you anons don't consider fapping bad, but I'm trying to kick the habit and I'm struggling. Anyone got any tips, maybe a game plan? Any help would be appreciated.

nb4 "Theres nothing wrong with fapping faggot"

I'm not saying it is I just want to stop and it seems fucking IMPOSSIBLE!

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Okay IT fags, I need your inputs.

I need advice on breaking into the IT field and become a network admin eventually. I'm deciding rather I should go back to cc for an IT diploma or just keep applying to places since I already have have my A+. It's almost year since I got my A+ and I have yet to obtain an entry level IT job. Am I doing something wrong? How did you guys get your first IT job?

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Looking for advice from someone who knows how to sarge.

Found this chick on tinder who's DTF. She thinks she's gonna get off work late and not have time to change before coming out to meet me at the bar.

I'm headed out in a few and was wondering if I can or should say anything else to make her less likely to flake or leave the conversation where it's at.

Pic related. End of convo.

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I'm 22 and I've recently been seeing a girl who is 19. There's not a huge age difference, but I'm in graduate school and she's a freshman in college. Seems strange to me because freshman year for me seems like it occurred in a different lifetime, and I'd feel as though people would judge me and look down upon me dating a college freshman.

We get a long great though - she's very intelligent and has a lot of the same interests as me. I guess the only thing that's bothering me is what people will think if I end up dating a girl who seems to be at such a different point in life than I am.

Am I just being too paranoid/uptight?

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>start to talk
>conversation dies down
>tell people i feel like i kill conversations when i join them
>people deny it

what am i doing wrong and why am i such an unfriendly person