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>>17271225
How can he blackmail you after he has already made the footage public?

Make an interesting green text, embellish it and make it fascinating and make a personal army request to /b/.

Be warned they will only agree if it's a good story, if not they will just turn on you.

>>17271231
This

I don't think either one of you understood how blackmail works

Try church.

>>17271214
These are "normal" girls. Your perception is just skewed.

>>17271238
I can see that. Maybe I should rephrase the question: though I am in good shape and good enough looking, I'm not huge, nor do I really have the personality to own it in a bar or club (I usually get into convos with strangers tho)

So where can I find these normal girls not at bars, and what can I do to increase my odds?

Bump for having same issue as op. Gf irrationally refuses blowjobs with no reason other than just because.

>>17271202
The problem is for me it's something I really value. I feel it's where as a guy I can relax and enjoy pleasure and not worry about getting us both there.

And here I am, someone's wife who is willing to do anything you can imagine about sex to him, begs for his attention, sometimes I am naked around the house, I go to the gym and keep also my face good and well done with make up, nice hair and nails, just to find out he would rather watch porn than being with me.

Life sucks my friends, sorry your girlfriend doesn't.

>>17271175
What's your IQ?

Is it autism? You can't cure autism.

>>17271206
Insecure about what? Is it gasslighting or something?

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Bump, please help me /adv/

She's leading you on.

>>17271163
What makes you think that? Curious about reasoning

p.s i've only been drunk and high (off dat marijuanna) once, jsut incase that makes any difference

psychedelics can be pretty unpredictable, you have very good chances of getting into a good place and having a really amazing experience. but there's also a relatively small chance that you'll get paranoid or bummed out about something and have a shitty time.

Depending on what you liek to do and how much you take, different things will be more or less fun. if you take a half dose or a single dose then you'll probably be able to play videogames, watch movies, go for walks, sit around with mates and laugh at all the dumb stuff you're seeing/thinking without too much trouble. if you take more than that, you'll just want to do very basic shit like look at a piece of crinkled up tinfoil for hours on end, or listen to minimal techno on headphones. if you take a LOT more than that you'll probably want to be lying in bed in a fucking dark quiet room, because some shit will definitely be going down in your sensorium that you'll have trouble dealing with even with very little environmental stimulus.

and if you get unlucky and have a shitty trip, just remember it's all in your head and after 8-12 hours you'll be over it.

If you, as you say, don't have fair experience with altered states of conscience, the start of the trip might see overwhelming. Anxiety will surely set on but it will fade away. Acid comes and goes in waves, in the sense that you will have an oscillating experience of feeling euphoric and seeing weird shit and suddenly feeling almost sober. This can grind you. You might want to consider a low dose. Find stuff to do while tripping. Bond with whoever you encounter. Remember, if the shit goes down, you won't die, you won't go crazy, and it will be over in a few hours.

>>17271121
The answer is buried in your question. You praise the friend who really made an effort, and yet you give little indication that you have done anything to reach out to the new girl. She invited you, you "ended up hanging out" and so on.

It can't all be one-sided. You have to initiate things. You have to sometimes be the one who phones/messages/texts first. You have to be the one to invite her places.

>>17271136
Thanks, I guess I didn't realise it before. I want to message her and chat but I always feel like I'm bothering people or they don't really want to chat so that's what puts me off.

If we can get to a point where we are talking regularly things would be so much easier, but it's that initial thing of finding an excuse to message her in the first place then keeping her engaged when she's likely got long term friends also competing for her attention.

stop fapping

>>17271119
Yeah but i am not a virgin anymore and have a child. Still wanna?

>>17271128
Ok, so you say a MILF would take that.

Kinda makes sense since I'm not a big adventure for the young girls, maybe that's a thing to look for, dunno.

>>17271143

I am fucking 19 years old lol what are you talking about wtf

>>17271114
Holy shit you are me except for bisexual part.

My cheated on me a month before wedding in my case, better stay alert man.

Those damn bitches.

>>17271114
Mismatched sex drives are not uncommon, though a little more common with the guy wanting more. Your bisexuality is not really relevant, though your masturbating is. It suggests that what you're really put off by is the whole extended process of lovemaking.

Talk it over with her. Maybe not every lovemaking session has to be the full adventure. Maybe she'd be happy with an occasional quickie between the big events, and maybe you can bypass the occasional wank to slip her one.

>>17271123
I don't think she'd cheat on me. I don't even think she would have sex with another man even if she had my aproval.

>>17271129
>Maybe she'd be happy with an occasional quickie between the big events, and maybe you can bypass the occasional wank to slip her one.

I did that and she was happy with it indeed. But its just so hard to brace myself up for sex.. Its just exhausting, it doesn't feel as good as jerking off. And she doesn't give a good handjob either.
But its not her fault, i never enjoyed sex that much.. At least not at on a regular basis..

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>>17271104
So basically I feel conflicted. I feel like we're all under this preassure to just fuck and fuck and fuck, and what can I sex is great and as cliche as it sounds I wouldn't want to get serious again until I have enjoyed my freedom. But shit, sometimes you see people going through so much bullshit just to lay pipe I feel that's unnecessary, a waste of time. So I didn't do it. I was there to have fun. She wanted a piece of me, but also wanted to waste my time so fucking much, I didn't left her.

So yeah, I pretty much feel conflicted. What do you guys think? Did I do good, or should I just have followed her games? She was very attractive, but also so annoying and bought on herself it was riddiculous.

I did end up having the time of my life surrounded by the people I love, by the way, so I sort of feel like I did great not letting her waste my time, but I don't know man, it's like I feel guilty for not having taken that "chance" to have sex with that girl

Fuck you, You made the most manly and excellent decision of ignoring her bullshit, and pursuing what you believe will make you happy.

If you wanna fuck a girl do it with one who isn't super clingy. Since she's super clingy even if you go for your one night strat she may not respect that, and try to tail you for a period of time (between weeks, months or some even years).

You should definitely not regret one standing with people like that who engage in emotional manipulation.

Stand proud, and don't look back OP. You are the man.


P.S.
btw It seems like you don't know but actually focusing on something other than the girl (such as your life goal) actually attracts females more, because females are attracted to behaviors of men who can accomplish things. If you knew I stand corrected.

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>>17271141
Maybe I know that but I try to avoid thinking about it. I focus on the things I like because I like them, not to attract girls.

You are absolute right, I should be more proud, I feel stupid having made this thread but the thing is that sometimes you end up feeling guilty, even if it's a little, because you didn't got laid that night, because you didn't even tried, even though it was clear that trying it implied to just go through a lot of bullshit that really ain't worth it. You're there with your friends and you're having a lot of fun, because they're funny people to be around but they're also people that love you. But would I want to waste time with a girl that clearly wanted to take me out of there to take me where she wanted me to be?

I don't know man, you feel what I'm trying to say? It's like we're all kind of preassured to be with as many partners as possible. I'm not going to say that's a bad thing, because variety is where taste is. But c'mon, I tell you some people just go through the biggest bullshit to lay some pipe, and I don't think that's worth it, specially when the other option is to stay with the ones that love you and have fun.

That girl was very attractive, I tell you, but the kind that feels entitled to complain about everything you do. Fuck that noise
Thanks for your response bud, I needed to see things with some clarity. I really hope that kind of decision-making sticks with me through life. I reckon, sometimes you just lose perspective because of a lot of things...

>>17271102
>>>>>>>>>lit

>>17271102
Read the modern classics - Hemingway, Fitzgerald, Roth, etc - anyone who would likely be on a college Modern Novel reading list. (You can probably find such a list by exploring a local university's English Department site)

Read for fun, but when you encounter a passage that really impresses you, stop and examine it to see what the author did there.

Read Grendel by John Gardner, then, if you liked it, get The Art of Fiction by the same author. It's basically the creative writing course he taught, put into a book.

I've had this happen to me. Girl here so you know it's not just a man thing. Learn from me and just don't tell her. I opened up a huge can of worms by confessing to a young man that I had been admiring him for like half a year by now, and had feels for him. Just silently admire from afar

But he's so damn handsome. Just the other day I was in proximity to him and I thought, oh god he smells like old spice. He smells wonderful. Hnng. But I walked by and didn't cause any confrontations

How much do your schedules sync up together? How much do you naturally see her?

>>17271088

>Has anyone experienced anything like this?

For sure.

>Why do I fall in love with strangers?

You don't. You become infatuated with them, because they are physically attractive, and because you don't know them, which makes it very easy to imagine them having exactly the sort of personality and behavior that you want in a partner. If you got to know them, you either would experience a loss as the person they actually were replaced your imagined version, or else you would continue to see them as the imagined version, going even so far as to dismiss things you observe about the person which contradict the dream version.

It can be fun to let an infatuation develop. It certainly can arouse intense feelings of attraction and longing. But in the end it's better to know a person as they really are, and to know them very well, and realize that you are still smitten. To me, that's the difference between being infatuated, and really falling for someone.

>How can I get over it?

By getting to know her. You'll have to make peace with the idea that your fantasy about who she is will die, as may your fantasies about a future together with her. But you'll actually know her as a person. It's worth it.

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Thanks for the replies.

>>17271097
>How much do your schedules sync up together?

We work in a warehouse, work on the same days, but work in different departments. I'd see her a couple times a day, with each encounter being about 5 minutes. It's mostly just her passing by me, and going about her own business.

>>17271355
>By getting to know her

I wish I could, but I find it difficult to try to chat with a stranger. We only have a few short encounters everyday, so I don't really know what to say.

>>17271084

Bedbug?

>>17271089
Nah some weird contagious rash. Got it as a kid from a coldsore my grandma had on her lip. She didnt want to kiss me on the face so she kissed me on my arm

>>17271116
Your grandmother was a whore?

>>17271027
You stole like 5 bucks from work or some petty crime

Tell her something disturbing you've jerked off to

>>17271041
Don't do that

gross. bite the bullet and break up with her. she will find someone that will love her more than you ever could. you're just wasting her time.

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>>17271025
Dude! You have a girl most guys on this board would die for! Of course you're going to fight couples do that ( atleast i think they do. Grew up parents fighting a lot, but theyre still together) all you can do is suppress those feelings and love this amazing girl you have.

>>17271055
she is very volatile, she treats me very well most of the time but every now and then she completely explodes over ridiculous things
she got angry one time because i came home late from my studies (i honestly was just at college doing my homework because it has a quiet library)
she started shouting and hitting me while saying im not a man etc... she even broke the birthday present she made for me, all my feelings started vanishing at this very moment