I have a problem anons. I plan on talking to my girlfriend today

Bump for having same issue as op. Gf irrationally refuses blowjobs with no reason other than just because.

>>17271202
The problem is for me it's something I really value. I feel it's where as a guy I can relax and enjoy pleasure and not worry about getting us both there.

And here I am, someone's wife who is willing to do anything you can imagine about sex to him, begs for his attention, sometimes I am naked around the house, I go to the gym and keep also my face good and well done with make up, nice hair and nails, just to find out he would rather watch porn than being with me.

Life sucks my friends, sorry your girlfriend doesn't.

>>17271222
Damn you're husbands lucky, too bad he can't see that

>>17271222
Do you have any advice for handling bringing up the topic?

>>17271195
if your gf had a bad experience, the best thing you can do is being patient and try starting to associate blowjobs as being a good thing. ask her what would make it easier for her, whether that be starting slow, letting her go at her own pace, ways you could touch her or make it better/easier for her, etc. offer incentives. pleasure her as she pleases you.

speaking from experience as someone who was forced to give blowjobs and now loves to give them to my boyfriend who did the above.

>girls who don't like to give head

Explain this females. It's fucking step 1, its plan A, its baby's first heterosexual experience.

>>17271204
Its ridiculously hard to cum from just penetration, but if she isn't into going down on you then she'll just be sitting there coughing and getting a runny nose like an asshole. Go down on her first so she owes you one.

If you don't go down on women just kys

>>17271228
I would tell her exactly how you feel about not having oral sex, but do not be pushy. I too suffer from my husband denying oral, heck even on my birthday when I spent the whole day and night hinting that I want it so bad done because has been so long(since last year) and still he didn't. One month later he told me it was because once(yes only one time) I was sweaty and I smelled. Well, nothing like a shower couldn't fix then. He said he didn't want to tell me to not insult me. Insulted me more because even out of nowhere I give him head)without him asking) and I never said no.

So, really it will be all about talking to her and if she still denies it, sorry, she is not into it and better just accept it, she won't change, do not push her to do things she doesn't like that's awful.

Or unfortunately if is something you can't live without, you will need a new gf.

>>17271237
I go down on her a lot though. She doesn't want me to becuase she literally refuses to kiss me unless i use mouth wash.

>>17271241
She has cleaning issues. I would jump off that boat. Had that before. It just turns off sex and the whole relationship so much, everything has a condo in or is denied

>>17271245
Condition, damn autocorrect

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>>17271241
Lol she sounds like me; everything has to be clean

>>17271251
She has a latex allergy so she's paranoid. I am clean as humanly possible and so is she.

>>17271254
Some people really get offended if you don't like the taste of built up crotchrot, ooh just thinking about those people makes me homicidal.

Idk though, if you ask me people who aren't into a relationship will make fewer concessions. Maybe she senses some hostility coming from you or something.

>>17271262
I will concede it is frustrating and hurtful but I don't pressure her. It does cause resentment but I keep it quiet. I want to let go of that resentment and talk. You might be on to something though. It's giving me ideas at least.

She may be self conscious about not being good enough at it.
I'm happy to see there are guys who like getting blowjobs, I have seen too many comments saying that it's not that preasurable because most girls are bad at it and so on and I like doing it for my boyfriend, so I hope he's one of those that do like it.

>>17271273
I've asked her and she's said no. She hasn't blown any boyfriends since her first who would force her head down and treat her like shit.

>>17271278
Part of me thinks she might be afraid of going down on me because I'll act this way but I would hope she knows me better then that.

>>17271278
>She hasn't blown any boyfriends since her first who would force her head down and treat her like shit.
Don't you think that may have something to do with it

>>17271284
I know it does. I had that in the OP. The advice I'm looking for is how to talk to her about it.

She's traumatized man, this is out of question, and talking will only hurt her more.

You will have to simply accept that blowjobs are out of question. That's why she is probably getting scared.

Just let it go. It's for the best if you want to have a relationship for her. She was basically abused and forced to do oral. That's terrible.

>>17271232
When you understand why you don't like giving blowjobs to men, you will understand why some women don't like giving blowjobs to men.

>>17271222
A lot of the time the root cause for that is sexual insecurity, you know. The behavior isn't acceptable but it's nothing to do with you.

>>17271515
Dude, he probably doesn't like giving blowjobs to men because he's heterosexual and not attracted to men (unless he's bi in which case he probably does it quite gamely.) Hopefully he's not a hypocrite about going down on girls, which is honestly a lot messier, albeit easier on the jaw muscles -- if he refused to do that you'd have a point.

>>17271525
Never refused to give her oral. Having to suck on the head and apply tongue to it isn't asking for her to shove it down her throat. It can not honestly be that unpleasant when nothing is going deep into her mouth. Especially with him w meticulously clean I am.

Update: we talked and we managed to reach middle grounds and compromise. Thanks /adv/