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21yo male student, technically virgin and with few acquaintances and even fewer friends need advice from anons having beaten this stage of their lives

I'm trying to better myself socially, in order to complete my life whit what I thing are the two only people I need to be happy : a social best friend and a lover.

In these past six month I have gone from a complete nerd to a somewhat balanced, although not perfect, man. I have learned to dress like a human, hold interesting conversation and give a confident impression. I don't think people perceive me as a loner anymore.

However, making a good friend is hard. I have quite a few acquaintances, all I think I need is another good friend who sometimes pushes me beyond my comfort zone and helps me getting out there, because it sure as hell isn't easy to do that alone.

The rest of my life if surprisingly balanced and successful, work and hobbies, and a few friends whose company I enjoy, but sadly all greater introverts than I am. I also do a lot of stuff in public places and sometimes go out alone, but although I have fun doing it, I still don't know if talking to a girl alone in a park is an actual thing or a creeper move so that's never happened.

My colleagues do not seem to be interested in being more than acquaintances either, and I don't know how to get past that stage anyway.

What do I do ? I am seriously lost, and I hate that void in my life.

TL;DR : I'm trying my best to be happy, what am I doing wrong ?

Pic related, I have social hobbies too.

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we've been together for over 8 months and broke up for 2 months a little bit ago... we ended up getting back together but i don't feel the same i did before. i've been trying to hold it all together but if feels so forced and i never even want him around. i feel like i can't leave him though, i know i'll end up forgetting that i can't love him and i'll regret leaving. that and he's convenient, which isn't a good reason, and i'm practically using him. i feel really guilty.

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>Friends with super cool chick (23, I'm 26)
>Ask you her
>She says, "Naw."
>Go soft on contact
>Move across country for the summer after a year of grad school
>Text me out of nowhere
>Says she wants to visit me in July when I'm home
>Says she is living alone next semester so she can teach me how to cook and we can watch movies
>Asks if I want a date to my sisters wedding
>...stops texting me for like 3 weeks, but since 2-3 snap chats a day
>Text her yesturday
>Says she will text me after work, but tells me she misses me, and wants to know when I'm going to be home
>Doesn't text me after work...only sends some snap chats.

Little confused.

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I've been with my guy for over two years, and he has some serious anger problems. Conventional wisdom always says to leave, but a combination of mental health issues and abuse left my current partner very loud and sometimes violent towards walls/doors but never me. He's going through anger therapy and I'm sticking it out with him through nonviolent communication classes and acceptance and commitment therapy. I really don't know what to do knowing that he's trying when everyone around me seems to think I should leave him despite his improvements and efforts.

TLDR: What do you do if your partner is going through counseling for their anger problems and still having issues despite the therapy, but you actively see them trying? I've lost friends over the fact that he still yells, even though he calms down faster and has gotten less violent towards walls/doors/etc in my house (I own it) and has made improvements since he started therapy, they're just slow and he's struggling.

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How do you deal with trannies that show up in college.

They try to challenge facts constantly and would rather bang their heads on the wall of a problem than use proven solutions.

How do you deal with this without getting raped by other tumblrites who jump on the bangwagon?

And why do they all look so damn ugly? At least brasil and other places step it up and look the part. These fucking trannies are literally pink flamingo tier trash.

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Last night my girlfriend came home earlier than she ever has and caught me, naked, watching porn, and stroking it with a mask and snorkel on.

There's not really much to say at that point. She walked right past me and went into the bedroom. I quickly turned the porn off, put on some pants, and took the mask and snorkel off. Five minuets later she came out of the bedroom and asked how my day was... it was like she didn't just catch me throttling myself with a mask and snorkel on. The rest of the evening went as normal. We had baked chicken and green beans for dinner, and then watched the simpsons.

I don't really don't know what else to say. Things seem really weird though. Should I bring it up with her or will she just move on?

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>Go to a party as a lone guy.
>Some bitch comes.
>Starts to be sticky
>Respond appropriately
>After a while it turns out she does that just because she wants to check out if her boyfriend/ex is still loving her

God fucking damn it. Why do they always pick me for this bullshit? Any advices you can give me, so I wouldn't end in similar situation in the future?

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I fell in love with a girl who told me when we met that she had a two years relationship with a girl and that they broke up last summer.

In the last couple of months we've became the best of friends and I don't know how to approach her and open up to her with my feelings. We spend all the time we can together, we hang out and go out every day, we've tried acid for the first time in our lives together. I don't want to destroy our friendship but I feel like there will be no better SO I could be in relationship with. She's just perfect for me.

How to go about in this situation?

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As a kid witness my mother stab my father, I just found this out a couple of weeks ago and I'm not sure how this has effected me up until this point. So I looked into it and it can cause all types of shit storms in terms of my psychological issues. On top of that I was also sexually abused in my adoptive mother's house.
I need advice on how to overcome all the tribulations, should I just seek therapy?

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So this chick I knew from highschool just invited me to a water park next week. I'd just created a kik when she started messaging me. I used to have a class with her a couple years back and we would occasionally talk at lunch. Last summer we texted a bit and she invited me to hang out but I pissed out and declined. During my senior year, which just ended, I might have talked to her in the halls briefly once or twice but she would always say hi anytime she saw me. I've always been confused Whether she was into me or just really nice. But I guess she must be interested to some degree right? I mean, she's been the one initiating all the conversations, the one who suggested we hang out sometimes, it's just the two of us that are going. Today she mention out of the blue that she was embarrassed of me seeing her in a bikini because she thinks she has gained some weight, does that mean anything?


I'm 18, a virgin, kind of lanky, and the only good quality that I acknowledge it's that I have good hair, and maybe average to slightly above average face. Maybe. I'm pretty awkward and am probably going to have to get some klonopin before the date just so I'm not anxious and to act as a social lubricant. I'm not going to take a lot, maybe just 1 mg.

Any advice?

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How do you break a REALLY shit streak of bad luck?

It's just one thing after another, first I lose my job, then my laptop breaks, then my rent goes up and I'm just like what the fuck is this why is it happening to me

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how is it possible that Valium dosnt cure my anxiety

I took 30mg today, still have social anxiety, I just felt like id had a couple drinks of alcohol

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I live from making money out of my Patreon. Im a well known hentai/adult art artist and I live happy with it. Maybe you even visited my tumblr or website.
Two days ago I found out my gf cheated on me and had sex with someone I know. And its been horrible since then and I know the worst still has to come.

So, the question is /adv/, I cant work anymore. Other people can rely on their jobs for keeping them away from their thoughts but I just cant. I make porn, I draw dicks, tits and pussies.

It might sound strange, but I swear Im too depressed and I still have to do lot of commissions. How can I handle this?

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She was my first girlfriend and we have been together for almost ten years. We have a long story together, but some years ago I realized I probably didn't love her anymore. Maybe in our third or fourth year of marriage. I decided to ignore it since not only we are married, but we were best friends before getting married, so I deeply care about her and her feelings.

However, as time passed, things have gotten worse. I've began to be more and more distant and cold, and she realized it. We began to have discussions from time to time, and I would make promises of being a better and more attentive husband. Since I've had a background of depression, she would always forgive me. Sometimes she would raise the question of whether I still loved her, and I would always answer 'yes'.

And now all is lost. I've got the job of my dreams (in a new city, far away from our previous home), which is, however, extremely stressful and as a consequence I became so detached and cold that we've began to have discussions almost every day. Eventually, one month ago, I told her all the truth - that I wasn't sure I still loved her, that I had doubts, that this was something I was feeling for some years, but that I wanted to solve this problem with her, maybe doing some therapy, because divorce was not an option for me.

Long story short, she is now constantly talking about divorce. Today she almost left. I managed to convice her to stay with me for the next weeks until she decides what she will do. She says that now staying with me is hurting her, that our whole marriage was a mistake and a lie, that she doesn't want to ever see me again and that I should let her go away.

What should I do? I'm 100% sure I don't love her anymore, but for her happiness, and for our families, I don't want a divorce. I feel like the most despicable human being.

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I'm a 21 year old guy. I don't masturbate because the physical stimulation feels unsatisfying. It feels like I'm rubbing any other part of my body. When I watch porn I don't touch my dick. The act of rubbing it feels pointless and dull. What the fuck is wrong with me?