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>>17271912
Well for me, hitting rock bottom was a relief. The worst had happened so thing's couldn't get worse. Now I can only go up.

>>17271912
I watch maury, and then I'm like all good... moving on

Leave 4chan and get your life together.

>>17271876

are there any career opportunities at all ofr you in japan?

why do you want to live there? i lived there for awile and its great dont get me wrong, but do you really want to live in japan or do you want to live in some idaelized version of japan you think about due to anime and movies and other shit.

have you ever even vacationed there for more then a few days? or at all?

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>>17271881
>have you ever even vacationed there for more then a few days? or at all?

Not at all yet. I suppose I should go on a trip there some time before I make any hasty decisions.

I don't have many friends, so even being alienated there as a foreigner wouldn't bother me, I don't really hang out with people often. I love their architecture and city design. I would feel so comfy walking through places that look like pic related after a long day of work. If I get a qt Japanese gf while I'm there, that would just be a bonus, don't really care if I end up alone. I enjoy my solitude, and Japan seems like the perfect country to be alone in.

As far as a job, I have an English degree, I'm sure I could get a teaching job no problem. They eat noodles and seafood so their food won't be a culture shock for me at all, I love that kind of stuff.

>>17271899

>should vacation before i make hasty decisions

yes. and i dont mean exciting fun rush vacation, you should take an extended stay thats entirely casual there. see a little but get an actual living experience there

>i dont have many friends so wont feel alienated

no. stop. trust me, you do nto know hwat you are talking about. 'dont have many friends' and complete isolation cuz you cant truly understand anyone or anything is not remotely the same. i did guam, i did japan, i did cuba, i did peurto rico. and even with the support of the military community, its tough as fuck. no matter how well you think you practice that language on your home turn, its no where near understanding what its like to be surrounded by millions of people who speak it fluently. you are generalizing way too much.

>i would feel so comfy walking through places like pic related after a long day of work

you are looking at this like people look at having a long term relationship. its an imaginary feeling you are basing your idea off of. when people imagine settling down, marrying and coming home after wokr every day they are imagining a blur of feelings and ideas. not the actual fucking situation. dont get me wrong im the kind of guy who takes comfort in just walking around adn enjoying scenery or even a nice sky. but thinking you'll be fulfilled just going here after work every day is shit.

plus you can find godo atmosphere in america.

>maybe ill get a japanese wife
>but that i want one or anything

dont lie its your endgame, you're just saying that to put on a face man.

>i enjoy my solitude, so more solitude would be nice?

except for how every space is smaller, your squished in and you are unable to just have your regular conversatiosn when ordering your fucking food, sure. its not the same at all.

>>17271797
It's a hit or miss thing. Alot of girls use it as an ego boost, but it can work. My friend met his girl on tinder, and they've been together for 2-3 years.

You just got to say the right thing, hope you're lucky with when you say it (if she is free to talk at the time) and not wait too long to meet up. If things are going well usually in 8 or so 'back and forths', just ask to meet up.

But true, people's shallowness really comes out on those sites/apps

Op here

This applies to dating sites not fuckbook.

I get messages 24/7 on fuckbook.

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>>17271797
You sound like a turkroach.

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I'm slightly ashamed at how turned on I am by this

What about your girlfriend herself?

>>17271816
Shes very attractive, shes nerdy but not as nerdy as her friends. I love sex with her but she doesn't seem to enjoy it nearly as much as watching me

>>17271775

>Is it okay to just ask her out by text?

No. Ask her out face to face.


>And I feel like I'm too overwhelmed by how cool she is. Like I can't "just" ask her for coffee because that's too simple for her, but it's all I can afford now.

Stop that. She's a human being who drinks coffee just like the rest of us. Putting her on this pedestal and wringing your hands because she's "too cool" for you isn't going to do you any favors.

Come at her like a real person. The sooner you stop worshipping women the sooner interacting and engaging with them will stop being such a daunting task.

No one is too good to drink coffee and hang out. She's just a girl, not the goddamn queen of england.

>>17271852
And she's not Ramona fucking Flowers either. Speaking of which, what a bitch. Kime Pine 4 lyfe. Comic-book Kim Pine, not Alison Pill.

If you left that fucking theater crushing on Ramona, OP, then reevaluate yourself for your own damn good. You're not supposed to really like her.

>>17271896
The picture was supposed to be ironic. I know I'm not supposed to really like her. And I don't "worship women", this is the only one time in my life this happens to me. I don't have trouble interacting with people.

Try branching out, get into programming and start making games of your own.
Or, try getting into board games and enjoy some face-to-face contact.
Or do something totally different. Do you like food? Take of cooking. Are you sedentary? Take up exercising. Try a bunch of different stuff and find out what makes you want to keep doing it.

>>17271774
>get into programming
I tried, it's too much numbers and text for me. I probably have ADD or something but I never did well in school because of disinterest, slow reading and bad memory.

I tried and humiliated myself in a chess club once, so I'm probably not gonna try something like it again.

Cooking isn't a hobby, it's a necessity.
Exercising is something I'm getting a lot more into, but it isn't a hobby, it's something I want to do to stop being a useless piece of shit all day + maybe look attractive in a year from now.

I should probably mention that I'm a depressed, unmotivated and socially awkward dumbass as well. I also recently completely destroyed any chance to get along with the ex whom I still thought I loved, so after having been in break up itch for a year and almost being over it, I'm now back in feeling like the most useless and unlikable person ever.

>>17271792
>I should probably mention that I'm a depressed, unmotivated and socially awkward dumbass

No need, you're conveying that quite well already.

Look, I'm not going to list a hundred different hobbies for you just so you can go "No... no.. no," to each one. My main advice is: try a whole bunch of different things. Find out what your friends are into and ask if you can join them. Eventually you will probably find something that interests you.

And go into it with an open mind; if you go in thinking that you aren't going to enjoy it (which seems to be your default mode), then, surprise surprise, you aren't. I know this is easier said than done, but it's so important. And you may surprise yourself.

>>17271756
love yourself as much as you love her.

>>17271769
It's easy to say that, and I do love myself. without her I dont feel right, I feel like something is missing.

>Is there anything I could do to show her this?
Try talking to her. FYI: suicide is okay, even if it's taboo.

ask hitler

>>17271749
Yeah whenever anyone tried it turns out disastrously. Even had Hitler succeeded in his genocide and military conquest, the society that would have been built would have been all kinds of fucked up,

>>17271749

not EXACTLY how one imagines but yes you can find ways to control and influence culture.

the problem is that you as the orchestrator would spend all of your long life trying to get to that position of power and even if you happen to get there you wouldnt getr to enjoy the fruits of your labor.,

>>17271716

do you genuintely want to get to know her and date her? would your friend be okay with it?

thats all that matters. ask your friend if its okay first. im all for a bang and ditch, but she is your friends sister so thats not an option here.

you dont have to make a life long commitment to seeing her, but you do have to at least want more than just sex with her if you go through with this.

>>17271750
Oh no, its not a bang and ditch at all, I want to date her. Shes way different than girls I normally date... shes shy, quiet, sweet, and actually has ambitions. Shes fat, and plain, but still very cute, I imagine if she just put on a little make up and didn't dress like it was winter all the time, she'd be damn attractive. Talking to her at night really won me over.

>>17271716
Ok, when you say that your friend, the sister of the girl in question, the one you didn't kiss - has a thing for you, how do you know this?

If both sisters are attracted to you and you are more attracted to the fat one, then go for the fat one. You don't owe her sister anything just because you were her friend first. The sister took steps to come on to you, and the friend didn't. (can you give us some initials or something to make this easier?)

how old are you
where do you live
what's your current education level

>>17271709

the problem is you want to be fucked. you know how i know? you've decided this situation is the only situation.

you already decided you are going to get medically disqualified, and though you could get a low paying job andj ust move into a studio with four dudes, you have decided thats not an option.

life is full of hard choices. its often about picking hte lesser of two evils. its like a game of 'would you rather'.

would you rather live with your parents in continued neetdom, or would you rather work minimum wage for 6 hours a day then come home to your studio apartment filled with 4 dudes in the asme situation as you?

thats waht we all had to do to survive out here in los angeles, i imagine you could do just two dudes to a studio though out in the not crazy city areas.

as for hte medical issues, dont admit to anythign they dont test for, claim ignorance wherever possible and STUDY FOR THE FUCKING ASVAB CUZ YOU CAN INSTANTLY BECOME FUCKING RICH IF YOU STUDY FOR FIVE FUCKING SECONDS.

knew a guy who never did good in highschool. you'd never think hed do military. he was less than 5 feet tall and litearlly less then 100 pounds. even had a crimincal record, being kicked off of the military base (we were military kids) cuz he was at the skate park when it was raided for drugs and some guy threw a bag of weed in the center.

he took the asvab, and got offered a job as some crazy shit like 'geo political analyst' or something crazy.

whereas my brother who was big talll and ripped didnt do good on asvab and had to take entry level marine.

just fucking study.

>>17271709
Hopefully the military works out for you. Otherwise, what I did when mommy and daddy threw me out as a neet, I moved into a sober living. Extremely cheap, and they'll often help you put together a resumè and help with finding a job as long as you're sober for as long as you stay there. My parents paid for the first month and told me to 'figure it out' from there. It was only 300 per month and i slept on a bunk bed with 3 others in the room, but I had laundry, a shower, and access to the internet and that's enough. 2 years later I have a comfy job making 16 an hour when i have no trained or educated skills of any kind.

They want to fill beds, so even if you don't have a drug problem, if you let them know your life is in shambles and you have nowhere else to go, they'll probably take you in.

U cant just go whoring around m8

Why do you care if your ex finds out? Just do your thing.

>>17271703

I think she could mess it up by shittalking about me.

You have to be 18 to use this site.

>>17271662
is there a written proof that is explicitly saying that i'm under 18? pure speculations fucking /b/astard

>>17271719
Your retarded op is proof enough

Who the fuck cares about likes outside of marketers and 16 years old?

>>17271626
>2.7 gpa
Sorry

You know AP classes are weighted right? Do you mean 2.7 weighted or unweighted?

>>17271626
You've got two things that almost balance each other out - only fair grades, but all in hard classes. The thing is to make sure that the admissions people see the hard classes. Ask the teachers who write references for you to mention all the AP classes, and mention them in your essay.

>>17271606
most all of us have done it and refuse to believe someone we crush on won't like us back. You know when a girl cares and when one really doesn't and you are pinning everything on hope. Just pay attention and if they aren't into you don't waste your time

>>17271625
I just feel like she thinks I'm one of those "nice guys" now, and that's just embarrassing. I would just leave her alone, but she's actually a really cool person...that I also want to fuck.

>>17271649
The more time you spend with her now, the less she will think of you. You will eventually become a creepy creep in her eyes, if you are not already .

>>17271591
Maybe you are misinterpreting what she is saying to you?

What exactly does she say when she is "leaving" ?

>>17271591
OP this is part of her game. Pull you in and push you away. I cannot believe despite what you have seen that confirms what you have been told you still want to fall for this shit. Run

>>17271591
Drop her.
I had the same done to me recently, and it ain't worth the emotional pain.
Just cut all contact with her.