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How do I fight the sadness /adv/?
>Be me
>Live with single mom in middle-class, mostly white community
>Sophomore year of high school
>Good grades, lots of friends, bright future
>move across the country
>start junior year
>always had emotional problems but something snaps
>become detached from everyone
>give up on schoolwork
>the only classes I don't fail are the ones I barely pass
>the only time I feel alive are in English class
>school year ends
>English teacher tells me how disapponted she was in me
>Mom tells me when I turn 18 she wants nothing to do with me anymore
>Every adult in my life tells me how disappointed they are in my wasted potential
I deserved it though. I really fucked up
>decide I need to start over
>move in with dad
>Go from mostly white, middle-class neighborhood to the ghetto
>Go to inner city school for senior year
>thrive
>get good grades
>meet great people
>learn about myself
>not unhappy anymore but still malcontent
>graduate on time and get accepted into university
I've managed to completely turn everything around but it all feels so hollow.
>Graduate
>stop talking to friends
>move back in with mom to save money before college
>everyone's happy
>except me
I feel terrible and I don't know why. I haven't talked to my high school friends in a month so I can't go to them all of a sudden. I know what my parents will say. Are some people just supposed to be unhappy? I don't want to feel like this anymore.
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Which friends?
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The people I met in my senior year of high school
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>>17270304
Hey, do this.
Text your friends "If I shared something personal with you, would you care to listen?" It doesn't matter if you haven't talked to them in super long. It's cool even if they don't respond or blow you off, etc.
It's very likely most people will go "yeah what's up man" because I know if someone not that close to me said that, I'd listen, at least for a bit.
If anyone responds positively, you've struck gold, just share your feels with them.
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Okay I have never been in this situation before. I am somewhat socially inept thanks to a dark past. Slowly, I went back to school and I have been doing really well. But sometimes my anxiety takes the best of me. Anyways, my class started and my professor gave me lots of compliments at the beginning of the class. I was paired with three girls.
One of them is very competitive. I thought she was nice to me but lately she yells at me and makes a big deal out of every mistake I make. Now, I can't even boil water properly thanks to her tearing into me, she knows what she is doing - she is just like my father. She is 19 and I am much much older than her.
Now I like this other girl in the same group, she is also old. When ever I try to flirt with her, the girl starts disrespecting me again. To the point where now I look like an ass infront of the girl I liked thanks to this crazy young chick.
How do I deal with it? I started ignoring her from yesterday. She always asks a question, then says I am wrong and then builds upon it from there. So should I continue to purposely ignore her? I know some abusers tend to ignore people so I dont want to come across as an abuser infront of the girl I like (if she even has any respect left for me anymore =/....). But yeah? how do I deal with this girl trying to bully me?
She then started going around the room and flirting with all these boys. Then the boys came over to our desk. Then she would ask me to "hand her things" like water bottle and shit like that. She acts like she's really enthusiastic or someshit..... what the fuck do i do lol? not only am i being abused but lol this girl is enjoying it. I dont know what her deal is
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She wants to fuck you--and is imitating her parents' relationship to get your attention.
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She sounds like a bitch, but people in life will be assholes. There's really nothing you can do but ignore it, because you're stuck with her and it sounds like no one's going to take your side if there's a conflict between you and her.
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ignoring = silent approval
at least take some action, come on
"why are you always so obnoxious?"
"do you feel victory when you cause others pain?"
"i'd take a good look at myself if I were you"
or if, at any point, you're alone and she doesn't have whiteknights to save her, just tell her to shut the fuck up. it's simple.
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I'm such an idiot, I changed my cellphone and somehow can't access my kik account... And I don't remember this guy's kik username, nor anything useful to search for him... That he sees this is my only hope!
I met him by making a thread here about a month ago, about how I missed teasing my ex with nudes and shit, and he said he liked that and so on
I was almost sure my kik account was summer.sleepover or something like that??
I remember his kik "name" was giga nigga, and he's from america.
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Stop faggot. Your other thread was just deleted.
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the only thing where /adv/ could help would be how you can't access your kik account.
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You know you can turn on your old cell phone and look at your account even tho it isn't going to be able to go online, right?
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My gf and I fucked without a condom and I masturbated maybe 10 minutes before we did and I didn't finish at all during the sex.and she's not past the 14th day of her period being over.and I'm scared for my life.pleas advise.
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What are the odds of her getting pregnant?
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Couples that are trying to get pregnant have a 20% success rate per month.
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why isn't she on oral contraception? saves all the trouble
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How do I become a more chill person? I just want to relax when talking to people sometimes and not worry what people think. I also seem to think people think I'm condescending because even when trying to be sincere.
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fake it till you make it
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That's what I've been doing. What bothers me is that I put to much thought into what other people think of me .I know that I shouldn't. How do I just not give a fuck?
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Smoke weed everday!
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I have a gaping hole in the side of one of my wisdom tooth. When I rinsed with listerine I found pieces of whitish black tooth enamel or dentin coming out in the sink. I haven't gone to the dentist yet and I can't go until the second of July because of insurance. How fucked am I?
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Damn son, that's nasty.
Anyways, in my completely non-professional opinion, if there is no swelling and the gun doesn't feel especially warm then it is probably not infected so you're good until July.
Still, brush your goddamned teeth.
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You can go months without a problem unless it starts to hurt.
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Eat soft foods softly until then
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/adv/, tell me what's up with women who text you all the time and seem super interested.. And then they suddenly start texting less frequently then start ignoring completely? How do I get them to respond more often, even if our convos are amazing?
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By going on a real date or three, then giving them orgasms.
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>>17270178
Don't be such a boring asshole and ask them out somewhere.
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"If you are still interested in speaking to me, please respond." Just like that.
In particular, never EVER do the reverse (i.e. "If you want me to go away, please respond").
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Hi guys,
So I am in a relationship about 5 months. I really like her, even love her, and the feeling is mutual. We started saying we love each other but we don't do it regularly even though we talk every day and see each other almost all the time. It is a very comfortable relationship, but both of us are maybe shy so we dont say 'love' all that much because it might feel fast. We usually say we miss each other or that we really like each other and kiss & heart emojis and all that bullshit. sex is there, nothing to complain, good stuff.
So my question is in regards to a gift, I want to buy her a tiffanys silver bracelet for her birthday next week. I work two jobs and can afford this 400 dollar bracelet however it is a chunk of change. Is it maybe too soon to give it to her? Should I wait until Christmas? Thanks guys.
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I don't know about her, but I don't feel comfortable accepting such expensive gifts, even if it's for a special occasion. Maybe I would if it was a real milestone, like 10 year anniversary, but definitely not as a casual gift.
That said, I'm pretty low maintenance.
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How's the sex?
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Buying lots of small gifts for a girl is better than buying one expensive gift once in a blue moon.
Not that you shouldn't get the bracelet, just saying.
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I have no imagination. 2016-06-19 02:39:32 Post No.17270112
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Well not having one may be a little hyperbole, but still yeah, it's fairly lacking.
I don't really have some sort of inner vision of what I'm reading or listening to, or envisioning.
My experiences with Dwarf Fortress really suffer because of this, a lot of people say a lot of fun comes from imagining the situation that's happening rather than just looking at what's happening on the wall of ASCII characters, and eventually it gets fairly boring. Doubly so when it comes to writing, which is also something I do fairly often.
Is there any way I can improve my imaginative abilities? Like any "exercises"
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I think if you find something boring, it just doesn't appeal to you, man. It's like asking "how do I improve my taste buds so I can enjoy eating shit". The thing is, people who enjoy a particular kind of stuff aren't exerting effort to deliberately enjoy it. They just happen to.
On the other hand, if you're asking "how do I make life more fun in general", that's a different issue altogether, and yeah, you can make progress in that area.
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Meditation... Sit down or laydown or whatever your comfortable close your eyes andbtry and picture a fairly simple object, just focus on the details of it. The more you use your imagination the more you can imagine. Might help to have the object your tying to visualize around so you can look at it if your struggling to visualize
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>>17270112
If I understand what you're saying correctly, then what you're describing is very unusual. Why would you want to become like everyone else in this respect?
What is reading a book like for you? You don't imagine the characters or places you read about? I can't imag-- er... I can't fathom what that'd be like. Can you describe it?
If you're a writer, you want to hold on to anything that will make your writing different than everyone else's. Can you post a bit of something you wrote? I'm interested in seeing what it's like. Are you any good?
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How to make sure i don't forget the wrongs people have done to me during my downfall? 2016-06-19 02:38:30 Post No.17270111
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How to make sure i don't forget the wrongs people have done to me during my downfall?
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So many people showed their true colors and left me for dead. I used to always go out of my way to help others
Even my mother and eldest bro kept kicking me when i was already down and rotting,struggling.
Needless to say,i was extremely bitter at how people waited till fucked up things out of my control kept fucking me up before twisting the blde in the wound
few miracles happenned. Another miracle could possibly happen,it would be the greatest relief ,if it happens,it would wipe away my "downfall"
As i'm getting back to normal,my anger and bitterness is fading away. BUT I MUST NEVER FORGET the harsh truth that people will let you down to rot when you hit rock bottom.Others will take pleasure in seeing you struggle
I must not go back to the naive old me who wanted to help everyone and always went out of his way to be extra kind to people.
But i also don't want to be constantly bitter
Any tips?
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are you roleplaying game of thrones or something
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how far did you fall and what did you do to recover?
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Health issues fucking me up big time.
Was supposed to start med school or pharm school this year. Everyone who has grades similiar to mines or a bit lower than mine got in.
I used to be the guy who always went out of his ways to give notes i've spent 100+ hours working on and shit, always helping others whenever i could,make sure everyone was alright
My health issues were so fucked up. It wrecked me so badly, it fucked up my gpa, got me in a severe depression. People were now indifferent to me and my downfall. Some even seemed to kake pleasure out of it
After that failed semester,i had so many shit going on at home,so mny issues,constantly depressed,suicidal,people kept giving me shit and kept looking down on me,i was a mental wreck,it got worse with time.Failed all my classes, was about to get kicked out and disowned.
Life went to shit,got more shit,got caught trying to hang myself,got sent on suicide watch. Psychiatrist heard story.
>continued next post
>have gf of 2.5 years
>came up with plan to propose in a couple of days
>she leaves me about a month ago
>seeing another guy now
>every day without her is complete suffering, had the chance to sleep with other women/see other women but pass them up
>can barely eat or sleep
>been like this for a month and only getting worse
>getting suicidal
I have no idea what to do. She was what I lived my life for. She made me so incredibly happy and I thought I did the same for her. I didn't show her what she meant to me enough at all. I want to kill myself without her.
What the fuck do I do
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Sorry man, looks like killing yourself is the only way. I'm in a similar boat but I already have my hydrogen exit bag and everything. Good luck to you
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>>17270093
Join the club bro, girls are sluts. There is no way to win. Come down to the pub and drink with me.
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This isn't what you want to hear, but you have to suck it up. You'll feel less shitty in a month's time, and in two month's you'll be okay again. It's hormonal. You're going through chemical imbalance and your serotonin levels are fucked because of "heartbreak".
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How bad did I fuck up, /adv/ 2016-06-19 02:19:37 Post No.17270056
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How bad did I fuck up, /adv/
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Well, this is a long one, how about we start, 14 years ago.
>be me 20 years old
>In a 8 month relationship with, who was as the time, my gf.
>End up knocking her up
>For some reason, our relationship is kinda rocky
>before my son is born, we end up seperating
>see the birth of son, but my gf ends up marrying this other dude
>not mad, but upset, atleast my son came out healthy
>absent for 2 years, but I pay child support, because im not an ass
>My son thinks the man my ex is with is his dad
>GF lets me see my son, he thinks im like his older friend
>for years it was just me taking him places and doing shit with him
> I talk with my GF, ask her "Should I tell anon jr, that Im his dad?" she says no, because it may hurt him
that convo was 4 years ago, my son is now 13,
My current wife likes him, he comes over to my house on some weekends and we play video games, he says im his best friend, his step-father and I are decent friends, but something doesnt feel right, what do???
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don't potentially ruin his life and his relationships now by telling him
when he's older 20+ you can consider telling him
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I say leave it if you're asking what's in his interests. Telling him now will fuck him up. If he starts to question it later, then discuss it with your ex and decide whether to tell him, but don't rock the boat unnecessarily.
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>>17270065
Well, its because the other month at Dave and Busters, I accidentially called him "son", hopefully he forgets about it
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How do I make myself desirable by other people? 2016-06-19 02:17:22 Post No.17270051
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How do I make myself desirable by other people?
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Would a title get people's attention that resembles status? Can confidence get you far without knowledge? Who are people you are jealous of? Im specifically talking about what young people 18-27. How does this generation think?
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I am 22 and a recent college grad. I am jealous of people who can afford to live alone and support themslves. That's it.
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>college
see that's you went wrong
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>>17270051
What you lack isn't status, but something else.
Tell us your real problem, and we'll advise you. Status is totally unimportant for friendship, love, happiness, and the things in life that are good. Point being that the object of your pursuit is misplaced, and if you tell us your real problem we'll help
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Let me give you the quick and dirty:
> Be me
> Met really cool girl on Tinder
> Been talking pretty much non-stop for the past 2-3 weeks
> Have seen each other 5x since it started
> Broadway cast tour for Matilda is nearby
> Says she wants to go with someone
> Her b-day happens to be coming up too; show is several days before
> Thought that getting her nice seats at show would be a nice way of engaging in her interests, getting her a gift, and generally be a good excuse for a date
> Get pretty expensive orchestra seats
> Tell her
I didn't think about this until after I purchased the ticket, but is this too soon? I wanted to do something nice for this girl cause I like her, but I'm realizing that this may be coming on too strong. Did I fuck up?
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if you're rolling in dosh it's fine, but if you spend a significant amount of your paycheck for someone you don't know that well, it might be a bit too strong
either way it's a win-win for her lmao
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>>17270053
We've had sex already so at least it doesn't seem like a hail mary attempt to bang her for the first time, at least I don't think that.
You think I can bounce back from this? Like, should I just not spend >$50 during a given date until we know each other better?
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i mean, you've met each other 5 times for the past 2-3 weeks, had sex already
this can be just seen as a nice birthday present, you should be fine
also, she says she wants to go with someone so maybe she was hinting about going with you anyways? i dunno, but i dont think you fucked up
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>I think I'm mentally ill
>I think about killing myself a lot
>I'm afraid I will be put in a mental institution if I tell my psychologist/family
>do I have any other options?
>inb4 kys
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Probably not, but you're right mental institution are shitty, you don't have many options besides fill your life with busy shit just to distract yourself from thinking what you're thinking. Or you could go to a psychologist, psychotherapist and gradually explaining what's wrong, while avoiding the "I want to kill myself a lot" he will help you re-think your life, without knowing the depth of it.
Also philosophy is amazing there, reading a lot of it will help you get over it this feeling to help you grow mentally and get to a point of static euphoria with a few bluesy moments, that's probably better than your situation atm.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XuwYvFlNGns
But let's talk less abstract and ask the question : Why do you want to kill yourself ?
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What country do you live in?
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>>17270039
You probably won't be institutionalized if you tell them you have had/have suicidal thoughts. But it you hint at a future plan to kill yourself you definitely will be.