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Should I keep in touch with him as language buddy?
>Will travel this year and will visit homeland of a guy I've been talking to two years on the web
>Thought about meeting irl
>Photo of him appears on a sport organization's FB page but that organization has no official website
>Have video skyped twice with him - he said his parents separated and he has to go to his mom's home to video skype as only her laptop has a workimg webcam
>Said his previous smartphone did not allow Skype to be installed
>He said he never uses Facebook but I asked for it anyway
>Only has a girl he met online added as friend
>Said he wants to bring his brother along to our meeting as he doesn't know the biggest city in his province to go there by himself, his brother knows more about the historical attractions and he told me how his brother showed him the way to the exam centre in that city on the first day of his exams
>However, he didn't tell his brother about our meeting until two months latwr as he assumed that his family would distrust me and would assume that we were dating
>I confronted him about this and he sent me photo and video of his national ID card to prove his identity - in his country they contain very sensitive information
>Irl friend thinks his ID photo looks kind of different from his Whatsapp photo
>Cancelled the meeting
Was I catfished? In the past, I thought being multilingual was awesome and I picked his language to start with as it was convenient for me to practice it. Should I keep in touch with him solely for language buddies purposes? Should I think about switching languages?
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Sounds like could be legit, but then again he could be a human trafficker. You might have dodged a life of suffering. Try Interpals for people to talk to. There's tons of people looking to talk.
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>>17273312
Oh you think he may be legit? So should I jeep in touch with him?
The last time I sent him a Whatsapp message was two days ago. He still hasn't read it.
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>>17273317
I mean, anything is possible. But the other side of the coin is pretty scary. Its hard to think he'd converse with you for such a long time and have criminal intent, but stranger things have happened. I'd say keep in touch, but if you do decide to meet, DO NOT allow him to isolate you or entice you into going somewhere out of the public eye.
My personality is of a hick, I wear camo chew tobacco and always wear ball caps... And for the past 17 years I'v never worn anything but jeans and my one and only pair of cowboy boots... Very recently that one and only pair has been destroyed, I can't get new ones in the foreseeable future and without them I'm feeling much like my personality is a lie for some reason, like this is what I've worn and who I am... Just kinda want your opinions in the matter
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Find new boots OP.
Don't need to buy the same style.
Heck, try some camo hunting boots.
That's what Ive got right now.
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>>17273294
Keep chewing tobacco and I hope you enjoy having mouth cancer a few years later down the road, I'm not kidding.
For the latter, get a job and buy your own clothing, and next time please buy more clothing than just "a pair of boots"
they don't last forever, you did know that right?
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I dont think you guys understand the question.
Anyway, op, have you ever tried something different? Going to different places, talking to different people, eating different food, waering different clothes, doing different things?
If not, i think you should. It's hard to know who you really are without comparing it against something else. Hell maybe even give a shot to the things you've always made fun of or thought was stupid.
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Why am I so fucked up?
I'll date a girl, destroy her emotionally to the point of insecurity and then have her crying and desperate for me.
Then when she finally wants to leave me, I am the one who flips the script? And try to keep the girl with me.
But I know that I would never even really change.
What is wrong with me?
I know I have a problem, and it isn't just affecting other people but myself as well.
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>>17273286
You're an emotional terrorist. You plunge others into a state of chaos because you, yourself, feel trapped in a state of chaos.
You want things you can't have, and then when you have them you don't want them anymore. Its very common amongst young men and as someone whose been in exactly your position I still feel truly awful about some of the things I did to women growing up.
Own your shit right now and get help for it before you end up fucking over someone who actually loves you. You'll never forgive yourself.
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>>17273308
> before you end up fucking over someone who actually loves you. You'll never forgive yourself.
I think it's too late for that.
But I've already accepted that.
Why did you do it?
Was it a powertrip thing?
I think, to be honest, I do it because it's sexually gratifying.
Did you ever get into relationships just purely for sex?
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>>17273286
Go to a psych support group, you will find someone who can deal with you.
Bipolar, et al.
At least you guys will have balance.
If you do drugs, it sounds like you will need to be a psych patient yourself, so it's also an option.
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I'll be driving half-way across the country for the first time starting tomorrow. Any advice for long distance driving?
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Don't run out of gas. You don't want to get stuck in the bumblescum middle of nowhere.
Don't ever drive while tired. Always take the time for a rest stop.
Make sure your tire pressures are up to spec. Have extra fluids for your car.
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>>17273380
Thanks
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>>17273284
Mixtape. Food.
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Family Psychology question
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Is it common for sons to have a closer relationship with their mothers?
And, do daughters more commonly feel closer to their fathers?
If this is so, why?
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Yes
Look up the oedipus complex
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For me it wasn't so much an attraction thing as it was "we both acknowledge she's nuts and can talk about actual things", but I was closer with my mom because she was always home and acting crazy.
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>>17273279
Pretty much I just felt closer to my dad because he was on my intellectual level and peraolality type. My mom is just a fruitcake but my dad loved the pussy so he stayed and procreated.
What do you do when you miss your boyfriend (or girlfriend)? Gosh it's such a bad feel, like there's an empty space inside of you.
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I know that feel right now.
I lied to mine, we broke up, and now I can only find girls who only want sex.
One time this girl told me that I am so handsome, I make her feel insecure I'll leave her for another girl.
My ex of two years left me for another guy.
That makes 3 women who left me now.
Ask me anything.
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>>17273158
right now my wife has gone to bed because she works all day while i deal with our daughter that has cancer.
I will not lie. I feel pretty lonely right now. But sometimes doing the best you can to hold out is what you need to do.
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>>17273202
Do you like hugs?
Also in my case, I'm in a LDR and we hardly speak anymore. I don't want to cut contact because he's the only person that truly cares about me in my life. In a world where nobody cares, he's really important to me
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hooked up with alt / ratchet / punk friend of a friend, losing my virginity to her. I can't stop thinking about her, feel fluttery and hot and awkward whenever I see her. Ask my friend if I should ask her out, my friend tells me shes not the kind of girl a nice guy like me should date... that I should leave it at I lost my virginity and thats it... but I can't. Meet up with her again to hang out... she blows me by a river near a walking trail... I ask her out and she tells me shes no good and I should just enjoy what shes doing.
The more time I spend with her, the more I like her though, not just the sex, everything about her... I don't know what to do, shes driving me crazy... Shes really fucked up, but I can't help it, I want her so badly... my friend keeps telling me to stay away from her, she even says she regrets getting me involved with her... but I don't want to stay away.
Whats wrong with me? Why would my friend want me to stay away so badly? I'm so confused.
I need more advice.
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well, if she does not want to call it going out then just go hang out with her and don't be surprised if she blows somebody else near a trail before you evolve into being a couple, because it's way more likely.
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You've imprinted on her. It's not at all rare to imprint on one's first sexual partner, and that's what's happened here.
Women who avoid older male virgins are often specifically trying to avoid being imprinted on. In fact, I suspect that this is what your friend is now trying to do. Problem is, it's too late.
I am sorry, OP. I know it hurts, but you have to end this. It is not your fault that you imprinted on her, but there's a reason she didn't want it to happen. This cannot work out. End this relationship, such as it is, before things turn nasty.
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>>17273155
If I was to guess I'd say she probably has some self-loathing issues, either that or she dislikes relationships or some personality characteristic of yours. Pick whichever makes you feel better. Although, if she is genuinely your friend the last one is less likely.
If you want a relationship with her though, I'd assume it's the first one and try to learn if she has an self-esteem issues and try to boost her confidence if you suspect she does. Next time you have sex whisper some sweet nothings about how great she is, using specific examples so she believes them.
At least that's how I'd write it if you two were characters in a novel.
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please tell me how to get gf
I don't have a mother and I need a loving relationship
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>>17273144
How old are you?
I'm sorry that you don't have a mother.
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>>17273151
You don't sound like a fuckboy, so first understand where you want to be in life and look for someone who wants to be in the same place as you.
As for where to meet girls...well
tinder?
I don't know, man, I'm very asocial for a woman and I actually met my boyfriend off of /soc/, and no, neither him or I are trash.
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So one of my good friends recently started ignoring me and I'm not really sure how to handle the situation. I know for sure she's ignoring me because we used to text / snapchat almost every day and now she does not even open my snapchats or return any texts. What confuses me is that she doesn't ignore me at work, we have normal conversations and she still says hi to me, albeit things do seem a little off. I don't really know how to handle the situation but it's been triggering my anxiety because she was a good friend and I have been losing sleep and eating less because of this. What should I do?
Should I try confronting her next time I see her in person or send her a text asking what's going on? I don't know if that will make the situation worse.
Or should I just leave her alone, give her space, and see if she comes back around? My anxiety would go nuts though if things don't go back to normal.
>TL'DR friend is dodging me and I don't know what to do
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Just ask her to tell you straight up what's going on. Tell her you feel like she's been very distant and that you wanna know what's up.
You shouldn't worry about what'll happen if you do that and things don't end up going back to how they were. If you don't do something about it, there's no guarantee that it ever will, anyway. On the other hand, confronting her and getting answers might lead to you guys being able to working it out.
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Leave her alone and give her space. If you're losing sleep over her then it's more than just friendship. She's a love interest now, not just a friend.
Why haven't you made a move yet? There was obviously a connection if you guys were texting/snapchatting daily.
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>>17273129
She just found a guy she likes and is taking with him
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I'm 27. Two years ago, I started school again at a local community college part time because I work and can't afford to lose hours. Truth be told, I would rather be in school than than work. The first two semesters went really well, but then I just started losing it. I started losing to my depression. I wouldn't study, I would barely do homework, but I would still participate in class and do mostly well on tests. The semester had a rough end, but I passed.
The following semester, I just couldn't get my shit together. About 2/3rds through the semester, I just had a breakdown and stopped going, so I obviously failed my classes. I didn't even sign up for FAFSA because I wasn't planning on going back.
I told my family that I couldn't go because of scheduling conflicts with school and work, which isn't totally a lie, but now I'm getting hounded into going back. They say I should go full-time and live at school, but I am in no condition to go back.
I have no idea what to do, and I can't just tell them I'm a depressed wreck who can barely function.
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You sound like what I will become in the future OP. I'm 20 and dealing with the same shit except I lived on campus and just felt trapped.
What I did was try to tell them what was wrong but they didn't believe me or the story I told them. I never talk to them about shit like feelings since I know how they'd react and I was extremely correct when it came to talking to them.
They have threatened to kick me out with nothing to my name and I honestly can't blame them.
Anyways if you think you can talk with your parents about and really share what's been happening with you I highly suggest that path. If they're crazy religious nuts who tell you you need god afterwards just don't bother. good luck OP!
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>>17273260
I don't know if I could, to be honest. It's not something I'm comfortable with, and they have enough problems to deal with on their own. I'm not willing to dump my shit on them or anyone else for that matter.
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>>17273481
Them being in the loop is probably a good idea. Unless they'll use what they learn to hurt you more.
Depression is pretty heavy baggage. Depending on how severe it is it can literally affect every decision you make. You have a decision to either continue carrying that weight or finding someone to help you. Vent your frustrations or you'll just burnout sooner or later.
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Lots of shit have happened, been together for like a year.
But I just realized, at this point, that when we go out to a date or someting she's the one talking.
I'm just there, listening, for hours. If I try to talk she suddenly shuts me up with something of hers. I feel bad to be honest.I feel like a doormat.
Invited her to a theatre play and I bought the tickets, she said yes. A week later she told me that her best friend (femlae) also invited her (after I invited her) and that she:
>Didn't knew how to tell her friend that I invited her first, so she accepted
Had to return the tickets and buy another ones for the same day (different hour). I planned to go to dinner and that shit, everything got ruined.
Do you have any way or tip to fix this? The ticket shit is a pretty big red flag to me. I think that now I see her priorities, and i'm not one of them.
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Did you told her about this?
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>>17273299
She won't let me have the chance to say it!
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>>17273088
i was a doormat to my ex as well
i say dump her and get with me bc u sound like a sweet qt
but on a serious note that shit is wack, either confront her about it or end it all together. if she tries stepping on your toes when you confront her she is mega manipulative and you need to get away.
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Can I get some advice on job hunting?
Quick summary: Graduated with a degree in IT in May of 2015. Took a break for a few months and started job hunting in earnest in September (I thought it wouldn't be this hard). I realize now that I fucked up and my resume is pretty blank except for some volunteer work and some development work at a local start up. Startup went belly up and I focused on my degree.
It's now June of 2016 and I'm still jobless and it's really getting to me. I check Indeed, Dice, Monster, and a few other websites but everything requires +3 years of experience in super specific things and I don't know what to do. Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated.
If it helps at all, I'm looking for work in Charlotte, North Carolina.
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Bump. Please.
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get a different kind of job
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>>17273113
You mean ditch tech completely? How would that be possible?
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What religions do not vaccinate? 2016-06-20 01:13:12 Post No.17273008
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What religions do not vaccinate?
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Basically I'm 20, living on my own, don't have health insurance, and going back to school. They wont let me attend full time unless I get a hepatitis B vaccination, or get a religious waver.
Basically I need to find a religion that doesn't vaccinate their followers, and it has to be a religion that is typically white, because I don't want to raise any suspicion.
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>>17273008
How on earth are you going to afford school if you can't even afford a vaccination?
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>>17273008
look up free hepatitis B vaccinations and get one. also consider just joining obamacare, its borderline illegal not to havei nsurance atm
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>>17273013
Student loans, that I can pay off after I get my degree. Also, I haven't been vaccinated since I was 12 and I've never had a serious ailment, I'm not a mega "anti-vaxer", but I've just been fine this long, so I see no reason to get a vaccine at this stage in my life. I don't wanna turn this thread into a debate tho, just looking for some religions that will write me a waiver.
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Ok, so I'm balding, but my gf doesn't like short hair on guys, but I am much more comfortable with a buzz, what do?
I'm thinkin buzz.
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I don't believe a buzzcut is going to appeal to your girlfriend or fix your image problem due to balding.
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>>17272909
Get the cut that you like for yourself. Whether she likes your haircut isn't as important as whether you like it.
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>>17272926
basically my thought process. I just want to MAX my appeal 2 her, ya dig?
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So i made a really dumb move to join the army. 7 months into my 5 year contract and i want out. Its to the point where i want to put a bullet in my brain.
What can i do to leave this hell before i do something stupid?
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>>17272846
Why would you sign a five year contract? Anyways, just do your duty, OP. If you absolutely must get out due to mental issues, go see the mental health officer. Other than hurting yourself badly or committing a crime, that's your only out.
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>>17272846
why is it so bad
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>>17272854
For some people its not terrible. Infact i would encourage it. But i joined for all the wrong reasons and lied my way to get in.now im a complete mess.
>>17272849
Thought as much I dont think i can go on though.