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>>17270237
It's almost certainly psychological; performance anxiety. It's self-fulfilling and every man has gone through it at some point. I got some viagra off the silkroad once and it's nice to have on hand when I'm hooking up with a new lady (which gets me nervous), but honestly you just need to stop worrying about it. Enjoy the experience of getting with someone and don't put pressure on yourself.

>>17270385

Thanks anon

>>17270237
No fap is the answer

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You are a commitment phobe.

>But you are asking the wrong question.

Q=(1-P)

If you marry her you'll be thinking of other people when you have sex.. Forevvvveerrr

>>17270182
?

What's the important question?

>>>/lgbt/

This belongs on /lgbt/ and not /adv/. Go away.

>>17270235
Asking for advice doesn't belong in advice.. i like it here, why don't you go away.

The answer and solution is fairly simple; lose weight.

>>17270131
This

But on top of it you also need to put yourself out there. Even if you feel insecure about doing it, you really have nothing to lose and can only benefit from doing online dating, talking to boys you see regularly, etc. Also remember that you're probably being harder on yourself than anybody else will be on you.

There's a new girl at my workplace I find pretty attractive, not exactly fat, just overweight. It looks right on her. Plus she has a super cute face. Why not talk to him?

>>17269930
This is a system built by people ignorant to the problems of other people.

We are all ignorant, in one way or another, to the problems dealt with by others.


I'm really sorry that I can't give you much help; money troubles very similar to yours are playing a significant role in my decision to off myself.

It's really just like this (at least as I see it): When the going gets tough, you either get tough or get going; the way out of this particular mess is to work your ass off to pay those bills to get your debt in order.

You can get tough and work hard, or you can get going and kind of give up. The latter sounds shitty, and it is, but you have to seriously ask yourself how often you can get tough because sometimes that's all life throws at you - situations like the one you're in.

Sometimes little shit that you can normally deal with becomes overwhelming when there is just too much of it.

Try dividing your issues into as many partitions as you're comfortable with and, one by one, work at solving them. Given that this is mostly money related, you're going to have to start paying off all of those debts simultaneously and paying them off over a long time may seem daunting, but all we really have in this world is time.

I guess that's my advice - give it some time.
If you really want to male it out of this, give it time and effort; reduce your spending, increase your income and work at it.

Take that for what it's worth, they're just the words of some guy whose going to kill himself.

>>17270456

Honestly, I don't see these debts going away. You're not the only one who's suicidal, and I'm not dealing with the burden crippling debt. I would rather be gone forever. Guess it's time.

>>17270578
Like I said, give it some time.

I gave myself a date.
I'm going to live until that date and, if it doesn't seem like I can turn things around, I'm going to end it.

So, if I'm not the only one who's suicidal, ask yourself this:
How long do you reasonably believe you can keep afloat in your current state (economically, emotionally, physically)? Can you extend that time by making certain restrictions?

If you can pinpoint a date or a month or a time-period that you believe you can keep things, or are willing to keep things, going until, then maybe do what I've done - live the best you can until that date and see if you can spot some light at the end of your tunnel.

Alternatively, you can just cash-out by selling all your shit, getting as much money together as possible and blowing it before killing yourself. It's ...different from the first idea, but I entertained it for some time.

I'm feeling down right now and I'm quite drunk, so maybe I'm not giving you the best advice I can, but this is the advice I'm giving.

I'll check back here tomorrow, when I'm hopefully in a better mood, so post something if you want, I'll respond.

>>17269790
yeah she is lying bro.

Chicks love it when you make em feel like a princess.

I assure you if she really was raped she would tell the cops and he would be in jail in 24 hours. She would not be pandering to your white knight.

>>17269801

>she's lying

>she has had ptsd since I meet her
>she has been at terapy
>she has gone to police and cops already

what fucking part of "was raped when she was 11" can't you fucking understand? Do you do this all the time? I know how shitty her family is

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>>17269790
>I know how shitty her family is
But you don't know she was raped. Now you want to commit a felony.

Wew.

What are you sending them?

>Or should I assume that a lot of them swipe right automatically and get swamped in matches?
Why would they do that?

Relatively good looking male anon here (been told I'm an 8-9/10 repeatedly) with slightly over 1200 matches

Tinder is literally all looks. Post your profile so we can help you, what you're doing in pictures/how they're taken will have a big impact on how successful you are

>>17269356
Unless you're literally 10/10, getting 1/3 replies is pretty good going. Getting 1/10 is not unreasonable if you're average.

Please remember that even though 1/10 girls might reply on tinder, in real life that % would be far higher - women are pickier on tinder and only really want to chat with people that are 10/10 looks or 10/10 conversation

>>17269217

That's a sign of mental illness.

>>17269223
You're a sign of mental illness!

>>17269217
>>17269243

Okay. Seek help though, for your sake.

>>17269170
Break up with them.

>>17269170

>what advice can you give

depends what your goal is.

Advice: Don't. It's gonna get weird and awkward. And if she's willin' to cheat on someone to bang you, who's to say she'll stay faithful to you as well?

>>17269043
>Is there a way to get his ass transferred to another school without getting directly involved
No.

>cause it seems the teachers don’t care that this freak is making everyone uncomfortable
Deal.

Teachers are used to kids acting weird and going through phases. He's not hurting anyone, so there's nothing you can do. Just ignore it.

>>17269043
Deal with it, these people I'd take tenfold over sjws.

At least they mix life up a bit

>>17268939
>has girlfriend
>whines about banal shit
tip top lel

>>17268943
Having depression and being physically abused doesn't mean I have to live like a beta male loser.

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>>17268939
>I'm depressed because pther people have better lives than me.
Liberals in the making.

But seriously, grow up. There will always be people with better and worse lives than you.

end it, neither she or you, for that matter, will respect you if you don't

don't even think about staying, she doesn't care for you nor your relationship

>>17267284
its over

once a cheater always a cheater

I do. She pressured me, and she had much stronger feelings for me than I did for her, so the breakup was hell.

>>17267132
Lost it to a 7/10 blonde escort who let tie her up, gag her and melt chocolate on her asshole.

Would do it again.

Nah, don't regret it at all.
Lost it at 15 to my first love.
We have been together for almost 10 years now.

>>17267002
study hard, secure a good internship, network and make friends with as many people as you can.

i just graduated and i can't find a job yet. i don't even have friends i can call up to help me out, because the small amount of friends i made were so insecure and anxious that they failed getting jobs and would stab me in the back for one if they had the opportunity...

Go to class.

>>17267008
This. It sounds like a duh kind of tip, but it's very easy to get lazy and not go to lectures. Just go. You will regret not keeping up 10/10 times.

Is the predator carbs?

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You know how the age of consent in Germany is 14?

Well there's this german guy from /fit/, he goes to the gym and on the way home he stops at the same convenience store, one day there's a group of little girls there too, another day they're there too, they're there many days. When he walks in they whisper to themselves, look his way and giggle, they like him. Until one day one of them walks up to him to talk, a pale redhead with glassed and freckles (he refers to her as a "petite lovesick nerd"), they exchange pleasantries, talk for a while, joke around, take a selfie together and exchange numbers.

She starts texting him, he texts her back thinking nothing of it, she keeps texting him some more, he decides to poke her for information. She's 11, she lives with her uncaring single mom, she doesn't know her dad, she's smart, she wants to be a dentist, she feels sad a lot, she feels lonely a lot, she admits she's got a crush on him and he thinks to himself "why not"?

So he makes her an offer:
To be her big brother, whenever she's sad she can call him, whenever she's lonely she can go over to his place, they can hang out at nights and on the weekends, she can trust him and tell him anything.

In his own wirds the dude intents to keep this big bro thing going, feeding the crush she has on him, grooming her so that when she turns 14 and becomes legal she'll come to his dick, willingly.

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German/fit/anon keeps her interested and motivated by finding out what she'd like and what she fantasizes about with "PG-rated sexting", he keeps this stuff on a list. He buys his time and when she least expects it he'll deliver something from the list, she'll love it and love him for it, he keeps pushing his agenda.
A few items from the list:
>cooking and having dinner together
>him helping her with her homework
>her staying over the night at his place
>her staying over the entire weekend at his place
>working out together
>going to a museum together
>going to an aquarium together
>watching movies cuddled up in his bed
>taking a nap together in his couch
>walking around town holding hands
>going to the pool together
>going to the beach together
>him teaching her how to drive
>him buying clothes for her
>taking a shower together
>buying a puppy
>buying furniture
>taking selfies
He claims to have crossed off about 25% of the list, always looking to add more stuff to it.
He also claims to have "big plans" for the summer, halloween and christmas.