So hey /adv/ I'm in a shit situation right now... So awhile back my best friend broke up with his girlfriend... Anyways I kinda liked her and soon we started to see each other. Not officially dating but pretty much. Anyways I was gonna ask her later today if we could actually be together. I like her, she's told me she likes me, so no problem there. Yesterday a friend (not best friend) started asking if me and girl were a thing. I told the truth that I did like girl. Well friend then tells me basically I should stay friends with the girl because I could possibly lose girl and best friend. Friend said that I should talk to best friend about it. I know best friend will chimp out, that's the way he is. I don't get why I have to ask him if it's okay if I date her. We never have talked about our relationships/feelings for people before, so why should I now? Just because she's his ex, he was the one who broke up with her after all. Basically, friend made me feel like an asshole for liking someone who liked me back. I don't know what to do, do I ask girl out or stay friends to appease best friend? I really like her but best friend and I have been best friends since high school
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They broke up btw because they just got disinterested with each other, and kinda just stopped talking
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best friend should respect the fact they broke up and you were there on the rebound, so now she's yo gurl
also, if he wants the best for the girl, should actually be happy she's with his best friend (op) now and not some random cunt
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>>17271028
That was what I was thinking but the other friend just kept telling me how I'd piss off best friend... Honestly why the fuck should he care, he broke up with her.
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What can it do for you? Any thing and every thing. It transforms you, gives you energy, Vitalizes.
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Try it out
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How nice that you've discovered yoga.
Are you /fit/ tier or /x/ tier?
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So here is my situation.
>I just came home from college and hanging out with some old friends.
>Go over to one's place, and he has a hot new girl, but she's not the first friend's gf I've been attracted to.
>Usually it's easy to ignore, but we are talking a lot and she is actually really interesting.
>My friend is mostly just focused on his phone texting it's kinda strange but what ever.
>Eventually I find out they have decided to go open with their relationship, and my buddy is texting the girl he is banging.
>One time she gets my number and tells me they want to hang out, but my friend is at work for a few hours.
>She says come over whenever, and when I do she is in her underwear and a tank top nips shining through
>We also went to a local brewery once together, and she tells me it's nice to get out because my buddy doesn't drink.
There's the back story. I'm not ugly or sexually/relationship deprived just taking it easy right now, and it's a small town. I've just never been in this situation. I want to fuck her for sure, but my friend is a tad unstable I feel and I don't want to screw up our dynamic. I just can't stop thinking about it, and I feel like there's an elephant in the room when we hang out. Should I bring it up to her next time we hang out or is that uncouth?
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If the friend said the relationship is open, and he's texting some other broad, then he shouldn't have an issue. If he does he's fucking retarded and you probably shouldn't associate with him anyway.
Indicate to her that you're interested in her (physical contact, holding her gaze, etc.), see what she does. If she reciprocates bring it up then fuck the shit out of her.
Bonus points for breaking them up
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>>17270955
Oy blin. You're in a tight spot. I wouldn't bring it up because of possible back slash from the gf or its a test of friendship. Let her come on to you before you go barking up the wrong tree
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>>17270966
Kek at breaking them up. The worst thing is I feel we might be a better match, and I have this cognitive dissidents on breaking them up. My friend is a bit of a roider, and he has already said some disturbingly hostile things. It's very fucking interesting man.
I cheated on my abusive husband by emailing an ex (he initiated the emails, but I encouraged him while not explaining I was married) and planning to get back together with him. I was going to leave right away, not do shit behind my spouse's back (the email exchange lasted 3 days before I made up my mind), but it was still cheating and wrong. His behaviour since finding out has been psychotic and scary. The email ex found out I had lied by omission and wants nothing to do with me. I'm leaving in a couple of weeks and probably just going to be living with my family looking for shitty jobs again.
I know I should be more concerned with leaving safely and rebuilding my life, but... I can't stop thinking about the ex and how guilty I am about lying to him/crushed I am that we can't be together because of my foolish mishandling of things. How can I get more perspective? How can I forgive myself/get over it?
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i just have one question
why do you still stay in such an abusive relationship and then just wait for another man to be with while you are still with first one?
dont you women know how to be alone and independent?
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Well, I've actually been fantasizing about living alone in a concrete underground bunker where nobody could disturb me for over a year. I tried to break up with my husband several times, but I am financially dependent on him (can't get job, waiting for visa approval) and I lied to my parents and said I went abroad for a legit job. He did initially "hire" me and promise to pay me, but then it became a relationship and I accepted the fact I wasn't going to be paid. Every time I tried to break up he said it was either be together or leave completely. Going back home would have meant telling the truth to my parents and feeling shamed. Of course I've had to do that now, but the behaviour really ramped into overdrive after he discovered the cheating, so my old ways of excusing him have fallen by the wayside. People think it's just psychological manipulation and weakness that makes people stay in these situations, but actually it's usually because you are actually dependent on them in a material sense. SO MANY women in these relationships don't have their own money or have kids with the abuser or something.
The "other man" is someone I literally would have gotten back together with at any point after he broke up with me. He's the only person on the planet who could have convinced me to do what I did. So it's less about trying to go off with some random guy as a replacement, and actually really caring about it on a genuine level. That's why this fucking sucks, if I was just using someone to escape or "save me", it wouldn't be such a big deal that he no longer wants me.
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Like... it's really funny, I came here in an attempt to be independent. So I could live somewhere other than with my parents, leeching off them, and make money (it was suggested I'd make $400/week with free room and board, so I could have saved up $30,000 by now if he had actually delivered). But then, it became this. Fucking hilarious really.
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Why do I immediately lose my erection when I escalate with this girl?
I'm 23 and a virgin so I'm pretty inexperienced, but recently I've started seeing this girl. I've always struggled with ED and have had an on/off relationship with Nofap over the past few years and have been to the doc who found nothing wrong with me. I'm certain my problem is more mental than physical.
But whenever I'm just kissing and cuddling this girl I've been seeing I've been alright. I get hard without any problems. However, as soon as we get to third base I just go limp as anything with no chance of getting it up. I feel as though I just lose all interest even though I'm really into this girl and had been turned on by making out with her. I lost my erection when she reached down into my pants the other day which was awkward but I think I managed to play it off.
Just sitting with her in a public space with no chance of sex happening I was fine but whenever I put my hand down her pants I lose it. This is incredibly frustrating.
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Got any kinks you can take advantage of?
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>>17270906
That is one hell of a cocktail of symptoms. If I were you I'd keep talking to your doc and try to get Vigara
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>>17270913
What do you mean? I've got some Cialis for a rainy day but I think the issue is a psychological one. What's weird is that when I'm taking this girl out, walking with her, cuddling at a bench I'm turned on and really into her. I mean, I left with blue balls the last time I met her. But as soon as we went somewhere quieter and I started fingering her my interest went out the window. I think I was too focused on my erection and started getting nervous.
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I fell in love with a girl who told me when we met that she had a two years relationship with a girl and that they broke up last summer.
In the last couple of months we've became the best of friends and I don't know how to approach her and open up to her with my feelings. We spend all the time we can together, we hang out and go out every day, we've tried acid for the first time in our lives together. I don't want to destroy our friendship but I feel like there will be no better SO I could be in relationship with. She's just perfect for me.
How to go about in this situation?
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>>17270876
Tell her puss cake. Anytime or any place
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>>17270891
But will we be able to sustain the friendship after that? I feel like she trusts me and that'd destroy the fuck outta it.
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My current prescription for nearsightedness is around -8.00. I got this prescription about a year or so ago. I really need help before I go blind; what should I do? As of right now, LASIK and other types of eye surgery are a bit out of reach as I'm a fresh highschool graduate with no current income.
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>>17270873
Unless you have a medical condition its impossible to go blind. Unless you spend your days glaring at the sun or staring into a flashlight. Im semi blind in my right eye genetically and my eyesight hasn't changed in my 19 years of living
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You also can't get laser eye surgery if your prescription hasn't stablised. Given your age, it's unlikely it has.
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>>17270880
Well, I started wearing glasses in the second grade and it's gotten to the point where I'll be legally blind in a few years. And it seems to only get worse as the days go by.
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>Be me, 25, athletic build, 6'1
>Girl I like is 20, gorgeous short
>we work together
>we dated for a week and broke up because "she has higher priorities"
>we still talk and hang out a little bit
>she likes literally everything about me and I'm the only guy she doesn't mind touching her body.
>She is absolutely still attracted to me
>She has massive trust issues/afraid of men.
>She admits that I'm the best guy she's ever met and have all of the qualities a girl could ever want.
Issue: I cannot stop thinking about her, I got emotionally invested in her and now I want her so bad it kills me.
Obviously, I could be chasing the dragon on this one. Maybe I'm still trying to grasp that which is lost.
Question: Is it possible she was just afraid and needs more time? Is it possible that with the right wooing I can get her to see through the insecurity and date me?
Don't get me wrong, I see that it might just be the end, but I don't want to give up on her, I'm willing to walk into fire for her. Perhaps I'm being a bit obsessive? I'm not pissed I didn't get my dick wet, I genuinely care for her as a person, I don't want to say I love her, but my feelings for her never faded and they just get stronger.
Wat do? Abandon ship? Give time?
Also: No, I don't have autism.
Any help appreciated.
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>>17270865
Stop obsessing over her and bail....
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>>17270867
why bail?
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I don't see a reason to bail. I ultimately believe if she can overcome her fear of.. whatever it is (abuse) that she would want to actually take that chance again. Is this some sort of obsessive idea I have or is this just a by-product of my feelings?
I just don't want to walk away asking what if.
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Should I get a dat boi shirt? Is it too cringey?
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The fact that you're even considering it is cringey.
What are you going to say if someone asks you what it means?
"Oh hey anon, interesting shirt, where's it from"
"Oh it's an internet meme, whe-"
"Oh you're one of those people... cya anon"
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>>17270845
I take it you don't get out much
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Never buy meme clothing. After two months everyone will think you're lame.
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Wife cheated on me with a motherfucker. What's a good way to legally destroy him?
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Gonna need more information OP, does this guy have a wife/girlfriend?
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Yeah he's got a girlfriend, my fucking wife!
But seriously, he's an alcoholic loser with no job, and is destroying her by enabling her alcoholism.
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You can't fuck up his professional career, and he's already at rock bottom.
Just divorce your wife, if she's fucking around with other people, she's either done it plenty of times before, or will do it again in the future.
You don't really have any options to destroy him other than kill him or hurt people around him.
Hey so I'm going on this first date with this girl that I've already hooked up with a few times at parties and shit, but this will be the first time we hang alone. I was going to take her to a movie but she's already seen both movies I suggested and all the other movies out are shit. She said she'd go and see either with me anyways, but I'm not sure if I should do that. Should I take her to like mini golf or something instead or what?
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Yeah, a movie is not that much of a social activity anyway. Minigolf sounds good... Just relax. That cat is adorable.
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>>17270740
I could do a movie first then mini golf.
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>>17270768
what's your obsession with movies bro? They're objectively shitty dates.
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i"m about to tern 18 and I was thinking about how I'm still a virgin, but then I realized that I've never so much as kissed a girl much less fucked one.
I'm not fat or particularly unattractive (there isn't anything weird about my face or body) and I know guys uglier than me who have at least had girlfriends.
what the fuck?
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Enjoy your ban.
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Maybe try spelling turn right, girls like smart guys.
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>>17270698
What have you done to get a girl? you're not entitled to a lay just because you're not weird looking.
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Alright, my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now and we are a pretty good couple. But when it comes to sex its not very good. For me clitoral stimulation hurts.. When I recieeve oral sex it isn't very enjoyable. Everything feels good except when his tounge makes his way towards my clit. It feels like sandpaper and its a overwhelming sensation and it doesn't feel good. I cant orgasam when he gives me oral. He wants me to but i just cant... Is something wrong with me? Can I fix this? Or am I gonna be orgasamless for the rest of my life?..
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He needs to stop giving you direct stimultion. He can try rubbing you trough your panties or something
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>>17270717
He has and it still isn't the best feeling... I don't understand.
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Does vaginal sex not do anything to you? For me clitoral stimulation is no good either. I can only get off with penetration when I'm on top and in terms of oral I prefer the tongue to be spread out entirely and rubbed instead of like pearcing through the labia.
Try different things. Ask him to change techniques. We're all different, don't worry.
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While dating or in a relationship, what does one do about fetishes that are either A) something you don't want to try in the bedroom, or B) can't be accomplished?
Alternatively, would you tell someone you were with about your fetishes even though there's nothing that can come of it?
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"I'm into _________ in porn/fantasy but it's not something I want to try in real life" "I like _______ in real life and want to try _______"
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>>17270654
Okay, but is it worth even saying you're into #1? Why share that?
I know how to say it, but does it do your partner any good to know?
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>>17270664
It's an optional way to deepen your bond with them.
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I need advice on holding a conversation.
>Girl and I have known each other for about 6 months
>We talk quite a bit in person and I know a decent amount about her life/past
>We don't really share many hobbies
>We both are really busy with school there's not a lot of interesting stuff going on with either of us
>We're not saying but I sense its becoming more and more of a possibility
It's hard holding a conversation. We're both leading pretty boring right now because we're working so much and going to school for long hours. We don't have really any mutual friends and we don't seem to share many topics of knowledge (I know a lot about building, crafting, science, and politics while she knows more about literature, pop culture, music, etc). What are some questions I could ask or whatever to spark a conversation?
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1. get them to talk about themselves
2. act interested
3. if you're not interested, ask them questions where you're interested to know the answer
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>>17270280
But how do I get someone to talk about themselves? I have a difficult time with this.
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>>17270297
just ask them anything, it could be for their opinion on something you're interested in
or "how are you feeling right now" etc