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>>17363246
You have to do some digging first. Scope out her social media. See if she has a boyfriend, or if it appears that she does.

If she seems like she does, do not approach her. You will make your work environment needlessly uncomfortable for a few weeks until everyone involved stops being awkward.

>>17363246

whichever way you want. we dont know the ins and outs of your office, so its not like we can see the opportunities you are missing. chances are that there havent been any and ur fixating on a girl you've literally never talked to, yeh?

the best thing you can do is look for an opening and take it.

>>17363256
I doubt I'll be able to find her very easily. And she works in a completely different section of the lab where I work, so even if things got uncomfortable between us it wouldn't matter because I never interact with them.

>>17363257
>chances are that there havent been any and ur fixating on a girl you've literally never talked to, yeh?
Pretty much but you'd be fixated too if I had a picture to show.

>>17363175

Listen, you keep looking for other things to help solve your problems. When you can't find those things, you try to escape. Fantasy, film, etc.

You need to start dedicating yourself to something greater. A goal, an ambition, a dream. Something that you need to sacrifice for.

Because it doesn't seem like you really sacrificied for anything in your life.

You already know some of the problems in your life. You are monstrously obese, you constantly jerk off and seek pleasure, etc.

What you need to do is develop good habits. Motivation comes and goes, but it is discipline that makes mountains into molehills.

I want you to find one problem in your life, one serious problem, and dedicate 2 hours a day to just working on that one problem. Rain or shine, 2 hours. You have time.

I would select your weight. Get your weight under control.

What you have to realize is that this will take a while. You've spent 30 years getting yourself into this mess. It's gonna take a while to unfuck yourself.

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I made this for you, OP. My kitty makes me very happy. I hope he can make you smile too!

>>17363175
>>17363200

And I want to add:

>I don't have any friends, I screwed that up. I have BPD, depression, I weigh 300 pounds; no chance of having a stable relationship with people, no chance of being in a relationship.

>I failed college twice, put my parents in incredible debt. Have moved back with them 5 times now.

The reason you feel people don't care about you is because you don't care about yourself. A person who cares about themselves doesn't balloon up to 300 pounds, or constantly jerk off, or fail to wash themselves.

Start legitimately caring about yourself, and you'll find other people start to care too.

>>17363159
>what is grief

>>17363165
I understand but she was okay within a day..

>>17363171
She's not okay. Everyone deals in their own way. Not everyone needs to lock themselves in their room for 3 months to grieve.

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I seriously need more "kill yourself" pictures.

nah you're probably just attracted to feminine body styles and got bored of normal porn. happens a lot. I won't touch furries but traps are ok by me. I'd never date a guy tho, too fucking gay.

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Sexuality and orientation dosen't exist as college kids/liberals define it.
I won't tell you the truth though, it's your job to find that out.

>>17363151
No. 7.5 inches is the average acceptable length.

>>17363160
Nah it's 8 inches or don't even try.

>>17363182
Are you kidding me? Only horses satisfy women

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It's your fault you retarded fag. I've been browsing this site since I was 13. I'm 20 now. My life is pretty fucking good - I moved out of my shit country, found a good job and have a gf.

You ruined yourself by thinking that you're a weirdo. You can play vidya 10 hours a day, watch anime and jerk off to CP and still be a decent person. People often ruin themselves by thinking "wow, I like browsing 4chink, I'm such a loser"

Jesus fucking christ I was a fatty when I was 13. The only reason I started working out was some guy posting pics of Snake's butt and chest on /v/.

I'm a negative person too, but instead of hating myself because of it I embraced it. I noticed how sacrastic comments tend to make people laugh at serious stuff.

>>17363147
it's not 4chan's fault, you dumb nigger. But I see where you're coming from, anon. Gonna need some more info for an advice though. What do you do in life

>>17363213
>b urself xd

>>17363219
Yeah i know it's not 4chans fault , it's my fault for letting this shit get to me, I'm a Data science student, 5'8 , 20 years old, average looking, I don't like anime and barely play video games ( 2 hours weekly or so )

>>17363124
Race mixing is never good, no matter what the circumstances are.

Op, don't listen to others. I can almost guarantee you aren't %100 pure blooded.

I say do what your heart wants. If you love her, then stay. Will it really matter in 50 years if you mix races?

>>17363124
is race the actual problem here, anon?

Photoshops, and x-rays buddy. It's kind of normal with deep emotional affection

>>17363158
>Photoshops
>x-rays
>normal

If you think garbage like that is normal then you need counseling.

>>17363121
What's wrong with jerking off to her then? As in, using your imagination instead of letting another guy use his and do a half-assed shoop of her.

>>17363121
Kill yourself faggot.

>>17363107

put yourself in regular social situations that you enjoy. by regular i mean the frequency, not whats considered 'normal' in terms of activity. it can be anime meetup marathon parties if ur itno that. it can be rock climbing, or bars, or dodgeball, or book clubs, or whatever you like. just do it regularly

look for a guy or two who catches your interest. flirt with them. if they absolutely do not come around, ask them out or kiss them. if they say no, move on to thenext guy.

Smile and talk and touch and kiss and suck and fuck and hold hands and make breakfast and go on a trip and sleep

>>17363116
Thank you this was really good.
>>17363117
Im sad so it's difficult to smile but i'll try

>>17363070
Just keep doing what you're doing. If you're really lazy then whenever youbcrave fast food good to a grocery store and just buy a sandwhich. You'll lose a lot if you regularly eat out.

>>17363070

the key to losing weighti s diet. walking burns so few calories its ridiuclous. here are some tips.

>count your calories.

this one is obvious. i know it sounds hard, but trust me its the best. weigh your food, and google 'calories in a XX' then check the weight and do the math. the food scale is the best thing cuz it showed me how much or hwo little i was actually eating.

it makes it hard to enjoy things like restaurants cuz you cant see their calorie information, but trust me, thats only goign to help by cutting down how much you eat out.

>go low carb

my friend always says 'carbs are the enemy'. carbs like fruit are fine, but its breads and such that we want to avoid. by removing them you instantly remove a LOT of calories, which helps with the above.

instead of say, a peanutbutter sandwich, instead eat a banan with peanutbutter.

use squash or greenbeans to replace noodles. use caluflower to replace mashed potatos. simply google search 'carb replacements' and a food you like for the next best option.

>replace one meal a day with veggies

people act like its a big deal, but its not. just replace one fucking meal a day with vegetables. you still get say, your normal breakfast and normal lunch, but by taking what might have been a 500 calorie breakfast and making it 100 calorie, you are letting yourself maintain your usual eating habits (minus carbs) elsewehre.

>replace one day a wee kwith veggies

take a day you know you dont have much going on, liek awednesdays, and simply eat nothing but vegetables. its one day a week. its not that big a deal. tough, but its good. if you caneat nothing but brocolli, carrots, steamed greanbeans, etc. for a day, your calorie consumption will be REALLY low.

that will offset the days of the week where you know you probably went over your limit.

>>17363070
>>17363088

>hershey syrup

getting a swweet craving? bananas help me the most, they are sweet but not too specific the way berries are. its kind of like cake in texture. adding 1 tablespoon of hershey syrup is way more htan enough to drench that banana, and it only has 50 calories on top of whatever the banana has.

>>17363056
Well...
You fucked up
The way you fucked for the first time defines all the other times (^:(sorry, rape victims)

>>17363063
I guess now I know. Now I won't ever let something stupid like this happen again. Makes me feel a bit better. But fuck my life.

Look a the posotive side and learn from your experience

How is this advice? Fuck off you /b/ shitstain

>>17363048

>23
>I studied film and do it on an indie level, but my current job is managing a business for a Psychic
>too many sexual to count, very slutty faggot here
>nine relationships that i count so far, but my memory is swiss cheese due to recent brain damage
>since the brain damage i seem unable to write the way i could before and it scares the shit out of me, but im slowly fading out social obligations and devoting more itme to it starting tomorrow.


>>17363048

i felt that a lot this year too man. there came a point where my best friend refused to see me outside of a group setting. to him I had simply become another challenger on board games, not someone to bond with.
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>>17363048
>23
>Shit jobs, looking to get qualifications of a translator and a programmer.Also going to college and perhaps studying something nice in the future
>3
>1
>I feel like utter crap, thank you. My favorite color is purple and I'd probably hate your guts.

Using a heating pad can help alleviate it some.

>>17363043
Thanks... I usually use about a billion hot water bottles... but why not both?

>>17363037
I used to have excruciating cramps monthly that induced vomiting and other awful shit. I found out I have cysts in my uterus and the only thing I can do is take birth control to alleviate the symptoms. That's probably your issue if this is a consistent thing.

Hot showers, stretching, and weed if you can.

>>17363031
This seems too specific to merit a useful response. If you think things went fine then give it some time, but always have options.

>>17363031
Never wait. Always continue the search.

>>17363225

Oh yeah, I'm definitely going to keep applying. I'm asking for advice on interpreting what they told me though.

>>17363015

then go somewhere you think you would enjoy as a family.

protip: if ur answer is 'I DONT THINK ID ENJOY ANY VACATION WITH MY FAMILY'

then you are spoiled fucking shit who cant see anything beyond himself.

>>17363015
pick another destination?

But go with your parents in any case, unless you really find something worth doing with someone else. You won't have much more chances to travel with them, and you will regret not goint on a family vacation in a few years time.

At least it's me, 10 years later now I regret staying home while my parents travelled...

Plan some places that you all want to go to together ahead of time, and propose that you spend some parts of the trip split up to do your own things.

> I really enjoy not having relatives look through my purchases
Can you explain why that is? I know that I have a relative that is a bit more frugal than me and gets on my case about spending too much money on pretty much everything that I don't get the best deal on. Is it like that? Or do you just not want you're family seeing you buy weeb souvenirs and call you childish? Or are some of your purchases possible to interpret as perverted in nature? Is it your own money you'll be spending, or theirs? If it's your money, can't you just tell them to mind their own business or are you worried about their judgement anyway?