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Did you happen to ask them on Tinder? Because why the fuck would you use that as a conversation topic on fucking Tinder?

Nah man ive been talking to each of them at least a few weeks some even months. And yeh im well aware that that isnt a topic for tinder

There's a lot of short sighted people who don't care. You could've just landed with a bad batch though,

If you want to be respected, you've got to be the sort of person people respect. Regardless, ditching all your friends completely sounds like a stupid move to me

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>>17361988


That's just it though, people DO respect me until I start making them laugh. It's like the moment they realize I'm funny, my professional opinion on things isn't worth anything.

Whether I'm tutoring chemistry, offering food advice or helping someone fix their car, if they think I'm funny they'll look to someone else for advice. When I DON'T talk to people, I'm all of a sudden the wise quiet man people go to for information.

>>17361990
I've been in your situation. I separated myself from friends to the point that I haven't had any contact with anyone outside of my immediate family and the 4 to 6 people I only see at work. I always felt people didn't take me seriously. Same boat as you. There are pros and cons to every choice but always remember there are infinitely always two choices in this duality. Blue vs red, with us or against us, lonely/alone, them or us, positive/negative.

Oh here's the only piece of advice: appreciate everything you have, don't keep emotions bottled up, one good friend outweighs 10 decent ones, always be striving towards a goal not walking but fucking STRIVING and get good sleep 7-8 hours plus take naps when you can like after getting home from work/school/exercise etc. Bonus tip! When you are about to lay down to sleep push everything away and think nothing else matters but falling comfortably asleep at this very moment. This one is hard at first as you'll have to push away thoughts about important things but worry not, when you wake up from your slumber you'll feel more in control with your thoughts that you'll more easily be able to manage everything

>>17361982
This is a case where protecting yourself outranks any friendship or loyalty.

Warn him that if he doesn't quit, you're going to lock him out. And do it.

Don't enable or anger him, and don't join him.
BUT... you do not have the right to lock somebody out of their own room.

You cut addicts out of your life as best you can, and let them back in when they're clean.

Hopefully they don't end up stealing from you

You wish.

girls vagina size has nothing to do with their hegiht, just like a dick size has nothing to do with boys height

my friend has a 21cm dick (yes we measured it, we played football together and all kind of weird shit goes on in the changing room) and the only girl that he is comfortable having sex with - meaning she can handle him - is a 160cm chick that was a virgin before she met him

Penis size matters, but not that much - as long as you don't have a microdick. If she genuinely likes you then sex should be no problem at all, your insecurity is over a nonissue.

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>>17361972
Nothing do nothing just wait it out

Your 'friend' either grows a pair, or sucks it up. He doesn't get 'first dibs' on her. If anything, he'd be being a dick if he DID make a move on her, since he knows that his friend likes her, and I assume his friend doesn't know that he likes her too.

By the way, we all know it's you you're talking about.

>>17361965
I say go for it let him know you can be a friend for him

>>17361965
He's fuckin drunk, lol. Don't take what he says too seriously.

>>17361965
He's drunk, forget about it.

Depends on the job. Some employers hold on to applications, especially if you've indicated that you'd like to be considered for other roles. Also if the file this time isn't a PDF, they might get suspicious.

>>17361963
Probably not, but I doubt very much that your grades were what lost you the job.

Aside from colleges, nobody really gives a damn how you did in high school - they just want proof that you graduated.

So changing a few grades isn't likely to improve your chances. Whatever they didn't like about you last year is elsewhere, and probably hasn't changed.

>>17361956
You're overthinking this. Girls love confidence, and it usually puts them at ease around you.

>>17361956
Your mistake was not being your "true self" from the get-go.

I say give it some time and see if she either 1. chats you up again or 2. you run into her again.

Just be that true self again when you see her.

Always remember that you never need to limit yourself to "needing options". You're a man and there are more women in the world than you could ever possibly fuck. Keep your options open and your demeanor charismatic and fun.

>>17362010
Well then what explains the sudden lack of communication on her end? This dosnt feel like an "oh maybe shes busy or something came up" type of thing, but rather she's just flat out avoiding me

>>17362012
But do you really think even if I had done that things would be different? I'm not being snarky I just dont think that it would still explain why she just cut contact out of the blue. Did she feel my lack of "genuineness" from the get go was just too much to overlook or something?

Just put a sign outside your front door, which says "I am a massive racist." They will actively avoid you.

The downside is that everyone with a brain will avoid you because you are a giant fucking cunt.

>>17361950

look at the neighborhood.

Generally niggers/white trash don't do personal upkeep and maintenance on their land. Also, if the house is shit but they have a nice car watch out its a red flag.

Other things to consider is police presence. If cops are there and they look overweight its a good indicator that the place sees low instances of crime. Road maintenance and infrastructure maintenance (done by the city) is also a good indicator.

Finally, check local elementary/highschools around the area. If public school reports indicate a below average student achievement you are in a bad area.

>>17362287

You could also go watch a film in a theatre near where you want to live. Many indicators will show what the local area is like just from people watching the line when getting your ticket.

>>17361939

Sounds like you need to find another guy...unless you want to deal with this same bullshit constantly.

>>17361939
You're in denial.

The sponsor is just doing his job. He is SUPPOSED to ride you hard, to make sure you get better. A sponsor who went easy on you would not be doing you any favors. If you are resisting already, it does not bode well for your recovery.

>>17362313
It's not an issue of whether I want to follow the sponsors instructions. If there's this relationship between him and my roommate where roomie can just go and whine to him whenever I do something he doesn't like and he listens, that's what I have a problem with. It's manipulative on the roommates part and violates the rule of confidentiality on the sponsor's part.

>>17361923
Work out , don't dress like a bum, learn skills or get into things that make you interesting, could be as simple as learning animal facts. Improve yourself Op that's what you can do. After that ask any girl you find attractive out, you will get rejected a number of times but its part of the process there is nothing wrong with you kid. But really improve yourself first.

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>>17361940
Seconding this. As someone who is smack dab in your shoes OP I can tell you this is probably the most helpful advice you can get. Ball is in your court, but the good news is that making your next move is pretty easy

>>17361923

Everyone has essentially the same fears as you do, even attractive girls. No one likes rejection, no one likes feeling like they said something lame.

So the outcomes you dislike are the same ones everyone dislikes, men and women, confident and unconfident people both. You just perseverate on it more.

Stop thinking about the outcome. Focus on what you want to say, and listening to a response. Actually go about it by trying to say something nice to someone to make them feel good in the moment, rather than avoiding some bad possibility if it comes out wrong.

It's hard to explain. The best thing that worked for me, taking me from a shy insecure person to an initiator was a lightbulb clicking to "stay in the moment." Think about what you're saying and what effect you want it to have on her, rather than how you'll feel afterwards in bed alone thinking about it.

Girls don't make the first move because they don't have to. Waiting for someone to talk to them works for attractive girls. Not so much for guys (unless a real 10/10 maybe). You can be a whiner like /r9k/ or /pol/ and cry about it, or try to actually focus on being positive with people.

>>17361914
Do it

Are they bothering you? Like are they excessively loud and keeping you from going to sleep or something? If so, then yeah, you have a right to call the cops and break up the nuisance.

If they're not actually causing you any trouble and you're just worried that things will escalate, then maybe let them be. They'll probably go away uneventfully in a few hours at most.

>>17361914
No you fag ask them to leave and if they refuse then call

I hear fetlife is popular. You still run the risk of coming across a bad apple or two, so you should still always be a little careful, but I hear they generally have a good community going on.

>>17361915
how do I spot them?

>>17361919
It's likely they'll have a bad reputation with other community members already. You'll have to interact with an array of people and socialize to learn the general ins and outs.

>>17361879
I would probably get a lawyer if I were you. Maybe just consult about it. It sounds like a possible slander/libel with malicious intent case.

Since you didn't rape her and as such, she has no evidence, and she stabbed you, I doubt you have much to worry about in terms of legal repercussions but I would still look into the lawyer thing because you don't want that stuff getting to your employer or school.

why would you go back to her when you knew she was a lying bitch you fucking retard. i swear some morons have no self control just because they want to get their dick wet fucking pathetic

anyway didnt she already go to jail for stabbing you? what happened then? didn't cops come to your house to ask you questions about the incident? tell us more

>>17361892
Because I was a fucking retard, that's why I went back. First love man, I fucked up.

She hasn't gone to jail yet. She's awaiting trial right now, so her defense is trying to create a reason out of thin air.

Cops questioned me about everything as I was going to the ER.

>>17361888
Checked. I am probably going to get a lawyer for the reasons you mentioned.

She's also been sending very deranged and scary texts to some of her ex-friends in the middle of the night, so I'm wondering if her mind has just cracked.

>>17361873
Call the police

Talk to him about it see if he even realizes it.

>>17361881
Umm... He's a really good friend.