Alright. So I've been with my girlfriend for 4.6 years. Pretty soon I will be proposing to her and sealing the deal. We live together and have an incredibly healthy relationship. Everything is as close to perfect as it can get except one thing that is a pretty big deal to me. I have an extreme love for anal sex. She on the other hand doesn't really like it much at all. She allows me to do it out of love, which i greatly appreciate. We have been doing butt stuff for wuite a while now, but it is mostly just on special occasions or as sort of reward for me. You can tell when the topic of anal comes up its kind of like a chore for her. Obviously you cant brainwash some one, but is there anything that can be done to help change her mindset? We have tried multiple different tricks as far as warming her up and getting her to relax, but she just isnt into it. I would love for her to match my opinion on it but that seems unrealistic. Even though there probably isnt much I can do, any and all pieces of advice are appreciated! :) Hopefully there is at least one person that has something for me on here lol.
Thanks in advance and sorry for the long winded question
Side note: Toys are out of the picture. Neither I or her want to incorporate them. ( Other than a butt plug, but she would be against that from the start.)
Also, even after how long we have been doing it, she still has a fair amount of pain every once and a while, and can get cuts super easy while Im warming her up, even when Im gentle.
I'm assuming you properly lube up right? You said you ease into also? How long do you wait? It takes my wife a good 5 minutes to relax enough for me to actually start thrusting.
>>17363596
The lube part is tricky. She is very picky about it and doesnt like most of the ones we have tried as they are "Too thick and dont clean out easily" she perfers lots of saliva, which i know isnt the best route to take. As far as waiting for her to relax, i guess now that i think about it that is a part where i brush over. She gives me the ok pretty quick after entering but there is clear discomfort. Maybe she is just eager to get it over with?
>>17363617
Like you said, she probably sees it as a chore. I would definitely try to convince her to allow you to use some lube as it would make a much more pleasant experience for the both of you and definitely don't brush over her getting completely comfortable/relaxed before you start. It would elimante a lot of the tearing and what not.
>neediness is unattractive
>the more needy you are the less likely you are to have a gf
>the more needy you are the MORE likely you are to want one
>the older you get the more desperate you get and your chances diminish further and further
Is this a prank? Am I really going to die a virgin?
>>17363434
> Is this a prank?
No.
> Am I really going to die a virgin?
Yes.
>>17363434
You have to finally accept that people in general just kind of suck and their minds don't work properly, you have to learn to simply fake everything around them. The old class system where certain people were acknowledged as just being better than others and getting more power and stuff is gone so now we have to mix among the average people.
Basically pretend to not be needy, fake confidence, read these books
How to win friends and influence people, the definitive book of body language, the psychology of influence, talk language, a billion wicked thoughts
Also get /fit/
You have to accept that you have to be largely amoral when dealing with the average person, there's just no point trying to treat them like they are your equal and there's no point in not lying to them and stuff.
>inb4 fedora tipping meme
It's the truth, if you aren't NATURALLY normal by this point in your life you will never be NATURALLY normal.
But you can fake it and seem more "good" in the eyes of average people than even the average person does.
>>17363434
>Is this a prank? Am I really going to die a virgin?
It is not a prank. This really is the vicious cycle that you've gotten yourself into.
You need not die a virgin, however. You just need to reprioritize some things. A girlfriend was never going to be able to make you happy, or help you get your life together, as you were likely hoping she would. You're approaching things backwards: you've got to get your life together first, THEN start looking for someone to share it with. This isn't the story the rom-coms love to tell, but it's how real life works.
What do I need to rent a car in the US besides a license? I'm too dumb to understand all this insurance stuff.
money
>>17363420
You have to be atleast 25 and have car insurance
>>17364395
Are you saying I need a car to rent a car?
I have a fetish for dumb girls. Any help on finding dumb girls and dating them? I feel their reliance on you and general not knowing things is cute.
>>17363252
They are fucking everywhere.
It's finding one that *isn't* dumb that's the trick.
Imma go to bed. Hopefully this thread will be still alive and people will have posted in it. I really wanna date a dumb girl and need help finding one.
Bro, if you can't find any dumb girls to hook up with, you're obviously not very intelligent yourself.
If I keep self improving, keep assimilating into society, keep joining clubs and rushing fraternities, putting myself out there and being sociable and living a relatively normal life, then eventually I'll get laid right?
This can't be my life forever.
Eventually I just wont be able to do it anymore.
>>17363168
Stop being so desperate. Focus on other shit and it'll all fall into place. When you have your systems set up where you're a functioning human being with things going on for you, you'll start to look attractive.
>>17363168
being laid is a subplot of life, not the endgame.
>>17363217
>it'll all fall into place meme
now i'm awaiting a "beeeeeee urself" post
TL:DR I was "homeschooled" but not really. Sat at home playing video games/browsing the internet all day. Took an ASVAB practice test online. How's my score, and what should I do to get myself in to the US Navy with a good job?
Backstory: My parents decided to homeschool me in a state which has very lax homeschool laws. My math skills are basically non-existent beyond basic addition/subtraction, I think my parents stopped teaching me anything beyond 2nd-3rd grade level math because I threw tantrums whenever they tried to teach me. When I was awake, I spent my time on video games/the internet/tv shows/movies (from ~7 years old to 18). Although I did go to a gym so I can get into the Navy physical wise, and I read books/internet articles which interest me so I'm not retarded.
So, I'm 18 now. I'm still living in my parents house. I want to get a GED and join the Navy. My practice ASVAB scores are pic related (saved the amount of answers I got correct in notepad in percentages)
Here's the site where I took the test.
https://www.4tests.com/asvab
What should I be doing if I want to actually join the Navy without becoming a cook/janitor?
>>17362558
If this were a highschool asvab. They would fucking call your ass. 67.5 is a high score. I don't know about a GED however. But you qualify for a lot of good jobs. You won't be a cook.
>>17362558
Without a HS diploma it's very unlikely that you can join. They let in only an extremely small percentage of people that apply with a GED.
>>17362558
Whaever they promise you, whatever guarantee they give you, once you sign you belong to them and they can do what they want with you.
>be with gf for over 2 years
>she is quite manipulative and controlling and tries to make things go her way
>last 3 weeks shes been distant and sneaky
>lately shes been acting like she dosent care
>shes also been lying about what shes been doing
>she has been getting sort of close to a guy that lives in a dorm at college
>the other night I messaged her asking wtf is going on
>dosen't reply, I ring her a couple times and she dosen't answer
>find out she was lying off a friend and that she was at the uni (presuming seeing that guy)
>she rings me and tells me she was studying
i know that shes been lying, Ive asked her why she hasn't broken up with me yet and she dosen't give me and answer then laughs and walks off saying "let me sort my shit out", WTF is this shit? I did tell her to never contact me again after this btw
Wow man, that's really shitty. If you've been together for 2 years you deserved better than that
Some people are shitty, and you just cant fix that. Find comfort in knowing you did the right thing, and there was nothing you could do
Good luck
She's a slut and she knows it. Just don't mind her and start dating another girl when you feel ready. She'll be mad when she realize you don't care about her anymore while she will keep cheating on whoever she date like a whore.
You did good son, now just cut all contact and enjoy life without a manipulative slut.
Lets Discuss Our experiences. Serious or funny. Nasty or Delightful.
I am curious.
We all gotta remember the first time. Lets Share.
Age?-
Setting?-
Outcome?-
>>17361162
four years old. brother asked if i wanted to learn about sex. i said sure. he then told me we'd have it and i had to be the girl. i said no. he said if i didnt do it he'd tell on me and say it was me who suggested it.
made me rub his but and then his penis a little bit.
>>17361170
That doesn't sound too good
>>17361162
Around 6-7. Attic with cousin's friend, pretty sure its why I have social issues. Good news is most of it is still blocked out of my memory.
I'm worried I may be gay. I'm currently in a hetero relationship, but I think about women. I really like my man, he is the love of my life but I still feel this way. I don't know what to do. I don't think I can see myself spending the rest of my life with a woman, but I'm worried I'm gay. Should I ignore these feelings? Will they go away?
Ask him if he'd be down to have a threesome.
He wouldn't.
>>17361117
Wtf. Most men would jump with joy like a kid on christmas to have a gf who'd be down to fuck another girl with him.
Anyways, you should prob break up with him and go eat the carpet so you aren't a cheater.
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FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off.
Guys:
How much do you care if a girl is a virgin? I'm scared that I'm going to end up too nervous and starfishing for my first time
>>17360964
Im always scared of blood because my penis is on the bigger side. I would just close my eyes and ask if im hurting her.
>>17360964
>How much do you care if a girl is a virgin? I'm scared that I'm going to end up too nervous and starfishing for my first time
Uhh...
Do I seek it out? No.
Would I be pissed a girl was? No.
I'd just be kind of...neutral. Wouldn't really care one way or the other.
I guess the only thing that'd change is i'd try to be more gentle and considerate than usual.
If you want some tips for your first time:
Be vocal and communicative (don't be afraid to give and take directions)
Relax
Have fun and try to laugh (it's hard to be nervous when you're laughing)
Look in to his eyes (it creates a greater sense of intimacy and is kind of hot as fuck)
>>17350598
Old one is dead
I'm a fucking psycho. I am thinking of this Charlie thing so much. I know I get attached after I have sex with someone but since we were getting along so well and how sweet and my type he was I thought it was okay. I can't really deal with not being able to really talk to him though... It is just stressing me out too much. I will call at like 6 if he hasn't messaged me back yet and I will ask about hanging out tomorrow but I really want to ask him if he hardly even likes talking to me. I don't care much if it seems clingy or anything anymore because it -is- clingy. It is how I feel and I need more attention than this from someone I am seeing.
It doesn't seem right to me and I don't like this very much and the whole thing is making me more sad than happy
I know he isn't thinking about this even nearly as much, he probably will be like "Jeez, what's up with how clingy this chick is" But it's just how I am. I need more communication than this, I need to feel like he is at least a little interested and I'm not feeling that way. I feel like I'm chasing him and I don't really like it.
Other ones still going
some of my friends got pretty famous and now they don't speak to me. I ran into one of them and he faked being friendly so he could sit at my table but didn't really act interested in my life, and didn't reply to a casual text. I guess I am taking it too personally but it still feels bad.
I don't know what to do.
>>17364475
Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all
>...she's scared she wouldn't be able to separate the emotional from the physical...
You're friendzoned, bro. Time to forget about her. (At least, forget about her being your girlfriend.)
Quotes and defeatism. Thanks /adv/
so I just went to launch with a manager girl at my work so I can ace a interview for her old job, but when I showed up she dressed nice and had makeup on (she never wares the stuff) and we talked for a hour and a half about work a little and the rest about junk,and she was very into the convo...... did I just go on a date with out knowing it?
>>17364447
what makes you think that? I mean it could be professional but she has never done this with anyone from work before, it made me confused
Is the job that you're interviewing for within the same company?
There's an EDM dance club in my town that plays sick underground techno. I love this music with a passion. The only problem is this club is a gay club, but many straight people go for the music unless it's a gays-only night.
I've been there a couple of times with friends but I'm debating on going tonight by myself(everyone is busy). I'm no homophobe or anything, but I'm a fit tall attractive male. Gays hit on me enough in public or a mainstream bar, and are usually very forward. I don't want to get my ass grabbed or anything, and I fee like going to a place like this would legitimately be "asking for it".
What should I do?
>>17364428
*going to a place like this alone
Avoid gay clubs. You don't know when Mohamed goes out to make Allah happy
>>17364448
Well where should I get my techno fix?
I'm starting college soon and I need something that's better than my standard bike which I use for work. An ebike is MUCH cheaper, way more fun, and does the 20 mile round trip fine before needing a charge. Yeah a car has practically infinite range, but seems overkill for my needs save for a few road trips here and there. I'm leaning toward the ebike for long term benefits like saving money and health, but is a car really worth the extra money just for passengers and cargo?
They have winter where you live?
>>17364386
Yup. I would ride in the snow for months. I don't think and ebike is any different